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I don't understand why you guys respond with so much hatred....hate gets you no where. It just makes a person even more bias and shrinks their view.
To want Western Women dead is seriously sick, because while none of us are perfect were no less of a human and you guys didn't create any of us. We're still decent women no matter what you may think and you have no idea of the circumstances or the lives of a majority of women in the west. You guys the western ones anyway aren't automatically disqualified from this culture you deem so "toxic/trashy" and in some ways it may be, but in others it isn't so bad actually.
The ones who have been jilted, screwed over, and mis-used in their relationship with western women well yeah that sucks and it does leave a wound on one's psyche to have been abused and damaged by ANY women. You guys act like your the exception to the rule when it comes to that and that makes you special. Plenty of men and women have been screwed over in relationships. It's human nature and it happens, but I know some who have been hurt sure they either cry, whine, talk it through, don't deal, or whatever it may be. But eventually most of them get over it and pull up their grown up pants.
The ones that don't well that'll always be a sensitive spot for them...some people are molded by that and that can't be helped. Though on the plus side there have been awesome works by people who've been down in the dumps, because of love. They learned how to be creative and put it to better use.
As for you "Nolan" stating that I'm a man hater, I am not. The only man I could come close to hating is my father, because he's a bum in many respects. Though I do love him it's more of a love hate relationship. At times I love him more and other times I hate him, but he is a human being with flaws; he apathetic to life in general and a selfish man who has no respect for himself or others.
But as I grew up I learned that people are multi-faceted and multi-dimensional. These are my lessons and experiences in life so no I don't hold people to unaccountable standards. I use to and really did want people to meet or surpass my expectations, but I learned people are people and they are gonna live their lives according to themselves.
Not by the standards of others. So yes a lot of disappointment and depression fell on me, because of that. My father has shown me different sides of himself and maybe, because of how people don't like complication or change we ignore complexity and just label people.
But that's wrong.
Also Nolan yes some women commit crimes against men. It happens both ways for the sexes. Our laws and legal system probably do need to be double checked for the loop holes and unfairness of a certain sex. So that way financial abuse doesn't happen, but acting and raving like a loon doesn't help exactly either.
And no "boycott" I'm not trying to shame anyone. Marriages and relationships in general take a lot of hard work and perseverance. It takes people being honest, open, vulnerable, and available. Marriages in the past weren't perfect, but if there was any displeasure or serious resentment it was hidden behind a facade. Most of the times women didn't speak about it or if they did they try to reason with their other half, because usually it was the male who had power in the relationship. If the man ignored it, brushed it aside, and continued with certain behavior the women just had to accept it and make it work. Society views then were much different and a bad marriage was a disgrace. Now at days people have less to loose in regards to stating that the marriages they get into now suck. Since society pressures many to marry they often do without actual real knowledge of what a marriage is made up of. Not all marriages are equal and some give more then others. No sex had a monopoly on who's more given or what not. If that person is in it for the long hall they'll stretch themselves thin trying to make it work.
If all their efforts are in vain the next natural step is despondency and non-communication...
As for girls liking "bad boys" since this seems to be a big thing with you guys...yes some women do like bad and possibly a majority do secretly or at least "fantasy" wise. Bad boys gets a girl's heart pumping and they are a image or archetypes of various so called traits like devil may care attitude, wit, charm, smoldering sexuality, rebellion, looks, and etc...
The thing you guys don't get is that for a majority of women it is only a fleeting fantasy and then we come back to real life. For some women it's something they like and try to attain even when the so called "bad boy" is shit. The bad boy is our version of your vamp, mysterious women, and/or easy chick. Truthfully women like mature and average men who are interested in them and can make them smile and feel loved everyday. Some people also don't know what a healthy relationship is and they think they don't deserve one...
And when I say mature I don't mean old men specifically. I mean a man with a sense of compassion, who has common sense, and is secure of himself. He can be young and revel in his youth, but as long as he has inner strength then all is well. Bad boys do fit some women, but in general the rest of us know better...
And S_parc it sounds like your sister does have a victim mentality, she's a drama queen and she is in deep denial. Her attitude is making everyone around her miserable and she's missing out on actually building herself up and caring for those around her. That creates a very tiresome atmosphere when you have to deal with people like that especially family. Since we can't choose who we're born to or with we have to learn how to deal with them. (or we do if you believe in reincarnation or a philosophy that these are all lessons to be learned.) Family can be crazy with so many different personas and ideas.
