Dear All,
Here is my story about how I became
a Christian, what I went through later and how I finally got through and
transcended my beliefs. I have shared a lot of personal things in this
that I've never shared with anyone before. Originally I had not meant for
it to be this long, so I apologize for that. But while I was writing it,
I felt like I was reliving all those suppressed memories again and so lots of
details came out of my mind that I had to write. Several times I had to
stop and pause for a moment because those memories brought back a lot of
overwhelming emotions and I felt on the verge of tears. But I'm glad that
I finally wrote it all out cause I have been meaning
to for a long time. It also felt therapeutic to me to write this all out
too. I stayed up almost all night for 2 nights writing this. I hope
maybe you the reader may be able to get some kind of lesson out of it, whatever
it may be.
Yours Faithfully,
Winston
My Rise to Christianity and Transcendence from It
By Winston Wu
It all started when I was 9
years old at a Christian Summer daycare school called Fremont Christian.
I became a Christian there when I was a 10 year old boy by receiving Christ
during the Chapel session. I liked the Christian teachings because they
made me feel good and I liked knowing that Christ would always be with me and
that I had eternal life to look forward to. I didn't know it at that
time, but it gave me a sense of power that I never had. Having Jesus in
my heart was like having a supernatural power that I could call on at any time,
kind of like how Clark
By the end of my first year
in high school, summer started, and a big tide was about to turn. During
that Summer, two bad things happened which later
turned out to be signs of even worse to come.
1) That summer we went
to
2) The second thing happened
in the latter half of the summer. I went on a Christian summer camp near
So you see, both those events
during that Summer made me feel depressed and hurt and
confused. I didn't know how to handle it all. I was too sensitive
too so things affected me more deeply and intensely than most people.
Anyway, I was not emotionally ready to start school because of those two big
issues, but I had to anyway. So start it I did. And believe me,
when I went back to school it was a different world. Most of my friends,
both Christian and non-Christian either left or had changed so much that we
couldn't really be friends anymore. My new friends weren't that great and
they didn't even really care about me. I didn't like any of my classes either because they were overwhelming and I wasn't
interested in studying because of those two events during the summer that I was
still emotionally attached to. And on top of all that, I felt lonely and
isolated too because all my friends were either gone or had changed. I
couldn't believe how one summer changed everything! :( For the whole year
nothing changed no matter how hard I tried to change them or how many times I
prayed. I wanted get back the joy I had last year but nothing I did
helped. I soon realized that I also seemed to have lost my fire and
passion for the Lord. I tried to get that back too because maybe if I
did, my life would turn around again and be fulfilling. But no matter how
hard I tried to jump start my passion and fire for the Lord, it just wouldn't.
It was like trying to start a car with a dead battery. It felt like God
had left me or something. When I prayed, I didn't even feel that he was
listening anymore. I was wondering if maybe all this was my punishment
for not being able to convert all my relatives in
(Things get even much worse
than you can imagine! Read on if you dare.)
Then during that same year in
October, on Halloween, a very bad and scary thing happened that was a sign of
what was further to come. That afternoon, I found that when I got home
from school, I couldn't get around the house or do normal things without
performing rituals to cancel out bad thoughts over and over again. It was
weird and I didn't want to do it, but if I didn't I would feel a lot of anxiety
and panic like something was very wrong. I kept having
to enter and re-enter through the front door. This was really weird and I
had never done that before. Then just to move into the living room took
and put my backpack down took a lot of effort as well. What was going on
here I thought!?!?!?!?!? I couldn't believe this was happening. It
was so bizarre. I ended up spending about 3 or 4 hours in the bathroom
because I couldn't get out of there because every time I tried to do the
perfect ritual, my body would itch or something else would go wrong and I had
to redo the rituals over again. After a few hours, I wanted to get out of
there bad, I felt like a prisoner in my own bathroom! What could be
stupider than that? The trick or treaters came
by since it was Halloween and while they came I was stuck there in the bathroom
trying to get out!!!!!! Afterwards I was so exhausted and drained, and I
hoped that that would be the only day I would have to do those rituals. I
thought tomorrow I'd be back to normal again. But I was very very wrong. It went on each day the same way. I
had to fight hard to not do them, but I had to do them. It cost me a few
hours each day. Sometimes less, sometimes more.
