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The more feminist, westernized, economically developed a country, the more selfish, individualistic, materialistic, egoistic the country's people become and the more looks and money will matter for a man, as extreme hypergamy overrides familial and communal values.
Life is not black and white, there are women in every country who will overemphasize looks and money, but it's a matter of degree of prevalence. Because of the warped broken individualistic and materialistic, 'sex in the city' values of developed western and developed North east asian societies, this mentality is more prevalent in countries like the U.S. and Japan.
And in any case, these are often women who would make horrible long term partners and with whom the propensity to divorce is much higher.
If it were so simple as to be able to say simply that all women only value looks and money, and since there is a higher proportion of rich men in developed countries, then why are marriage rates much higher, average marriage ages lower and divorce rates lower in less developed countries?
For instance in China the rate of singlehood and average marriage ages are actually much lower than in developed Asian countries like Japan, Taiwan, Singapore. Consider that the average Singaporean or Japanese man makes 5-6 times what the average Chinese man makes. Yet marriage rates are much higher in China than Japan. Many Chinese men making less than 800 USD a month are getting married every year.
For this to be happening, it must be the case that in general, obsession with money, materialism, looks, status consciousness and obsessive egoism is less prevalent in China than in Japan or the USA. Hypergamy is more extreme in Japan and USA, where many women look at men only as atm machines with a dick. This is not to say that there aren't some Chinese women who are extremely materialistic, wealth obsessed and status conscious, especially in Shanghai, but as I said it's a matter of degree of prevalence. I've seen many good Chinese women in China, a far higher proportion than in countries like USA. The 'sicker' a country, the more 'sick' people there will be.
Looks and wealth matter to a degree wherever you go, but it's in especially materialistic, individualistic countries corrupted with 'sex in the city' values where they matter to such an extent that men are being oppressed. For instance what used to be a 60/40 rule could now be a 95/5 rule, where 5% of men can get 95% of the women, and most of the women have become horrible long term partners because they are so selfish and warped. More extreme hypergamy and less good women (due to social degradation) is definitely a deterioration, compared both to the past and less 'sick' countries.
If it was just all the same everywhere by default and no one country was ever worse off than another, then no man would have any reason to have any beef with feminism or 'sex in the city' values at all, because if it were all this bad by default from the start, then 'sex in the city values' would not have made any difference, but this is simply not the case. Even comparative studies in the world between for instance marriage rates, divorce rates, marriage ages and single-hood in China and Japan show that not all countries are the same in terms of the situation with women.
Alright WuFan we get the idea. Let's all run out and get plastic surgery like the Koreans. And spend 2 hours each day cleansing our face and putting on make-up. Then we'll be happy vain people! Not.
We are sick of American women because they have no substance, not because they have high standards. Their beauty is over-valued, if you've been around you'd know white women in Europe, even England/South Africa are FAR more beautiful than in the USA/Canada because they are less mongrelized, more feminine and less fat.
Different sub-cultures have different "prerequisites", everything depends on where you are, your age, and so on. Being beautiful is typically an advantage, but you can't just group all the situations together as if being a success/failure in one ensures your success/failure in another. Just because bimbos on dating sites or at night clubs care purely about looks does not mean all women are like this. For one thing the "women" you used as an example are not even interested in serious relationships, they are mentally unstable pill-heads after one-night stands to "boost their ego" as they call it. You laugh at us for spouting PUA propaganda but you're the one thinking like one of those dickheads. Stop reacting to women.
ItÂ´s very simple.
Setup a dating profile with a broke male model looking guy without any education. HeÂ´ll get dozens of messages from hot girls.
Then set up a profile with an average looking guy with tons of status and a high paying job. HeÂ´ll get almost 0 messages.
Now you could argue online dating is different from real life, but itÂ´s not.
Yes, tons of money and status can get you girls (hollywood status), but they wonÂ´t be sexually attracted to you. Only looks can get a girl sexually attracted to you.
All you need to do is leave the house and go to a place with a lot of couples. YouÂ´ll notice that hot girls only date hot guys, average women dating average guys (a lot of times they date hot guys, too) and ugly women dating ugly guys (sometimes average or even hot guys).
Money and status is completely overrated on here. Women only care about looks because they can make their own money. They donÂ´t need men.
Height is part of looks...
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Let the "but I have an ugly 4ft11 friend that dates hot girls all the time" butthurt responses come!
Use the video camera on your phone and set up a time and place to meet up with each and every woman who said yes. I would bet that NONE of them show up. They will all flake.
Women are just as intimidated by good looks as men are. It is good in theory for them, but they completely lack courage. They will not show.
If one did show, she'd have to make it about her. That means she'd have to go out of her way to make the man into something terrible and lower than dirt. This way she can reject him and feel better about herself.
Do you know how some people have to make fun of others to temporarily relieve their anxiety about their own inferiority complexes? Well these women dont consider men to be partners. Men are adversaries to be beaten, and the woman must always win. They are feminists right?
Even better than conquering a man by having sex with him (there is no such thing as a woman conquering a man) is cockteasing a very good looking man and leaving him on the shelf. The very rejection of the man itself proves that she is better than him, because if she were not better than him, she would have never been in the position to reject him. (It is one of those catch-22 circular logic bits they use.) What better way to prove how hot you are than by rejecting someone hotter than you, thereby elevating your status?
Only exception would be some woman who thinks she is exceptionally good looking, but you wouldnt find her advertising herself online. They have too much pride for that. And it'd still be all about her.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.
