Truthville wrote:I joined Cherry Blossoms in Dec..........received at least 2-3 smiles and emails everyday UNTIL I met someone and canceled it. And sorry, most I actually talked to weren't necessarily interested in coming to America UNLESS that is where there future husband/boyfriend wanted to live. MOST preferred to stay in their home country.
I believe what most of you just don't understand is that WHILE pictures are a must, what you write in your profile is the most important thing. MOST women I corresponded with found me attractive BUT it was what I wrote in my profile that "pushed them over the edge" as far as contacting me.
Perhaps some of you should actually work on your writing/communication skills. I believe that PhxSosa wrote something about this recently on another thread in relation to WHY he was getting so much correspondence from a particular website. Of course a few of you wouldn't believe it and moaned on and on about how he looks like 2pac and that was the reason for his deluge of emails and such. Really? MOST woman in other countries have NO idea who 2pac was or anything about "hip-hop" culture in general!
Trouble is that some of you seem to be so self-defeating and so completely clueless about the REAL differences between western culture and non-western culture that you refuse to see anything without looking at it through your western eyes. Reminds me of recently when that older American guy with a beautiful Filipina wife and a resort of some sort actually had to come on here and defend himself against posters, who don't know him or his wife, prattling on and on about how she was with him for his money and how some of you could tell by her "childish" words and their pictures. Really? Projecting much?
Quite a few of you on this thread come off as being quite bitter and negative. It's all about the how much wit, charm, and simple "presence" you can convey with words on your profile. IF you can't even manage that then HOW IN THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU CAN OR COULD EVER DATE ANYONE EXCEPT THE SAME WESTERN WOMAN YOU ALL GO AND ON ABOUT WITH THEIR "SPOILED" ATTITUDES AND THEIR "ENTITLEMENT" ISSUES AND SUCH?
Western "dating" is ALL about looks and status, which is funny because most of you subscribe to that same philosophy when trying to date "foreign" woman. Understand that "looks" in my limited knowledge of global dating, isn't the most important thing to foreign woman. Personality is! Ahhh, but most of you refuse to believe it BECAUSE then you would have to actually acknowledge that PERHAPS your attitudes and personalities are "up to snuff!"
THE question you HAVE to ask yourself is:
"Would I date a woman with my personality/attitude?"
I believe that for most of you, the answer would be a resounding NO!
Thank you, Truthville!
Yes, people have been saying I look like 2Pac for years. I have been getting DMX comparisons for just as long. None of these women message me about rap or hip hop or black people. Juliana, a girl from Russia, she messaged me this morning. What did she say? She said that my profile was interesting and she was browsing profiles and she wanted to message me. None of what she said was about me being black or I look like 2Pac.
What you say in your profile matters. My profile is probably the most comprehensive on Interpals. I love to write. I love to share things to the world. I filled out every section of the profile. I think my "About Me" section is close to 1000 words. Every section has at least 3 paragraphs. I cover everything about myself. How are people going to get to know you if you don't put anything in your profile?
I am a freelance writer. Many people ask me what that is. Many people ask me what type of stories do I write. That's a good question to initiate a conversation with. I talk about everything because I am a versatile and diverse person. If you have 2 or 3 sentences in your profile and only have three sections filled out, maybe you should concentrate on making your profile better.
I don't get many women messaging me about how I look. I did have a white girl from the UK only message me her name and she asked me how I was doing and she told me I was gorgeous. We talked again.
The pictures I have in my profile are just head shots. I did add three photo albums of my more creative pictures, but my profile pictures are just head shots. I shave my head, have a goatee and a mustache. I don't wear baseball caps, cowboy hats, beanies, or bandanas in my pictures. I don't wear anything to cover up my face like sunglasses.
Like I said before, if you see women on Interpals talking about "females only" or "only accepts messages from 18-26 years olds" then move on to the next one. Use Interpals with an open mind. Do I message random girls? Yes I do. I messaged tons of women on Thursday night and only one responded out of 8, but guess what? Many of them will reply back to me 2 days later like this Polish girl did. Many of these women get 86756432345 messages. You have to have patience with this website.
You have to have substance in your profile and not just a few words. No one is going to get to know you if you put 2 sentences. What if a girl views your profile and you say absolutely nothing? She is going to not want to talk to you. Your photos don't really matter. I don't have many photo comments. I always get messaged by men and women about what I said in my profile. Like a Hungarian guy told me that it was great that I wasn't prejudice against people. That's what I said in my profile.
I will not lie to anyone about Interpals or anything else. I speak the truth. I messaged this girl from Austria last night. She wanted someone to recommend TV shows to her in English. I recommended "Breaking Bad" and guess what? She messaged me back. Not only did she thank me for my recommendation, she asked me questions about why I am moving to Germany, why I am moving in 2013 and she told, me about Switzerland and the places she has been in Germany. That one message I sent her was about a TV show and I told her I was moving to Germany and I was also interested in Austria and Switzerland. I topped the message off with I hope we can talk sometime. See how simple that was? I got a detailed message from her this morning.
I am using Interpals the way you are supposed to use it. You will get the results I have. It has nothing to do with me looking like 2Pac or these women are interested in hip hop culture. I am a nerd at heart. If anyone on here meets me in person, you will see how different I am. I like intelligence. I like having long, intelligent conversations with people. Anyway, I hope this explains things to you guys. Just don't give up on Interpals. I didn't have much luck in the beginning and now I have too many new Skype friends and too many friends on Interpals. I get about 12-28 messages a day now and I couldn't even get 2 messages back in December 2011. I get roughly double digit messages daily. If you are interesting, people will find you. If someone looks at your profile, men or women and if they are ugly or not, message them about something you saw in their profile. It is that simple.
