Opting out - "MGTOW"
Posted: May 25th, 2012, 6:44 pm
I'm sure many of you have heard the term "MGTOW". It's a fairly recent social trend which is gaining steam in the blogosphere, but also, surprisingly, in what I see around me.
It stands for "Men Going Their Own Way" - the decision to drop out of the dating market, and stop pursuing women or chasing them.
Without even knowing about this acronym, this is what I myself have been doing for about a year (I've practically withdrawn from the dating game due to being burnt out and tired after years of rejection), but right around the same time, somewhere around 2011, lots of other men seem to have started expressing the same sentiment, and withdrawing from dating in large numbers.
In October 2011 an article appeared reporting that men were starting to "give up"
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/10/3 ... -the-rise/
"Psychology Today" made a reference to MGTOW in a recent article reporting that "men are frustrated with dating":
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the ... ing?page=2
The point made by all these discussions (esp. the Psychology Today article) is that men are going through an extremely different period in history right now, and that many view opting out as the best choice. If a sufficient number adopt the MGTOW lifestyle, by completely stopping pursuing women (kind of like a 'marriage strike'), then that may scare women into retreating from their current position of arrogance and power. In effect, MGTOW is kind of like a feminist movement for men.
Again, I've only recently stumbled upon this term, but it seems like this is a more global trend than I imagined, any thoughts?
It stands for "Men Going Their Own Way" - the decision to drop out of the dating market, and stop pursuing women or chasing them.
Without even knowing about this acronym, this is what I myself have been doing for about a year (I've practically withdrawn from the dating game due to being burnt out and tired after years of rejection), but right around the same time, somewhere around 2011, lots of other men seem to have started expressing the same sentiment, and withdrawing from dating in large numbers.
In October 2011 an article appeared reporting that men were starting to "give up"
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/10/3 ... -the-rise/
"Psychology Today" made a reference to MGTOW in a recent article reporting that "men are frustrated with dating":
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the ... ing?page=2
There are whole blogs and websites dedicated to MGTOW such as www.the-spearhead.com which advocates that men start making themselves happy, without women.4) Opting Out - finally, some men choose opting out as the best option for them. This is sometimes known as the "men going their own way" (MGTOW) movement. Essentially, these are the guys who have been frustrated and punished to the point that they see no further incentive to relate. Rather than spending their efforts on material success to attract a partner, they focus on making themselves happy. Although these guys are often socially-shamed as "not growing up", in fact, they are arguably just reacting to the lack of outside motivation...and taking care of themselves.
The point made by all these discussions (esp. the Psychology Today article) is that men are going through an extremely different period in history right now, and that many view opting out as the best choice. If a sufficient number adopt the MGTOW lifestyle, by completely stopping pursuing women (kind of like a 'marriage strike'), then that may scare women into retreating from their current position of arrogance and power. In effect, MGTOW is kind of like a feminist movement for men.
Again, I've only recently stumbled upon this term, but it seems like this is a more global trend than I imagined, any thoughts?