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Postby Maker55 » Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:32 am

djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:Good luck with alimony and community property!


What is this suppose to mean? I know what Alimony is, but Community Property???

I always love these anti-marriage types, they have never offered me a reasonable alternative.

I can argue that prostitution cost less money up front but more money in the long run and if you have a regular the same relationship issues will surface.

So I guess your solution would be any P4P girl that gets to clingy, toss her for a new one. Just how often are you suppose to do that?

The reality is Men have a limited shelf life as well. Not as short as a woman's but beyond a certain point, most women won't find you appealing and you'll be forced to hook up with women much closer to your own age.

Look you don't have to agree with me, that's your right. What I want is children. The best scenario to have those children is a committed, long term relationship. You don't have to get married, but I think its important to tie that knot. If you have an emotional investment and she takes the same investment seriously there is nothing to fear.

Your job is not to disappoint your woman. Its near impossible to battle back from that. So if your inclinations are to f**k other women, then don't get married. My inclinations are not to do that, no interest in it, so married is the best option for me.


Please tell me you aren't getting married for religious reasons.

Having children with western women is a dangerous proposition and I suspect you've never been married before.

You don't even know what you're doing.

Once you have kids, that's when the woman really holds it over your head and she then has the power in the relationship.

What country are you going to get married in? If it's a western country, you are in deep trouble.

But only you know what's best for you. If you're marrying a western woman, you'll learn the hard why like many married men.

When this happens, don't say I didn't warn you.


Have I mentioned religion? I guess that means you haven't been around here long enough I never use that as an reason or excuse.

I don't even know what I'm doing? Again you haven't been here long enough to make those judgement calls, demerit.

Define Western Country or do you mean Anglo Country? No place is perfect, utopia or paradise and I'm not a fear monger which seems to be your M.O. I see no point in hooking up with indigenous women from developing countries to so-called prevent contact with Western Culture, keep her dumb or as others would say "Ignorance Is Bliss".

Thanks for basing your post on little to nothing, not on personal experience but other people's experience if that.


Fear mongering???

Sometimes people win the lottery and sometimes a person hits a shot from full court. I'm not willing to take that chance.

What makes you so sure that you're going to beat the odds of all of the marriage failures?

Whenever you get married, you're putting your life in the hands of the central bankers who control this world. If that doesn't scare you then you're a fool.

If you go through with marriage, I know you're smart enough to get a pre-nup.

If you're fine with the sex possibly stopping, giving up half of your worth and paying your lovely ex-wife money until she dies or remarries, then I congratulate you.

I do wish you success but the Rockafellers have even more lovely surprises for marriage and the family unit!

Mwwwuahahaha!

Every guy who has gotten raped in the courts said the same foolishness as you are.

I hope that you have an exit strategy before the 10 years are up.

Of course, you don't want fear to rule your every move in life but you best believe that if I am going to go into the domain of the lions, I will pack some assault rifles.
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Postby djfourmoney » Sun Jul 08, 2012 3:21 am

Maker55 wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:Good luck with alimony and community property!


What is this suppose to mean? I know what Alimony is, but Community Property???

I always love these anti-marriage types, they have never offered me a reasonable alternative.

I can argue that prostitution cost less money up front but more money in the long run and if you have a regular the same relationship issues will surface.

So I guess your solution would be any P4P girl that gets to clingy, toss her for a new one. Just how often are you suppose to do that?

The reality is Men have a limited shelf life as well. Not as short as a woman's but beyond a certain point, most women won't find you appealing and you'll be forced to hook up with women much closer to your own age.

Look you don't have to agree with me, that's your right. What I want is children. The best scenario to have those children is a committed, long term relationship. You don't have to get married, but I think its important to tie that knot. If you have an emotional investment and she takes the same investment seriously there is nothing to fear.

Your job is not to disappoint your woman. Its near impossible to battle back from that. So if your inclinations are to f**k other women, then don't get married. My inclinations are not to do that, no interest in it, so married is the best option for me.


Please tell me you aren't getting married for religious reasons.

Having children with western women is a dangerous proposition and I suspect you've never been married before.

You don't even know what you're doing.

Once you have kids, that's when the woman really holds it over your head and she then has the power in the relationship.

What country are you going to get married in? If it's a western country, you are in deep trouble.

But only you know what's best for you. If you're marrying a western woman, you'll learn the hard why like many married men.

When this happens, don't say I didn't warn you.


Have I mentioned religion? I guess that means you haven't been around here long enough I never use that as an reason or excuse.

I don't even know what I'm doing? Again you haven't been here long enough to make those judgement calls, demerit.

Define Western Country or do you mean Anglo Country? No place is perfect, utopia or paradise and I'm not a fear monger which seems to be your M.O. I see no point in hooking up with indigenous women from developing countries to so-called prevent contact with Western Culture, keep her dumb or as others would say "Ignorance Is Bliss".

