These questions and answers are "the most common" debates. This is based on PERSONAL OBSERVATION. It's based on neutral evidence in my life. So you might say "my opinions" but my opinion came from a neutral source, and that neutral source is backed up by evidence. (evidence from a neutral belief system, not a negative belief system)
my credibility. I've been in the PUA(pickup artist) industry for over 4 years now, approached roughly 6,000 women! no joke. As a matter of fact, i still actively "cold approach women" on a daily basis, where i'm out at a night club or if I see them on a coffee shop. Of those 6,000 women i've approached, i started to see patterns. I've started to see tons of evidence. Over time, law of large numbers gave me better accurate results.
So here's the overral scenario of the 6,000 approaches
1. 90% of them are thin white women
2. i'm 5 foot 6 filipino american, average looking, no fat or anything, semi fit
3. of those 6000 women I approached, ALL Of them are in america, 99.9% of them i approached in LA/SD area
Very popular debate, of those 6,000 approached i've done. Do looks matter?Common Debate #1 Looks matter vs Looks don't matter
I say YES! in certain situations. From my experience, looks account about 20-30% of game... a very small portion of game. Most women respond to confidence more than looks. Take an average looking guy with confidence, he will get laid more than a tall good looking guy without confidence. Here are scenarios on where LOOKS absolutely matter and is the "exception to my 20-30%" rule
1. online dating sites (your height and your race). Looks matter so much here, i say 95% IT MATTERS especially if your a guy. YOu aren't giving out your dominance, fun personality, etc so the only attractive thing you are giving out is your profile and your looks. If you are an asian guy who's 5 foot 5, dating site is Probably not for you. I've emailed roughly 400+ women on PoF/okcupid and i only got 2-3 emails back. Some women on these sites are hot but most aren't hot. If you are an asian male who's short, THEN AVOID ONLINE DATING SITES. Unless you have thick skin and dont' mind emailing hundreds of women... You have to understand, women get bombarded with EMAILS so much on dating sites...
2. women who have PLENTY of options(roughly 70% looks matter) (hot girls who are 8s 9s and 10s). Fact is, 8s, 9s and 10s get hit on so much in america, expect her to see at least 2-3 guys and have 4-5 dudes trying to "get at her". Sure confidence can get you far, but at the same time she meets "COOL GUYS" all the time. Some women with plenty of options won't date/f**k guys without a certain height or certain race.
3. Places where it's competitive to meet girls (roughly 50% it matters) (high end clubs, places where she gets hit on a lot, bars, etc) I say, your looks matter as "FIRST IMPRESSION" here. In these venues, height play a very important role because some women take height+certain facial features more seriously than guys who are simply average looking.
4. in a Cold approach (where you approach a woman you previously don't know and you force her to make a quick decision if she wants to get hit on by you) *if you are confident she will chat with you, but if you want to date her, I SAY 70% ure looks matter. Fact is, LOOKS PLAY A MAJOR ROLE HERE. IF you aren't "HER TYPE" then no matter what you say or do, no matter how confident you are, you probably won't get to date her or f**k her. Sure, she might chit chat with you but in platonic conversations. You have to understand the fact that you won't get EVERY women and you will GET rejected. Sure, you can improve on your cold approach skills, but if there was no initial chemistry to begin with, in spite of good cold approach skills, it just won't work(especially if you are talking to her in a non-platonic conversation)
Summary. Do looks matter? SURE DO! but is it important? I say 20-30% it's important assuming you are a normal confident guy. If you aren't confident, then looks REALLY HAVE TO MATTER. In my opinion, women responded to confidence(how you carry yourself) more than Looks; HOWEVER,
Take 2 guys who have equal game, but yet 1 guy is 6 foot 3 and the other is a short average looking guy, when all things are equal (confidence, etc) the guy with the looks/height will have a BIGGER advantage(hence, you will rarely see a short guy date a hot tall girl, or see a nerdy indian guy consistently pull super models at clubs). However, you can improve on other things in your life such as your "social status, your social circle, etc" to improve your overrall value. Thus making looks more irrelevant.
yes there are exceptions out there. I've seen ugly guys land themselves hot girls, but exceptions don't prove the rule. Exceptions don't prove anything actually. MAJORITY Proves the rule.
~Sexter~