My grades plummeted too as you might expect. I got a lot of D's and F's
on my report card. I didn't tell anyone beside my parents because no one
would understand and I was ashamed of this too. On some nights when the
rituals were costing me too much time, I would yell at myself saying "Come
on you @#$%, let me go!!!!!!!"
After a few months of
enduring this inner hell, my parents took me to a psychiatrist. I didn't
know how to describe what was happening. My communication skills were bad
and I was too shy too and I was ashamed to admit this weird disorder.
From what he had to go on, the psychiatrist diagnosed me with schizophrenia and
gave me Prozac. Schizophrenia I thought?! Now I'm really done
for! How could I ever be a good witness for Christ now? Would a
crazy deluded schizophrenic who was unable to control his own thoughts be a
good representative for Christ? Of course not! I would give him a
bad name if I told people I was a Christian now! My witnessing life was
over I guess. My dreams of becoming a Missionary and Evangelist and
converting many people to Christ were shattered. What would I do
now? Since I heard there was no cure for Schizophrenia and I might have
it for the rest of my life, this means I might never be able to even live a
normal life again! I might as well forget about any other dreams in
general as well.
Anyway, I tried the Prozac,
but all it did was increase my anxiety to the point where every minute felt
like an hour and I felt like a Mexican jumping bean! I couldn't even sit
through an hour of class under Prozac, so I had to discontinue it. That
psychiatrist moved, so I was referred to another one. This one diagnosed
me as having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). He prescribed another
drug called Mellaril or something. It didn't
have bad side effects and I wasn't sure if it worked or not, hard to
tell. Anyway, he was cold and uncaring even though I liked his assistant,
who was a talking therapist. So for some reason I don't remember, we went
to a third psychiatrist and he diagnosed me with both disorders, Schizophrenia
and OCD! Oh great! That whole year I went to church and my youth
group every week and for Wednesday Bible study too, but it was never the
same. Everyone I liked at the church moved away. I kept praying and
hoping God would do something to make my life better and especially take away
my Schizophrenia/OCD or whatever. Nothing happened. Nothing
changed. In fact, it got worse and worse as the year went on. I
didn't understand why God, who has absolute control over every atom and
molecule in the universe, didn't do anything about this. By the end of
the year, I felt so helpless, powerless and confused that I became depressed
too. Then summer came and I was glad to get away from school at least so
I wouldn't have to deal with the pressures there and my disorder at the same
time. But I still had no idea why my whole life changed just after one
bad summer. I didn't understand why God let this happen. It didn't
make sense! I mean I know about the story of Job, but come on!
Dealing with the outer world is hard enough, but when you're mentally ill you
can't even deal with your INNER WORLD, how does God expect
me to deal with the outer world! How would I ever be a good witness for
Christ in the state I'm in? How would I even live for Christ for that
matter?
After Summer,
school started again and I was a junior now. I was hoping this would be a
better year, but instead this turned out to be the ABSOLUTE WORST HORRIFIC
period of my life! I have labeled this period as the
"Holocaust" of my life. I'm serious! My mind has blanked
out this period so much from my memory that I don't even acknowledge that it
existed. When I went back to school, I found that I was completely
overwhelmed and didn't even have the will or interest in going to school or
doing any homework. School felt threatening to me now. For some
reason I could not cope with anything in life now. I even lost the desire
to go to church because I didn't feel important to anyone there and the sermons
didn't connect with anything I was going through. They were boring,
repetitious and empty. Plus my prayers were never answered anymore and I
had lost my fire for the Lord. I was too depressed and had no motivation
to get up in the morning. Why get up when there was nothing but pain,
loneliness, and schizophrenia rituals to look forward to everyday? I
couldn't face all that and concentrate on tons of boring homework loads
everyday. This also happened to be the most academically challenging
school year in high school as well. Do you think I was in shape to deal
with that? Yeah right. I had to stop going to school because it was
pointless, lonely, and if I continued I would get all F's in every class.
