The Real Truth
About Stefan Muth
(An inside
look at the psychotic mastermind behind www.diagnose-me.com)
What you
should know about this twisted forest hermit and insane fruitcake who despises
everything and everyone in the universe before you meet him or decide to do
business with him
A factual
description and analysis of this verbally abusive cynic who loves to belittle
others yet considers himself above criticism
“Some people just want to see the world
burn in flames.”
- Alfred the
“My honest opinion is that he is unstable
and possibly not even safe to be around, let alone do business with, I curse my
poor judgement in ever trusting him.”
- A former worker of Stefan turned enemy,
like 100 percent of people who have worked for him
“He is the most vile and disgusting human
i have ever met.”
- A former worker of Stefan turned enemy,
like 100 percent of people who have worked for him
“I only like friends who are useful.”
- From Stefan himself, admitting his
incapacity to have true human friendships
“He is the kind of man who hates everyone
and is in turn hated by everyone as well.”
- Me
“Never before have I ever met anyone with
so much twisted hatred, disdain and negativity for everyone and everything in
the universe.”
- Me
“He may achieve everything under the sun,
but he will forever be too miserable to enjoy it.”
- My friend Elizabeth, referring to Stefan
For more quotes about Stefan Muth,
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Navigation Index
What you should know before you decide
to work for or with Stefan Muth
How he turns everyone who works
for him into his enemy
A 40 year old man who throws
rocks at his friends?!
List of Stefan's wrongs vs. my
wrongs
Seven primary unpleasant
traits of Stefan Muth
Nine wacky beliefs that
destroy his credibility
Insightful quotes about Stefan
Muth
The inside story on how
Stefan “bought” his Filipina fiancée
How I had to use law
enforcement to stop serious threats from Stefan
Stefan’s new website about me
– devoid of any legitimacy or substance
Appendix: Letters from Stefan in his own vile
words that prove my claims about him
- Read Stefan’s side of the story about our
history and parting (with my comments in parentheses)
- Read Stefan’s long response to this webpage,
followed by my response
If you’re looking for information
about Stefan Muth or considering working for him or his medical website at www.diagnose-me.com at his old run-down
shack in his overrated forest preserve in
I’ve known him and lived with him
for 5 months. Here’s a brief summary of him.
In short, the man is twisted,
dysfunctional, highly unstable, a wacko and nutcase. Basically, he is
the kind of person who hates everyone and is in turn hated by everyone as
well. That’s just the kind of person he is. And as of
now, has gotten much worse, turning dangerous, sociopathic, and displaying
antisocial behaviors. For some reason, he harbors a sick twisted disdain
and hatred for everyone and everything in the universe, which rules his
behaviors and words. That’s why only shit emanates from his mouth and
thoughts, even toward the most wonderful things in life. In addition, he
acts like a bully, is verbally abusive, and turns all his friends and workers
into enemies, even the most pleasant and docile ones. Plenty of examples
of all these things abound. Deep down, he is so nasty and disgusting that
even the sewer is cleaner than what he is on the inside, and even the devil is
a more likable and good entity than he is. When you get to know the real
him, all this becomes apparent. As a result of all these qualities, the
man walks around with this really bad energy and vibe about him that feels like
radiation poison to you, dangerous to say the least.
He can’t be reasoned with
even. When he talks to you, what he says is often so non-sensible that
you can’t response logically to it. The moment you realize this, you get
this sinking feeling that there is no reconciliation with him. One
classic example of what he does essentially is put you between a rock and hard
place, a kind of no-win situation, then he proceeds to verbally abuse the hell
out of you, until he decides to eject you from his life. NO ONE ever
parts amicably with him. I rarely ever have problems getting along with
guys, since they are usually straightforward and make sense, except psycho ones
like these. As they say, the eyes are the window to the soul, so just
look at his eyes in the photos above, and see what vibes you get.
Normally, I would never create a
web page dedicated to bashing someone, but this guy has truly earned it, and if
you read on, you’ll know why. In fact, he has a tendency to bring out the
worst in others, inciting violent urges from peaceful docile people. (See the breaking news update below) And he loves doing
this too, for it gives him an excuse to hate others and make them into his
enemy. Deep down, that’s what he really wants. Probably, his
biggest dream is to have the whole world against him while he sits in a
sheltered position where he can bash and trash the rest of the world. In
fact, that’s what he does every night after dinner, venting his criticism at
everything in the world in front of whatever company is with him. Also,
since he himself has created his own
webpage against me, it’s only fair that I be allowed to do the same in
retaliation. But make no mistake, before he turned into my enemy, I
NEVER did anything wrong to him EVER, and that is a fact I would swear to with
every fiber of my being.
In case you think it’s a case of
my word against his, you can verify my credibility here: http://www.happierabroad.com/Verify_Me.htm. And you can see the other testimonials about
him in the insightful quotes section.
Some things he can’t escape are:
- He has never explained for
example, why he gave me no work, and then put the blame on me for that, with
any justifiable reason.
- He has never justified why hates
with fury someone like me who NEVER wronged him in any way, but did everything
he asked. Nor has he cited one thing I ever did wrong to him. One
thing for sure: ANYONE who hates, bullies, and verbally abuses someone
else who NEVER wronged them, must have serious mental issues. Common
sense should tell you that.
- He has never reasonably
explained why he demands unrealistic things of others and faults them for it,
when the fault is within himself. For example, he once demanded that I
give him a highly detailed scientific topographical map of the
- Note:
Stefan is more than welcome to write his response to anything here, which
I will gladly post here. And that’s because if he did it would be
further evidence that validates what a wacko and nutcase he is, for his
insanity is self-evident from his own words. Deep down, he knows
this, so he’s afraid to write a response to any of this. In truth,
he has no legitimate valid points to counter any of the accurate
descriptions of him here. If he did, he would offer them.
Thus, his continued silence on the matter only proves this.
- Note:
If you’re reading this Stefan, note that I will not take down this page
until you pay a portion of the $2000 bet that you lost to me fair and
square. I have the emails to prove it. I won’t be hoping for
it, but I have the right to expose you for it.
Let me introduce him briefly.
