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HAPPIER ABROAD  Why You Can Have A Better Life and Love Beyond America

 

 

 

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Title Page

Photo Collage – Part One (Russia/Europe)

Photo Collage – Part Two (Philippines)       

Photo Collage – Part Three (Philippines)

Photo Collage – Part Four (Philippines)

Table of Contents

Quotes about me from readers, fans, and advisors

Introduction

- About me

- Objectives

- How I was “saved abroad” once before

- Why we can’t look to the US media for truth about a better life abroad

- My qualifications

A BIG SECRET I want to share with you!

Why people leave America

Four major things in America that drove me overseas

Social life, culture/values and lifestyle        

·        Highlights of general differences

·        Bland cookie cutter architecture vs. rich stimulating one        

·        Meeting people – clique restrictions vs. free-flowing

·        Isolation/exclusive vs. communal/inclusive mentality 

- Strange contradiction in US social life - Between a rock and a hard place

·        Talking to strangers – North America vs. the rest of the world 

·         Only in America: going out alone = staying alone 

                  - "Breaking the ice" - proof that Americans are uncomfortable talking to strangers

·        Meeting people restricted to parties and clubs

·         Why I am incompatible with the American social environment 

            - Social skills with the flow vs. against the flow

·        Visual proof of isolationist US public on ferry ride vs. opposite  

·        Study shows that more money = less social (validation of my claims)

·        Americans by their actions love being lonely workaholics

·         Documented proof of anti-sociality in America in one of the worst places

·        Identity determined by cliques vs. who you are            

·        Friendships – US vs. most countries

·        Interconnectedness vs. Separateness: Why Americans overinflate themselves and try to "fit in"

- a) Why Americans tend to overinflate their ego/confidence/attitude

- b) The conflicting oxymoron of trying to "fit in"

- Some offshoot effects of “separateness” in America

·         Family harmony vs. Fight for control

·         Artificial smiles/greetings vs. sincere ones

      - Study shows that fake smiles/greetings can lead to bad health

            - "How are you?" - How Americans reinforce fake optimism on each other

·        Social communication style – artificial/plastic front vs. natural/relaxed

·        American laughter – constrained/inhibited vs. Foreign laughter – free-flowing/uninhibited

·        Lack of intellectual curiosity in America 

·         Cultured Foreigners vs. Uncultured Americans (specific examples) 

            - Cultured soulful eyes vs. empty soulless eyes

·        Intellectuals young and old         

·        Persecution of geeks and nerds - America’s unwholesome quirk

·        Being different or a misfit = alienation in America 

·        Blacks and Asians - Inferiority complex vs. wholesome integration

·        Why immigrants don’t assimilate well in America 

·         Rich inner life vs. total emphasis on outer        

·        Letters from typical American vs. European youngsters – evidence in their own words

·        Young people - empty bags of air vs. depth 

·        Nightlife: America vs. Europe/Russia/Latin America 

·         American Culture/Life = Hype + Consumerism 

·        Propaganda vs. real life in America  

·        The Industrial Culture and Automaton Populace of America (Understanding how most Europeans view America)

·        What immigrants and foreigners say about America that you never hear in the US media  

·        The US media’s negative coverage of other countries – Misportrayal vs. Reality

·         Careers and the workaholic mentality in America

            - Attitude toward work: American/Oriental vs. European/Australian/Latin

-   Parable of The Fisherman and The Investment Banker

- How YOU can live in freedom and pleasure abroad, the simple SECRET!

·        Education and College – How America maintains a class society

·        Ideas about freedom and security: America vs. Europe           

·        A simple explanation why American pop culture is dumb and unintellectual

·        Film and Media: Entertainment vs. Art

·        Inverse between social atmosphere and paid friendliness       

·        Fragile/high strung egos vs. thick skin/carefree attitude 

·        Bragging and competitiveness of male ego vs. brotherly camaraderie           

·        Pseudo-confidence and paranoia - 2 elements of American personality 

·         Studies that show America to be the most dysfunctional in the industrialized world

            - Highest prison population in the world

            - Highest incidence of rape                                -

            - Higher homicide rates than other industrialized nations

            - Increase in wealth failed to increase happiness for Americans

            - Poorer countries having happier people than America

            - Highest rates of mental illness in the world

- Studies show loneliness and isolation to be national epidemics in America

            - Biggest obesity crisis in the history of the world

            - The most unhealthy and sick population among industrialized nations

- US slips down development index

            - Implications

·        Comparing quality of life: America vs. European Union (book excerpts with statistics) 

·        Europe safer for lone female travelers than America

·        The rigid compartmentalization of American life - Is it freedom?        

