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No desire to get married???

Postby mguy » December 6th, 2012, 6:12 am

I have no desire to get married. I'm 28. Is this normal? haha

I don't see the point of it. Maybe cuz I'm jaded in the USA and read too many men complaining and recounting their experiences. But yeah, I have zero zilch absolutemente nada desire to get hitched.

I can't fathom guys looking for brides online. Maybe ill kick myself in arse in the future but I just dont feel it right now.

If it happens I will let it happen, but I doubt i'll get into that.

I do however want dates. Good quality females to pick and choose from to become GFs, and I would treat her right. That would be amazing.
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Postby mguy » December 6th, 2012, 6:23 am

website like this does not help

http://marriedmansexlife.com/take-the-red-pill/
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Postby Ghost » December 6th, 2012, 7:12 am

I have no desire and am completely unwilling to take part in marriage 2.0. I've only ever been interested in traditional marriage. It isn't that I don't desire it, but it is fraught with pitfalls to pursue it. And then once you achieve it, you have to protect it, which is hard to do without a community where men guard each other and each others' families.

If we are talking about marriage 2.0, then I would sooner take a bullet to the head than do that.

Anyway, always remember that as a man, your value will tend to rise as you age, whereas for women it will decline as they age.

So waiting can only help you when it comes to marriage. Take care of everything else important first and marriage will be there. And always tread cautiously if you ever get the desire to do so.

Are you part of MGTOW by any chance?
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Postby mguy » December 6th, 2012, 7:31 am

Ionno, guys my age seem to be focusing on this aspect of their life more and more, while I have less and less desire of it. I had to be the guy who took the red pill and read up on all this shit instead of being the beta sycophant worker drone type.

I just want female companionship from time to time, nothing serious. I dont even think females should be a big part of my life, but i find the topic of love/dating so grossly interesting.

The girls at my age are looking less and less attractive. I am also now well versed with female ways of thinking (thank you internet) and from observations in the field. Combined I have little respect for women and have become douchebag without even trying compared to my younger innocent days.

If I get married I want a hot girl. Pretty girl. The package. I dont ill get that here in USA at the price i'm willing to pay (metophorically) so I'm looking abroad and see what's out there. But I don't want that yet. Like I said, I don't feel any urge to get hitched.
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Re: No desire to get married???

Postby sushiman » December 6th, 2012, 7:45 am

mguy wrote:I have no desire to get married. I'm 28. Is this normal? haha

I don't see the point of it.


Trust our instincts. Yeah, when I was 28 the thought never even crossed my mind. I was busy doing other things, always had a GF but she wasn't my priority, when she started in with the "marriage thing" the relationship would end. I'd find a new GF, repeat cycle. Then later things changed suddenly, and I was ready for it. It was at that point I realized, while I was ready, the local women were hopeless.

That's when I started traveling around the world and exploring. Try to get around while you are still in your 20s, it can be a life changing experience.
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Re: No desire to get married???

Postby S_Parc » December 6th, 2012, 2:44 pm

sushiman wrote:Yeah, when I was 28 the thought never even crossed my mind. I was busy doing other things, always had a GF but she wasn't my priority, when she started in with the "marriage thing" the relationship would end. I'd find a new GF, repeat cycle. Then later things changed suddenly, and I was ready for it. It was at that point I realized, while I was ready, the local women were hopeless.


For me, it was the opposite. I was more interested in marriage during my late teens/early 20s. After I'd gone cold turkey on AWs at 24, I said f' it because as I'd traveled the world on business, I'd realized that that marriage thing was an American sort of straightjacket, not a natural yearning for me.
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Postby Teal Lantern » December 6th, 2012, 4:30 pm

Ghost wrote:I have no desire and am completely unwilling to take part in marriage 2.0. I've only ever been interested in traditional marriage. It isn't that I don't desire it, but it is fraught with pitfalls to pursue it. And then once you achieve it, you have to protect it, which is hard to do without a community where men guard each other and each others' families.

If we are talking about marriage 2.0, then I would sooner take a bullet to the head than do that.

Anyway, always remember that as a man, your value will tend to rise as you age, whereas for women it will decline as they age.

So waiting can only help you when it comes to marriage. Take care of everything else important first and marriage will be there. And always tread cautiously if you ever get the desire to do so.

Are you part of MGTOW by any chance?


Even marriage 1.0 wasn't a panacea for men, if you look closely enough at it, but it did have some community respectability. These days, the risks and contempt are all out in the open. At least the blinders are off and a man in his 20s~30s has a full life ahead of him with all the tech and choices that will bring.

You all are luckier than the older fellows who signed up under 1.0 and woke up one day under 2.0.

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Postby Ghost » December 7th, 2012, 5:14 am

We may need a term even more conservative than 'Marriage 1.0." I know I am desirous of something as pro-husband/man as possible. Severe punishments for adultery (woman being unfaithful or man sleeping with another man's wife) would be a good start.

People often reference the 50s in the U.S. as a prim and proper and better time, when marriage was better. I disagree with that. It was better, I'm sure, but was the tail end of a superior culture. So it was better than the shit we have today, but was inferior to what it deteriorated from.
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Postby Jester » December 7th, 2012, 7:39 am

Teal Lantern wrote:
You all are luckier than the older fellows who signed up under 1.0 and woke up one day under 2.0.


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Postby Jacaré » December 7th, 2012, 6:29 pm

I don't have the slightest desire to get married. I almost got married a couple of times in the past but thanks God they didn't pan out. The more I travel around the world and interact with beautiful, friendly, feminine women from overseas and the more I read about what it's like to be married here in North America, the less and less I want to get married. Not even to a so called traditional girl in a more male friendly environment like in Asia or Eastern Europe. I mean, would you be able to eat the same food every single time? even if it were 5 star Michelin rated gourmet food? You'd get tired of it after 2-3 weeks straight of eating the same food. So imagine having the same woman in your life, sleeping all the time with her. She might be ok while she's still young and sexy but once she gets into her 40's, you couldn't even be paid all the money in the world to sleep with her. I've been having a lot of people around me (99% being females wonder why and never ever have I had a married man telling me to get married, wonder why...lol) question me about when am I going to finally "settle down" or worst "man up" (by manning up meaning to get married, buy a house, get a JOB/Career and sign up for life imprisonment and bust my ass off to finance some lazy self entitled c**t? I'll gladly pass!lol).

Marriage is truly not for me. I might reconsider it in 10 years from now when I've found a truly wonderful woman that I can have a deep connection with and who won't bore me and be nagging. Only time will tell as to whether such a woman is out there...
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Postby S_Parc » December 7th, 2012, 7:03 pm

Jacaré wrote:I might reconsider it in 10 years from now when I've found a truly wonderful woman that I can have a deep connection with and who won't bore me and be nagging. Only time will tell as to whether such a woman is out there...


IMHO, don't count on this happening.
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Postby Billy » December 7th, 2012, 10:03 pm

I never wanted to get married. I never understood why others were so keen to marry. all my peers did marry. so something is wrong with me i suppose :)
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Postby marklambo » December 7th, 2012, 10:14 pm

getting married in America is financial suicide. There are plenty of men that oppose being married. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. Marriage is overrated and it's just a stupid piece of paper. Marriage is just an invitation to the government controlling you more.
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Postby Renata » December 8th, 2012, 12:27 am

love doesn't require marriage ... but marriage requires love.
food for thought, which is better?
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Postby marklambo » December 8th, 2012, 1:04 am

Renata wrote:love doesn't require marriage ... but marriage requires love.
food for thought, which is better?


Makes perfect sense. I always said that marriage is in the heart and not on a piece of a worthless document.
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