As I stayed home on school
days not knowing what to do, I felt hopeless and sank further and further into
depression. I felt like my life was over. There was nothing but
doom, gloom and hopelessness. I lost even the ability to enjoy very
simple things. I tell you, you've never known what true depression is
like until you experienced what I experienced at that time. It's like
you're so depressed that you can't even muster the energy to raise a finger
simply because there's no point to. All the happy and fun times I ever
had seemed like a false illusion now. There was no logical solution to my
life. I saw no way out. Not only was I depressed and hopeless, but
since my Schizophrenic symptoms hadn't lessened after a whole year, it looked like it would be with me forever.
There was no way I could ever live a normal life if I had to spend hours each
day in rituals and had trouble with even simple things like getting around the
house. And there was no cure for Schizophrenia either. This means
that not only will I never be able to live a normal life, have dreams, hold a
job, get married or have children, but that I would also eventually have to
spend the rest of my life in a mental hospital and be looked upon by society as
a pitiful thing to be sorry for. There was no point to that kind of
existence. I felt like the only escape was suicide. But I didn't
even have the guts to do that. So all I could do was lay around feeling
too depressed to even move and I tried to sleep as many hours as possible to
escape all this. All I felt 24 hours a day during that time was doom and
gloom. Even when the big San Francisco Earthquake of 1989 struck, I was
lying down on the couch at my uncle's house too depressed to move. I felt
the house shake and just thought "An earthquake? Big
deal. Go ahead and kill me. Make the roof fall down.
Then I won't have to endure this anymore." I still can't believe I
said that even today. Anyway, what I experienced during those 6 months
that year will never be forgotten, and I shudder even today when I think about
it. What I experienced is not describable with words. It's like
your soul and life are being sucked dry to death and you are completely
helpless to do anything about it. It's very very
very difficult to conceive that I went through this
and at the same time conceive of a God that exists.
My parents were at a loss as
to what to do, so they sent me to a mental rehabilitation center. I was
scared at first, but the staff turned out to be very supportive and I enjoyed
the environment. Unlike the negative connotation of mental institutions
portrayed in movies, it became a great getaway and I enjoyed the aerobics,
swimming pool, volleyball, and arts and crafts activities. For the first
time in a while I felt able to enjoy things again. I didn't feel the
pressures I had in my school and home life. I even played a lot of chess
there and beat all the staff and other patients :) After a month or two I
was discharged from the rehabilitation center. I was reluctant to leave
though, which was funny because I was dragged kicking and screaming in there
but now I felt sad to go and leave such a nice and supportive place.
Since I didn't want to deal with that snobby school I hated again though (by
the way this was the same school Kristi Yamaguchi the world famous ice skater
graduated from just to let you know), they decided to send me to a different
high school for just a few classes because they didn't want to risk me being
overwhelmed again. So I only took 2 classes at the new school and did the
rest on home schooling. This worked out and I felt refreshed and at peace
for once in a long time.
After the school year, I
decided I wanted to take a big break from all that I went through and go to
During that year when my mom
came to visit me in
When I came back after a
year, I felt confident, energized, optimistic and ready to tackle
anything. I started my senior year in that new high school that I went to
before I left. I didn't make that many friends there because it was hard
for me to break into the already formed cliques, but at least everyone was nice
to me and respected me which I wasn't used to. It was a boring year, but
at least I had peace of mind everyday and I easily faced each day with
confidence and drive. Homework was easy because I could select classes
that were easy or interesting so I finally started getting good grades. I
found that I could think and concentrate clearly too, so I had a lot of control
over my thoughts and emotions for the first time. Maybe it was because
the vegetarianism helped clear my conscience? I don't know. But
either way, I found it easy to read and write and to be excited by even the
little things. Amazingly, some cognitive abilities and talents I never
knew I had appeared out of nowhere! I suddenly felt like I had mastery
over organizing my thoughts and words so that I could communicate any thought
or idea I wanted. No thought or idea was too difficult to put into words,
and I could do it all in a very organized coherent way too! I never was
good at writing until then. My speech and writing became very
articulate. Wow! I could write school papers and essays easily and
could summon lots of creative thoughts and insights at will. It all
became second nature to me. In addition, I found that my depth of
understanding had greatly increased, and I could also see things from a lot
more angles than I ever could before. This of course, made all my essays
and school papers even better. It was like my cognitive, intuitive,
insight and awareness jumped up a level by itself!