I agree with this. If the good looking guy has an average income, he better be taller than 6'1'' and the women must be slightly afraid that he would pummel them (or anyone) if he got angry. Some tattoos in obvious places makign him unemployable would do the trick well.
Otherwise he would need to have money and lots of it.
If he is just good looking, the women will find (or invent) a reason to dump him after they have initially given him positive signals.
People I know often wonder how so many girls can flake on me. I get to meet lots of women, and I initially pass most women's tests. In fact, I can say that usually if there is a girl I find attractive I can usually get very close to her and *almost* date them. Women are *usually* physically attracted to me. Just they ALWAYS find a reason to flake.
Then everyone else thinks I am defective, lacking in social skills or some other major flaw. The thing is, it is American women, not me.
I might get more shots at women than the average guy but 100% of those shots are failures.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.
I must say, I agree with this reasoning. Women are FAR more egotistical than men and a lot of women emulate this behavior perfectly.
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"Woman is a violent and uncontrolled animal... If you allow them to achieve complete equality with men, do you think they will be easier to live with? Not at all. Once they have achieved equality, they will be your masters." Cato the Elder
Here is something else about women that shows their true nature.
I'm a good looking guy, with blonde hair and blue eyes and a very athletic body, and I get a lot of girls attention anywhere and everywhere I go.
But check this out....
Let's say I'm going to Whole Foods, which for the most part is the only place I ever go. And let's say there is a girl there who think I'm attractive or whatever, and she gives me that smile like she is interested, and let's say I don't go talk to her or ask her out. She will continue to give me that smile for awhile, and then one day since I don't ever ask her out I now become the enemy to her, and she will ignore me now.
This happens to me all the time....
It's funny, some guys here are obviously not good looking and they think if you do have looks you have everything. So what's my problem? Why don't I go out with some of these girls?
Well for one thing they just don't interest me, and the reason is something bigger and larger than I can put my finger on.
Even now that I've come to the point where I don't give a shit anymore about finding the right girl, or that a girl isn't good enough for me, (which is the way I truly honestly feel) but even so I still cannot get myself to go out with one of these girls.
Maybe an Asian girl I would, that is very possible, but never a white girl, you can forget about that, if all I had to choose from was white girls then I'll cut my balls off and become a f***ing Eunuch....
White women in the USA are bitches beyond description, f***ing worthless two bit c**ts with a f***ing attitude that is so bad now just talking to one for two minutes is like talking to a c**t who has nothing but f***ing hate within her heart, pure evil and hate and resentment.
The only reason she looks and smiles is because she needs some dick.....
I'd go ahead and give her some dick but I cannot stand these f***ing c**ts, I cannot bring myself down to that level to even talk to them let alone take them out and kiss them.
But this is the way women are like, they are so fake it's not even funny, and personally I believe women are fake everywhere in the world, and that as a man you need to get someplace else besides the USA and meet women who have a need and want to be with you, one beyond just needing some dick.....
It's funny, some guys here would die to have what I have in terms of getting women, and yet here I am and cannot even go out with one of these girls because they disgust me.
Maybe I'll just go ahead and move to the Philippines and get my own Harem of girls, and be the king of my own little world....
It is simple- in the fake world of online "dating" and the fanta-brain, reality TV show mentality that you are looking at.
The pretty boys you post up have NOTHING to do with reality, especially outside the USA, and like the observations about them, they are as useless as tits on a bull.
Your observations say FAR more about who goes to those dumb-ass websites as well as the idiotic "Game show of life" mentality that dominates much of US culture, a perspective you seem to believe is real universally. You really need to get out more.
I notice the examples of "good looks" you cite are very effeminate and in much of the world would be seen as faggots.
In a lot of the rest of the world, beyond the range of Jerry Springer, their looks and a few pesos will get them a cup of coffee.
At the very least, they would end up being somebody's bitch.
Long ago, Henry Kissinger, (Look him up) said it best, "Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac."
Good looks will help you, but an average ( I did not say hideously ugly. ) looking man with power and intelligent courage will do FAR better than the pretty he-bitches you post.
Any observation that might be made has to be looked at in the light of the world OUTSIDE the silly Disney USA mind, and especially outside the online world of mental masturbation that you are sampling.
Get out of the US box, live, take chances, risk your life, be in a war, do something really difficult, ride a motorcycle to the tip of South America, live in a third world country, face down pirates and kidnappers, get off the f***ing IDIOT USA amusement park ride and get a life. You are an intelligent person no doubt, but you are playing in a very small sandbox.
Do these things, and somewhere along the way you would remember what I am telling you.
I remember some years back, sitting in a club in Barranquilla, Colombia with an older Colombiana woman from a political family there.
We were watching the dance floor from where we were eating on a balcony, and she observed, "The are some very handsome men here tonight, and some of them are very good dancers, but the most beautiful girl here tonight would rather leave with you."
Get out of the USA playhouse. Eat some dirt for 5 years, then come back and tell us what the world tastes like.
But seriously, I see some lowly dudes upgrade their right hand and get fattys.
No doubt, the police always take bitches side. f***ing useless!
I would rather make $2000 a month working for myself, then $4000 a month working for a bitch.
I understand that sentiment. I personally would rather jerk off than degrade myself by f***ing a white bitch(American). I personally can not understand why any men are with them and tolerate their shit.Licking a public toilet set would be safer than licking their twat.
I would rather make $2000 a month working for myself, then $4000 a month working for a bitch.
I live in europe and I dont really see europeans as whites.... europeans have a distinctive culture of their own that sort of sets them apart from americans or canadians.
World traveler, questions about women from a certain country? Ask!!! I can help