Stefan Muth is the owner of a successful profitable online business located at www.diagnose-me.com, a medical self-diagnostic program, very extensive and the first of its kind, from which he derives a high daily revenue. He makes around $400 a day from it, in addition to another $400 a day (amazingly) from Google ads on over 3000 web pages of medical terminology that are linked to the online medical reports that he sells to his customers. Thus, he makes a total of around $800 to $1000 a day, of which he pays around 40 percent in taxes, and divides the rest among many other expenses.
Oddly, he also lives as a hermit in the forest at his
He has an unusual blend of traits, for example he is one of the most generous and spendy guys I’ve ever met, going through money like you wouldn’t believe, but is also one of the most anal retentive, perfectionistic, negative, fault-finding and critical guys I’ve ever met as well, as well as a SUPER control freak who is completely intolerant of any risk, whether small or only perceived. It’s very rare to see all those qualities in the same person. You can read a description of his seven primary unpleasant traits in the chapter below. In my judgment, he is very similar to Ross Perot, the former Presidential candidate of 1992 and 1996, in that he is a great entrepreneur and genius at making money, but has horrible people skills, a hot temper, perfectionistic, a control freak, is intolerant of any little mistakes and of any people different from him, a bit delusional/mad, and in his own world. Thus, it’s no wonder that 100 percent of everyone who’s ever worked for him, at GOV (Garden of Vegan, his forest preserve) or www.diagnose-me.com (his online business that he runs out of a small shack filled with laptops), parts with him unamicably as an enemy. You can read his self-description in his own words and see some pictures he posted of himself and his property, at www.theoneforyou.com/me
As a cynic and doomsayer of the
Stefan and I partnered up back in the Fall of 2006 to go the
After a few months, as he settled into his new life here with his girlfriend and his son, he changed, became more irritable and grouchy, and we started to have less in common. Eventually, we grew apart due to differences in values and mentality (I still don’t understand his reasoning and logic, which seems to work great in computer programs but is horrible in personal/social relationships, and is often illogical and incorrect) And my usefulness to him ran its course (not due to any fault of my own), and he admitted to me that he only likes friends who are “useful” to him. There was nothing I could do about it as he never gave me the work he promised, and I didn’t fit into his family life either.
So he suddenly decided to dislike me. There was no logical reason, he simply decided to hate me. As you might know, those who are “haters” don’t need a good reason to hate, they simply create one or use anything as an excuse. He had enough of me and blacklisted me in his mind, giving me the cold shoulder, even though I did absolutely NOTHING wrong to him personally. It was as if I was suddenly coldly “deleted” from his mind and life like a computer program, without a hearing, and that was that. Rather than a human being, I was simply a “digit” deleted from his world without a second thought. That’s just how he treats people, I guess. (God, I feel sorry for his fiancée. I sure wouldn’t want to live with a cold soulless robot, regardless of how rich he is. But to each his own.)
Thus, since we no longer liked each other, didn’t feel comfortable around each other (who wants to come home everyday to someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, whom you can’t even speak freely to without invoking his wrath?), nor had any use for each other, there was nothing to try to reconcile really, so we decided to part ways. I moved out and found my own residence, where me and my girlfriend live now in our own peace and privacy.
After we parted ways, we got into online flame wars with
each other. He went to my
online hate group (as I knew he would) to vent about me, nitpicking
everything wrong that he imagined with me, even though I never did anything
wrong to him. I’m glad to get him out of my life now, as it’s all for the
best. Since we parted, he has only gotten worse and worse, continuing his
hate rampage all the way back in
What you should know
before you decide to work for or with Stefan Muth
If you are considering working for
or with Stefan Muth, here are some things you should know and consider first:
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Everyone
that has worked for him in the past has parted with him on BAD TERMS. No one has been exempt. That is obviously a major RED FLAG. And this includes very nice people as well.
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Deep
down, he hates people in general, and is a major pessimist and cynic. Thus, he tries to validate this disposition
of his by actively seeking out the worst in you, focusing on it, and attempting
to bring it out, in order to confirm his worldview and justify his hatred of
people. Even if there’s nothing about
you to dislike, he will find something.
It’s guaranteed. Or he will make
something up. And once he does, there’s
no arguing against him, cause he won’t listen, not even to reason.
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He sees
something wrong in EVERYTHING and EVERYONE.
Even with the most flawless thing or person, he will ALWAYS find
something wrong with it. It’s just in
his nature to do so. You can tell him
the most wonderful news and he will put a negative spin on it. He is incapable of being positive,
optimistic, or happy about anything.
Instead, he lives and thrives on bringing down other people and things. In short, the “shit” in his head he projects
out onto the external world.
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He
derives pleasure out of belittling, verbally abusing, and bullying others. But of course, he will not accept any of the
same in return. And in fact, he proudly
admitted to others that I was his “verbal punching bag” and even enjoyed
throwing rocks and pebbles at me when I lived with him in
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He also
enjoys seeing other people suffer and feels pleasure when bad things happen to
other people. Very sick and twisted, to
say the least.
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When he
asks you to do something for him, he often does not give clear or articulate
directions. Instead, he expects you to
read his mind, and if you guess wrong, he chews you out for it with an
intolerant hot temper, never being able to see himself at fault for his
vagueness and lack of communication.
Needless to say, he has terrible communication skills. Of course, this behavior is illogical, but
then again, he is not a rational, sensible or balanced person anyway.
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Though
he is brilliant at computers and highly meticulous, he has no people skills
whatsoever, obviously, yet he blames that all on others rather than on himself.
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Though
he says false things about others and makes many mistakes, he will never listen
to any corrections on it. And he will
never apologize or admit his errors either.
In his mind, he is always right and he has a God complex. That’s another thing that makes him so hard
to get along with. When he is wrong, you
can’t tell him about it, so you either have to lie and agree with him, or tell
the truth and incur his wrath. That’s
like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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He is a
major control freak and anal retentive, even about miniscule and unimportant
things that don’t matter one way or the other.
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If he
thinks you are useful to him or on good terms with him, he will be generous and
giving to you. But once he’s had enough
of you, he sees fit to knowingly lie about you, break his promises to you, not
pay what he owes you, etc. That says a
lot right there, cause a principled man would even treat his enemies fairly and
justly. But he doesn’t.
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He has
wacky beliefs that undermine his credibility, sanity and sense of reality. Some examples: He believes that all pharmaceutical medicine
is bad for you, and thus never takes medicine nor allows his children to take
them, including pain killers such as Tylenol.