Later that year, I felt that
it would be a good time for me to get back into Christianity again. I
missed having the sense of purpose it gave me. I started reading the
Bible and other Christian books again, and remembered all the intellectual
arguments I used to support the Christian faith. I started looking for a
church to go to again. I found a Christian Club on campus too, which I
attended. Then I started going to a church referred to me by some of the
people in the Club. Anyway, I started being on fire for the Lord again
and started witnessing to people again too. I even came close to getting
into trouble with some Muslim Afghan students at the school, because they were
insulted at me trying to convert them to Christianity. They said that if
I was in their country, a mob would kill me for attempting to convert people! lol But I didn't care and I
was willing to take a few beatings for the truth of the Gospel of Christ
because the true living God was working behind it, so I had nothing to
fear. One day, I even went to my Art History teacher after class and
asked him why after a week of teaching us about Christian Medieval Art he never
once mentioned about what Christ did for us on the cross and the Gospel he
preached. I left him a Gospel tract and said that he could learn about
what Christianity was about in it. He just said that he wasn't the right
person to be sharing this with and that I should be sharing it with fellow
students instead. After I graduated from high school, for some reason I
never again regained interest in Christianity. This had always been a
mystery to me until now. Only recently have I realized that the likely
reason was that I had probably used Christianity as a crutch to get through
life and give it meaning. After high school my childhood problems were
gone and I needed no more crutches. It was then that I could finally take
an honest look at Christianity and deal with the negative irreconcilable
aspects of it, which I always knew were there but didn't want to face it for
fear of blasphemy and because I needed the sense of purpose it gave me. Soon, my doubts starting creeping in.
That summer I was able to use
my new found insight and understanding to re-evaluate the Christian beliefs I
had. While on a plane on a vacation to
"There's something
very wrong with Christianity here. I've known this a long time but was
always afraid to face it. But since I value integrity of thought and a
clear conscience, I might as well be honest now and face it no matter how
blasphemous it may be. Now, I know that according to Christian teaching,
billions of people out there in the world are going to go to hell because they're
sinners and don't even know it. But why is it their fault when they don't
even know it and were born with it? Sin to the Bible is any imperfection
that we have, but since we were not born perfect no one can ever be perfect, so
then why is it righteous to send them all to hell for an eternity for something
they were born with? That's like sending Zebras to hell for being born
with stripes! It just doesn't make sense no matter how hard you try to
justify it. Now let's put myself in the place of a nonbeliever.
Suppose I was a boy in
At that time I knew that
these thoughts I was having were blasphemous to the Christian faith, but since
I was so SURE that there was something inherently wrong here, that certainty
gave me the courage to continue to think these things through. That's
when my search for truth, meaning and answers began.
Aftermath and the
Spiritual Insights I Discovered:
The vacation in
But what about finding the
answers about the truth of God and religion? I wasn't sure where to
begin. I knew that each religion claimed to have the truth and that they
disagreed with each other on many things, so they couldn't all be right could
they? But how would I know which religion was true and which wasn't?
I thought there was no way to really find out until after you die. So I
just became an agnostic and left it at that for a while. But eventually,
I believed that if there were answers out there, then there must be some way to
find them. I wasn't satisfied with being an agnostic and dropping the
issue for good, so I decided to search again. It was then that I found
some New Age spirituality books that had caught my attention. I had
remembered that a few years ago my Youth Pastor had warned of the dangers of
the teachings of the New Age movement. I had no idea what it even was at
that time, but now I was curious. Maybe it would show me something that
the traditional organized religions didn't.
Fortunately, it did.
