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I best believe this is the funniest sh.it that Momopi has ever written on this site!!! #ROTFLMAOmomopi wrote:Hmm. .....I had this mental picture of guys eating there 5 days/week and leaving $100 tips. The replacement waitresses were not as pretty, so I haven't been back since.
Church is the worst place to go to meet nice people. The nastiest people I've ever met have been regular churchgoers. These are people who will pray for the lonely old widow down the street but won't actually go visit her.Christianfilipinacom wrote:Winston, you can start meeting people by volunteering or attending church services.
Guy. Your reply could be a whole independent thread on its own. You single-threadedly smacked it down!Hero wrote:Church is the worst place to go to meet nice people. The nastiest people I've ever met have been regular churchgoers. These are people who will pray for the lonely old widow down the street but won't actually go visit her.Christianfilipinacom wrote:Winston, you can start meeting people by volunteering or attending church services.
Winston wrote:.Winston wrote: While we were furniture shopping, I did meet this really hot, tall and sexy Chinese girl who was working there because her parents owned the place. After I made small talk with her for 5 minutes, my parents and aunt began leaving. So before I left, I asked if she had a number. Then she looked confused and said "number?" I then rephrased it and said "Yeah, number or QQ?" Then she said "Oh I don't use QQ" and slowly began edging away, as if she was blowing me off. Do you all think I should go back there and try to chat her up some more and maybe change her mind? lol. However, she is pretty tall, taller than me even I think, and may see me as too short for her. But oh man. She was so sexy, feminine and white. I was mesmerized by her. I kept thinking "If only I could marry someone like that..." I kept fantasizing about rolling on the nice bed at the furniture store with her. lol. Her parents also rent an apartment from my aunt, which is why we were there. So with all these connections, I don't know why no one ever introduces me to any girls or even thinks to. It's like everything is against you.
Wow. Wanna help me write my China dating guide? LOL! You definitely know Chinese people!celery2010 wrote:Winston wrote:.Winston wrote: While we were furniture shopping, I did meet this really hot, tall and sexy Chinese girl who was working there because her parents owned the place. After I made small talk with her for 5 minutes, my parents and aunt began leaving. So before I left, I asked if she had a number. Then she looked confused and said "number?" I then rephrased it and said "Yeah, number or QQ?" Then she said "Oh I don't use QQ" and slowly began edging away, as if she was blowing me off. Do you all think I should go back there and try to chat her up some more and maybe change her mind? lol. However, she is pretty tall, taller than me even I think, and may see me as too short for her. But oh man. She was so sexy, feminine and white. I was mesmerized by her. I kept thinking "If only I could marry someone like that..." I kept fantasizing about rolling on the nice bed at the furniture store with her. lol. Her parents also rent an apartment from my aunt, which is why we were there. So with all these connections, I don't know why no one ever introduces me to any girls or even thinks to. It's like everything is against you.
Winston, here's a few tips for you.
You are 40. If you are not willing to look good for women, at least try to look like you have money or have a professional job. Walk around in a dress shirt with a sports jacket. Get a used Lexus.
Take girls out to restaurants that are ok, but still cheap, like Olive Garden. You have to be strategic and invest.
You still act like a clueless high schooler. Even the guys in China are better with women than you are.
Once you look like you have money, you can start talking down to Chinese girls, especially if they are younger.
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As for the girl in the furniture store, you should have tested her, by flirting with her. If you get a positive reaction, then ask for her number. Many women need time to warm up to someone. DON'T ASK FOR HER NUMBER. Instead invite her a to a concert (use the whole, I have an extra ticket that my boss gave me and it will go to waste). In other words ask her out to an event that she would want to go to, and it just happens that you will be there.
On the night of the date, it's up to you to work your magic.
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Everything you said is true, America is the loneliest country in the world. The anti-social vibe in the United States can be seen in people's body language, they don't make eye contact with others, they don't talk to anyone and they act as if other people do not exist.Winston wrote:In America, the flow of life and the environment seems to revolve around the following consistent core norms:
1. Working or getting a job. This is considered the most important thing.
2. Shopping and consuming, since everything around you in civilization is commercialized.
3. Enjoying the privacy of your own home with your family, or alone.
4. You are not supposed to talk to strangers unless it's business related (e.g. talking to customer service). Neighbors may wave and say hello, but that's all.