My "paternal" grandmother is a individual who if I wasn't related to I'd avoid her like the plague. She's two-faced, materialistic, in such deep denial about herself and life that it's pitiful, vampiric, controlling, and she's a bi-polarish ego-maniac. Ironically she raised me when my parents didn't and for that I'm thankful, but we clash. Our views and perceptions of life are far different in terms of age, generations, and class.
She struggled in life and had a really harsh upbringing these factors molded her into who she is today. By me being related to her I had to overlook her "ways" and learn this if I ever was going to figure out how she got this way. Sure to strangers she's charming, wise, and sympathetic. But to my immediate family she's a terror/devil in human form who has shown me some of the ugliest behavior I have ever seen. I feel sorry for her and angry that she doesn't want to look beyond the walls she has built up about herself. I really wanted to help her overcome her demons.
But that's her I had to learn to deal with it and I know deep down she's not that bad. She is a caring, loving person who has been burnt/deceived by 'family" and life too many times. That doesn't excuse her behavior and responsibility in controlling herself though. I just say it's because she a Libra....I can't really stand them much...but I'm always stuck with them. No one can tell me Aphrodite was a angel, she was a devil in disguise....
That's all I have to say on this subject. ~shrugs~
Pricking up her golden head:
We must not look at goblin men,
We must not buy their fruits:
Who knows upon what soil they fed
Their hungry thirsty roots?"
Well, if you accept the notion that many folks tend to mentally solidify/crystallize, before their 30s esp in the west, then I have a cue as to when the notion of marriage is a lost cause in America. I've posted it below, in a prior thread, but I'll re-state it for this one.
In a nutshell, perhaps up to ~15% of the population in America can be happily married.
BTW, some folks also get married and stay married but live a miserable life. My sister and her husband are one such couple. There are many, just like 'em.
So here's the breakdown, from my experiences so far ...
50% divorce, this is documented
50% stay together
the breakdown of the 50% "stay together":
30% are unhappy but content w/ routine... the manginas, brother-in-law, etc fit into this category. These are the men most despised on this forum.
5% have extramarital affairs & as a result, are content w/ the marriage for the kids' sake, but then, extramartials for sex/companionship (see Prince Charles for a high profile case or even Bill Clinton [ albeit his idea of 'affair' is pathetic ] ). Some couples find this to be an acceptable way to be. This is more frequent than you may suspect.
< 15% OK ... this is the sweet spot and yes, it does exists, however, here's one major detraction. The < 15% happy crowd tend to come from similar backgrounds. I know two such couples, very well for a really long time... the first is orthodox Jewish and the duo have everything in common from individual goals to what they want w/ kids. The other is Cambodian-American and they're also very well matched.
And finally, I know a few more from Armenian 2nd/3rd American generation diasporas, born-again *semi-rustic* WASP-y Christians, Boston Brahmins [ a fantasy world of sorts ], etc. Thus, for the most part, getting into this Cum Laude/Honor society is kinda difficult, given the fact that modern American society is splintered in so many ways. My belief is that if you didn't meet this *person* prior to the age of let's say 24-25, the chances are that you've missed the boat. Now that I'm in my mid-30s and have also had relationships abroad, I've officially signed off on this ledger.
Also, as time has gone by, I've also lost interest, in general. I know where to go for a 'quickie' and I've found that that suffices for me.
Fleeting fantasy is long enough to get pregnant when your ovulating. Especially with the freedoms of today's women. Still, the way mother nature itself achieves genetic diversity is always interesting to know.
Still, it's getting kind of hard to imagine life without porn or video games.
It's getting easier to imagine a life WITHOUT stuck with the same woman, plus sorry, that girl could love video games, but she will always be jealous of your video game.
This article is a good reminder to avoid the propaganda, and stock up on porn and video games asap.
Defend the Internet? The Powers That Be are threaten by it and have a shutdown button available to them, so I'm not sure what your point is.
I barely play games on a regular basis but when the desire hits, I want to be ready and not make the excuse I don't have enough GPU power, hence the HD4670. All about to replaced by a more power friendly (30W at the wall) and have about the same graphic power.
I have a PS2 console (Slim) and a few emulators, big deal.
Porn is unproductive after awhile. If you don't find your GF/Wife interesting to f**k anymore, replace her. Not as hard as it sounds, but then again...
I watch maybe an hour of porn every month, main reason because I don't pay for it and what's mostly online are 15-20 min clips, that's enough to get the desired effect and then move on.
Instead of upgrading the PC, which I felt I would get more value out of, could have easily been spent in TJ. Now either than says this upgrade cost alot of money or p***y is expensive south of the border. It says neither, p***y is cheap south of the boarder and this upgrade is less than a brand new desktop, but everything but the case, power supply and one drive are being re-used.
And WHO ARE YOU??