He believes that a woman can only get pregnant from having sex, only ten
days per month. He believes that a man
can’t win the heart of a woman without “buying her” through cash and expensive
gifts. But of course, you can’t show him
that he’s wrong about all these warped beliefs, not even through compassion,
cause in his mind, he can’t be wrong and he has some sort of a God complex. Furthermore, he is not a logical, sensible or
rational man anyway.
I personally testify that all
these things are true and an accurate description of him. With the above heeded, it’s your choice
whether you want to work for or with such a man. In case you think it’s a case of my word
against his, you can verify my credibility here: http://www.happierabroad.com/Verify_Me.htm. And you can see the other testimonials about
him in the insightful quotes section.
How he turns everyone
who works for him into his enemy
This is the pattern he has
followed with me, his last three workers, and everyone who has ever worked for
him before us.
Basically, he hires people and
makes big promises to them, sounding like a big Santa Claus, to lure them
in. Then gradually he looks for the worst in them, as he hates people in
general deep down. If he can’t find
anything bad, he will make something up so he sees what he wants anyway. Then he proceeds to verbally abuse them,
belittle them, bully them, uses them as his punching bag for a while, and
starts to despise them. It’s a twisted drama he repeats with
everyone. Soon he launches his “Salem Witch Hunts”, accusing them of all
sorts of weird things that don’t make sense, and are obviously mostly just shit
in his own head. Even if you do nothing wrong in a technical sense, or
moral/ethical sense, he will still imagine faults where there are none.
And once he does, there’s no convincing him that he’s wrong. Basically,
the shit in his head he projects onto others. The gremlin that he is
thrives on hate, so he must hate to survive. If there’s nothing to hate,
he will find something. It’s like he has a NEED to turn people into his
enemies.
For instance, one time I laid my
head on my girlfriend’s lap in his living room, and he bitched at me about it
later, saying that it was a very vile obscene thing to do in the living room,
and told me that the whole world, including my girlfriend, now saw me as an
indecent slob, simply for resting my head on my girlfriend’s lap. There
was no use convincing him that the world and my girlfriend did not share his
twisted nutty view, for in his mind, he is never wrong and all the shit in his mind
is really out there in objective reality, and not just in his head.
So, inevitably over time, he adds
up all the negatives about you in his head, even making up some of it, til he’s
had enough of you. Then he turns on you, declares you a worthless vermin,
becomes your enemy, and breaks every promise he’s ever made to you. At
that point, he won’t even fly you home, even if he promised to before.
After you part with him, he will never have anything good to say about you ever
again. And you are left wondering what you ever did wrong. But in
truth, the sick fantasy is all in his head, but he’s too insane to realize that
he’s the true source of the problem, not something out there. This is
guaranteed to happen to you even if you’re perfect, blameless and do nothing
wrong.
Thus, NO ONE, ever parts with him
amicably. EVER. He makes sure of that.
That is the prevailing and
consistent pattern in his behavior toward others.
A 40 year old man who
throws rocks at his friends?!
What do you think of a 40 year old
adult man who throws rocks at innocent people?
Well that’s what he did. This
Stefan dude threw rocks and pebbles at me while I was living with him in
List of Stefan's wrongs
vs. my wrongs
As I mentioned before, I have
never done anything wrong to this guy, nothing morally, ethically, or
legally. And he cannot even cite one
legitimate thing I did wrong to justify his insane hatred. That only shows that he is whacked, not
me. After all, who would hate someone
and become an arch enemy to someone who never did any wrong to them? Even in movies, people hate or become enemies
for an understandable reason. But in our
case, there is none. Thus, the technical
wrongs I've committed against Stefan are:
ZERO
All he can cite are useless silly
things such as me burning popcorn while cooking it in a pot, leaving condoms on
the floor of my bedroom for people to slip on, etc. Big fricking deal.
In fact, I did EVERYTHING he asked
and took his abuse for a long time. What
more could I have done?!
But on the other hand, Stefan has
clearly committed unethical acts against me, such as:
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Constantly verbally abusing and belittling me, calling me his "verbal
punching bag", and admitting it proudly.
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Breaking his promise to give me certain work he promised upon arrival, for NO
JUSTIFIABLE reason.
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Throwing rocks and pebbles at me for fun, something no mature sane adult does.
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Constantly bullying and threatening me with scare tactics, even after we've
parted.
- Failing
to pay up when he loses bets, and he's lost several.
- Failing
to pay up debts he promised to pay.
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Knowingly Lying about me on his website about me www.winston-wu.com (e.g. that I was
having sex with a bar girl the day my baby was born) and in email flame wars,
making dozens of mistakes, lies, and false facts per email that it becomes
tedious repeatedly correcting him.
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Stealing private photos from my email account by hacking into it, which I never
sent out to anyone.
Seven primary unpleasant traits of
Stefan Muth
Here are the 7 primary characteristics that Stefan Muth possesses to extreme degrees, which I’ve seen him exhibit time and time again. He is a wealthy successful meticulous entrepreneur who is extremely negative, hateful, fault-finding, and revels in anti-popularity. That makes him an interesting and unique blend of traits worth studying. His self-description with his own photos are on one of his sites here: www.theoneforyou.com/me
- Extreme negativity: He likes to see the worst in others and everything. He is like George Bush in that when he tries to say something positive, he is stumped and tongue-tied and has little to say, but when he criticizes, he has a lot to say and looks very passionate in doing so. In fact, during Christmas, when he had me get a birthday card for his fiancée, he couldn’t think of anything sweet or romantic to write in it, so he had me write a few paragraphs of sentimental stuff for him. Oddly enough, though he can write long analytical and critical emails, he can’t think of anything to write in a birthday card to his fiancée. He is also the type of person who always ASSUMES THE WORST about everyone and everything. People who always assume the worst are usually right less than 10 percent of the time, so you’d think a person who prides himself on his “technical efficiency” would see the inaccuracy of his ways and change, but noooooooo…….. And usually, if you tell him some great news, he will make something negative about it, like it’s bullshit, and that the only true things are negative things. What a total party pooper, the type of person that people booo in theatres and movies. Since he loves to see the worst in everyone, and bring it out in them, it’s also no wonder that he fires over 90 percent of the people he’s hired to work at www.diagnose-me.com, spewing hateful venom at them behind their back once they leave. He will even admit this and is proud of it.
