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UPDATE, March 2007:  Why I like Filipinas the best - as lovers, playmates, and best friends

 

There is good news now.  As I'm writing this from the Philippines, I am happy to say that I am now a perpetual happy and positive optimist.  How did I do it, you might ask?

 

Well it's simple, but it wasn't by changing "myself" (for I wasn't the problem).  And it wasn't by changing my attitude, thoughts or going through some self-help/pop psychology/New Age program or seminar.  In fact, I didn't even have to change myself or who I was.  I just remained the same person.  Instead, it was simply by changing my geographic LOCATION, environment and culture, entering another world so to speak.  Let me explain.

 

In the US, no one talks to me except old people, I can't get any dates at all, women are completely anti-social to me, strangers act like I don't exist, and I am totally ignored and feel like I don't exist.  Unfortunately, women in America generally don’t like to meet new people.  They don’t even talk to you unless you are in their clique or they grew up with you, or it’s business-related.  And that’s unacceptable to me.  But everything I do to try to change all that seems futile, as if trying to change any of it goes completely against the flow and against the grain, inappropriate and out-of-bounds!  Ick!  It's a no-win situation, or a serious incompatibility at least.

 

So, with everything that I am suppressed, strangled, and invalidated, how could I possibly be happy or positive, when I can't be who I truly am or act out my nature of being an outgoing fun vibrant social butterfly?  It's simply not possible, nor is it natural.

 

But on the other hand, here in the Philippines, I can be who I truly am, and when I do so, it gets very POSITIVE results!  The social environment here completely allows, encourages, and adds fuel to my very social outgoing nature, especially with women!  Here, I NEVER have to be alone if I don't want to.  I ALWAYS have many hot women to choose from, of all types - dark skin (chocolate), light skin (vanilla), medium olive color, cute, sexy, tall or short, etc. (If you think my ice cream comparisons are bad or cheesy, get this - when a dark skinned and light skinned Filipina are together, they like to refer to themselves as "coffee and cream") Often I have so many contenders that I don't have time for them all and have to cancel a lot of plans! 

 

Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am!  I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here!  And that's HUGE!  It means more than words can say.  Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise!  Literally.  No exaggerating here. 

 

Thus, I am finally allowed to be the social butterfly that I am, as well as positive, confident, optimistic and happy.  How can I not be, when all my fantasies and desires and wants/needs are being fulfilled here, naturally and with the flow too!?  Simply put, who I am is ACCENTUATED here, rather than invalidated or suppressed.

 

Some people here even say that I'm the most positive and confident person they've ever met.  (If only they knew where I was coming from!)  The difference is astounding.  It's like a completely different universe where I'm a completely different person.  The magnitude of my dating life here is literally "out of this world" (out of the world of America that is).

 

Critics and prejudiced Americans will commonly charge that the women here, as well as in most foreign countries, like me for money and a green card to the US.  However, they are wrong because: (please read these ten bulleted points carefully)

 

1)    Many girls here don't care about my money and STILL like/love me even after they see that I'm a cheapskate and very frugal.  They don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just like "being with me" and enjoy my funny, sweet, sappy, positive, enthusiastic personality.

2)    This is probably the biggest reason, and my cultural consultant, a long time visitor to the Philippines who speaks two Filipino dialects, attests to it too.  Most of the Filipinas I’ve met or dated here prefer that their boyfriend or husband stay with them in THEIR country.  After all, family is everything to them, and so they prefer to remain close to their immediate and extended family.  But if their lover insists, they will try to go overseas.  That right there DEBUNKS this common misconception.  Besides, it is an American myth that most people in other countries want to come to the US.  The well traveled know that is not so.

3)    I’ve slept with both bar girls and normal girls for FREE, simply cause they liked me and found me sweet, romantic, tender and charming!  They never asked me for any money!  Imagine that.  That could never happen to me in the States.  That proves right there that they aren’t after me only for money, but that I am very sweet, likable and charming to them.  And I’ve gotten free kisses here from many girls too, including French kisses from bar girls and dancers that I never paid or bought commissioned ladydrinks for (and NO, they don’t do that to every guy!).

