HAPPIER
ABROAD Why You Can Have A Better Life and Love Beyond
UPDATE, March
2007: Why I like Filipinas the best - as lovers, playmates, and best friends
There
is good news now. As I'm writing this
from the
Well it's simple, but it wasn't by changing "myself" (for I wasn't the problem). And it wasn't by changing my attitude, thoughts or going through some self-help/pop psychology/New Age program or seminar. In fact, I didn't even have to change myself or who I was. I just remained the same person. Instead, it was simply by changing my geographic LOCATION, environment and culture, entering another world so to speak. Let me explain.
In the US, no one talks to me except old people, I can't
get any dates at all, women are completely anti-social to me, strangers act
like I don't exist, and I am totally ignored and feel like I don't exist. Unfortunately, women in
So, with everything that I am suppressed, strangled, and invalidated, how could I possibly be happy or positive, when I can't be who I truly am or act out my nature of being an outgoing fun vibrant social butterfly? It's simply not possible, nor is it natural.
But
on the other hand, here in the
Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am! I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here! And that's HUGE! It means more than words can say. Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise! Literally. No exaggerating here.
Thus, I am finally allowed to be the social butterfly that I am, as well as positive, confident, optimistic and happy. How can I not be, when all my fantasies and desires and wants/needs are being fulfilled here, naturally and with the flow too!? Simply put, who I am is ACCENTUATED here, rather than invalidated or suppressed.
Some people here even say that I'm the most positive and
confident person they've ever met. (If only
they knew where I was coming from!) The
difference is astounding. It's like a
completely different universe where I'm a completely different person. The magnitude of my dating life here is
literally "out of this world" (out of the world of
Critics and prejudiced Americans will commonly charge
that the women here, as well as in most foreign countries, like me for money
and a green card to the
1) Many girls here don't care about my
money and STILL like/love me even after they see that I'm a cheapskate and very
frugal. They don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just
like "being with me" and enjoy my funny, sweet, sappy, positive,
enthusiastic personality.
2) This is probably the biggest
reason, and my cultural consultant, a long time visitor to the
3) I’ve slept with both bar
girls and normal girls for FREE, simply cause they liked me and found me sweet,
romantic, tender and charming! They never asked me for any money!
Imagine that. That could never happen to me in the States. That
proves right there that they aren’t after me only for money, but that I am very
sweet, likable and charming to them. And I’ve gotten free kisses
here from many girls too, including French kisses from bar girls and
dancers that I never paid or bought commissioned ladydrinks for (and NO, they
don’t do that to every guy!).
4) A few girls here (but not most) have
told me that I’m not their type, for they like white guys or bigger masculine
guys. And conversely, I’ve seen some
reject white guys in favor of me, because I’m more of the type they like and go
for. Now, if it were all about “money
and a green card”, then “type” wouldn’t matter now would it? But it does, because relationships and
romantic chemistry are personal and subject to taste and chemistry.
5) Filipinas have shown favoritism toward
me over other older richer guys or customers. (I can't get into
details about how since it wouldn't be appropriate to describe here :))
This also proves that they don't like me just for money, since I am
treated better, given favoritism and preferentail treatment over other guys who
have more money than me, due to my higher likeability. Some bar girls
have reached down from the stage to give me a kiss on the mouth, which they
don't do for most customers. I have a fun loving free-spirited
personality that a lot of Filipinas resonate with, as well as a sweet romantic
side, and a face they find young and handsome (gwapo). Those are the
reasons why I am liked so much here that even bar girls let me hang out in
their bar without paying or buying any drinks. I’m likable and
entertaining to them.
6) I've been able to get acquainted and
befriend middle class girls here who have enough money themselves not to need a
guy (which I can't do in the states). Sure, the middle or upper class
girls aren't easy to "pick up" in public, but they find me
interesting and likable too, once they get to know me. And they are
willing to spend personal time with me, unlike girls in the
7) There are some guys here with looks and
money who don’t do well at all with Filipinas.
I know one good looking American guy here with a good income from an
international job, and my cultural consultant knows a good looking young French
guy here with a successful art business.
Yet believe it or not, both of them can’t get a girlfriend in the
8) There are men I know here who have a lot
of money and a high class professional occupation. Yet the girls who go out with them look
unhappy around them, and don’t stay with them for long. Though they will accept their money and
presents, they still leave them after a while because they simply don’t like
them and don’t enjoy being with them.
Now, if it were all about money, this wouldn’t happen. I’ve seen this happen to doctors, oil company
professionals and business owners. As a
result, these wealthy men who splurge to impress women, become jaded and
cynical, unlike the happy optimistic me who even though poor, wins over women
here with charm, looks, sweetness, and confidence. You’ve got to remember that these girls,
though mostly poor, are HUMAN BEINGS who, like you, prefer to be with those
they LIKE and CLICK with, not just anyone with money and a
9) From my experience with gold diggers and
users in
10) A high percentage of
Filipinas I get involved with tend to like to bite me and pinch me. I was told that they only do that to you if
they LIKE you. Certainly if they only
wanted to use me, they wouldn’t be biting and pinching me. They only do that to those they like or find
adorable, cute, or cuddly.