- Anal retentive/Control freak/Perfectionist: He is probably the most anal retentive and biggest control freak I’ve ever met. Hands down. He nitpicks at very little things. And he looks for every flaw and imperfection in everything and everyone, even if he only imagines them. There is no pleasing him. After all, how do you please someone who finds something wrong in everything? Even one of his employees in Hawaii, a guy named Leo who is one of the most positive, nonjudgmental and easygoing guys I’ve ever met, looks annoyed, confused and vulnerable when talking to Stefan cause he knows very well that no matter how good a job he does or how positive he is, his boss will point out every imperfection that he sees and will seek the negative in everything. And to magnify his anal retentiveness, he has a nasty temper that flares off at any imperfection he perceives and no tolerance for mistakes of any kind. Thus, walking around him is not like walking on eggshells, but like walking in a God damn MINEFIELD!
In fact, he’s such a control freak that he has no tolerance at all for any kind of risk, even if it’s so small and inconsequential that normal people wouldn’t care about it. And even if the risk doesn’t exist and is only in his head. If he perceives any kind of risk, he will expend a ton of resources and time to eliminate it. That’s what makes him a bit scary and creepy too. The ironic thing is that for a perfectionist, he sure makes a lot of mistakes himself. Not only is he a SUPER control freak, but a psychopath with a God-complex as well. He bullies others like a dictator, acting as though he is the ruler of the world.
- Judgmental: For someone who seems intelligent and a know-it-all, he is sure very judgmental about others, and likes to jump to conclusions quickly. He claims that all my dates here dump me because I’m stingy. Yet he rarely ever meets my dates, has no evidence that they’ve dumped me (but plenty of evidence to the contrary), and has no basis for claiming that they hate my stinginess. In fact, he is the one who makes the biggest deal out of my alleged “stinginess”. He is the one who goes on and on about it, not the girls. The girls that like me might call me a “kuripot” sometimes when I try to spend wisely, but they don’t stop seeing me because of it, if they really like me that is. Being frugal is in fact a good way to screen out the girls who only want to use you. But the truth is, I’m not really stingy. I just don’t like to waste money on unnecessary things since I’m on a budget. That’s all. Nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with spending wisely because you are on a budget. Most people don’t have a problem with it and they understand. But Stefan is obsessed with it, more than anyone else here. Since he can afford to splurge a ton of money here, he uses it to belittle me since I can’t do the same. What a bully! For example, if I tell him that I bought a cell phone load for a girl I’m dating of 100 pesos (which is plenty since each text they send costs only 1 peso, and plus most girls here have only a 30 peso balance at any given time), he will belittle me by asking me what kind of a man I am, since he buys 500 pesos cell phone load cards for his girlfriend each time. That is so immature and ego-tripping that I’m not even sure if he’s reached puberty yet! Sheesh!
He is free to interview any of the girls I date, and if he does so, he will find that none of them will claim that they dumped me cause I’m stingy. In fact, most of them will say that they don’t see me because I stopped calling them and stopped making myself available to them. And to this day, he still can’t even name three girls who he thinks has “dumped” me. If he tried to, I could easily text them and have them meet me again. He knows it too. Also, there are many girls here who still hang out with me, sometimes in groups, even after I’ve made it clear to them that I’m frugal, need to save money, and won’t let myself be hustled into wasting money. They hang out with me even though they can’t use me to pay all the time, because I’m FUN and LIKABLE. One of them even told me that she and her friends like hanging out with me, but not Stefan, after taking just one good looking at him and receiving his negative/critical stare. He knows all this, yet persists in his delusion, like a madman. Trying to reason with him is like trying to reason with a madman.
One reason that Stefan often errs in his judgments about others is that as a die-hard computer programmer, he assumes that he can understand, predict and calculate others the same way he can with computer programs. In other words, people can be understood and controlled like computer programs can. He puts them into his “pet formulas” so to speak. And when people don’t work according to his programs and formulas, he starts looking for the program line or variable that “screwed it up”. Well people don’t work that way. You can’t calculate human behaviors or relationships. But he thinks you can. And I’ve noticed this from him time and time again. Obviously, he is in his own world with very little experience in social skills and human relationships. Of that, there can be no doubt. He is right only in HIS own mind.
- Verbally Abusive/Name Calling: Like an immature person, he constantly chews people out in nasty ways. He loosely calls people “stupid”, “idiot”, “dummy” and even worse words, often in trivial situations or for reasons that don’t exist but which he fabricates in his twisted mind. And he likes to belittle others for stupid reasons. If he can’t find a reason to belittle you, he will make up one in his mind. And once he does, he won’t listen to any attempt to explain to him that he’s wrong or in error. Even those who try to please him are not exempt. You could be Jesus Christ or Mother Theresa and he’d find a reason to convince himself that you’re despicable and a horrible thing he needs to get rid of, insulting you and belittling you in the process. Even though I’ve NEVER done anything wrong to him, never broke any promises to him, never backstabbed him, was always on his side, etc. he constantly put me down, and said a lot of nasty words to me. He even admitted that he relished using me as his “verbal punching bag”. All this is strange behavior for a 40 year old man who considers himself stable and successful. No one likes someone who is verbally abusive, and thus it’s no surprise he has no true friends and is unpleasant.
- Nasty short explosive temper: He loses his temper and explodes in anger at trivial things, even at people who did nothing wrong, due to some imperfection that didn’t go his way exactly. Most people get mad sometimes of course, but the key thing to remember is that he loses his cool for UNJUSTIFIED and UNWARRANTED reasons. The examples of this are endless. He does it to the point where it’s almost like a mental disorder. Healthy, positive, happy, mature men don’t do that. It’s a sign of social and mental dysfunctional to be always blowing your fuse at small things. Hence again, it’s no wonder he has no good friends and no social people skills. And it also makes being around him feel like walking on egg shells. But couple his nasty temper with his anal retentiveness, and it makes being around him feel like walking on a God damn MINEFIELD. The worst thing about it is that he NEVER apologizes afterwards when he calms down. You see, someone with good people skills usually apologizes after they’ve lost their temper. It’s the manly thing to do. But he NEVER does, not even to his fiancée. He is very comparable to Ross Perot, the 1992/1996 Presidential candidate – very successful at making money and understanding business, but has horrible people skills and a nasty bad temper.