Thanks for basing your post on little to nothing, not on personal experience but other people's experience if that.


Fear mongering???

Sometimes people win the lottery and sometimes a person hits a shot from full court. I'm not willing to take that chance.

What makes you so sure that you're going to beat the odds of all of the marriage failures?

Whenever you get married, you're putting your life in the hands of the central bankers who control this world. If that doesn't scare you then you're a fool.

If you go through with marriage, I know you're smart enough to get a pre-nup.

If you're fine with the sex possibly stopping, giving up half of your worth and paying your lovely ex-wife money until she dies or remarries, then I congratulate you.

I do wish you success but the Rockafellers have even more lovely surprises for marriage and the family unit!

Mwwwuahahaha!

Every guy who has gotten raped in the courts said the same foolishness as you are.

I hope that you have an exit strategy before the 10 years are up.

Of course, you don't want fear to rule your every move in life but you best believe that if I am going to go into the domain of the lions, I will pack some assault rifles.


Like I said, all you suggest is I be fearful of possible sh*t that could happen.

What is your solution, more individualism? That's what some men around her propose.

What your selling is fear mongering, Oooo don't marry a western woman, hell don't get married at all, you'll loose your ass in divorce court.

Sigh, there are plenty of reasons for divorce and its usually who you marry... Shock, Horror.

This is my last reply to you because frankly you appear to know it all.
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Postby Maker55 » Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:42 pm

djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
Maker55 wrote:Good luck with alimony and community property!


What is this suppose to mean? I know what Alimony is, but Community Property???

I always love these anti-marriage types, they have never offered me a reasonable alternative.

I can argue that prostitution cost less money up front but more money in the long run and if you have a regular the same relationship issues will surface.

So I guess your solution would be any P4P girl that gets to clingy, toss her for a new one. Just how often are you suppose to do that?

The reality is Men have a limited shelf life as well. Not as short as a woman's but beyond a certain point, most women won't find you appealing and you'll be forced to hook up with women much closer to your own age.

Look you don't have to agree with me, that's your right. What I want is children. The best scenario to have those children is a committed, long term relationship. You don't have to get married, but I think its important to tie that knot. If you have an emotional investment and she takes the same investment seriously there is nothing to fear.

Your job is not to disappoint your woman. Its near impossible to battle back from that. So if your inclinations are to f**k other women, then don't get married. My inclinations are not to do that, no interest in it, so married is the best option for me.


Please tell me you aren't getting married for religious reasons.

Having children with western women is a dangerous proposition and I suspect you've never been married before.

You don't even know what you're doing.

Once you have kids, that's when the woman really holds it over your head and she then has the power in the relationship.

What country are you going to get married in? If it's a western country, you are in deep trouble.

But only you know what's best for you. If you're marrying a western woman, you'll learn the hard why like many married men.

When this happens, don't say I didn't warn you.


Have I mentioned religion? I guess that means you haven't been around here long enough I never use that as an reason or excuse.

I don't even know what I'm doing? Again you haven't been here long enough to make those judgement calls, demerit.

Define Western Country or do you mean Anglo Country? No place is perfect, utopia or paradise and I'm not a fear monger which seems to be your M.O. I see no point in hooking up with indigenous women from developing countries to so-called prevent contact with Western Culture, keep her dumb or as others would say "Ignorance Is Bliss".

Thanks for basing your post on little to nothing, not on personal experience but other people's experience if that.


Fear mongering???

Sometimes people win the lottery and sometimes a person hits a shot from full court. I'm not willing to take that chance.

What makes you so sure that you're going to beat the odds of all of the marriage failures?

Whenever you get married, you're putting your life in the hands of the central bankers who control this world. If that doesn't scare you then you're a fool.

If you go through with marriage, I know you're smart enough to get a pre-nup.

If you're fine with the sex possibly stopping, giving up half of your worth and paying your lovely ex-wife money until she dies or remarries, then I congratulate you.

I do wish you success but the Rockafellers have even more lovely surprises for marriage and the family unit!

Mwwwuahahaha!

Every guy who has gotten raped in the courts said the same foolishness as you are.

I hope that you have an exit strategy before the 10 years are up.

Of course, you don't want fear to rule your every move in life but you best believe that if I am going to go into the domain of the lions, I will pack some assault rifles.


Like I said, all you suggest is I be fearful of possible sh*t that could happen.

What is your solution, more individualism? That's what some men around her propose.

What your selling is fear mongering, Oooo don't marry a western woman, hell don't get married at all, you'll loose your ass in divorce court.

Sigh, there are plenty of reasons for divorce and its usually who you marry... Shock, Horror.

