NorthAmericanguy wrote:OTB wrote: This is what makes dating and meeting women in this country so difficult. The feeling that you have to perform, make them laugh incessantly, or SHOW how confident you are just creates unnecessary pressure on us men.
FYI. Guys here expect women to laugh at their jokes all the time. Like if I don't laugh I will be considered boring or without sense of humor or that I don't love/enjoy them any more.... Which is not true. Nobody needs to behave like a clawon to be adored, nobody needs to laugh if it is not funny or if they don't get the joke.
Here are some tips how to look confident (not cold and indifferent), just sexy confident.
You have to me calm and warm with a little boish smile on your face. Just be you.
Never say:
1. "You maybe have a ton of men around you". She'll boost her self esteemand you are done with your flirting because you elevated her too early...
2. Don't give compliments, but don't be critical too. Just give one good compliment in the middle of the evening. she is sucking for that compliment and the more she is not hearing it the more she doesn't know what's going on.
Giving to much adoration from a guy in the begining is like giving sex on first date from a women.
3. "What men do you like" - you shouldn't care, you know she needs you so no need of asking. You don't care about other men, they don't exist and even she is trying to talk about her men just ignore. Don't talk about your exes,girls, keep it more misterious.
4. If she turns you down immediately say calmly and manly. "Ok, I respect that, have a good day." then find a woman at the bar that will talk to you and make the first one regret for turning you down. It doesn't matter if the second woman is more beautiful or uglier, the first one will ask herself - Do I look like her or am I better/worse. lol She is replaced - done.
When dating never ask "Are you going to leave me for younger man?", it sounds very cute but it makes the woman feel stronger, replace that with: "Honey, I have a line of girls knocking on my door, but I chose to be with you."
If she trys to make you jelous, just say that you'll knock out this clown on the minute.
She will fall in love with you.