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Would you be with woman that had 3some in the past?

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Re: Would you be with woman that had 3some in the past?

Post by Teal Lantern » November 19th, 2012, 4:59 am

Banano wrote:Would you be dating this kind of woman that admits having 3some with 2 random guys, complete stranges(met them on a day of 3some) she met while on holiday.

She is in her early 20s and have about 14 guys under her belt according to her, prbbly half one night stands

Marriage is her ultimate goal and she doesnt think of herself as a slut,

Now this probably sounds extreme but she says that she feels like shes done nothing bad compared to some other girls who are slutting it up like theres no tommorow(her friends included), unfortunately I feel she is right about that, her record isnt that bad when you compare. Sad but true.

Is this type of woman a 'new virgin' in the west
Where do you draw a line and how many dicks is too many?
Would you be serial with this girl or just have it as FB if possible


You are within your rights to have a No Rings for Sluts policy.
Taking the leap of faith that this girl's notch count is true -- if you disqualify the ones that give you an honest high number (let's call this Group C), then you are left with
Group A) the (few) needles in the haystack that have a low or zero notch count
-- AND --
Group B) the many more that will rationalize (lie to themselves and to you) the notch count down to something that's "not so bad".

The question then becomes how to tell the Group A (chaste) from the Group B (liars)
BTW, the liars have some impressive tools in their kit. From cheap to expensive...

www.hymenshop.com
www.lasertreatments.com/hymenoplasty.html

The biggest slag in town can now bleed like a virgin, on her wedding night.
Ain't technology grand? :roll:
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Post by terminator » November 19th, 2012, 9:54 am

I would as she can have more 3-somes with me and one other person (hopefully a girl) or I could try a double penetration as it looks hot on porn.

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Post by Banano » November 19th, 2012, 10:20 am

Women get jaded faster coz every time they have sexual encounter they invest great deal of emotions even if it is one night stand; man on the other hand can just do it mechaniclly without any emotion whatsoever, just another hole right.
Thats why women cant understand how man can sleep around and still love one woman as they looking at things from their perspective where every time they get laid emotions are playing part in it.

back to this women, yes I wanted relationship where I could experiment with 3somes with other female and her but she was so against it, basically she wanted to redeem herself and be nice from now onwards. Just proves how f***ed up and unstable women are, one moment she is big time hoe and the next she want to forget history and pretend she is something shes not, who the fuk is to say that she wont change her mind again when hormones kicks in (event beyond her control) and want to experiment with 5 people?

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Post by lavezzi » November 19th, 2012, 11:27 am

lone_yakuza wrote:If society viewed cheating or being unfaithful as a capital offense, I guarantee that NOBODY would have jealousy issues because they are too afraid to have their dicks chopped off or too afraid of being drawn and quartered to even contemplate cheating on their partner. In this case, fear is necessary because that is the only way to control humans who cannot control their own libido and are unfaithful or dishonorable.


making promiscuity punishable by law is not a good solution. if people already have access to sex with a proper partner and they are still seeking it from others it is due to deeper reasoning born out of unconsciousness and societal conditioning, that is what needs to be solved. the entire mind frame of humanity is corrupted and getting worse. we cannot give more power away to government and expect it to fix things. the solution will have to come from the bottom up by way of a shift in global consciousness, as incredibly unlikely as it seems, i beleive its possible.

i hold the same principles as you in regards to sex, although in the past i visited pr0stitutes to ease desire but i will never need to again. just out of curiosity, what is your stance on pr0stitution and how it should fit into society?

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Post by Ginger » November 19th, 2012, 1:29 pm

Banano wrote:publicduende/ginger

How many is too many in your opinion,where do you draw the line?10, 100,..?

What if she experimented with 5 guys instead of 2, would that make difference and why?



Actually I would draw the line with 1 sex partner per session (lol @ session). As for number of guys to be with, hopefully just 1 with whom a woman will end up together, but we know that doesn't really happen (like in case of break-up), so if a woman has sex with a guy she is going serious is, then that is fine with me, but if she would have sex randomly, then that is wrong, because she is seriously messing herself up.