Many of the concepts made so much sense to me and showed me the big
picture. It was like it borrowed all the truths from each religion and
put it into a giant wheel that represented the total sum of cosmic divine
truth. That was it, I thought! Each religion represented a
different aspect of the truth, and when you put them all together you get a
better view of the whole picture! Bingo! This was the answer I was
looking for. Now I understood what that secular adage meant that said
that all religions are different interpretations of the same God. Before
I thought that was just a cop out, now I understood how much sense it
made. The reason that the great religions contradicted
each other were due to the differences in man's interpretations
of the divine, not the fault of the divine. In fact, the more I learned
about each religion, the more parallels I could see between them. The
same underlying themes seemed prevalent and all pointed in the same
direction. I also learned that since religion was man's interpretation of
God, that God didn't really fit into any organized
religion, but was far beyond the limitations that they imposed on him.
For the next few years,
little by little I gradually developed the courage to read books with ideas
from other religions and New Age beliefs as well. For a while, each time
I picked up one of these books, the words "Satan" and
"blasphemy" would come to mind, but I as I learned more and became
more confident in my new knowledge, those fears lessened and eventually
diminished. One day, I found another profound answer to what I was
looking for. I saw a quote in a book that said:
"The more and more
you look at the universe, it appears less like a great machine and more like a
great thought."
That's it I thought! We
don't have to look for God out there in some abstract place. We are all a
part of God. We are all like atoms and molecules in the large organism we
call God. Like each atom and molecule in our body, we each serve a higher
purpose that we aren't aware of yet. This made even more sense to me as I
realized that everything in the universe seemed to be made up of something
revolving around something else. For example, in an atom there are
protons and electrons orbiting a nucleus.
Likewise, on a planetary scale, moons revolve around planets. On a larger
scale, planets revolve around suns. From an even larger scale, suns and
stars revolve around the center of each galaxy. So if we are all made up
of atoms which contain things orbiting around each other, then maybe suns,
stars, and galaxies are also like atoms which make up a larger whole we call
God! I envisioned that everything in the universe was like valuable parts
of the inside of an intricate clock, each part was valuable, unique, and served
its own purpose. We just don't always see or realize that purpose unless
we reach higher states of being and consciousness. At the time, I thought
I was the only one who came to the conclusion that God was the totality of
everything. Soon though, I realized that I wasn't and that others
searching for truth had discovered the same thing, and that this view of God in
fact had two terms for it. One was "Pantheism" and the other
was "Monism."
I also discovered that we
could all find God and divinity in ourselves just by tapping into our higher selves
and higher states of consciousness. It was like we were Dorothy in The
Wizard of Oz who discovered that she had the power to return home the whole
time because she had already been wearing those red magical shoes the whole
time. Likewise, we could find God and the divinity within ourselves by
just simply going within.
Finally, I discovered that
many great mystics and seekers of truth throughout history and in our modern
era have come to the same conclusions that I came to as well. This said
to me that there must be something to my discoveries after all! From
their books and books written about them, I discovered very similar
themes. These themes reveal that we are all souls from higher levels
which have decided to come down to Earth to learn lessons and grow. We do
this by either continuously reincarnating here or in other worlds or other
planes of existence until we learn the lessons we need. As we learn, grow
and evolve, we reach higher levels of consciousness, which allow us to enter
higher heavenly realms. Some call these higher realms Heaven.
Others call them Nirvana, Astral Planes, or Re-unification with God.
There are different levels of these higher heavenly realms, and between 7 and
10 are named. In addition, I learned that millions of people who have had
Near Death Experiences (NDE's) and Out of Body
Experiences (OBE's) have had these same higher truths
and themes revealed to them during their experiences. All this told me
that there must be something to these themes if people from all over the world
had the same things revealed to them somehow.
Then I started reading books
and articles that critiqued Christianity. I learned that the version of
Christianity that I had believed in was called “Christian
Fundamentalism.” I was amazed at how many arguments there were against
it, and also at how many irreconcilable contradictions there were in it.
Before, I thought there were no good arguments against it. Now I realized
that there were as many arguments against it as there were crops in a
field! Whoa! The more and more I researched, the more came
out. Just when I thought that was all there was, more kept popping
out! I was amazed.
Now I realized why most
non-Christians were so turned off by Evangelistic preaching. As a Christian
it used to baffle me why anyone would turn down the Gospel and reject free
eternal life. It was like they were rejecting a million dollars offered
them for free. Now I realized that it wasn't as free as I thought.