This is my last reply to you because frankly you appear to know it all.


People change.

Many people will put on their good side until you marry them... then they change.

I don't think you'll even know a person's true colors until you marry them.

A person will show you their best side....until you marry them.

Like I said, if you're going to get married, please get a pre-nup.
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Postby All_That_Is_Man » Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:53 pm

I'm afraid there is no changing his mind if he wants to get married. Furthermore, I heard that a pre-nup doesn't protect you from shit. The best solution is to not get married, but since dj wants to get married, well we can give him our best advice against it, but we can't stop him. My older brother is in the same boat. Sometimes the only real solution is to just watch their life become a trainwreck after the money-hungry whore that they put a ring on takes him to the cleaners. The sad reality.
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Postby eurobrat » Sun Jul 08, 2012 3:18 pm

Just don't choose the wrong one. Most of you guys won't believe me but in honesty the best women for marriage are the religious ones Catholics and Christians where divorce is not an option.
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Postby djfourmoney » Sun Jul 08, 2012 7:10 pm

All three of you have issues....

People change? Well gosh darn it Bubba I didn't know that... As I keep asking, now I will ask two of the three and you figure it out -

What is your alternative?

Stable relationships are much more attractive than bouncing around from woman to woman on whim which this is seems like many are promoting.

All of you are SINGLE by the way, so that constitutes neither of you know what your talking about if I don't and again basing your opinions on other people's misery.

Everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but you're not entitled to your own FACTS.

Everybody I know married to a woman NOT FROM AMERICA (born, lived more than 20 years, etc) is still married to that person. Including one married to a Russian woman he met far away from the Mail Order Bride scene and he's African-American.

I have to sort of laugh at these threads. I have two, three, four shouting "Don't get married!" Like that is some sort of death warrant. Its a choice you make nobody is putting a gun to your head, there is no gun to my head...

Then you do a little digging and then you have what I know are White Males posting (clear throat) "Oh the only women interested in Black Men are Wiggers"

Sigh... I'll wait for the day when there is a White Man that dresses up and makeup as a Black Man (think Soul Man) but better yet there was a White guy that did a string of robbers with an excellent Black mask; Live your life as a Black man, make these grandiose/stereotypical comments about something your not.

So let's me get this straight, I'm suppose to listen to a bunch of nearly bitter single men? People complain about Black women, I don't care about them. I understand what's happening but I don't listen to them, it makes no sense and turns logic on its head.

The reason why I don't post, "What should I do" is not because I won't like the answer because people conflate things and are myopic.

At the end of the day 27% sounds better than 52% and at the end of the day, I'll take my chances. I don't have anything to be financially ruined and guess what - NEITHER DO ANY OF YOU.
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Postby djfourmoney » Sun Jul 08, 2012 7:33 pm

eurobrat wrote:Just don't choose the wrong one. Most of you guys won't believe me but in honesty the best women for marriage are the religious ones Catholics and Christians where divorce is not an option.


So what your saying, is let me get this straight...

The only way to keep a woman from flying the nest is to clip her wings? Not so much barefoot, but church bound, every Sunday, even teaching Sunday School, church charities, etc.

What a bunch of ridiculous nonsense!

You got the first part right - Don't choose the wrong one and that's all you can really do.
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Postby djfourmoney » Sun Jul 08, 2012 7:34 pm

All_That_Is_Man wrote:I'm afraid there is no changing his mind if he wants to get married. Furthermore, I heard that a pre-nup doesn't protect you from shit. The best solution is to not get married, but since dj wants to get married, well we can give him our best advice against it, but we can't stop him. My older brother is in the same boat. Sometimes the only real solution is to just watch their life become a trainwreck after the money-hungry whore that they put a ring on takes him to the cleaners. The sad reality.


Sure you can change my mind, what do you got? I'm waiting for this one, it should be good. If you even mention prostitution I'll dismiss anything you say after that.

Good Luck
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Postby eurobrat » Sun Jul 08, 2012 8:27 pm

djfourmoney wrote:
eurobrat wrote:Just don't choose the wrong one. Most of you guys won't believe me but in honesty the best women for marriage are the religious ones Catholics and Christians where divorce is not an option.


So what your saying, is let me get this straight...

The only way to keep a woman from flying the nest is to clip her wings? Not so much barefoot, but church bound, every Sunday, even teaching Sunday School, church charities, etc.

What a bunch of ridiculous nonsense!

You got the first part right - Don't choose the wrong one and that's all you can really do.


I'm just saying it has a higher success rate. Look at the divorce rate in Italy 12%, not a coincidence.