4)    A few girls here (but not most) have told me that I’m not their type, for they like white guys or bigger masculine guys.  And conversely, I’ve seen some reject white guys in favor of me, because I’m more of the type they like and go for.  Now, if it were all about “money and a green card”, then “type” wouldn’t matter now would it?  But it does, because relationships and romantic chemistry are personal and subject to taste and chemistry.

5)    Filipinas have shown favoritism toward me over other older richer guys or customers.  (I can't get into details about how since it wouldn't be appropriate to describe here :))  This also proves that they don't like me just for money, since I am treated better, given favoritism and preferentail treatment over other guys who have more money than me, due to my higher likeability.  Some bar girls have reached down from the stage to give me a kiss on the mouth, which they don't do for most customers.  I have a fun loving free-spirited personality that a lot of Filipinas resonate with, as well as a sweet romantic side, and a face they find young and handsome (gwapo).  Those are the reasons why I am liked so much here that even bar girls let me hang out in their bar without paying or buying any drinks.  I’m likable and entertaining to them.   

6)    I've been able to get acquainted and befriend middle class girls here who have enough money themselves not to need a guy (which I can't do in the states).  Sure, the middle or upper class girls aren't easy to "pick up" in public, but they find me interesting and likable too, once they get to know me.  And they are willing to spend personal time with me, unlike girls in the US who always make excuses and say they are busy.

7)    There are some guys here with looks and money who don’t do well at all with Filipinas.  I know one good looking American guy here with a good income from an international job, and my cultural consultant knows a good looking young French guy here with a successful art business.  Yet believe it or not, both of them can’t get a girlfriend in the Philippines!  They have had nothing but bad luck and bad experiences with the women here.  It’s obviously not their looks or status.  But rather, something in their vibe and personality just doesn’t jive well with the girls here.  Some people’s chemistry just doesn’t mix well with certain countries, just like mine doesn’t mix well in American culture and its fake politeness social culture.  Sometimes, things just don’t click, not just between individuals, but between individuals and countries as well.  Thus, it’s not all about money and status, like some think.  Yet here in the Philippines, my personality seems to jive extremely well with Filipinas as a whole, regardless of whether I’m their physical type or not.  And that’s why almost all Filipinas, even those who aren’t into me romantically or are already taken, ENJOY hanging out with me.

8)    There are men I know here who have a lot of money and a high class professional occupation.  Yet the girls who go out with them look unhappy around them, and don’t stay with them for long.  Though they will accept their money and presents, they still leave them after a while because they simply don’t like them and don’t enjoy being with them.  Now, if it were all about money, this wouldn’t happen.  I’ve seen this happen to doctors, oil company professionals and business owners.  As a result, these wealthy men who splurge to impress women, become jaded and cynical, unlike the happy optimistic me who even though poor, wins over women here with charm, looks, sweetness, and confidence.  You’ve got to remember that these girls, though mostly poor, are HUMAN BEINGS who, like you, prefer to be with those they LIKE and CLICK with, not just anyone with money and a US passport.

9)    From my experience with gold diggers and users in Russia and the Philippines, I’ve come to recognize their common patterns, such as the way they manipulate and tell lies, the way they tell you what you want to hear yet their actions contradict their words, and their tendency to ask for money within the first week of knowing you.  And what I can tell you is that MOST of the girls who like me here do NOT exhibit these traits.  However, oddly enough, there are some women (and men) who genuinely believe that giving money is a demonstration and sign of true love.  These folks see no shame in “buying love” and are proud to utter the phrase “no money, no honey”.  Such women will even ask for money from a man she truly loves, seeing nothing wrong with it.  But of course, I do not share their values.  An effective way I’ve found, to weed these types out is to simply tell them that you are poor and on a tight budget, and act like it.  If they disappear after that, then you know what they were probably after.  If not, then you’ve got a more genuine girl.  Needless to say, if you want to impress somebody, you don’t have to take them to a fancy restaurant everyday; rather, mix it up with several days of going to fast food or cooking at home.  A nice sweet Filipina will appreciate that.

10) A high percentage of Filipinas I get involved with tend to like to bite me and pinch me.  I was told that they only do that to you if they LIKE you.  Certainly if they only wanted to use me, they wouldn’t be biting and pinching me.  They only do that to those they like or find adorable, cute, or cuddly.