To non-Christians, the Gospel asked them to adhere to extreme beliefs, took
away freedom of thought, used fear of punishment to invoke compliance, and
forced values onto people that they didn't agree with. As I Christian I
never realized this because my beliefs put me in such a warped frame of mind as
to not see this. Now I realized that while non-Christians couldn't really
relate to the Christian perspective, it was also true that Christians had lost
the ability to relate to the perspective of non-Christians. Since I
became a Christian at 10 years old, I never really understood the non-Christian
perspective until now.
There was another benefit to
all this as well. Because of all these discoveries along with my new
views of God and spirituality, I realized that my parents and relatives weren't
going to hell after all! This lifted a huge burden off me and gave me
peace of mind. In a way, I had saved my parents and relatives from going
to hell just by realizing that they weren't going in the first place! My
parents had been right all along that I didn't have to convert them or any of
my relatives. All I had to do was appreciate where they are, because they
were already where God wanted them to be. I now had peace of mind to move
on and discover my own potential. I was free now to explore the limitless
possibilities of life, knowledge, mind, philosophy, spirituality, etc. A
whole new adventure was just beginning.
Five years later, I met the
most wonderful person in the world. I met her online and we talked for a
year before meeting. When we finally met she turned out to be everything
I wanted. She was very beautiful both inside and out. She was very
much like Belle from Beauty and the Beast. Like Belle, she adores and is
adored by children and animals. When we met, we knew we were a match made
in heaven and the love between us was unconditional. I moved up to
I know that there will always
be ups and downs in the cyclical nature of life, but my experiences have given
me an inner strength that helps me to be in the “eye of the hurricane” through
it all. And what better coping skill could there be than that? It’s
also given me the ability to see a larger perspective which helps me to not be
overwhelmed by every little thing, but instead remain detached and view life as
a process with challenges that allow us to grow and learn so that we can
ultimately achieve wholeness within ourselves and unity with God. Also, I gotta tell you that nothing
is more scary than losing your own mind and
sanity. It's a fate worse than physical pain or even death, and those
who've been there know what I mean. However, once you've been there and
recovered from it, you appreciate life more than you ever would have, and you
are given the blessing of being able to appreciate the little wonders of life
more richly and fully than ever before, which few people are able to do. In
any case,
“The
adventure is just beginning…………”
-
To quote the ending of the movie “Star Trek: The Motion Picture” where a
conscious machine had just been reborn and evolved to the next stage of its
evolution.
Thank you for reading this,
and may you all find your true bliss, true self, and
ultimate destiny.
Sincerely,
Winston Wu
Conclusion and My Own
Theory About What Happened To Me:
Well there you have it.
I'm sorry for making this so long. I had intended to write a much shorter
version, but as I was writing all this, it was like I was reliving all the pain
and joy of it again, so I was compelled to describe so many details about
it. If that made it long and tedious to read this, then I
apologize. But I hope that you will try to understand and appreciate the
life story I just told you. In a way it was very therapeutic for me to
write all this out. It had been hidden and repressed for so long.
Many of these things I never wanted to tell anyone. Even today though,
it's hard for me to make sense of it all really, there were so many ups and
downs. I don't really understand why things went the way they did or if
things went the way they were meant to.
But now I have a theory
though. In summary here are the main events:
1. I was a passionate
devout Christian on fire for the Lord and believed I had found ultimate truth.
2. A snowball of odd
tragedies struck, which turned things around.
3. Along with that, Schizophrenia
or OCD came and made my life an inner hell.
4. The powerlessness of
not being able to cope with it all led to deep depression as well. I
thought my life was truly over.
5. Things got better
and with that my mental disorder symptoms subsided.
6. After recovering
from all that, I attained a level of transcendence and awareness that I never
had before. My cognitive, writing, speaking, communication, insight and
understanding abilities suddenly reached a level on their own. It was
then that I was able to understand higher spiritual truths.