Some guys see everything in terms of money and
economics. Well I’m not one of those guys of course, for I consider many
other deeper factors. Not every guy with money can duplicate everything
I’ve done. Looks, personality, and attitude are strong factors too, among
others, and in this culture, I rank high in those areas to them, which is why I
often get preferential and special treatment from girls here over richer guys
who are more shallow and not as personable or likable. Let me give you a
little pep talk though. In reality, human beings are very complex, and
don’t fit into overly simplistic pet theories like “She just wants you for
money”. People often don’t make sense and don’t even understand
themselves even. So these one shot labels and formulas put together by
shallow know-it-all people to try to explain other people just don’t hold in
reality. None of the girls here would claim that they like a guy ONLY for
money or a green card, and frankly, NONE of them have ever asked me to take
them to the US either! (Likewise, no one considers themself “bad”, “evil”
or “crazy” either, as we all consider ourselves justified in what we do)
These are merely labels we put on others to explain them in OUR MINDS.
And in this case, the “they just like you for money and green card”
theory comes from the mouths of judgmental people who like to jump to
conclusions, and maybe are “all about money” themselves. But they can
only speak for themselves, not for others.
If you think though, that all my experiences here are
with money grubbing whores, think again.
Make no mistake, I can and have gotten NON-WORKING girls to sleep with
me on a regular basis. So, please don’t
assume all my experiences are with whores.
Unlike in
Sure, there are old fat white drunkards with money
here who are also sleeping with “hot girls” too. However, there are two
primary differences between them and me – 1) They usually have to pay girls to
be with them and/or send financial support to their families, 2) Their dating
field is usually limited to the bar girls or whores, and they cannot get dates
with normal Filipinas or pick up girls in normal public settings, whereas I can
easily get dates in non-bar settings.
Anyway, some of the relationships I have here even
eclipse the romances portrayed in Hollywood films, to the point where when I watch
them, I say to myself, "I have a lot better than that in real
life!" And that's something I could
NEVER EVER have said in the
Believe it or not, some girls here have even said that
I’m TOO HANDSOME for them! And that
because of that, they don’t trust me! In
their view, they explain, handsome men have many girls and don’t stick to one,
and thus can’t be trusted. Thus, they
prefer average looking men who are more likely to be anonymous, as they don’t
like the drama of being in love with a guy who has many girls. Imagine that!
No one in the
The most significant
difference for me is this: When I am
sociable and outgoing to girls in the
Likewise, the biggest
difference between my life in the
In short, here I LIVE the kind of love life I’ve
always DREAMED of!
In my opinion, Filipinas
make the best girlfriends, lovers, and friends.
Compared to females in the other Asian countries, they aren't as strict,
serious, prudish or hung up. Instead,
they are more relaxed, carefree, happy-go-lucky, easygoing, playful, passionate
and sensual. They are also very nonjudgmental
and nonracist. And they have a great
sense of humor, enjoying the silliest things which easily amuse them. Thus, you can always have fun and joke around
or play with them, even if you have nothing else to talk about. That's so nice and refreshing, especially
when you are so accustomed to antisociality and hostility from women in the
Best of all, they LOVE to
flirt. When I flirt with girls in the
Filipinas are also a great
blend of outer and inner traits.
Ethnically, they are Asian, Malay and Spanish, resulting in a very
exotic and beautiful mix that is very pleasing and sensual to the eyes. Their exotic sexy sensual olive complexion
ranges from light to dark shades, all of which are sexy to me and many other
foreigners here. And their attractive
highly feminine appearance is combined with a tender romantic loving/caring
inner side to them – a fantastic blend to say the least.
The way they treat you and touch you is
just so sensual and fulfilling. They
have this warm tender touch that white women definitely don’t have (not to
sound racist). I’ve experienced it and
can understand now why so many foreign men are addicted to the
Thus, I’d say that even if you didn’t have a taste for
Filipinas or Asian women before, if you come to the
Not only are most Filipinas
either hot or cute, and passionate and tender in bed, but their personality is
so soothing, gentle, easy-going and accommodating that they are like my best
friends too. They are just so
comfortable to be around, in a way that you could never imagine possible in the
West.
They are also a great blend of White and Asian
traits. Their Spanish blood makes them
much more wild, relaxed, passionate and expressive than Orientals such as the
Chinese, Japanese, or Koreans, who are non-expressive, robotic and overly
serious and strict in comparison. And
they have big round eyes that are considered attractive in Western Culture
(although to my surprise, my slanted Asian eyes are considered more attractive
in Filipino culture than their big round eyes are). They have all the physical beauty of thin
feminine Asian women in light and dark colors (“vanilla and chocolate” so to
speak), as well as their humble, modest, sweet, pleasing, soothing romantic
nature. The only drawbacks to them are
that they don’t like to think much, don’t like to answer questions or provide
explanations when asked to do so, and are sometimes moody and quiet for unexplainable
reasons that they refuse to discuss. It
seems in their nature to be that way.
