12 Reasons Women Can't Stand Nice Guys

[Fenix]

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/lucia/ ... -nice-guys

Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it realâ€￾. Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.

Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable + No excitement + No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.

Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “createâ€￾ the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

Sex: Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case. Experts Agree: Cheating Is Not About Sex

Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hotâ€￾.

Charm: Nice guys don’t always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

Protection: Historically, men have protected women—physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

[ssjparris]

bwahahahahahahaa....again one more time...bwahahahahaha...

NICE GUYS truly rule in all the other countries but here in america.

even U.K. Women like nice guys and are attracted to them. though they like the bad boy "look" not the negativity or badness and wrong doing at all. i can attest to this with sweet BellaRuth. if she reads this she knows what i mean. she LOVES compliments. by the way she is all mine. so nobody mess with her. hihhihihihihi.

from my experience foriegn women from all OVER the world really really love american men. because we are some of the NICEST men on planet earth. i'm probably over exaggerating here. i talked to taiwanese chick, a uzbekhistan chick and they all love me for being kind.

this article is total garbage.

thanks Phoenix sosa buddy for the post.

by the way i saw your facebook page. you look like tupac or something. so i bet american skanks are waving at you and saying hi. peace out dude !!!

[ladislav]

In Asia nice guys win hands down.

[djfourmoney]

Why is this post funny? Its the truth.

Women also mistake nice or kindness for a weakness which is false. I speak truth to power all the time. Its part of the reason I'm unemployed. I'll say it again, how does a job expect somebody to survive in our economic system when you're automatically making less than you need to survive? Corporations and many medium sized companies JUST DON'T CARE!

So what you suppose to do? A typical so-called Alpha would say, "Hmmm" should I rob/steal or murder for money? People on Wall St stealing money are just as bad if not worst than some thug knocking over the corner store. Actually I would say its worst. If you rob 7-11, does the 7-11 Corporation go out of business? Does it fire thousands of people in the process? NO! But do electronic trading and all of a sudden somebody is poor, without a job, without a home or all the above.

Let's be honest most of the greatest people in our culture are not so-called Alpha Males, they seldom solve problems with intelligence. They solve them with violence which makes them PERFECT for Military Duty. Trying to integrate them back into society however is problematic...

Anyway, ssjparris this post is valid....

[ryanx]

In Asia nice guys win hands down.

I spent all that time becoming a bad boy...now I have to be nice again? Oh man!!

[ClearView]

In Asia nice guys win hands down.

I spent all that time becoming a bad boy...now I have to be nice again? Oh man!!

Yes a friend of mine here in Thailand spent a long time cultivating the bad boy image in London. Even though he speaks fluent Thai and meant well he scared the girls trying to use the same tactic he'd use in London. He found that he had to develop a much nicer, feminine attitude. Don't get me wrong, the guy still needs to be more dominant than the woman but by western standards my friend would seem too nice. Most women here respond well to a nice guy which feels good actually. It's nice to be able to smile at a woman and actually receive a positive response and a smile in return instead of a sneer.

[ssjparris]

@ djfourmoney dude its funny because they ARE attracted to this nonsense. and their perception of what a man really is is so offbase. they are really sick women to be attracted to all of that. so one more time for your valid article.....bwahahahhahaahaha one less american girl to deal with.

[BellaRuth]

LOL @ SSJ.

I am stumped as to why some women like bad guys. Don't know any myself who do, thank goodness- for the simple reason that no one in their right minds would want to share their life with someone, well, shit. Why would you?

If this helps people understand why the reasoning might be, fine- but no one should make the mistake that this is universal for all women or some sort of instinctive/biological pull. If it occurs, it's either cultural or the woman has issues- or both. It's not normal. It's normal to want a man who you like being with, who you feel comfortable around, who you can relax with, trust, etc. If I had a bad boy boyfriend I'd just feel on edge all the time and would be scared of letting him take control or make decisions, which goes against how things should be. If you want someone to fly a plane, you'd pick the good guy, not the nutter. It's counter=productive.

The only time I've heard of bad boys being attractive as partners are in desperate high-crime high-poverty areas where being on their side makes you feel safer than not being, and the girls involved are usually ghetto princesses themselves who have low self-esteem and envision no future.

[The_Hero_of_Men]

LOL @ SSJ.

I am stumped as to why some women like bad guys. Don't know any myself who do, thank goodness- for the simple reason that no one in their right minds would want to share their life with someone, well, shit. Why would you?

If this helps people understand why the reasoning might be, fine- but no one should make the mistake that this is universal for all women or some sort of instinctive/biological pull. If it occurs, it's either cultural or the woman has issues- or both. It's not normal. It's normal to want a man who you like being with, who you feel comfortable around, who you can relax with, trust, etc. If I had a bad boy boyfriend I'd just feel on edge all the time and would be scared of letting him take control or make decisions, which goes against how things should be. If you want someone to fly a plane, you'd pick the good guy, not the nutter. It's counter=productive.