I'm just saying pick a good girl, I laugh at American guys who marry the slutty 23 year old who's an 8 or 9 and get their heart ripped out.
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Postby All_That_Is_Man » Sun Jul 08, 2012 9:45 pm

djfourmoney wrote:
All_That_Is_Man wrote:I'm afraid there is no changing his mind if he wants to get married. Furthermore, I heard that a pre-nup doesn't protect you from shit. The best solution is to not get married, but since dj wants to get married, well we can give him our best advice against it, but we can't stop him. My older brother is in the same boat. Sometimes the only real solution is to just watch their life become a trainwreck after the money-hungry whore that they put a ring on takes him to the cleaners. The sad reality.


Sure you can change my mind, what do you got? I'm waiting for this one, it should be good. If you even mention prostitution I'll dismiss anything you say after that.

Good Luck


So is your newfound obsession with "marriage" based on actual love, or is it based on societal pressure to do so (e.g. "I'm this age and MUST get married", "my folks were THIS age when they married I MUST not wait any longer", etc.) from your mother or something? I gotta say, your entire stance on this decision sounds like peer pressure from the latter.
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Postby eurobrat » Sun Jul 08, 2012 9:58 pm

ATIM,

I kind of agree when you get older you kind of want a partner. Tons of benefits if it works out, dual income, sex more often, no more dating and dating games, children to look after you when you get older.

I have a Grandmother dying of brain cancer and with amnesia right now. She had 5 kids and 14 grandchildren including me. She has been well taken care of since she was diagnosed.
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Postby All_That_Is_Man » Mon Jul 09, 2012 2:32 am

eurobrat wrote:ATIM,

I kind of agree when you get older you kind of want a partner. Tons of benefits if it works out, dual income, sex more often, no more dating and dating games, children to look after you when you get older.

I have a Grandmother dying of brain cancer and with amnesia right now. She had 5 kids and 14 grandchildren including me. She has been well taken care of since she was diagnosed.


I agree with wanting a partner when you get older. I don't agree with your list of benefits, however. For instance, even if it "works out", marriage generally ends sex altogether, and a wife and kids generally demand all of the husband's earnings (whether for needs or for wants). That's good that your grandmother is very well taken care of, however in a lot of cases the children/grandchildren will stiff an aging parent for their money (e.g. laundering their will, coercing them to sign over retirement wages, putting them in a cheap nursing home, etc.).

I'm just glad that dj is at least considering a foreign woman (unlike my brother who is engaged to an American black female nearly 10 years older than him, who he met at the club! :?) Marrying a foreign woman is the smartest choice for the man, even though marriage of any sort is altogether a no-win complex for males.
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Postby djfourmoney » Mon Jul 09, 2012 6:04 am

eurobrat wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
eurobrat wrote:Just don't choose the wrong one. Most of you guys won't believe me but in honesty the best women for marriage are the religious ones Catholics and Christians where divorce is not an option.


So what your saying, is let me get this straight...

The only way to keep a woman from flying the nest is to clip her wings? Not so much barefoot, but church bound, every Sunday, even teaching Sunday School, church charities, etc.

What a bunch of ridiculous nonsense!

You got the first part right - Don't choose the wrong one and that's all you can really do.


I'm just saying it has a higher success rate. Look at the divorce rate in Italy 12%, not a coincidence.

I'm just saying pick a good girl, I laugh at American guys who marry the slutty 23 year old who's an 8 or 9 and get their heart ripped out.


I laugh at that too... Success Rate depends on so much people don't think about honestly.
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Postby djfourmoney » Mon Jul 09, 2012 6:11 am

All_That_Is_Man wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
All_That_Is_Man wrote:I'm afraid there is no changing his mind if he wants to get married. Furthermore, I heard that a pre-nup doesn't protect you from shit. The best solution is to not get married, but since dj wants to get married, well we can give him our best advice against it, but we can't stop him. My older brother is in the same boat. Sometimes the only real solution is to just watch their life become a trainwreck after the money-hungry whore that they put a ring on takes him to the cleaners. The sad reality.


Sure you can change my mind, what do you got? I'm waiting for this one, it should be good. If you even mention prostitution I'll dismiss anything you say after that.

Good Luck


So is your newfound obsession with "marriage" based on actual love, or is it based on societal pressure to do so (e.g. "I'm this age and MUST get married", "my folks were THIS age when they married I MUST not wait any longer", etc.) from your mother or something? I gotta say, your entire stance on this decision sounds like peer pressure from the latter.


Its not an obsession, how can you call it that? Where have you seen me mention or state society is pressuring me to do ANYTHING? Surely not have a full time job, surely not to "find a nice Black Girl", surely not buy a Honda or Toyota, etc, etc, etc. I am under no PRESSURE from anybody and I come this conclusion logically.

Again, no solution is forthcoming because, wait for it - YOU DON'T HAVE ONE!

As I said I am open to alternatives but as I said if they involve exchanging money for services I am not interested.
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