Thus you don’t get much intellectual stimulation with them. But the good news is that it’s much easier to
train and educate them than it is to teach a Westernized woman to be sweeter
and more loving.
Although Filipinas aren't
as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they
make up for it in their other qualities.
They have this essence about them, warm sensual tenderness and a way of
treating you that makes you feel needed and loved, like a real man, in a way
that you had always wished and dreamed deep down but never dared hoped
for. It's beyond words - something you
have to feel and experience as a man to understand. And when you do, you realize it's what you
had always wanted.and even friends. They
are tender, sweet, passionate and fun.
In a way, it's like they
give new birth to your heart, for if your heart had lost faith in love,
they awaken it and renew it with their child-like hope and belief in love,
making it a reality for you, and making you a believer again as well.
The bottom line for me is that here in the
Philippines, I feel APPRECIATED, VALUED, DESIRED, WANTED, LIKED, LOVED, NEEDED,
etc. (I have cute girls following me around as if they’re hypnotized!) whereas
in North America I constantly felt ALIENATED, ALONE, IGNORED, UNDESIRED,
UNWANTED, NONEXISTENT, and worst of all POWERLESS to do anything about it. In
short, all my WANTS, NEEDS, DESIRES, and FANTASIES are fulfilled here.
Basically, it’s like this: Here, there is ALWAYS ACTION to be had, so I
am never bored. I can always go out,
have fun, get hot girls, and any type of action I want or need, ANYTIME! Contrast that to back in the states, where I
was forced to stay home all the time, as no one wanted to meet me if I went
out, so there was no point. There was
nothing to do, no action to be had, no one to meet, no fun to be had, etc. It was complete boredom and suffocation, as
well as loneliness and isolation. (Yuck!)
But now that I can get action anytime I want here, or have fun whenever
I want, there’s a reason for me to go out everyday! Wow. I
NEVER have to stay home and be bored if I don’t want to here! In fact, there’s always something going on
here that is fun and wild that I can PARTICIPATE in interactively (I won’t give
you specifics, but leave it up to your imagination), not just sit back and
watch passively, more than there is time for!
Best of all, there are ALWAYS tons of hot/sexy/cute/gorgeous girls who
constantly want to meet me, be with me, have fun with me, get wild with me, and
whatever escalates between us, MORE than I can handle! It’s literally a “sex babe
Here, I get the best of
both worlds. On the one hand, it’s one
of the easiest places in the world to get sex, if not the easiest. And on the other, there are many
commitment-oriented romantic old-fashioned goody Catholic girls as well to
choose from. So I can get easy sex, or
romance/steady relationship, for the sappy sentimental side of me, as
well! I can choose from either, the best
of both worlds! Thus, a person can
satisfy both his lust for casual sex and need for steady relationship/romance!
(though society considers both desires to be mutually exclusive, I don’t)
Anyhow, I gotta
tell you though, when you can go out and get hot girls, dates and action
ANYTIME you want, and you have hot cuties gunning for you daily, it’s an
INCREDIBLE FEELING. Nothing beats
it! It feels as though you’ve
transcended the barriers and physical laws of the universe! And it makes any sacrifices you make to be
here definitely WORTH IT.
Here in the
Anyone who saw my life here
and my life in
To see visual proof of what
I’m talking about, see my new photo collage from the
So, contrary to what New
Agers and attitude fanatics (the "you create your own reality" crowd)
think, I didn't become a happy optimist by changing my attitude, thoughts or
beliefs, but by exercising my power of choice and braving it out against the
fear of the unknown, by going to another location on the other side of the
globe.
For another awe inspiring story of Salvation in the
Here are some videos on YouTube that show you the
wonderful world of Filipinas here!
This video that shows you the variety of women in Philippines! As you can see, they come in so many
colors and types to choose from!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls4zODEbE6A
Here is an incredible pictorial presentation of Filipina beach babes. They are proof of a man's paradise! (If this doesn't make
you jump on a plane to the
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfEhvdcOeUo
And get this. All those girls are realistically attainable types, as
long as you are nice and sweet and no an a**hole.
Next, these Filipina media stars guaranteed to make you drool! Warning! Once you look,
there may be no going back! 
hehehe
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0CaOWGt6o4
And imagine this, these girls have this warm inclusive touch and vibe
that just fulfill you so much that you want to forget all other women!
Here are video stills of typical expats and
their Filipina wives/gf's. They
are representative of what I see of typical expats and their Filipina
wives/girlfriends. They
all look like nice people and the Filipinas on them are very cute and
attractive, to me at least.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5X0JQobPPY
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