Checklist for Happier Abroad

Checklist for ‘Happier Abroad’ Target Audience

Do any of the following statements fit you?

· You feel like a fish out of water in America and are wondering if you belong somewhere else, despite all your best efforts to “fit in” or find a niche.

· You find a society where people don’t make eye contact with others and work to death just to “survive” to be a meaningless uninspiring existence.

· All your life you were surrounded by peers and classmates who believed that the primary purpose in life was to study hard so they could make lots of money and retire comfortably in old age, to the point of obsession. Yet you felt that there was something wrong with that belief and way of life, but you never dared speak out about it due to the fear of being seen as weird or a freak. You felt like you were the only one who wasn’t an automaton.

· You don’t share the cultural belief in America that life is all about having a successful career, being a workaholic, and fitting into exclusive social cliques, until you retire in your 50’s or 60’s way past your prime.

· You are not into the rat race lifestyle or consumerism culture which teaches that buying things leads to happiness.

· You seem to relate and connect best with freespirits, artists, actors, writers, intellectuals and travelers, or New Age progressive types, finding very little in common with average Americans who merely live to make money and consume, lacking the capacity to question things.

· You have a European or Latin mentality that the primary purpose of life is not making money and developing a career, but to have RICH EXPERIENCES.

· You are a nonconformist, freespirit, and live a Bohemian lifestyle (and I don’t mean that of a drug using hippie), and wonder if you would be better accepted by some culture/society outside the US.

· You are a freespirit, freethinker or counter-culturalist in your views, but not a long-haired hippie who uses such views as an excuse to smoke pot and parade around the country with other hippies to attend music concerts of esoteric wanna-be bands.

· You don’t feel that your soul clicks or fits in American culture and society. You are drawn to or attracted to foreign cultures, as if your soul belongs elsewhere.

· You find American pop culture, society, and lifestyle to be boring, unintellectual, pointless, and unfulfilling.

· You feel that there is something wrong with the people, culture, society, and mentality in America but can’t quite put your finger on it and are afraid to voice it due to fear of condemnation.

· You feel like a misfit in America or feel discontent but are afraid to complain or talk about it openly due to fear of being seen as a freak, loser or going against the flow.

· You are perpetually dissatisfied with social life, dating scene, and anti-social mentality in America, and feel that all that you’ve done to change that is futile or temporary.

· You often feel like you’re in a sci fi movie or the Twilight Zone, where everyone around you is infected with some kind of anti-social disease and don’t like to interact or meet people, while you seem to be the only one immune.

· You are a nice, outgoing, sociable, interesting, positive person in America but has few or no good friends or dates, and can’t understand why, but deep in your heart you know the problem isn’t you.

· You find it hard to vibe with the average American, finding little in common with them, and you find the conversations at parties to be shallow, trite, and dull.

· You feel that people and their conversations/communication styles in the US are fake and unnatural, and you are tired of “acting fake” to go along with the flow of it.

· You feel completely EXCLUDED from the dating scene in America, but believe that your love life can and should be fun, happy, and natural like portrayed in movies. You are ready to listen to someone who can show and prove to you that it not only CAN be as what you see in films, but even better.

· You are a decent man who finds that despite what Hollywood portrays, in real life, few normal decent single women are available and almost none make themselves available.

· You are a lonely sexually frustrated man in the US who has tried everything, from attitude/image changes to dating guides/gurus, but are still disappointed.

· You are wild, uninhibited, or have strong desires of some sort that are condemned in the states. Thus, acting on your desires is inappropriate or “out-of-bounds” in the US. Simply put, you can’t be “who you really are” in the US without feeling like a creep or condemned freak. Therefore, you feel suffocated.

· You like to have fun, meet great people, and date great people but aren’t having any luck breaking into the right “social cliques” and find it unnatural and awkward to even try.

· You are such a sociable, outgoing, people person at heart that you talk to strangers as if you already know them. However, you feel awkward about it due to the barrier of “breaking the ice” with strangers in America as well as the inappropriateness of socializing outside of closed cliques.

· You didn’t break into a good social clique early on in life, find it difficult to break into cliques around you, lack connections, and thus feel out of luck since most people in America limit their social life to people within the cliques they grew up with.

· You find Americans in general to not be friendly or sociable, despite what anti-social Americans claim, and you are sure the problem is not you.

· You constantly feel that everyone is an “island” in America, in their own “bubble or force field” (polite but distant and noninclusive) but you don’t like it cause it often leaves you lonely.

· You believe that due to corrupt US foreign policy, worsening economic conditions, peak oil crisis, etc. that America is going down. So you wish to live or raise your family elsewhere as a backup or safety net in case things go downhill, but aren’t sure where is best for you.

· You “discovered yourself” on an overseas trip, and found that you somehow evolved or grown in a special, phenomenal way that wouldn’t have been possible in America. You are trying to make sense out of it and integrate it into your being, but are afraid of sharing the experience with those around you who can’t relate.

· You are a perpetual traveler or want to be one and haven’t bought into the US media’s misportrayal that the world outside the US is nothing but terrible and dangerous.

· You are unhappy in America and you KNOW that seeking help from therapy/counseling or changing your attitude through self-help/New Age books/programs, however well-meaning, will not give you what you need, and that a bigger change is needed.

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