The only time I've heard of bad boys being attractive as partners are in desperate high-crime high-poverty areas where being on their side makes you feel safer than not being, and the girls involved are usually ghetto princesses themselves who have low self-esteem and envision no future.

Those types of women who choose the bad boy, in my opinion, deserve everything they have coming to them if they want to choose the bad boy over the good man.

[DaRick]

Now for a new episode of 'DaRick's Demented Dribblings':

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/lucia/12-reasons-women-can-t-stand-nice-guys

Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it realâ€￾. Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

Well, since most Anglo women are not nice and cannot think in the abstract, they think that 'nice guys' (not integrity-less doormats) are faking it.

Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.

This demonstrates how Anglo women think that relationships are a 'power struggle' - that one has to control the other, rather than working in tandem. Moreover, there is a difference between a 'nice guy' and a doormat. Doormats (like men who curry women's favour for sex or whatever else) have no integrity. Nice guys have too much integrity for the Anglo woman.

Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable + No excitement + No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.

This just shows how immature they are - life by itself is a challenge; you do not need more challenges for yourself. So cavorting with a deliberately difficult individual is stupid and self-destructive - just like an Anglo women.

Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

This indicates a Salvationist undercurrent that's missing in most non-Anglo cultures.

Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “createâ€￾ the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

This indicates the superiority complex and egotism of Anglo women (i.e - the guy needs to be made into something better like me - or 'I dictate what perfection is'). I agree that fixing others distracts them from their own faults (which they could never face up to).

Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

Stupid, fallacious reasoning, especially since sociopathy/narcissism has generally not been seen as a desirable trait. Then again, the Anglosphere encourages those types. They also denigrate males from birth, so decent guys undervaluing themselves comes as little surprise.

Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

Sex: Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case. Experts Agree: Cheating Is Not About Sex

Agree with all of these.

Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hotâ€￾.

I don't agree. I believe that 'bad boy'/'nice guy' dichotomy is about personality, not so much about appearance. Many bad boys do not take much pride in their appearance - even the 'hot ones' often look like they've taken too many steroids. Of course, to the masculine Anglobitch, that is 'hot'.

Charm: Nice guys don’t always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

Well, men are much more straightforward than women are. In other words, they reveal their 'true colours' relatively quickly. This makes me believe that Anglo women are attracted to them more because their personality matches their own (mean, self-destructive and selfish). Birds of a feather flock together; ergo, the woman falls in love with these troglodytes. The 'charm' thing is a cop-out; nice guys can be charming as well (but in a different way).

Protection: Historically, men have protected women—physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

Well, this just reflects that Anglobitch's 'cave woman' mind-set. I notice that women from other places don't care as much about the guy's ability to 'physically protect' them - they probably see it as nice, but it's hardly a primary factor.

Women are also attracted to thugs because they are unjustly lionised (i.e - Ned Kelly, Chopper Read, various rappers). It just goes to show how the 'thug culture' is all in the Anglosphere now. For shame.

[Grunt]

For f***s sake I am really getting sick of this "aberration as default" bullshit.

For the f***ing record, AMERICAN FEMALES ARE A STATISTICAL ANOMALY THAT IS DOOMED TO FAIL! Sooner rather than later, too!

A flicker, then POOF! Gone forever. Stop constructing your emotional foundation of a failed f***ing social model. God damn people, get on a f***ing plane already. Or better yet, take a 2 week trip to Mexico for f***s sake. BY BUS! Cost you maybe a grand, if that.

Hit the friggin reset button, people. Unplug from the matrix already.

[ErikHeaven]

Yep i been to Mexico City many years ago. So many fine Mexican ladies. Even the ones in their 40's were so skinny and they had long hair down to their butt. Such small and perfect butts. They are the complete package. Yes forget about the Ameriskanks!

[The_Hero_of_Men]

For f***s sake I am really getting sick of this "aberration as default" bullshit.

For the f***ing record, AMERICAN FEMALES ARE A STATISTICAL ANOMALY THAT IS DOOMED TO FAIL! Sooner rather than later, too!

A flicker, then POOF! Gone forever. Stop constructing your emotional foundation of a failed f***ing social model. God damn people, get on a f***ing plane already. Or better yet, take a 2 week trip to Mexico for f***s sake. BY BUS! Cost you maybe a grand, if that.

Hit the friggin reset button, people. Unplug from the matrix already.

Wow, sir, that was kinda harsh (BUT VERY TRUE).

However, I must ask you this: what about the people who are financially or situationally unable to travel, even though they may want to?

[Grunt]

My first trip to South America was as an enlisted solider in the military. In 1997 I was making a whole $1200 a month. I saved and kept my costs low and eventually I was able to get to Ecuador.

Now, if a broke ass soldier like myself managed to pull it off, who cant?

[The_Hero_of_Men]

My first trip to South America was as an enlisted solider in the military. In 1997 I was making a whole $1200 a month. I saved and kept my costs low and eventually I was able to get to Ecuador.

Now, if a broke ass soldier like myself managed to pull it off, who cant?

"Broke-ass soldier"... that was funny. However, you do have a point there.