I consider myself a very "above average" guy in terms of good looks, and I agree that online dating sites in the west are still a waste of time. When I lived in a college town back in 2007-2008, those sites worked like a charm. I was getting more dates in 2007 than I had my entire life - and from various different women, too! Region is very important to finding success with online dating. I was in Tempe, AZ's college town and there are plenty of women online who'll date you. Fast forward to the cold, narrow-minded midwest, and now women have unrealistic standards about who they will meet for coffee ("must live in the city", "must have a job (no, not owning a business - you must be a miserable pawn with a boss)", "must be white", "if you are male, I'm deleting you", etc). And the quality and physical value of the women have significantly declined as well; my later few dates using online sites have been some of the ugliest beasts I've ever encountered, contrary to their professional mugshots online.davewe wrote:I think the point is most men in the first world are wasting their time in online dating - period, regardless of car, job, status or even good looks. An average looking woman online gets so much attention that she's quickly spoiled and comes to believe she "deserves" the Brad Pitt lookalike.
It's really not a hard concept. If you are fishing in a pond with few decent fish to catch you can do one of two things: spends thousands of dollars on the top equipment and guides, as well as hundreds of hours scouring the stream; or find a better fishing hole. Isn't that why we're all on HA?
I know we deserve better than anything western women have to offer. I'm disgusted by the midwest as the women here get colder and colder (and yes, I'm above average in looks), and they're only nice to you or lead you on when they are already married or involved. The odds here are against us, and in the few short years that I have started dating, it seems that western women have become misandric and completely toxic - labeling any man who talks to them as "creepy", "rapist", "criminal", "awkward" - and never giving them a second thought. Online women will often change their story, just to avoid you. If her profile says she's looking for a relationship, and you contact her with the same intention in mind, guess what? - "I've been really busy with work, and I don't have time to meet new people for a relationship." If her profile says she's looking for play partners (i.e. sex), and you contact her with the same intention in mind, guess what? - "I can do sex, but it's not enough." To put it bluntly, anything that makes you compatible with an America woman, she will disrupt that by saying she's the polar opposite. Ask yourself: Is playing these no-win, feeble mind games really worth the company of an American woman, when you can be abroad in eastern Europe, or Brazil, or the Philippine Islands right now getting any women you want?
I believe the stories of men who were lost in the femisphere west, just like we are right now, whom have moved to different regions abroad and have no trouble getting foreign women who are more feminine, more sexual, more fit, younger, and friendlier than any American woman we've ever known. I have a feeling that when I leave the midwest (yes, even if I stay in America), that my dating options will be significant better than what I've been accustomed to in the past three years, however my ultimate goal is leaving America. It's a wrap.