 

Some guys see everything in terms of money and economics.  Well I’m not one of those guys of course, for I consider many other deeper factors.  Not every guy with money can duplicate everything I’ve done.  Looks, personality, and attitude are strong factors too, among others, and in this culture, I rank high in those areas to them, which is why I often get preferential and special treatment from girls here over richer guys who are more shallow and not as personable or likable.  Let me give you a little pep talk though.  In reality, human beings are very complex, and don’t fit into overly simplistic pet theories like “She just wants you for money”.  People often don’t make sense and don’t even understand themselves even.  So these one shot labels and formulas put together by shallow know-it-all people to try to explain other people just don’t hold in reality.  None of the girls here would claim that they like a guy ONLY for money or a green card, and frankly, NONE of them have ever asked me to take them to the US either!  (Likewise, no one considers themself “bad”, “evil” or “crazy” either, as we all consider ourselves justified in what we do)  These are merely labels we put on others to explain them in OUR MINDS.  And in this case, the “they just like you for money and green card” theory comes from the mouths of judgmental people who like to jump to conclusions, and maybe are “all about money” themselves.  But they can only speak for themselves, not for others.  

 

If you think though, that all my experiences here are with money grubbing whores, think again.  Make no mistake, I can and have gotten NON-WORKING girls to sleep with me on a regular basis.  So, please don’t assume all my experiences are with whores.  Unlike in Russia, after our dates, they often prefer to go home WITH me rather than without me. 

 

Sure, there are old fat white drunkards with money here who are also sleeping with “hot girls” too.  However, there are two primary differences between them and me – 1) They usually have to pay girls to be with them and/or send financial support to their families, 2) Their dating field is usually limited to the bar girls or whores, and they cannot get dates with normal Filipinas or pick up girls in normal public settings, whereas I can easily get dates in non-bar settings.

 

Anyway, some of the relationships I have here even eclipse the romances portrayed in Hollywood films, to the point where when I watch them, I say to myself, "I have a lot better than that in real life!"  And that's something I could NEVER EVER have said in the USA!  In fact, I don’t even watch TV here (like the millions of couch potatoes in America, of which I used to be one of) because I have no need to, as my REAL LIFE is more exciting to me than what’s on the tube!

 

Believe it or not, some girls here have even said that I’m TOO HANDSOME for them!  And that because of that, they don’t trust me!  In their view, they explain, handsome men have many girls and don’t stick to one, and thus can’t be trusted.  Thus, they prefer average looking men who are more likely to be anonymous, as they don’t like the drama of being in love with a guy who has many girls.  Imagine that!  No one in the US would ever say or think that about me!  Amazing beyond belief!  That’s why I say that the Philippines is total salvation for a guy’s ego!

 

The most significant difference for me is this:  When I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the US, they think I'm a creep, and react with hatred and/or antisociality.  But when I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the Philippines (and in most other countries), their response is overwhelmingly positive, and react with enthusiasm and/or attraction.  That's a whole world of difference. As an incredible example, when I go to the local mall here in the Philippines, about 90 percent of the girls will give me their number if I ask for it, even if they are really hot and the kind that you would say “ouch!” and consider out of your league!  90 percent!  But in the states, that percentage is…….. yep you guessed it, zero!  What a universe of difference!  In fact, most of the time, they enjoy being "picked up" and "hit on", finding me charming and attractive. And my sweet talk and compliments make them feel good about themselves, so they like being with me.

 

Likewise, the biggest difference between my life in the Philippines and the US is this:  When I am dateless in the US, all I can do about it is masturbate, watch TV to escape loneliness, and eat potato chips/junk food.  And if I can find people to hang out with, it’s usually only guys.  But in the Philippines, I’m NEVER dateless or lonely.  I have so many hot girls gunning for me and contacting me that I don’t have time for them all and have to cancel on them or postpone them!  My only disappointment is not having enough time and not having enough of me to go around for all the hot chicks available here! (especially when each one wants me to be “the only one”!)  Thus I am constantly desired and in demand by a neverending supply of hot chicks!  Now, again that’s a whole UNIVERSE of difference, beyond belief, yet TRUE!

 

In short, here I LIVE the kind of love life I’ve always DREAMED of!