So I was wondering
then. Perhaps my soul or higher self wanted to evolve to a higher
awareness level and when it was in the process of doing so, my physical brain
had trouble adjusting to it, so it started misfiring and malfunctioning, which
created those obsessions and delusions. Perhaps that is the reason behind
some mental illnesses. The reason I postulate this is because I recently
read some articles about patients who recover from Schizophrenia and become
better than before. They become smarter and more successful in
life. I thought that my case was a fluke or a mystery, but when I learned
that this happened in other cases too, it made me wonder whether going through
a mental illness was in some way a path to transcendence of some form.
What do you all think? In case you want to read the articles on the
websites I mentioned, here they are:
http://www.webcom.com/thrive/schizo/articles/ehss.html
http://www.webcom.com/thrive/schizo/#toc
Thank you for reading this, and I hope that you can get out of it whatever lesson
you see in it.
Yours Faithfully,
Winston
Questions for Faith,
Kathy, David and Barbara:
I do have a few questions for
some of you though.
To David and Barbara: What do you make of my whole story here?
How could a passionate devoted Christian on fire for the Lord who preached the
Gospel to others be repaid with Schizophrenia and live with an inner
indescribable hell for two years? How is that person supposed to be a
good representative for Christ when he can't even control his own mind?
Would you want a Schizophrenic depressed person who spends hours a day in
rituals to represent Christ? How does God expect you to deal with the
outer world when you can't even deal with the inner world anymore? David
and Barbara, please keep something in mind. Don't see the mental illness
I had, whatever it was, as just another disease. It is a very very scary thing to lose your mind, and unless you've
experienced it, you cannot relate to it. It's not something you can intellectualize, it's a literal inner hell where you have no
control over your mind, your actions, your inner world, etc. What would
you two have done in my situation?
Also, after reading those
last paragraphs in my life story in the aftermath where I described my
incredible gradual spiritual transformation which not only awakened my insights
and awareness but lifted a lot of burden off me, which freed me to discover my
own potential, do you honestly still think that the right thing for me to do is
to go back to Christianity? Look at all that I've come from before
answering, please.
To Faith and Kathy: What do you make of my story? How should
I make sense of all this? Were those horrific two years really necessary
for my spiritual path? I thought high school was supposed to be fun, instead it was like a Holocaust for me. In fact,
those two terrible years have been blanked out from my memory until now.
How can I reconcile the concept of a loving God with what I went through?
It's very difficult and unimaginable. There's not a day that goes by that
I don't wish it could have all happened differently and in a lot better
way. Why couldn't I have just had a typical teenager's life? I
deeply regret not having one, and that regret has plagued my subconscious in
one way or another every day since 1992. So what do you think? Was
I supposed to have done anything different? Did I screw up in some
way? Or was did everything happen the way it meant to?
By the way, in case you're
all wondering if I still have that mental disorder or not. It's not 100 percent
gone, but it's been minimized to where I only spend a few minutes a day dealing
with my rituals now. So it's not really an issue anymore, except that I
do spend a lot of time trying to organize things and events in my life to a
point that I can control them. It maybe costs me about 10 or 15 minutes a
day now, instead of hours. It can be very frustrating sometimes, but at
least I don't have to repeat things in a ritual anymore. Thank you all so
much for reading all this! It was very therapeutic to me to share this.
Yours Faithfully,
Winston
Update: My new
article debunking Christian arguments
A few years after I made use
of the knowledge I gained from the research I did on Christianity to understand
it and give me the courage to leave it, to write a long treatise entitled Debunking
Every Argument of Christian Fundamentalists and Evangelists. If you
are interested in reading it, here is the link: http://www.happierabroad.com/Debunking_Christian_Arguments.htm So far
it has received rave reviews such as the following:
“I work at a public library and thus have access to hundreds
of books on religion and spirituality, yet very, very few are as helpful as the
one article that you have written. There is even a book titled "Leaving
the fold" that is for former fundamentalists leaving their religion, yet
your article is arguably better and more useful then the entire book.”
“Congratulations on an excellent site. Your information on evangelical
fundamentalist Christianity is the BEST site on the internet. It spells everything out. Try to get the search engines to bring it up
near the top of searches.”
Update: My new
theory on what happened to me
My Theory - Religions are essentially ways of
channeling energy
Although each religion claim to be different from
others in their beliefs, views, and doctrines, when you delve into the mystical
qualities of each one, you find that they become more and more alike, with the
ultimate goal of achieving "oneness" with all, and absolving one's
ego and sense of separateness.
