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You Will Have A Better Love and Life Beyond America
society in the US says that the problem is *you*, then try changing
You may be in for a big surprise."
The "Socrates of Expatriate Living"
are a champ. Most of us, even if
we did find the holy grail would either be too selfish or more likely
embarrassed to ever come out publicly the way you have. Your generosity
spirit is truly amazing.”
– John, New Zealand
Welcome to the Happier Abroad Grand Ebook. My name is Winston Wu. Thank
your interest and for allowing me to share with you the incredible
discoveries I've made overseas.
a little about me. I am an Asian American male of Taiwanese
but unique in that I think for myself and am a
nonconformist. I am a
traveler, writer, online entrepreneur, freethinker, truth
seeker, intellectual and romantic. My passions are
writing, culture, art, acting, metaphysics, philosophy, spirituality,
beautiful women. I have many interests and curiosities that make me an
am sort of an eclectic in that I have a blend of traits more
common among the Spanish, Italian, or French - though I
am passionate, free-spirited, sensual, romantic, expressive and
I am also intellectual, educated, cultured, refined,
insightful, organized, and practical as well. Such a blend
more of a European or Latin than American or Asian, as I tend to have
common with the former than with the latter. I am an
of person who delights in reflection, introspection, truth-seeking and
search for meaning. That’s what makes me tick. Thus,
I don’t have
the typical American or Asian view that life is all about making money
being committed to a career and routine. Instead, I share the
European/Australian attitude that life is about having new experiences
adventures, exploring the world and meeting interesting
judge my life and self-worth by the richness of my experiences, rather
career status. That’s who I am. More about me can be read
in my Biography.
immigrated from Taiwan to America when I was 3 years old. Growing up in
California, I was always sort of a misfit. This affected me more the
grew up, especially in my social life and dating. Deep down I always
fit in and belong, but the more I tried, the worse it got. Something
quite right but I couldn't put a finger on it. Being the least
for a male in the US (Asian) and being short at only 5ft 7, was a huge
impediment for me in the dating arena. Plus when the 90's came,
and anti-male attitudes in women began to worsen, making things doubly
difficult for men. I could never get a decent date no matter what I
did. Yet I
was not allowed to complain about it cause we are taught to blame
not others. None of the cliched advice or seduction books worked for
me. I was
too far out of the type range of most women, who were already super
begin with. I either had to lower my standards to rock bottom, or
luck. Neither option was viable. Frustration and loneliness grew and
years. (see my story
I deserved better and I knew I did. The following quote eventually
one realizes that his life is worthless
he either commits suicide or travels.”
not wishing to end my life, I decided to travel, and that’s when
turned around for me.
I first went to Russia in 2002, I was mesmerized at how approachable,
relaxed people were, especially the young women. It was surreal and
unimaginable. Coming from America, I was used to only old people and
children being open and relaxed, not young attractive women, which in
cultures are the LEAST open and approachable. In Russia, I kept
to see if I was dreaming, but I wasn't. It was real! I had discovered
"holy grail" of dating and social life.
these links for total proof:
the problem was this "holy grail" was a huge social taboo, so taboo
in fact that you will not find it mentioned in any book or publication.
see, in any culture, you are NOT allowed to say that people are
uptight and closed. You are only allowed to either say that
people are friendly and wonderful, or blame yourself for your own
self-deficiencies. But you are NEVER allowed to blame the social
environment, no matter how justified it may be to do so.
fact, if you go to the largest public library, you will not find any
publication stating that people in any particular culture are uptight,
anti-social, closed and unapproachable, or that some cultures are more
sociable than others. Neither will you find any book in your library
the reality of this "holy grail", for to do so would violate the
social taboo mentioned above. The closest thing to it would be
sociology/cultural studies textbooks which mention that some cultures
individualistic while others are more collectivist.
truth is that in America people live a highly materialistic and
lifestyle devoid of human connection. The purpose of their life is
productivity, and life itself is reduced to a business resource. The
and media evaluates its citizens in terms of economic functions (e.g.
tax payers, consumers, etc.) rather than as human beings with spirit,
and passion. As a result, people become machines, stiff and repressed,
of romance and passion.
the case, it does seem that the more materialistic people's lifestyles
the less social they are and the less human connection there is. With
and "economic growth" comes loneliness and social disconnectedness.
But of course, the media NEVER mentions this, cause it's a total taboo.