 

In my opinion, Filipinas make the best girlfriends, lovers, and friends.  Compared to females in the other Asian countries, they aren't as strict, serious, prudish or hung up.  Instead, they are more relaxed, carefree, happy-go-lucky, easygoing, playful, passionate and sensual.  They are also very nonjudgmental and nonracist.  And they have a great sense of humor, enjoying the silliest things which easily amuse them.  Thus, you can always have fun and joke around or play with them, even if you have nothing else to talk about.  That's so nice and refreshing, especially when you are so accustomed to antisociality and hostility from women in the US. 

 

Best of all, they LOVE to flirt.  When I flirt with girls in the Philippines, they not only enjoy it, but it actually ADDS FUEL to our chemistry (whereas in the US, flirting with girls "creeped" them out and emanated a vibe of hostility from them).  And that's a big thing to me, because I am a big-time flirt!

 

Filipinas are also a great blend of outer and inner traits.  Ethnically, they are Asian, Malay and Spanish, resulting in a very exotic and beautiful mix that is very pleasing and sensual to the eyes.  Their exotic sexy sensual olive complexion ranges from light to dark shades, all of which are sexy to me and many other foreigners here.  And their attractive highly feminine appearance is combined with a tender romantic loving/caring inner side to them – a fantastic blend to say the least. 

 

The way they treat you and touch you is just so sensual and fulfilling.  They have this warm tender touch that white women definitely don’t have (not to sound racist).  I’ve experienced it and can understand now why so many foreign men are addicted to the Philippines and to Filipinas.  I think it’s a genetic thing, not just a cultural thing, as you can feel it to the bone (and soul).  Not to sound racist, but just as brown sugar is healthier than white sugar, and brown rice is healthier than white rice, (as any nutritionist will tell you) perhaps brown skinned women are healthier for your mind, body, and sanity as well.  They seem to bring this natural balance to your life and soul. 

 

Thus, I’d say that even if you didn’t have a taste for Filipinas or Asian women before, if you come to the Philippines, you soon will.  Once you’re here and experience females of this caliber, any preferences you had will simply go “out the window.”

 

Not only are most Filipinas either hot or cute, and passionate and tender in bed, but their personality is so soothing, gentle, easy-going and accommodating that they are like my best friends too.  They are just so comfortable to be around, in a way that you could never imagine possible in the West.

 

They are also a great blend of White and Asian traits.  Their Spanish blood makes them much more wild, relaxed, passionate and expressive than Orientals such as the Chinese, Japanese, or Koreans, who are non-expressive, robotic and overly serious and strict in comparison.  And they have big round eyes that are considered attractive in Western Culture (although to my surprise, my slanted Asian eyes are considered more attractive in Filipino culture than their big round eyes are).  They have all the physical beauty of thin feminine Asian women in light and dark colors (“vanilla and chocolate” so to speak), as well as their humble, modest, sweet, pleasing, soothing romantic nature.  The only drawbacks to them are that they don’t like to think much, don’t like to answer questions or provide explanations when asked to do so, and are sometimes moody and quiet for unexplainable reasons that they refuse to discuss.  It seems in their nature to be that way.  Thus you don’t get much intellectual stimulation with them.  But the good news is that it’s much easier to train and educate them than it is to teach a Westernized woman to be sweeter and more loving. 

 

Although Filipinas aren't as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they make up for it in their other qualities.  They have this essence about them, warm sensual tenderness and a way of treating you that makes you feel needed and loved, like a real man, in a way that you had always wished and dreamed deep down but never dared hoped for.  It's beyond words - something you have to feel and experience as a man to understand.  And when you do, you realize it's what you had always wanted.and even friends.  They are tender, sweet, passionate and fun. 

 

In a way, it's like they give new birth to your heart, for if your heart had lost faith in love, they awaken it and renew it with their child-like hope and belief in love, making it a reality for you, and making you a believer again as well.

 

The bottom line for me is that here in the Philippines, I feel APPRECIATED, VALUED, DESIRED, WANTED, LIKED, LOVED, NEEDED, etc. (I have cute girls following me around as if they’re hypnotized!) whereas in North America I constantly felt ALIENATED, ALONE, IGNORED, UNDESIRED, UNWANTED, NONEXISTENT, and worst of all POWERLESS to do anything about it.  In short, all my WANTS, NEEDS, DESIRES, and FANTASIES are fulfilled here.