In my field, I do cross paths with people who support/practice deviant sexual behavior/tendencies, so I've learned to be tolerant of people as long as they do not include me or force me to embrace what they do. For instance, there are some men and women who gets a kick out of threesomes and orgies. As long as they do it safely and responsibly, also do not pass STDs and STIs then I am okay with that...and just because I tolerate them does not mean I have the same predilection nor beliefs.

Now as for men, personally, I find it difficult to take a guy seriously if he has a habit of sleeping around. However, I do know men who are blatant womanizers who did turn into loyal and honorable men when they found someone to take seriously (my bestfriend is one of these guys). Let me be clear that I do not advocate nor support men sleeping around, but if they do, then so be it...though that makes them less desirable in my eyes, no matter if the guy looks like a god.

Again, for women, (personally) I am okay if she did have previous experience, but the context in which she engaged in those activities is a very important consideration. I do not advocate nor support women sleeping around, but if some do, then they should find men who finds those kind of behavior tolerable or even perhaps arousing, and not force someone who cannot accept their actions into choosing them.

As for notch count, my personal take is, less is best, and that goes for both sexes. If other people are into scoreboards and cannot keep their pants up, then I am fine with that, but I shall find it very very difficult to associate with them on a personal level or to take them seriously, call it prejudice if you will.

My personal beliefs are not the same as what I tolerate with people, because I believe in respect, and quite simply, one cannot mold persons into some imaginary standard/mold.
I do not promise to be gingerly :P

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Post by ladislav » November 19th, 2012, 2:00 pm

If America were the last country in the world and I had a choice of her vs. no woman, then maybe. Otherwise, why have her if there are plenty others who are not like that.

An unusual case in point- when I was in Manila I dated one girl who acted like a prude and took her mother with her every time she went to meet me. She later told me though that she had been molested by her step father who after years of doing it to her had a stroke- serve him right- and that her mother did not stand up for her, she just let it happen- I guess he was supporting them both. So, there you have a ...threesome! I immediately broke up with her- a horrible thing -but why pretend to be a prude and look at me down your nose if you come from an incestuous household?
A brain is a terrible thing to wash!

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Re: Куда п

Post by ladislav » November 19th, 2012, 3:59 pm

Извините Госпожа, тут мы не в России так что не знаем.
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Post by Teal Lantern » November 19th, 2012, 4:45 pm

Banano wrote:back to this women, yes I wanted relationship where I could experiment with 3somes with other female and her but she was so against it, basically she wanted to redeem herself and be nice from now onwards. Just proves how f***ed up and unstable women are, one moment she is big time hoe and the next she want to forget history and pretend she is something shes not, who the fuk is to say that she wont change her mind again when hormones kicks in (event beyond her control) and want to experiment with 5 people?


Ah, the "reformed slut" gambit. :roll: Ab-so-lute-ly not.
The bad boy ONSs get 31 flavors -- whenever, wherever, and however they want it.
The nice guy provider gets vanilla -- only -- sometimes -- grudgingly. Oh, and he gets to pay her bills.

E.g. watch from 10:00 to 12:00 to see how/why that plays out.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sB3jn3TF3Y4[/youtube]

When she changes her mind ... she'll go find some bad boys to cheat with.
The provider guy will still get vanilla, if anything at all. The kids might really be his. :roll:
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Post by OutWest » November 19th, 2012, 6:28 pm

Teal Lantern wrote:
Banano wrote:back to this women, yes I wanted relationship where I could experiment with 3somes with other female and her but she was so against it, basically she wanted to redeem herself and be nice from now onwards. Just proves how f***ed up and unstable women are, one moment she is big time hoe and the next she want to forget history and pretend she is something shes not, who the fuk is to say that she wont change her mind again when hormones kicks in (event beyond her control) and want to experiment with 5 people?


Ah, the "reformed slut" gambit. :roll: Ab-so-lute-ly not.
The bad boy ONSs get 31 flavors -- whenever, wherever, and however they want it.
The nice guy provider gets vanilla -- only -- sometimes -- grudgingly. Oh, and he gets to pay her bills.