Instead, the media always sees economic growth as a win-win situation
everybody without trade-offs. It's as if you are supposed to deny and
your need for human connection or companionship. That's really sick.
in First World European nations there is still a lot of romantic
soul in their culture and people. But somehow, this seems to be lacking
USA and the cultures of workaholic East Asia (Japan, Taiwan, Hong Kong,
etc.), which are more robotic and stiff. The regimented socializing
take place in such workaholic cultures is usually fake, artificial,
pretentious and a cliche rather than a truly flowing interactive
men in these countries have slimmer pickings, because the women tend to
approachable and more uptight, closed and anti-social. They can afford
that way because with money, they don't need men, and without passion,
have no need for connection either. Thus they can become jaded,
feminists who harbor a disdain for men (as they do in the USA). Plus,
usually too many men and not enough women because many male immigrant
come there to make money.
in lesser developed countries that are more economically challenged,
have fewer choices. There aren’t enough eligible men for all the
women, so the
females have to be sweeter and more feminine and develop better
makes such cultures a "dating paradise" for men from First World
cultures, who are treated far better, more appreciated, and have far
choices among attractive females.
growing number of men in First World nations are beginning to realize
capitalize on this "big secret" and "holy grail", but the
media still considers it a taboo subject and would never cast it in a
light. That's what makes the media sick. They want us to be dumbed down
repressed robotic work slaves who live in fear and obey whatever they
on TV, rather than become enlightened with the truth. Anything outside
media's narrow box is ridiculed or marginalized by them with trashy
non-intellectual soundbytes of a herd mentality.
During my travels, I have made
impressions on others. I’ve been on
national news in three
countries. I have written travel
that have been viewed by many. And
received hundreds of insightful
letters from those who share my views and observations, which few
courage to express publicly. Fan sites
and critic sites about me have been created as well, since I have
become sort of
an online public figure. Businessmen
have even offered to fly me abroad with them as their guide/translator.
this Happier Abroad Grand Ebook,
I will reveal the life-changing romantic, social, psychological,
economic benefits beyond America that most Americans are unaware of, to
change lives and counter the media’s highly negative
coverage of anything
abroad. I hope to inspire others who are dissatisfied in America
love, happiness, and a better life abroad, giving them options that
otherwise wouldn't know about. I will accomplish this by
presenting a mass
assortment of experiences, observations, reasons,
lessons, comparisons, photos, testimonials, quotes and
myself and many others, including other expats, foreigners,
and perpetual travelers. All of these sources are REAL life
REAL life people.
will also bring exposure to the dysfunctional anti-social culture in
that has left many lonely, isolated, alienated, insecure, depressed,
miserable, dateless, sexless, and suffering in silence, making the USA
the worst places for social life, dating and mental health. My
is an overseas path and lifestyle that has proven to work for many,
included, which has led many to dating, social and personal
hope that this information will inspire you and enlighten your
providing hope and validation as it reveals forbidden silent truths
have felt but few have dared to discuss.
in mind though, that the observations and experiences that I describe
are general rules, not absolutes. I acknowledge that there are
exceptions to any general rule.
you haven't yet, see this Checklist to see
ebook is for you. And if you found the benefits in this Comparison Chart
appealing, then this ebook is for you.
is my contention that many in America are silently thinking, “Why do people around me seem so anti-social
and dislike the company of others? Why does it often feel like there is
to do in America except make money and suffer stress? There’s
right about all this” but that they are afraid to express these
thoughts out of
fear or ridicule, wondering instead, “Is there something wrong
But deep down, many are subconsciously or instinctively dissatisfied or
disappointed with these norms in modern US society.
fact, my innermost thoughts in America have always been, “Gosh,
my life here is so isolating, lonely, depressing, uneventful,
sexless, loveless, dateless, and funless as hell. But if complain
it, people will blame me, because they prefer to deny the reality of
segregation here. So I can’t even talk about it! Yet I KNOW for a
is NOT my fault, but no one will listen! Instead, they wanna pretend
everything is great and everyone is friendly, and expect me to as well,
regardless of the reality. How can I keep pretending that everything is
and that I’m happy, when reality is the opposite? I’m sick
of wearing a fake
mask for everyone, but what can I do? What is the problem?
to work! I feel powerless but at the same time I don’t wish to
either! What can I do?!”
were my constant thoughts during my 20 years of
loneliness, datelessness and ostracization in America.