 

Basically, it’s like this:  Here, there is ALWAYS ACTION to be had, so I am never bored.  I can always go out, have fun, get hot girls, and any type of action I want or need, ANYTIME!  Contrast that to back in the states, where I was forced to stay home all the time, as no one wanted to meet me if I went out, so there was no point.  There was nothing to do, no action to be had, no one to meet, no fun to be had, etc.  It was complete boredom and suffocation, as well as loneliness and isolation. (Yuck!)  But now that I can get action anytime I want here, or have fun whenever I want, there’s a reason for me to go out everyday!  Wow.  I NEVER have to stay home and be bored if I don’t want to here!  In fact, there’s always something going on here that is fun and wild that I can PARTICIPATE in interactively (I won’t give you specifics, but leave it up to your imagination), not just sit back and watch passively, more than there is time for!  Best of all, there are ALWAYS tons of hot/sexy/cute/gorgeous girls who constantly want to meet me, be with me, have fun with me, get wild with me, and whatever escalates between us, MORE than I can handle!  It’s literally a “sex babe Disneyland”!

 

Here, I get the best of both worlds.  On the one hand, it’s one of the easiest places in the world to get sex, if not the easiest.  And on the other, there are many commitment-oriented romantic old-fashioned goody Catholic girls as well to choose from.  So I can get easy sex, or romance/steady relationship, for the sappy sentimental side of me, as well!  I can choose from either, the best of both worlds!  Thus, a person can satisfy both his lust for casual sex and need for steady relationship/romance! (though society considers both desires to be mutually exclusive, I don’t)

 

Anyhow, I gotta tell you though, when you can go out and get hot girls, dates and action ANYTIME you want, and you have hot cuties gunning for you daily, it’s an INCREDIBLE FEELING.  Nothing beats it!  It feels as though you’ve transcended the barriers and physical laws of the universe!  And it makes any sacrifices you make to be here definitely WORTH IT.

 

Here in the Philippines, I experience TRUE FREEDOM – freedom from datelessness and desperation, and freedom to have sex with a hot woman ANY time I want!  That is something that America never provided me, giving me only stupid excuses instead.  As expats in Thailand say, "Americans talk about it but don't do it, Thais do it but don't talk about it."

 

Anyone who saw my life here and my life in America would think that I was in two different universes.  I’m serious.  And anybody who witnessed the difference in person would never blame me for saying all these things either.  That I can GUARANTEE.  I have literally thousands of photos now, from Russia, Europe, and Asia to prove it all – how different my social/love life really is here vs. back in America.

 

To see visual proof of what I’m talking about, see my new photo collage from the Philippines:  www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage2.htm  And this photo of me and girls says it all too:  http://www.happierabroad.com/P5060062.jpg (gee do I look happy there or what? Lol)

 

So, contrary to what New Agers and attitude fanatics (the "you create your own reality" crowd) think, I didn't become a happy optimist by changing my attitude, thoughts or beliefs, but by exercising my power of choice and braving it out against the fear of the unknown, by going to another location on the other side of the globe.

 

For another awe inspiring story of Salvation in the Philippines, see my cultural consultant’s account at:  www.happierabroad.com/Love_Adventure_Philippines.htm

 

Here are some videos on YouTube that show you the wonderful world of Filipinas here!

 

This video that shows you the variety of women in Philippines!  As you can see, they come in so many colors and types to choose from!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls4zODEbE6A

 

Here is an incredible pictorial presentation of Filipina beach babes.  They are proof of a man's paradise!  (If this doesn't make you jump on a plane to the Philippines now, nothing will!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfEhvdcOeUo


And get this. All those girls are realistically attainable types, as long as you are nice and sweet and no an a**hole.  

 

Next, these Filipina media stars guaranteed to make you drool!  Warning! Once you look, there may be no going back! hehehe

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0CaOWGt6o4


And imagine this, these girls have this warm inclusive touch and vibe that just fulfill you so much that you want to forget all other women!

 

Here are video stills of typical expats and their Filipina wives/gf's.  They are representative of what I see of typical expats and their Filipina wives/girlfriends.  They all look like nice people and the Filipinas on them are very cute and attractive, to me at least.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5X0JQobPPY

 




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