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This is an article from henry makow's site. very insightful into the lives of chinese or asian women. It shows you why they are tired of being treated like shit. and also the reason why they LOVE nice guys. check it out below so you can see why...
Asian Women Want Feminized Men
Men have treated women like shit -- pardon me -- for so long, in this place, and not the same as in the West but far worse, that the backlash now is the call for boys who are soft and tender and harmless...
by Mike Parker
TAIWAN- Feminization of the male population in China has been enacted via a very different pathway than the one used in the West.
Men have been so dominant, so violent, so arbitrary, so lascivious, for so long in this culture -- and to a far greater degree than in Western cultures -- that the merest introduction of the possibility of "independence" for women has produced a ferociously schizoid modern female culture.
Women want "real men", but they have become confused over what a "real man" could be. Westerners know all this, about cultures in general.
What Westerners don't know is that this "modernization" of certain Asian cultures has produced differentiated strata which do not exist in Western culture.
None of these strata are harmonious. They are each in conflict with every other, and the overall calculation is that everyone is confused.
You see, Men have been so rotten to women for so long, in this place, that women either seek out dominant abusers and/or controllers, or they want thin, bony, tender-voiced utterly non-threatening "providers", or they abscond completely out of a lack of strategic intelligence and just become fat-assed and shrill.
Men have treated women like shit -- pardon me -- for so long, in this place, and not the same as in the West but far worse, that the backlash now is the call for boys who are soft and tender and harmless, except with the abuse-and-domination seekers.
In the West, it's different. The gay movements are far more prevalent, and accepted. But here, "women" tend to want to go with wimpy "men".
It's pathetic. It has produced an epidemic of sub-male freaks. They wear pink -- it's a goddamned fad to wear pink. THEY WEAR PINK. They dress like women, in pigeon-leg jeans.
They're deliberately rail-thin (I'm told this is a mirror to the Japanese model). They speak softly. They don't carry a stick. They're so unaccustomed to assertiveness that the slightest emotional challenge renders them either deeply unsettled for a few days, or else immediately violent in an animal fashion but too frightened to do anything about it.
Women here want men who are completely non-threatening, but who can still fulfill the role of Provider. Of course, in the midst of this confusion, the Wimpy Provider model has allowed women to be utterly selfish themselves, demanding everything while offering only sex (if that) and a respectable public image.
Overall, Taiwan is a much better environment than, say, South Korea, which ranks as #2 on the global female suicide list. Yet the deep issues are the same: men have treated women so badly here, for so long, and so much worse than in the West, that their backlash is understandable.
i am NOT saying to be a feminine man. although that is really extreme and i believe a man should be a man. but very tender loving compassionate leader protector provider kind of guy actually. just posting to show you their perspective and why they are choosing feminine men
Japanese guys are starting to look like women now. HA.
That's a horrible piece of writing, but there is some truth to it. Japan has been popularizing very effeminate male pop singers, and game heroes, for ages now and many other Asian nations are following suit, as they do with all things "cool and Japanese".
Yes, girls here want nice guys, but in my experience, it is mostly high school girls who fawn over these girly men. I still find girls who want a real man. (Unless I'm a dominant abuser and don't realize it.)
“b***y is so strong that there are dudes willing to blow themselves up for the highly unlikely possibility of b***y in another dimension." -- Joe Rogan
Henry Mankow is injecting a lot of pop psychology into nothing. Asian women tend to be extremely dominant by controlling the purse strings and children in the family. This is especially true in Chinese culture where the nagging Chinese shrew wife ordering around the Chinese husband is an ubiquitous piece of mental imagery.
Yeah, I completely agree that Japanese men have become much more feminine. Some of my students have remarked that women have become stronger than men and most agree that this is not a problem. But, I don't think the women here want ultra feminine men and in fact most find the Otaku culture (geek culture) to be a big turn off. This is where you find most of the feminine men.
that is good to hear that it is not a popular thing on a mass scale to like feminine men. if i was a woman i would want a real man ( i am not gay ) leader, protector, provider, lover the whole works.
how long have you been in japan.
I miss japan. the ladies there are BIG time flirts with me. i didn't really take it to heart and thought nothing about it. now i want to go back because i felt really good when so many japanese women liked me alot. ah well its coming for me again someday in the future.