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Social Isolation and the USA?

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Postby sushiman » Sun Nov 10, 2013 12:16 am

It seems like after work in the USA, everyone just goes home and hides; orders a pizza and watches a movie.

Here in NE Asia when you get out of the office you can give your buddy a call, no notice, sure he's ready to go drink, flirt with some chicks, have fun.

When I'm back at our US office on business I've got to book drinks a week in advance with my old friends. If you just say "hey let's go grab a drink after work" people look at you like you're crazy. No, never do anything spontaneous and fun!!! And besides where would you go? Nothing fun to do there. It's not like they have room salons in the states...
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Postby Winston » Sun Nov 10, 2013 12:48 am

Winston wrote:
Richardrli wrote:Winston, with all your experience, I'd like to ask what is the best way to deal with the isolation and depressing social environment?


1. Find some hobbies.
2. Talk on the phone or skype with your friends.
3. Meet foreign women on dating sites and then talk to them on skype or the phone.
4. Go out and connect with nature to ground your mind and spirit.
5. Practice meditation and watch your thoughts so you won't be too attached to them.
6. Study history and philosophy to deepen your mind and cultivate a rich inner life.
7. Watch documentaries on YouTube and History Channel programs about subjects that you're interested in.
8. Or just go abroad of course. :)

Hope that helps.


Another thing you can do is to watch the movie "The Sound of Music". I just watched it again and it was VERY uplifting and full of life.

Maybe this will cheer you up. Here is Annie singing "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow". It's a very uplifting song. lol

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9_dBep_55mI[/youtube]
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Postby mguy » Mon Nov 11, 2013 5:22 am

Just an update guys. I am no longer feeling the social isolation as per my repatriation. What has it done?

-My well-being has increased.
-I am better able to focus on my work.

I remember going home from my little northeastern nook and just staring at the ceiling after a long days work. Now I have people texting me and inviting me over.. I actually decline most of these as I want to stay focused.

I still feel like an outsider though. The great thing about living in America is that you become efficient at becoming social. So i've utilized the same things like going to meetups, CS, groups, and stuff.
"So never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite and never outstay the welcome. Just keep your mind open and suck in the experience. And if it hurts, you know what? It's probably worth it."

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Postby mguy » Mon Nov 11, 2013 5:23 am

Winston wrote:
Winston wrote:
Richardrli wrote:Winston, with all your experience, I'd like to ask what is the best way to deal with the isolation and depressing social environment?


1. Find some hobbies.
2. Talk on the phone or skype with your friends.
3. Meet foreign women on dating sites and then talk to them on skype or the phone.
4. Go out and connect with nature to ground your mind and spirit.
5. Practice meditation and watch your thoughts so you won't be too attached to them.
6. Study history and philosophy to deepen your mind and cultivate a rich inner life.
7. Watch documentaries on YouTube and History Channel programs about subjects that you're interested in.
8. Or just go abroad of course. :)

Hope that helps.


Another thing you can do is to watch the movie "The Sound of Music". I just watched it again and it was VERY uplifting and full of life.

Maybe this will cheer you up. Here is Annie singing "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow". It's a very uplifting song. lol

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9_dBep_55mI[/youtube]


I was the artful dodger in our play back in California.
"So never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite and never outstay the welcome. Just keep your mind open and suck in the experience. And if it hurts, you know what? It's probably worth it."

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