There are many out there who feel the
same way we do,
more than you might think. I know this because of all the hundreds of Fan Letters
I receive (some of which are quoted in this ebook), people I talk to in
and the folks who talk about it in my Online Community.
those who feel this way don’t know how to put these feelings into
say they can’t put a finger on what’s wrong, or are afraid
to express them due
to fear of condemnation, since our culture has a “victim-blaming
where anyone who complains or doesn’t fit in is seen as
People have been socially programmed by society that the way things are
it is supposed to be, and that everything outside the US can only be
the good news is that nothing could be further from the truth and there
alternatives. There are many areas around the world where those these
are reversed. Our media and society never talk about it. But we should
is important. So many men could be benefit if we did.
far as I
know, this is the ONLY ebook that provides an encyclopedia of
substantive reasons and comparisons WHY one will be happier
socially and romantically beyond America, and why many are going
expatriate sites are merely resources that provide practical
expats already living abroad (such as the
ones here). They
cover mostly economic concerns, jobs and politically correct topics.
nothing to CONVINCE or INSPIRE those who aren’t informed about
the benefits of
living abroad, while HappierAbroad does exactly that. In short,
deal with the HOW, while we deal with the WHY. As any sensible person
the WHY should be dealt with before the HOW. The reason they
don’t deal with
the WHY is because they have to do with taboo and politically incorrect
you aren’t supposed to talk about.
we at HappierAbroad hold TRUTH and HAPPINESS as our highest ideals, not
political correctness. We cover truths that other expat and travel
are afraid to touch. That’s what makes this ebook unique
the typical clicheish media propaganda story of an immigrant who fled
oppression and poverty in a foreign country to find freedom,
opportunity, and a
better life in America, which you’ve probably heard too many
this ebook is quite the opposite. It basically contains the
observations and comparisons I make in this ebook Happier Abroad are
my experiences abroad in the regions of America, Europe, Russia,
Asia, the hundreds of people I’ve met on my travels, the
experiences of perpetual travelers, and others who have
me over the years.
objective is to INFORM people who are dissatisfied in America, that
there IS an
alternative BEYOND America where they don’t have to put up with
isolating, workaholic, consumerist, fake artificial and sexless
of my readers summed up America perfectly with this sentence:
compilation of observations and comparisons of life in the US vs.
regards to culture, social life, dating/love life, and mental health,
reveal are far better, more wholesome and natural overseas.
and how an Asian American misfit like me fled social oppression,
cultural persecution, loneliness, boredom and a sexless sterile
existence in a
hype-driven fake consumer culture to find freedom, self-expression,
connectedness, cultural enrichment, a richer social/dating/love life, a
social status, fulfillment, stimulation, adventure, etc. in foreign
collection of essays against the hype, consumerism, and rat race
workaholic nature of American life and culture, which poisons and
soul as well as health.
compilation of comments and opinions from immigrants, foreigners,
travelers, and expatriates that are discussed privately, but which
will NEVER hear in the conventional public media.
is a country that is built for doing
business, not for living life.”
to that. And in fact, I and many others could write volumes on that
(which I already have here of course) and give so many examples to
most important discovery I’ve made during my travels is this:
North America, the social
atmosphere is much more natural and free flowing (in most places)
a breathtaking quick visual glimpse of what I’m talking about,
see this Photo Collage.
guess a secondary objective is to warn impending immigrants planning to
America that what they will face is different from the rosy picture
Hollywood and America’s propagandists paint. In reality,
who come to the US do not see it as a win-win situation where
better. Instead, they either have mixed feelings about it, or regret
Common complaints they have are feelings of isolation and stress.
examples, see these
interviews reported in Little India
magazine. There you will see that even those who work with
immigrants on a
daily basis through organizations report that most of them are unhappy
coming here or have mixed feelings about it. For many more quotes
comments from immigrants, see this page.
I acknowledge that in America, we enjoy certain freedoms, such as
speech and religion. However, it is a mental and psychological
where the mass populace are dumbed down and mind controlled. It
culture where there is little to do but work to death while living in
and isolation. Entertainment in America is often a fake
type of “fun” (e.g. Disneyland). And as mentioned
above, the terrible
social scene and mental health just don’t make it worth it for
like me, regardless of how much money you make, when there are better
alternatives out there.
my objectives resonate with you, then please help share this movement
forwarding the link to HappierAbroad.com
to others you know who could benefit from it. Or print out and
There are millions of American males living in frustration, loneliness,
quiet desperation that you could help by doing so.
was “saved abroad” once before: Foreshadowing
in my life
Just as in
literature when “foreshadowing” is used to predict an
event in the story or character’s life, real life itself often
that foreshadow our adult destinies, if we are keen enough to see them. I have noticed some in my life too. For instance, at 17, to escape a nightmarish
dysfunctional hellish environment in high school, where I could no
function or study, I went overseas at to my native country of Taiwan
whole year, where I felt accepted and whole within a supportive
environment. This served to rejuvenate
me and accelerate my mental, emotional and spiritual growth, allowing
me” to emerge from its shell which for years could not emerge due
socially persecutory and psychologically oppressive environment of high
in America. After that, I suddenly
became more communicative and expressive than ever before.
