Join John Adams, world renowned Intl Matchmaker, Thurs nights 8:30 EST for Live Webcasts with FREE Prizes!
And check out Five Reasons why you should attend a FREE Live AFA Seminar! See locations and details.


Scam free! Check out Christian Filipina - Meet Asian women with Christian values! Members screened.
Exclusive book offer! 75% off! How to Meet, Date and Marry Your Filipina Wife



View Active Topics       Latest 100 Topics       View Your Posts       FAQ Topics       Switch to Mobile


Do you relate better with older individuals?

Discuss and talk about any general topic.

Moderators: jamesbond, fschmidt

Postby Winston » Mon May 12, 2014 8:02 am

I noticed while hiking that the only people that will say hi to me are old people and little kids. Especially little kids under 5. Why is that?

Why are the people between little kids and old people so much more paranoid, cold and business-like than those at either extreme?

Even when you're young, it's hard to get along with young people for some reason.

Also, why do many older people like to talk a lot and get long-winded? Have you noticed that sometimes when you just ask them one question, they yak on and on? Why do they do that? Is it because they are lonely and ignored, or because they have a lot of knowledge and wisdom to share, or both?
Check out the latest posts in our blog The Happier Abroaders.

Don't forget my HA Grand Ebook and Dating Sites!

"It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne, How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World
User avatar
Winston
Site Admin
 
Posts: 23595
Joined: Sat Aug 18, 2007 1:16 pm







Postby Jester » Mon May 12, 2014 6:41 pm

Winston wrote:
Also, why do many older people like to talk a lot and get long-winded? Have you noticed that sometimes when you just ask them one question, they yak on and on? Why do they do that? Is it because they are lonely and ignored, or because they have a lot of knowledge and wisdom to share, or both?



Winston, I find it hard to believe that you ever ASKED just "one question".
Jester
Elite Upper Class Poster
 
Posts: 7869
Joined: Tue Jan 20, 2009 9:10 am
Location: Chiang Mai Thailand

Postby QuestionMark » Mon May 12, 2014 8:06 pm

Yes I have noticed that in certain ways I relate better to older people, and I consider that both a good and a bad thing.

Some older people are more mature, genuine, nicer, and down to earth. But also they can be annoying. A lot of them say they're looking for someone to talk to, but actually some are just looking for people to LISTEN to them talk. A conversation is two or more people talking to each other, not one person yapping the other's ear off just because they're old, lonely, and have a lot on their minds. And the thing is many of them aren't good listeners themselves.

I don't believe in the whole "respect your elders" nonsense, because some of them just use that to get you to respect them, but they won't respect you. I don't care how long someone has been on this earth, that in itself doesn't make them a good person, and entitled to ppl kissing their @$$. Respect has to be mutual. Also there are some old people who are condescending to younger people. Of course we can generalize when it comes to age, but there are some younger people who are intelligent, genuine, good people, and have knowledge and wisdom themselves, and there are some older people who are bitter, condescending, mean, and selfish.

But I have noticed that half of the good, deep, meaningful conversations I've had were with those who are older. At least they have something worth talking about in life.

Of course old people will just go up and talk to strangers. Young people generally won't do this, especially good looking women. Young people are all about being "cool". Unless you're perceived as cool, people won't talk to you, be friendly to you, or really include you socially. I'm ashamed to be in Gen Y. When I was growing up, young adults (even those college-aged), acted like adults. Now the norm is for young adults to act like immature, superficial kids. They're all about facebook, hanging out with the "cool", ignoring and dumping on the "non-cool". Nowadays society even tries to make this out to be a good thing by creating this "prolonged adolescence" or "emerging adulthood" bull$h!t. I don't believe in or support those. In this way, I agree with the old school, full adulthood at 18. And some teens and young adults will even give you crap if they feel like you're being too adult. Um, excuse me, being mature and acting like an adult (even at a young age) is a good thing. And that says something about young people today if that's seen as a bad thing and a reason for ridicule.

This makes it very hard for young people (especially men) to have an authentic, meaningful interaction or relationship with others. Because most others your own age are f@ck!ng dumb, cruel, or shallow, and others who are older might be more like you in some ways but they could be annoying, talk too much, don't listen, or are condescending to you because you're younger than them.
QuestionMark
Freshman Poster
 
Posts: 154
Joined: Thu Apr 17, 2014 5:03 am

Previous

Return to General Discussions

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 7 guests