Even the most widely followed faith, Christianity, has
mystical traditions in the Gnostics, for instance, which teach karma,
reincarnation, oneness with all, etc. just like the Eastern mystical
traditions.
Basically, I've come to realize that, despite the
outer surface differences in beliefs and doctrines between the religions, what
religions basically are in their essence are ways of CHANNELING ENERGY to grow,
add to, and benefit oneself, getting in touch with a divine source.
Just as each individual is different, so each person
has their own style of channeling spiritual energy that suits them best. And since each religion has a different style
of channeling energy to its adherents, different religions work better for
different people. There's no "one
size fits all", for whether a religion or spiritual practice works for
someone depends on how compatible their way of channeling energy is with
it. And probably, the different
religions, I believe, are all channeling spiritual/divine energy from the SAME
source.
For instance, some people channel energy through the
Christian faith very well, benefitting themselves,
their lives, and their souls, so they stick with it and recommend it to
others. Their feel fulfilled and their
prayers get answered, so obviously it works for them. But others whose may get nothing out of it if
their style of channeling spiritual energy is incompatible with the Christian
faith. And this can be true even if they make a sincere honest effort to follow the
Christian faith, for if it just doesn't resonate with their spiritual style and
level, then it's not going to work, no matter how earnest they are about
it. Instead, they may work better
energy-wise with Buddhism, Islam, or other spiritual systems, deriving more
spiritual benefit from them. Others may
resonate better with more offshoot faiths such as Mormonism, Jehovah's
Witnesses, or even cult groups.
Still, some don't need any religion at all. They may simply channel good energy to them
just by going out into nature or the wilderness setting. Or they may simply meditate and channel all
the energy and spirituality they need.
This is why, I think, why some people hear a religious
message or gospel, and instantly feel that they've discovered "the
truth", or sense that God or the Holy Spirit is speaking to them, while others
hear the same message and consider it rubbish, nonsensical, and could never
take it seriously. Different
religious/spiritual paths and ways of channeling energy click with some and not
others.
It's like with anything in life - drugs, alcohol, roller
coasters, skiing, etc.; they bring pleasure and stimulation to some, while to
others they do nothing or cause only discomfort.
Also, as one evolves or changes their level of
consciousness throughout life and their spiritual path, sometimes one may lose
their resonance with the religion/spiritual path they channeled their life
force energy through best, which leads them to seek out a different spiritual
or religious path. There are plenty of
religious devotees who at some point in life, grow out of their faith or
spiritual practice, feel stinted by it, and transfer to another one. For instance, some Christians may lose
resonance with their faith, feel it doesn't make sense anymore, and doesn't
work for them anymore, becoming Buddhists or adopting Eastern paths. And vice versa, for there
are Buddhists who become Christians and find more fulfillment there and
closeness to God, as well.
I was one of those, for instance, who resonated with
Evangelical Christianity early in life.
It made sense to me, gave me a powerful feeling of purpose, made me
happy, and I even got a lot of prayers answered through it. But when I outgrew it, I no longer felt any
energy from it, didn't resonate with it, it no longer made sense to me
mentally, and my prayers were no longer even being answered. I tried my best to re-establish my spiritual
energy with it, for I thought it was the truth, but it was futile, like trying
to jump start a dead horse. I didn't
realize it at the time, but my journey and path to truth lied elsewhere, and
eventually led me to the New Age/Eastern paths.
Therefore, I began subconsciously looking for excuses to invalidate
Christian teachings, so that I could find truth in other teachings, considering
all but committing to none. I discovered
that I am an eclectic who loves intellectual freedom too much to commit and
limit my mind inside the box of any religion or belief system, though I may
make use of, see truth in, or derive benefit from them.
Recommended reading on spirituality
The books and authors who
best represent my new spiritual beliefs, which I strongly recommend you all to
read, are: The
Power of Now and A
New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart
Tolle, Way
of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman, any book
or audio by Wayne Dyer, The
Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot, and Under the Tree by Greg Stone.