E.g. watch from 10:00 to 12:00 to see how/why that plays out.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sB3jn3TF3Y4[/youtube]

When she changes her mind ... she'll go find some bad boys to cheat with.
The provider guy will still get vanilla, if anything at all. The kids might really be his. :roll:



You can be a provider and a King...and Lord of the Manor. The "How to get a slut" dude is good at what he does...I guess someone has to keep the sluts serviced. In my world and others, he would be a bitch and not last 2 seconds.

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Re: Would you be with woman that had 3some in the past?

Post by gsjackson » November 19th, 2012, 7:36 pm

[quote="publicduende
I still remember one of my first posts on the forum was asking for your opinion on the matter of swinging as way to engage in a more libertine and playful sexual life while retaining the benefits of love and respect from a single partner. I don't know the swinging scene too much as I never tried myself, but if I were to try with my wife, the first rule would be that both of us would have to get a fair share of the "action" and the enjoyment coming from one such lifestyle.[/quote]

Fodder indeed for cornfed -- you being voluntarily cuckolded. I'd be very interested to see what he would make of that.

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Post by djfourmoney » November 19th, 2012, 7:51 pm

Fallouts wrote:
djfourmoney wrote:
I would date and marry a hoe or a p**n actress, nobody has given me a reason why not without some fear mongering (loose p***y, high expectations, outed in public) or religious overtones.



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Doesn't take a great leap of faith to realize that someone who is having sex with multiple partners ultimately will have a harder time settling down with just 1 person for the rest of their lives.


That is a simplistic explanation. There is this expectation among some men, something I have seen for 20-25 years now that some segments of society, especially White men want a wife who is pure as snow but a complete freak in the bedroom with no prior experience...

How the hell do you accomplish that???

But here's how it actually should read:

"I want a woman that will suck on d*ck on demand and when I want to experiment with anal, BDSM or anything else out of the mainstream I want her to not put up a fuss or say no."

God forbid that the woman you hooked yourself up too is a complete freak sexually and that somehow puts off men as to her being loose or having multiple sex partners.

Judgmental much?

If a woman is suppose to accept your wild sexual escapades, isn't that the height of hypocrisy?

Further, I understand that MOST OF YOU AREN'T f***ing AT ALL (less than 10 partners). So what does that mean? That means your sexual experience is LIMITED.

Talk about unrealistic expectations...

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Re: Would you be with woman that had 3some in the past?

Post by publicduende » November 19th, 2012, 9:25 pm

gsjackson wrote:
publicduende wrote:I still remember one of my first posts on the forum was asking for your opinion on the matter of swinging as way to engage in a more libertine and playful sexual life while retaining the benefits of love and respect from a single partner. I don't know the swinging scene too much as I never tried myself, but if I were to try with my wife, the first rule would be that both of us would have to get a fair share of the "action" and the enjoyment coming from one such lifestyle.


Fodder indeed for cornfed -- you being voluntarily cuckolded. I'd be very interested to see what he would make of that.


Maybe you, but I couldn't care less about his "opinion"...
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Post by publicduende » November 19th, 2012, 9:35 pm

Banano wrote:Women get jaded faster coz every time they have sexual encounter they invest great deal of emotions even if it is one night stand; man on the other hand can just do it mechaniclly without any emotion whatsoever, just another hole right.
Thats why women cant understand how man can sleep around and still love one woman as they looking at things from their perspective where every time they get laid emotions are playing part in it.

back to this women, yes I wanted relationship where I could experiment with 3somes with other female and her but she was so against it, basically she wanted to redeem herself and be nice from now onwards. Just proves how f***ed up and unstable women are, one moment she is big time hoe and the next she want to forget history and pretend she is something shes not, who the fuk is to say that she wont change her mind again when hormones kicks in (event beyond her control) and want to experiment with 5 people?


Given the fact she only tried it once and had the honesty (read "guts") to tell you, didn't it occur to you that perhaps:
1) she genuinely didn't like the experience and determined not to repeat it?
2) the timing of that subsequent request of yours was completely wrong? You only seriously talk about such things when you know the relationship is solid enough and both parties have built a buffer of trust towards the other.

Some of you guys' clumsiness and naivety with women is so blatant sometimes, that it's really hard to stay quiet while you blame the opposite sex for all you don't, can't, or won't do with them.

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