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HAPPIER
ABROAD Why
Dating, Social Life and Mental Health are Better Beyond
Why PUA doesn't work but Global Dating does
First off, I've NEVER known
a person whose dating life was turned around by PUA (Pick up artist industry)
techniques and could prove it. Not
one. The successes exist only in the
fake testimonials and scripts of PUA gurus like David DeAngelo, Ross Jefferies,
Mystery, etc.
PUA shares a lot of
features of multi level marketing (MLM) in that it's a lot of hype around a
guru or "system" with big promises, yet the majority of followers
don't get the results promised. So they
are told to practice further or to blame themselves, because the system
"works" and is perfect. It's
like a religious belief. So any failure
of the system is attributed to the followers of the system, who are told to
blame themselves, rather than the system itself.
It's all a con game
based on false premises and flaws designed to profit those who start the system
or program.
PUA offers a hyped
"system" with big promises that doesn't really deliver, giving its
followers something to believe in, and taking advantage of them.
It promises a formula
of techniques that will "create" attraction. Yet in reality
attraction doesn't work that way. Being
cocky and funny (David DeAngelo's approach), for example, may get some airhead
girls to laugh at you, but it's not going to create attraction from a girl who
isn't attracted to you. Get real.
They claim to help you
acquire social skills, which are either defined as manipulation/persuasion
techniques or tact/diplomacy skills to help you get along with others. Such may help you to get along with others,
such as coworkers, the cashier at the grocery story, and help you stay on other
people's good side. But again, it's not
going to create attraction where there is none.
For PUA techniques to
work, the girl has to ALREADY be attracted to you. There has to be a pre-existing
attraction for it to spice up, in which case you don't even need PUA. But it's
not going to create attraction out of nothing.
Anyone who claims it does is either lying, BSing, conning you, or in
denial and probably has little or no experience with real human relationships.
In reality, humans and
their behavior do not fit into "formulas". Any attempt to fit them into such usually
fails and lacks understanding of the complexities and unpredictability of human
nature. Anyone with real experience in
relationships knows this.
Real social skills have
nothing to do with formulas, but are about being attuned and aware of subtle
messages and body language from others and having the sense and insight to act
accordingly, with tact and diplomacy.
Everyone is different and require different types of
communication/social skills to deal with.
The social skills you need to get along with others in American
settings, for instance are very different in
There are social skills
that will help you get along and work harmoniously with others (as long as they
are not like oil and water to you). But there are no "social skills"
that will make you attractive to the majority of women you meet who don't find
you attractive. No way. Only in PUA material does such exist, not in
real life. It's a totally delusional
system, made evident by the lack of results.
None of the PUA gurus
have any real proof that their "system" works reliably for the
majority of people, even if it really does work for them personally. Instead, they expect you to take all their
big claims on faith, and many are gullible enough to do just that, cause many
disgruntled men who follow them need something to believe in that gives them
hope and gives them the illusion that they are in control.
Now, the logical
defining criteria for a system to be considered to WORK is that it has to work
for the average person CONSISTENTLY, not just for a small few or rarely. Both PUA and MLM fail in that criteria, as
any serious independent investigation reveals. The majority of those involved
in them do NOT consistently succeed or profit. Asking PUA disciples to show you
actual results is like asking Amway distributors to show you their tax returns.
It exposes their charade and so they quickly find excuses not to comply.
Yet they still maintain
the deception that their "system works". Now let me ask you, if I designed a computer
program for a company that worked less than 5 percent of the time, would the
company consider that program to "work" and be satisfied with
it? HELL NO! They would never keep such a program! So why should you? To claim that something that only gets
results a small percentage of the time, "works" is very deceptive and
inaccurate. It's time to stop the bull, hype and brainwashing. I know we all
need something to believe in, but for crying out loud, at least believe in
something REAL that works consistently for the average decent person.
On the other hand, Global
dating fulfills this criteria, for you will find that expat males who have
plenty of experience living or dating abroad are pretty much unanimous in their
opinion that dating foreign women is a much BETTER experience than back home,
regardless of whether they are in long term relationships or short term flings
only.
But even if PUA did
work, it would only attract low quality females and dumb airheads. Do you really think high quality intelligent
women are going to fall for you just because you're "cocky and funny"
and you tease her and bust her balls and call her a "brat"? If so, then I have a bridge to sell you. Only the biggest fool in the world with no
real understanding of human relationships or women would fall for that.
PUA is an artificial industry
that produces hope for profit, but not real results or happiness or love, for
it doesn't understand the first thing about human nature and attraction.
They've treated
courtship as a whole "scientific field of study", which is
ridiculous. This should tell you a lot right there. Why would such a natural
thing like male/female courtship need to be reduced to a "technique"
or "science" as though it were a difficult subject that needed to be
"mastered"?!
In other countries,
it's just like you see in the movies - boy meets girl, they flirt, hold hands,
say "I like you" to each other, then kiss and so forth. It's
completely natural and effortless. (I've
experienced this firsthand many times)
The students of this
industry even have to "master an art" (e.g. advanced conversation
techniques) just to hold conversations with women, which ought to be the most
natural thing in the world!
Now the thing is, this
type of industry is unheard of in other countries. I challenge you to find
another country where men pay "seduction or pick up artist gurus" to
teach them how to meet women. You can't, cause in other countries, the process
is natural and flows normally, not F ed up like in the
And suffice to say, I
have yet to meet a single person who could demonstrate and prove that these
PUA/seduction techniques turned his love/dating life around 180.
Needless to say, PUA is
not natural. It doesn't even allow you
to be yourself. So even if it worked,
why follow something that requires you to be something that you are not, which
is hardly even possible anyway? Trying
to be something that you're not all day eventually leads to psychological
imbalance and mental dysfunction. Not a
good thing. Click here to read a former PUA member reveal the truth about the movement.
On the other hand,
Global Dating is natural and is proven to work consistently, not just for a
few, but for the average decent male with no major personality defects. Best of all, it allows you to get what YOU
want while being yourself at the same time!
It's not a technique, but a matter of geography, a global path of going
where you are wanted and where you will get the women you want. You simply need to be willing to think and
live "outside the box" and defy the false programming given to
you. It's very easy and natural. I know all this for a certainty cause I've
lived it and so have many I've met and known.
This is the real thing that changes lives and transforms them. No hype, bull, religious cult systems, gurus
or false promises. This makes dreams come true and I am living proof of
it. Let me show it to you all, for free!
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