- Has no true friends/Unable to be a true friend: He has admitted that he only likes friends that are “useful”. And incidentally, that’s why him and I are no longer friends, as I have outlived my “usefulness” to him, which he adamantly says. (Well gee I’m soooooo sorry to have become a damper in his productivity lifestyle) He is like the bad guys or criminals in TV shows and movies who dispose of their teammates as soon as they don’t need them anymore. Hence he has no true friends and is unable to be a true friend to anyone. Yet he acts like he’s an authority on love and relationships! What a joke! How can he be an authority on love/relationships when he can’t even be a true friend to anyone?! That’s like Hitler pretending to be an authority on peace and harmony!
- Spends and splurges a lot of money: The only
trait he has that might be good, depending on how you look at it, is that he is
very generous with his money and splurges a lot of it. I’ve never seen
anyone go through so much money so fast. In short, he LOVES to pay for
things and buy things for people (even for me). But the question is, does
that trait exonify all his negative qualities above? Of course, it’s
partly because he has a lot of money (
Concluding comments:
Now, you might think that my comments here about Stefan are a bit negative and critical too. But look at it this way: Since Stefan is EXTREMELY negative himself to the nth degree, seeing the worst in everything and everyone, and spinning every happy/positive story into a negative one, why not apply that mentality in evaluating him too, to deliver POETIC JUSTICE to him and giving him his rightful karma? What’s wrong with giving him a taste of his own medicine? After all, it’s in alignment with his own ways too.
You might think that I harbor an
unhealthy grudge against a former friend that I should just forget about and
move on. Well that’s partially why, but there’s more to it than
that. You see, this guy is MAJORLY VERBALLY ABUSIVE, and a hugely
narcissistic know-it-all with delusional beliefs like a madman. Even when
he says things that a mere simpleton would know is wrong, he firmly sticks to
it and won’t listen to reason. After all, madmen don’t listen to logic or
reason, they believe what they want to believe and that’s it. (e.g. Hitler
wouldn’t listen to the logic or reason of his generals in the latter stages of
WWII when they kept trying to explain to him that his military tactics were
badly flawed and doomed to fail) He also likes to belittle others who aren’t as
wealthy as him or aren’t workaholics. So why not belittle him?
Plus, he LOVES finding fault with
others, to a passion. So why not give him a dose of his own medicine so
to speak, and find fault with HIM as well? It would be his justly due
karma after all. And of course, he LOVES to hate others (including me)
finding any reason to do so, even if it’s only in his mind. In fact, his
ego thrives on hate. So why not hate him too? It’s only fair
(though not the most spiritual thing to do, I admit).
Basically, he’s the type of guy
who if an audience watched in a movie, would boo and would clap when brought
down, like the evil corporate executives in movies that everyone loves to be
against. He is in his own world, and revels in being
“anti-popular”. Plus, he hates the world and LOVES finding fault with
others, to a passion. So why not give him a dose of his own medicine so
to speak, and find fault with HIM as well? It’s his justly due karma
after all.
Also, he has joined a hate group
called WooWeasel
(http://groups.yahoo.com/group/wooweasel/)
which derives entertainment at my expense, to do the same, so he asked for
it. You can see so for yourself by going their forum at the link above
and read all his nasty vile hateful comments about me in his own words, to
glimpse the real Stefan. Just keyword his name or the email handle he
uses for the hate group, g0vegan@yahoo.com
to see his posts.
You will see that his hateful posts about
me don’t contain anything substantive or legit, but mere dysfunction and a
desire to hate for the sake of it. Judge for yourself. Remember
that I NEVER asked him to be my enemy or did anything to incite it. It
was simply his choice to become my enemy, without ANY wrongdoing on my
part. He’s the backstabber who dealt the FIRST STRIKE, not me. HE
CHOSE to be my enemy! Not me.
Anyone who has met me will tell
you that I am very easygoing, soft, and pleasant to be around. I have a
list of positive comments from people who have met me too. So, if someone
hates me the way he does, that person must have a major personality problem.
Nine wacky beliefs that
destroy his credibility
For a man who is a perfectionist and
does not tolerate other people’s mistakes, Stefan has made some of the stupidest
blunders himself that are worthy of a Darwin
Award. Check out these wacky beliefs and insane statements that he’s made
which undermine his credibility, sanity, and sense of reality. I promise that
these are true. He won’t even deny it. The funny thing is that he’s uttered
each of these with a righteous air of authority in his voice!
Here are some examples I recall:
1. Though he runs a medical self-diagnostic site (www.diagnose-me.com), he
doesn’t believe in taking medicine when he gets sick. And won’t let his kids
take medicine when they’re sick either! To him, all conventional medicine is
“poison”! He has no credible scientific evidence to back up such a fanatical
belief. It’s merely his belief. But usually, even when he tries to
provide reasons or explanations, they don’t make sense and sound incoherent.
So if I’m in pain from severe migraines, if I follow his
beliefs, I’ll have to endure it, yelling in pain, simply because of a wacky
belief.
This dude has no real ability to assess risk properly.
2. He’d rather die of hunger than eat any noodles or bread
that have the slightest bit of egg or
dairy in them. That’s how fanatical and religious he is about his veganism.
Yet he claims that raw foodists have wacky beliefs and are wacky people. He’s
one of those people who take the smallest isolated incident or factor, and
bases entire beliefs and lifestyles around it, totally out of proportion. On
such things he lacks the ability to reason with logic or common sense.
3. Now listen to this ridiculous statement uttered right
from his mouth:
“I’ve done extensive research on fertility cycles. And
what I’ve concluded is that a woman cannot get pregnant if you have sex with
her during the 10 days after her menstruation period and the 10 days before it.
Only during the middle 10 days can she become pregnant.”
Yet, ANY average Joe can Google the terms “fertility
cycle” or “pregnancy cycle” to get a list of reputable credible sites on
pregnancy, such as Planned Parenthood. And NOT ONE of them will teach
what he said. What they will tell you is that there is only ONE day each month
that a woman can’t get pregnant on, but this day is difficult to calculate
because it requires that extensive tests of her fertility and ovulation cycles
be done. Thus, you would have to use some form of birth control to avoid
getting pregnant. And this is nothing new either. I called Planned Parenthood back in 1994 when I was concerned
about this issue, and they told me the exact same thing!
So how can someone who runs a business in the medical
industry be THAT STUPID!?
