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What's the deal with Asian guilt

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MatureDJ
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What's the deal with Asian guilt

Post by MatureDJ » July 16th, 2012, 11:53 pm

I was reading this article about a thuggy Asian guy who now cooks "Asian soul food" (reminds of what Winston would have been had he been a thug and could cook, LOL.) In the article, he talks about "Asian guilt", which seems to be the guilt that Asian kids in America have for going a different way than the standard super hard working, high achieving stereotype. I know there are a lot of Asian Americans on this forum, so I am curious as to how this is. I am sure that by pursuing foreign women instead of the parents' friends' fat Asian daughter, you Asians are considered as not living up to the wishes of the family.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/arc ... us/259864/

BTW, I bet this thuggy guy gets nice white American women, since they like such thugs.

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Post by stillcode » July 17th, 2012, 3:43 am

I'm a half-asian American, but I ended up working just as hard as my hard working parents. They instilled in me a hard work ethic from an early age and that's why I've made it so far in life up to now.

As far as 'Asian guilt' is concerned, I never rebelled against what my family taught me. However, there are certain aspects of myself that certainly don't fit the stereotypical norm. My interest in foreign women started at an early age during junior high school. I was the tall, lanky, glasses wearing, smart, pimple-faced, nerdy kid in school and of course, the girls around me paid me no attention. So I continued to work hard, get good grades and vowed to have a happy and successful family just as my parents did, but with a girl from abroad. I figured that if these girls around me don't want me now while I'm still studying hard in school, then they aren't going to reap the benefits of all of my hard work later on when I become successful.

I don't find Asian women who were raised in America to be any more or less attractive than their fellow Americans. It's all about the character and values. An Asian woman from Asia is, to me, radically different from an Asian woman born in the western world. The attitudes and mannerisms are just completely different.

Now, I'm engaged to a loving, kind, hard working and beautiful foreign girl from Asia. Although she is from a different Asian country than that of my own heritage, I don't feel any guilt at all for not marrying of my own race. I would choose her a thousand times over any other girl. My parents are also in support of the two of us being in love and marrying. I've got no guilt for turning my back on modern American culture and the people that it produces.

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Post by Jester » July 17th, 2012, 5:16 am

stillcode wrote:.....I never rebelled against what my family taught me.

.....I was the tall, lanky, glasses wearing, smart, pimple-faced, nerdy kid in school and of course, the girls around me paid me no attention. So I continued to work hard, get good grades and vowed to have a happy and successful family just as my parents did, but with a girl from abroad. I figured that if these girls around me don't want me now while I'm still studying hard in school, then they aren't going to reap the benefits of all of my hard work later on when I become successful.


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Post by samurai_panda » July 17th, 2012, 8:42 am

Saving face and honoring your family's name is a huge thing in Asian culture.

Disgracing your family's name and reputation by being a drunk, a criminal, or some sort of social unapproved degenerate will cause great shame.

The shame and guilt alone plus the beatdown from strict Asian parents are enough to keep Asian kids in line.

Strict discipline and order is the mindframe of East Asian mentality. Otherwise, YOUR LIFE!!!!

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Post by Jester » July 17th, 2012, 10:06 am

Haha my dad was a wannabe Asian. Samurai swords, Muay Thai, PhD.... Maybe that's why I'm messed up..?
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