A “new me” emerged, literally, as though my
soul was “replaced”. (You can
about it here)
In spite of
this though, I was brainwashed at the time by US culture to believe
that it was
the greatest and coolest in the world, so I wanted to return to the US
again. Nevertheless, the rejuvenation
allowed me to complete high school and then years of college after that. Upon graduation and into adulthood, as I
slowly began to see the dysfunction, madness and artificial nature of
culture and society, even without the persecution of high school, I
and more alienated and psychologically fragmented.
So again, I began looking for meaning and
alternatives. Eventually that led me
abroad once again, where I made wonderful discoveries that years later
the creation of HappierAbroad and its messages.
So you see, the
year in Taiwan when I was 17 was a sort of “foreshadowing”
of my life and
destiny to come.
All my life
growing up in California I had unnatural and weird social problems that
sense. There was no logical way to solve
them, and my peers could only give highly subjective and ambiguous
as “Act more cool. Look more
cool. Get a makeover.
Walk with confidence.” Etc. which never
really worked cause they were unnatural, subjective, artificial and
get you to be something you’re not. My
parents even took me to professional psychiatrists, therapists and
counselors. But despite all their years of
training, all they would do is listen to me and offer some medication
They offered no solutions or remedies.
They were not intellectuals who could think outside the box. I was told the “party line” that
was within me, that I had to “fix” something in myself. I was the problem, not society or the
culture. That was the illusion. You can
read the story of my 20
years of loneliness and datelessness in America, in which I tried
no avail, here.
the solution to my hopeless dating and ostracization problems in
America was to
become GAY! (So to these ignorant Americans, even changing your sexual
orientation was a solution preferable to going abroad?! Not that I
anyway, as I have not the slightest attraction to guys).
Thank God they were wrong. It seems
that most Americans are so
entrenched in their belief that America is where it all happens that
beyond the USA Matrix never occurs to them.
NONE of them
ever told me that my weird social problems could be solved by GOING
ABROAD! Such solutions were outside
their universe and paradigm.
In the final
analysis, GOING ABROAD was what saved me, transformed me, and changed
not the BS advice I received from peers and psychiatrists in the States. Bottom line is that overseas, I FEEL GOOD
about myself, and that’s the most important thing.
felt accepted by American culture, never fit
in, and never felt comfortable in its social or dating environment at
all. Hence I was always seeking an
which I found at first in New Age groups; they satisfied me
spiritually, but not socially, culturally, romantically or sexually of
course. I had an insatiable appetite for
adventure, freedom and romance that a spiritual life or even therapy in
could not fulfill. Thus, I needed a
bigger change, and that answer finally came about from going ABROAD. It was only then that I found the fulfillment
and joy that I’ve always wanted but couldn’t get in America. It was only then that my dreams and
fantasies, which weren’t possible in America, came true. This
why and how, as well as the observations, insights and comparisons I
can’t look to the US media for truth about a better life abroad
the years I’ve been working on this site
and ebook, people often write to me, “Wow
I agree with everything you wrote. The
thing is, I thought I was the only one
who felt that way. I didn’t know
else did too!” (examples here)
if their feelings are suddenly validated by the revelations in my
writings. Now that’s great, but we
wonder how so many could feel this way but not know that anyone else
too. The reasons are, I think:
1) Most people who feel
dissatisfied or out
of place in America tend to blame themselves, for our culture
that the misfit or complainer is “the problem”, and not the
culture or country.
(but upon reading this ebook many say they realize they were not the
after all, American culture was)
2) The US media NEVER covers or
any of the things I write on this site/ebook for it’s not in
their interest to,
for their job, according to insiders and media critics, is to dumb down
population and make them live in fear and paranoia, so they will
3) Most people who feel this way
afraid to express it out of fear of condemnation, of being seen as a
told that there’s something wrong with them.
After all, people don’t like exposing their weaknesses,
being seen as
misfits or weird outcasts.