No credible organization or expert on fertility says that
a woman can’t get pregnant 20 days of the month!
4. Listen to this crazy one. A nut giving statistics about
people who are “nuts”. Classic!
“Most schizophrenics are violent and dangerous. Look it
up.”
Um excuse me Mr. Wacko! Anyone who’s taken a basic intro
course in psychology knows that that’s not true, not only for schizophrenics,
but mentally ill people in general. It’s a myth perpetuated by
And anyone who “looks it up” on any credible psychology
website will find that schizophrenics are not violent or dangerous in general.
They simply are on a “split from reality”, hallucinating all sorts of things
living in their own nightmarish hell.
5. This statement which he’s uttered and lectured me with
hundreds of times, is just as stupid:
“Winston, you can’t get a real girlfriend in the
Not only have my real life dating experiences in the
Furthermore, most Filipino guys here have no trouble
getting girlfriends, totally unlike all the dateless sexless guys in the
(Note: After I typed blunder #5, Dianne and her cousins
looked at my computer screen and asked me who I was quoting. After I told them,
they said “Well it’s wrong” and had a look on their face like it was the most
ridiculous statement they ever heard.)
6. He also believes that the KEY to winning a girl’s heart
is with money and presents! Many times, after I’ve had a great first date with
someone, he would tell me that the next step is to bring her a lavish gift to
show her that money is no object to me. That is how you SECURE her love,
according to his book! Gee whiz! Even children know that that is NOT the way to
do it. This guy has lower emotional intelligence than a child!
Nevertheless, several times he forced me to implement this
theory. I’ll tell you what happened when I did.
One time after getting a cute girl’s phone number at the
mall in SM Department Store, I went out with her and her roommate. Then we
agreed to go out alone next time. The day before we did, Stefan told me to
present to her a box of expensive chocolate from a mall kiosk. I told him it
wasn’t necessary. But he said, “Come on!” and bought the box of expensive
chocolates for me. I gave it to her at work that night, and she seemed
flattered and impressed. The next day, she showed up 45 minutes late for our
date, and then immediately took me to the Hypermart (an all purpose big store
like Walmart) where she looked at new purses, picked one out, and then said,
“You buy me this.” When I refused, she had a sour face the rest of the day, exiting early with her
friend. So much for the expensive box of chocolates that Stefan wasted his
money on.
Another time, I met this really hot girl on the street and
took her bar hopping until late into the night. The next day, I showed her
pictures to Stefan, and he said that she was hot enough to not make me wander,
and so I’d better win her over. Since I had plans to see her again that day, he
told me to impress her by getting her a 500 peso cell phone card, to show her
that you can spend lavishly on her with no problem. I didn’t agree of course,
but he suggested I text her and tell her that I have it for her as a test. I
did exactly that, and told her I had a phone card for her and another gift
(printed copies of her pictures). She didn’t seem to care. Instead, she stood
me up and never showed up for our next appointment. Instead, she hung out with
her cousin who was trying to apply at a bar, standing me up. Then she finally
agreed to meet up with me late that night, but only hung around for 10 minutes.
The next day, she texted me, asking for 5000 pesos (over a hundred dollars) so
that her sister can apply to work in
Again, so much for the 500 peso phone card gift to impress
her.
7. “Hitchhiking is dangerous and should never be
advocated.”
Another dumb but understandable statement since many
paranoid people share it. The thing is, he is NOT qualified to say that cause
he’s never tried hitchhiking before, and most people who have will tell you
it’s very safe contrary to the negative stigma attached to it in the
In fact, Kinga (www.ledbydestiny.com, www.hitchhikingtheworld.com)
did it for 5 years, starting with $600, traveling the world. The fact that she
died of Malaria years later, had NOTHING to do with unsafe hitchhiking
practices. However, negative twerps like Stefan ATTEMPT to discredit her with
her death, which is very low and offensive to those of us whom she inspired.
Just goes to show you what kind of person he is.
8. “You can’t make money in the stock market because the
system is doomed to collapse.”
Yet another ridiculous statement that everyone knows is
bogus. My parents and many others have made a lot of money from stocks and
mutual funds. But anyway, gee what an optimistic statement. I'd love to have
him for my stock broker!
This guy is clearly delusional. Normal people don’t make
these kind of blunders. Only twisted mad men in their own world, who borderline
belong in an insane asylum, make statements like these.
Clearly, people like this, when their insane thoughts are
exposed, lose complete credibility to others, and are no longer taken seriously
anymore.
9. “Women in
Sheer ignorance isn’t enough to excuse this one. This guy
actually claims to have LIVED in
EVERYONE knows that British women are generally
independent, reserved, generous, and happy to pay for themselves, usually
insisting on paying for themselves. That’s been my experience, every Brit
attests to it, and everyone who’s been there knows this. All except Stefan, the
man in his own world as usual.
I was just talking about men and women HANGING OUT when
this topic was brought up. But even in romantic dating situations, British
women often offer to pay for themselves. They can afford it and are proud of
their independence.
They are NOTHING at all like Russian women, who on the
other hand, DEMAND that any man in their presence pay for them, even if he’s
just a friend, acquaintance, or someone they don’t even like!
My blunder?
The only blunder of mine that Stefan can cite is that I
often burn popcorn while cooking it in a pot. Big deal! That’s nowhere near the
idiocracy and insanity of the 9 statements by him above.
But of course, he will NEVER admit that he’s wrong or
recant any of the 9 blunders above. Just watch. Nor will he deny making these
statements either, for he did.
Insightful quotes about
Stefan Muth
The following are spot-on quotes
I’ve collected from advisors and friends about the evil control freak and
forest hermit Stefan Muth who created www.diagnose-me.com
who hates everyone and is hated by everyone in turn. Not even his
Filipina fiancée Rosa, whom he bought from her family with a sh**load of money,
truly loves him, as her feigned affections to him in person, which I’ve
witnessed many times, are so fake that if they were shown on a movie screen,
the audience would complain “She can’t act at all!”
First, one of my advisors, a
no-nonsense realist who is an expert on people and bullshit detection, made the
following observations and analyses about Stefan after seeing his emails and
posts. He texted me these as answers to my questions by phone.
- “He is a control freak.”
- “I told ya I had a bad feeling about him the first time you
described him (long ago).”
- “Yeah I saw his photos that you sent out. From his
face, I could see that there was something not right about him.”