·         Disadvantageous American quirks not shared in other cultures

            - Advantageous qualities of America not shared in other cultures

·         Why hippie counter-culture groups aren’t the answer to my ostracization in America

·         Fattening processed food vs. wholesome natural food

            - A simple way to lose weight that the US media is completely oblivious to

·        Public transportation - USA vs. Europe

·        Except in America, healthcare is easily affordable and accessible

 

      Women and dating

·         The general attitude of women

·        Meeting and dating women

·         Holding conversations with women        

·        European/Russian women having a combination of the best qualities 

·        6 Major advantages of European/Russian women over American women 

            - Approachability/Sociability

            - Weight

            - Dress style

            - Intellectual/Inner life

            - Variety of interests

            - Femininity

·         Fear of rejection becoming unnecessary

·        Surplus vs. shortage of attractive mentally healthy single women 

·         Beauty and brains common vs. rare 

·         Personal ads and New Age groups – US vs. Abroad 

- Why personal ads in the USA don’t usually work

·        Admiration vs. hatred for men   

·         The “men are creeps” attitude of American women     

            - Weird paranoid fantasies about "stalkers"?

·        US Feminism = female dominance, male bashing, double standards

·         Misportrayal of men in America by its anti-men feminist media

            - A fantastic politically incorrect revealing discussion about women on Craigs List

·        The most anti-social, unapproachable, and paranoid women in the world 

·        Unapproachable force field/bubble vs. giggle/blush: Pictures say a thousand words

·        Reaction from women: Hatred/Antisociality vs. Enthusiasm/Attraction

·        Public eating places – Europe vs. USA (not about the food)

·        Hypocritical arousal and restraint of desires in our society

- The myth of sexual freedom in America

·        Women have it WAY easier in the social/dating scene of America

·        Why America has the WORST dating scene in the world for men      

·         The sad lonely life of a typical single man in the USA  

            - Statistical research shows that the singles scene in America sucks

·        Great news for lonely sexually frustrated men about Philippines and Thailand

·        How a normal guy can have a lifestyle like Hugh Heffner (and I mean in REAL LIFE not in theory)

·         Asian men perceived as asexual and undesirable in America

            - Why USA is the worst place for Asian men who like white women

            - Some elated responses from Asian American men

·         Great news for Asian and Black men about Europe

·        The best solution to the Asian American man’s dating dilemma (an expose by my consultant)

·         Dating advice from mono-national who thinks INSIDE the American box vs. mine

- Response from my cultural consultant to the mono-national advice

- Response from Asian American intellectual in Europe

·        8 reasons why Asian men have a better social life in Russia than America (from my cultural advisor)

·        Never “in the game” vs. always “in the game”            

·        Why American women don’t make good wives - narcissistic and sociopathic

·        Lions and hyenas = Me and American women?

·        10 reasons why I’m forced to look for love beyond America

- Logical reasons why my standards are not “too high” in America

·         “Aren’t foreign women just after your money and a green card?”

·        Far less risk abroad for men marrying women half their age

·        Hear from others who testify that dating is all about location, location, location!

·         Why many American men now prefer foreign women (other perspectives)

 

Personal psychological issues

·        The social status factor for me

·        Collective will/consciousness – metaphysical effect on social status

·         Having the life of a popular person

- From little fish in big pond to big fish in small pond

·         Confidence and mental/emotional maturity accelerated to positive levels overseas

·        Perpetual reverse culture shock            

- Hear from college students returning from abroad who are in reverse culture shock

·        Synergy vs. stagnation with life, people, environment

·        Default loneliness/isolation vs. perpetual connection/bond with people/environment

·        Forced loneliness vs. never having to be lonely

·         My response to those with a “victim-blaming” mentality

- Am I too negative or hateful about America?

            - The sad truth about my negativity and deep resentment

            - Am I a loser? Is this site for losers?

            - The alternative to going abroad - Why it’s futile and inferior

·        My responses to common objections to my claims

- “These women only want you for money or a green card”

- “People are friendlier overseas cause you’re a tourist and novelty to them”

- “I’ve been to America and do not agree with your observations”