4) Many who feel this way simply
ability to express it or can’t find the words to do so, since
after all, we are
not socially conditioned in American society to think or say such
if we feel them.
reality, there are many real life stories and
experiences such as mine, but our corporate-controlled, feminist media
interested in them. They only see within
the parameters of its rat race/workaholic mentality and hype-driven
culture. The US media doesn’t teach us to think at all, but
what to think. From its tone and
opinions that come at you, the US media assumes that everyone in its
is a narrow conformist like themselves are.
addition, our media tries to indoctrinate you into
believing that our nation is the center of the world where everyone
come, and the most ideal, containing ALL the parameters of your life
(And that’s funny since the US is only 5 percent of the world;
What a narrow
minded media) America is portrayed as
the “universe” where all can come to have freedom,
opportunity, and a better
life. There is no other alternative in
our media’s eyes. Everything outside
America is portrayed as inferior, miserable, poor, oppressed, and
dangerous. There’s also the
that anything not possible in America is not possible anywhere.
book will show point-by-point that the US media’s stereotype
is wrong and
inaccurate. In fact, the US media
doesn’t teach you anything about the outside world beyond America. It only shows you disasters and dumb things
about celebrity lives, telling you nothing of the positive benefits
overseas. Therefore they are a bad source of information for those wishing
abroad or seeking happiness overseas.
After all, the media is not in the business of selling tourism.
Every year over 300,000
the country to move overseas, and more than a million go for lengthy
according to a new book Getting
Out: Your Guide to Leaving America But
the US government and
media never look into it to find out WHY expatriates relocate abroad. Instead, they act as though this increasing
phenomenon doesn’t exist. They prefer to portray going abroad in a
light, covering sad stories of people going abroad to meet tragic
fates. So I’ve decided to take
it into my hands to be the one to
explain the reasons to the country and to the world, using my own
life as an example.
life-changing TRUTHS and SECRETS unknown to most Americans presented
NEVER be covered by the US news media, nor even acknowledged to exist
it is up to ALL OF US to share these life-changing secrets with others.
in mind that this ebook is not for the politically correct, as they may
offended or repulsed by these observations and comparisons, but for
truth-seekers and those who are willing to think “outside the
box” and seek a
Please keep in mind that the
observations expressed here are only general rules, not absolutes. I acknowledge that exceptions exist for every
general rule, and that readers can always cite exceptions to any
with examples of their own. Thus,
absolutes are not claimed here, only patterns and tendencies.
should also clarify that though this ebook may sound
“anti-American”, it is not
intended to be. It is simply about the truth, which is that for me
many others, America has one of the worst cultures for social life,
mental health, family harmony, etc. and that there are better
other cultures. In fact, the overseas solution has proven to be the
that has proven consistently to work for the average decent guy.
This book began when I started
writing it as an
article for a local newspaper back in 2003 which promised to publish it
then changed its mind (no surprise). Back then, it was only 20
Since then, I've revised and expanded it many times over the years,
observations, insights, comparisons and quotes from readers and forum
the point where its size has now reached book-length. Therefore, you
that the many chapters in it are repetitive or seem out of order. This
because the chapters were not written in order, but added in different
as they were written. I apologize if any of that becomes annoying.
This is not a guidebook telling you what
to do. In fact, no one can rightly tell
you what to
do with your life. There is no magic
formula or single path that is right for everyone. Everyone has their
destiny and karma that is gradually discovered through progressive
only needs the courage, vision and inspiration to “go for
it” and find their
true path and calling. Thus no one person, no matter how brilliant or
experienced, really knows what is “right” for another. To
presume that they do
would be foolish. However, there is nothing wrong with simply sharing
observations, experiences and discoveries for others to consider and
One thing I’ve learned is that as
you travel abroad,
you begin to realize that your view of your country from outside of it
different than from inside of it. In a country, you tend to think
its insular environment and vibe. But outside of it, you are able
it from a more detached viewpoint. As with anything, you tend to
something much more clearly when you're out of it than when you are in
fact, many Americans have reported that after spending extensive time
that they find American culture to be a lot more fake and superficial
comparison now than before. Therefore, keep in mind that your
change from now as you travel internationally more.
So thank you for your time and interest.
I hope this ebook will help
expand your mind, culture and life.
Should you wish to discuss any of the
contents of this ebook with
others, you may do so in my Online
Community at http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/index.php
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contributions: If you have an
idea, observation or chapter
that you feel would make a good contribution to this ebook, you can
send it to
me at WWu777us@yahoo.com.
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