- “His ego has been damaged and he has low emotional
intelligence.”
- “He uses people for his own benefit. When he is done with
them he throws them away.”
- “I find it fascinating that people waste their time writing
crap about others. They should be worried about their own lives. Just shows you
that they don’t have much of a life I guess.”
- “Yeah I read it, he is just a control bully trying to
manipulate you through passive-aggressive tactics.”
- “He hates you and is a bully. Both. He has serious
character flaw issues, that’s why he is a hermit and anti-social.”
Next, one of my friends from the list who came and visited
the
“I knew a guy like him
once. He made $15,000 a month in his business, but was a real control
freak with no people skills. People only tolerated him because he was
paying them. He was nice to you if he found you useful in a business
sense, but as soon as you weren’t, he wanted nothing to do with you. I
eventually couldn’t tolerate him and had enough.”
Also, he and another guy who later came to visit both said independently of each other,
“The only way a guy with that
kind of personality can get people to tolerate him is by PAYING them.”
And another friend visiting from
“Some people are brilliant in
one area of life but really stupid in another. For example, they might be
really good at computer programming, but have horrible people skills.”
On my forum, which Stefan made a nasty twisted vindictive appearance at, showing his dickhead attitude, a poster commented:
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=91
“As for
Stefan, he totally turned me off. I don't like Stefan at all.”
And one of Stefan’s own workers sent me this letter that supports and confirms all that I’ve concluded about him, especially about him being an unstable psychopath/sociopath.
“Hey Winston, this is <name snipped>, remember me from up at Gov before
you and Stefan left for the
Hope all is well with you!”
He later added:
“He is
the most vile and disgusting human i have ever met.”
Finally, my close friend Elizabeth had this to say about Stefan:
“He
may achieve everything under the sun, but he will forever be too miserable to
enjoy it.”
Now, this is a guy I’ve met who is the type that everyone likes to have for a buddy, always friendly, polite, honest, low key, nonconfrontational, and normally never says anything bad about others. That should tell you a lot.
And the last line doesn’t surprise me at all. Stefan definitely gives off an unpleasant vibe that feels like he is trying to drag you down into his cynicism and pure negativity about everything. To people like him, every glass is “half empty”. He is everything that is the opposite of “feel good”.
What is most telling is that EVERYONE that has worked for Stefan, not just me and the guy above, has ended up parting with him under LESS than amicable terms. NO ONE has been exempt. That should tell you a lot as well. If that doesn’t spell “multiple red flags and bad signs” then I don’t know what does.
The inside story on how
Stefan “bought” his Filipina fiancée
Now, let me give you the inside story about how Stefan
“bought” his alleged “successful relationship” with his fiancée
He met
During that time, we all hung out as a group with her sister
and roommate. Stefan’s girl was interacting and talking to all of us
except him. She acted like he wasn’t even there. I felt sorry for
him.
One night,
At that point, it looked for all the world that his intended love affair was doomed and would end soon. All the bad signs were there. It just wasn’t gonna work out, so to speak. So, Stefan had me deliver an ultimatum to them – Either she get her act together and start treating him better, or else he was gonna cancel all their plans as well as his financial support. It was awkward for me having to deliver a serious confrontational ultimatum to 3 cheerful nice girls. Even a blunt and brutally honest person like me hesitated on it, but I did it anyway, since Stefan was my financer and benefactor.
After the ultimatum, things started turning around.
Now, GET THIS! Here’s the clincher, or the “AH HA!”
During those first 4-5 days, Stefan rented a new apartment
for the three girls, bought them a brand new desktop computer (their old one
broke), threw hundreds of dollars at them and her family, etc. And on
And that’s not the end of it, get this: For Rosa’s
twin sister’s birthday (which is on the same day as her’s), Stefan took them
all to the mall on a shopping spree where they were allowed to buy whatever
Now, if all this isn’t “buying her love”, then I don’t know what is!
Whatever the case, I’m sure that
So, with all the facts and events above, can you put 2 and 2 together? Can you see the obvious? Is it all easy to piece together?
A likely scenario?
I could be wrong, but a likely scenario is this:
(Suffice to say, a pattern I’ve noticed with Stefan is that
Filipinas tend to like his pictures online and his appearance in web cam.
But in person, they get turned off or creeped out/uncomfortable by him, because
he projects a VERY strong negative, anal retentive, hateful, dysfunctional,
intolerant, “I am in my own world and I hate everything outside of it” type of
VIBE, as I described in the post with his primary traits. Thus, it
wouldn’t surprise me if
When he arrived, she realized that she didn’t like him after all, and probably felt uncomfortable around him, as he is an awkward person with no social skills coupled with an extreme negative/anal retentive vibe, and a very nerdy/geeky face. So, she gave him the silent treatment, looking unhappy in the process, subconsciously hoping that it would botch everything without her having to confront him about her true feelings.
But, as described above, after all the shitload of money that he spent and all the fancy things he bought for her and her family, it is probable that at some point during all this, Rosa’s sisters and parents gave her the following pep talk:
“What are you doing
So, since Filipinas have very little individuality and their
whole life is about helping their family rather than themselves,
To this day, Stefan gives Rosa and her two sisters (who both
live with them) $100 each, every week. That’s $300 a week that he gives
them in cash. (And when I lived with them, he was giving me $100 a week
too, which I appreciated) Out of that money, the girls give a portion to
their family and keep a portion to themselves. I have no idea what they
do with the rest of that money though, as it seems to disappear somehow (they
are all still very frugal and act as though they are broke), but no one talks
about it and it’s not even discussed. But what’s odd is that they are all
getting $1200 a month from him total, and that’s way more than their family
needs (most foreign boyfriends here give their girlfriend’s family between $100
and $200 a month, which is enough to satisfy them), so it’s a mystery as to
where all that excess money (a fortune to a Filipino family) goes
exactly. About once a week,
Not surprisingly though,
And that folks, is their “perfect little arrangement”. What a nice fairy tale happily ever after ending huh? (sarcastic)
So the question is: Did Stefan “buy”
An expat guy here who’s lived here for many years and has had the same girlfriend for 6 years, whom I told all this to, said that Stefan’s scenario will continue to work as long as he is shelling out the money. And that a Filipina whose boyfriend is financially supporting her family, cannot break up with her boyfriend without the family’s permission. So, as long as her family gets the money, they will need him, and she will stay with him.
Now, I don’t know about you, but that’s not the kind of relationship that I would want. It feels like a lie, and I don’t like feeling like a “Santa Claus” of any sort, unless it’s to my children, but definitely not to a whole unrelated family that wants to leech off me.
Personally though, I’m not sure how long such a relationship can last, as eventually her true feelings toward him will surface, even if she has little or no individuality. But it’s gone on for 5 months now.
PS - There is bad news for him though. When I moved out,
Rachel (
PS 2 – Sadly for him, even though he spent a sh**load of
money on Rosa’s 18th birthday, and gives her $100 a week at least in
allowance, when Stefan’s birthday came in late February, she didn’t do sh** for
him. All she did was give him a card and cheap T-shirt! Gee
wiz! A card and T-shirt? That’s something that a casual friend or
acquaintance does for you on your birthday, not a lover! In fact, I even
did more for him on his birthday that she did. I treated him to a Chinese
restaurant, bought him a big stand up high quality fan, a card, and was going
to get a birthday cake for him but couldn’t find one that was purely
vegan. You would think that
Now, contrast his relationship with mine:
When I first went out with Dianne, she wasn’t shy toward me and didn’t ignore me, but looked happy with me, enjoyed herself, was very accommodating and even called me her “Prince”. I NEVER gave her any money or bought her any gifts to get her affection or love. I only paid for dinners, drinks and transportation costs. Soon, she gave me lots of love, affection, sensuality, passion, time and devotion. I never had to “buy” any of it or do anything to “win” her over.
Even to this day, I don’t give her money, and when I try to, she always refuses it. I did give her family 3000 pesos ($60) one time to make up for her lost wages from being with me so much, but that was LONG AFTER she gave me her love, started living with me, and we were having sex regularly.
Her family hasn’t tried to leech off me or asked me for regular financial support yet, but even if they do, I know that she won’t let them and will defend me. Contrary to many girls here, she doesn’t like to mix love and money, and doesn’t like to make money a condition of love. She knows that money corrupts love and isn’t comfortable with such exploitative and mercantile arrangements.
Just to give you some examples: When my parents visited, my mom took out $100 to give to Dianne as a gift, but Dianne refused it, even after my mom kept trying to make her take it. Another time, when I was buying a two piece swimsuit for her, we found a nice one in her favorite colors for 800 pesos. Later on, she found another cute one for 299 pesos and told me to put the other one back, as this one was cheaper and just as nice to her.
Now, which relationship do you think is more GENUINE and PURER? Mine or Stefan’s?
PS – Laughably, this wacko likes to compare himself to James Bond too, which he did when I knew him. Sure he may be able to spend lavishly like James Bond does, but excuse me Mr. Nutcase …….
1. James Bond doesn’t have an innate hatred for everyone and everything in the universe.
2. James Bond doesn’t verbally abuse and bully innocent people and turn them into enemies.
3. James Bond dates tall
skinny women, not small mediocre young girls that look like children. Unlike
you, he has no pedophilic taste in females!
4. James Bond does not have
a zero tolerance for risk and danger like you do, you coward!
5. James Bond faces his
enemies, and doesn’t run away or give them the silent treatment like you do.
6. James Bond goes out and
gets involved in the action, he doesn’t stay in a shack in the forest all day
and night like a hermit like you do!
How I had to use law enforcement to stop serious threats from
Stefan
From an update to my mailing list describing what happened:
Update: Government officer resolves threat from Stefan! (Did
I do the right thing?)
Hi all,
Well it looks like my problem with Stefan has finally been resolved the other
day. Let me explain.
You see, even though I signed a No Contact Agreement at the police station,
which offered some protection for me, Stefan never signed it and never
rescinded his big threat and promise to me that if I didn't leave the country
by June 21st, he would have me arrested, deported, and make my life a living
hell that I'd regret forever. It was a big and serious ultimatum that he
issued last week. And I didn't want to take any chances, since I have a
life here, wonderful woman, and coming child and all.
So, with June 21st approaching, I simply couldn't take the risk of waiting
around and seeing what he would do or if and how he would carry out his threat
and ultimatum. Although everyone, from long-time expats to lawyers and
business people here, told me that he could not legally arrest and deport me
over threats to him by email (in self-defense that is), I still had no idea
what he could do with all his money, and his alleged "contacts in high
offices". For all I know, he could be planning to bribe high
officials or policemen to have me arrested, since it would be the only way he
could carry out his threat to me, as he could do nothing to me legally.
It was a logical assumption. And I didn't like doing nothing and feeling
like a sitting duck. Thus I thought it wise to DO something, find some
help and protection to make sure he couldn't carry out his ultimatum.
So, while I was at a barbecue with some European friends, I told them about my
problem and the serious ultimatum imposed upon me by a fellow American that I
used to be friends with, to arrest and deport me by June 21st. At first,
they told me that bluffing and power/ego trips were common among men in a
dispute, and that's probably all it was. But an Austrian friend and
German guy told me that they knew someone powerful and trustworthy who could
help, who had helped them with unjust threats in the past. His name was
Master Galo, the brother of the "Barangay Captain". The
"Barangay" are a group of people who make laws and settle things in
court, sort of like a legislature and judicial body in one. Every district
has a Barangay body. The captain of the Barangay is sort of like the
mayor of the district, and holds high executive power almost equal to that of
the city mayor. (Incidentally, here in the
Now, since Master Galo is very close to his brother, like twins, anything he
says and does goes as if it were coming from the Barangay captain
himself. But this was a man of justice and wisdom, who could not be
bribed or corrupted, so the good had nothing to fear from him, only the evil
did. As a master in martial arts, he has high discipline and strength of
character. He trains policemen at the academy and also teaches
self-defense to kids. And he is so strong that he can do push-ups with
just one index finger (which I witnessed when I met him) as well as a few other
amazing feats. Also, he knows one of Bruce Lee's teachers,
a Filipino master who is still alive (but obviously must be very old by
now). In addition, he gets flown around the world to teach martial arts
in different countries. So not only is he a high ranking official, but a
highly respected one as well, for his integrity, honor, and character. What
I was told was that if you are in the "right", he is the best help
and protector that you can have here, but if you are in the "wrong",
he is the worst person you can have against you here.
Perfect, I thought. He would be the one to finally r