The thing is, NONE of this is conducive to making friends, meeting people, or getting dates at all. It seems that virtually everything is built around the ASSUMPTION that you ALREADY have a partner/wife/girlfriend and that you ALREADY have a circle of friends to hang out with, and that these things are not an issue.
Have you ever noticed that? The catch 22 is this: If you don't already have a partner and a close circle of friends, then there's really no way to get one, at least not naturally and simply. In that case, you are screwed and you've hit a wall, because NONE of these cornerstones of American life above are conducive at all to GETTING a girlfriend or meeting girls! I mean, you can't just go out and "get one". You can't just go out and pick up a girl, ask for a date, or even chat up a girl, without looking like a creep or predator who is violating women's right to be left alone. As you know, you are only supposed to talk to strangers in America if it's business related (such as talking to someone in customer service). That's what everyone else does, so it must be the norm right?
So what I don't get is: How does society expect you to make friends and find love? It's kind of weird isn't it? Am I missing something here?
Also, how do couples who divorce or break up start dating other people again, as if it were a normal and easy thing to do, in spite of the above? How do "normal people" get around this? Am I missing something?
From what I'd observed, these folks tend to be in their late 30s to early 60s and thus, don't go to cityside bars/clubs. Instead, they join these college town (or suburban) book clubs, hiking clubs, meditation classes, and so forth.jamesbond wrote:Everything you said is true, America is the loneliest country in the world. The anti-social vibe in the United States can be seen in people's body language, they don't make eye contact with others, they don't talk to anyone and they act as if other people do not exist.
I was wondering myself how people meet their future spouses and how do people who get divorced find someone to date and remarry?
Winston, this is a good post. What you said reminds me of why foreigners come here to the States thinking that their life will be so grand, but they soon want to return to their home country and rather deal with a little less in life because life in America is so boring, depressing, and void of any meaningful human interaction.Winston wrote:Some new observations I have after being in America again. Here is a catch 22 I just realized.
In America, the flow of life and the environment seems to revolve around the following consistent core norms:
1. Working or getting a job. This is considered the most important thing.
2. Shopping and consuming, since everything around you in civilization is commercialized.
3. Enjoying the privacy of your own home with your family, or alone.
4. You are not supposed to talk to strangers unless it's business related (e.g. talking to customer service). Neighbors may wave and say hello, but that's all.
The thing is, NONE of this is conducive to making friends, meeting people, or getting dates at all. It seems that virtually everything is built around the ASSUMPTION that you ALREADY have a partner/wife/girlfriend and that you ALREADY have a circle of friends to hang out with, and that these things are not an issue.
Have you ever noticed that? The catch 22 is this: If you don't already have a partner and a close circle of friends, then there's really no way to get one, at least not naturally and simply. In that case, you are screwed and you've hit a wall, because NONE of these cornerstones of American life above are conducive at all to GETTING a girlfriend or meeting girls! I mean, you can't just go out and "get one". You can't just go out and pick up a girl, ask for a date, or even chat up a girl, without looking like a creep or predator who is violating women's right to be left alone. As you know, you are only supposed to talk to strangers in America if it's business related (such as talking to someone in customer service). That's what everyone else does, so it must be the norm right?
Is that f***ed up or what? lol. It's ridiculous how the movies make it look so easy to get dates or make friends, but in reality, the primary pillars of American life outlined above are totally NOT conducive to that at all! Doesn't that totally suck?
So what I don't get is: How does society expect you to make friends and find love? It's kind of weird isn't it? Am I missing something here?
Also, how do couples who divorce or break up start dating other people again, as if it were a normal and easy thing to do, in spite of the above? How do "normal people" get around this? Am I missing something?
Or could it be that we are just abnormal in that we aren't square like everyone else who is raising a family in the suburbs, has a stable job, and isn't asking any of these type of questions that I am here? I mean, if we were "normal" and had a home in the suburbs, a family to raise, and a normal job to go to, we wouldn't be on here talking about all this stuff right?
Does that make us weird losers or what? How come society or the media doesn't address this catch-22 I describe above? Do you ever wonder about that?
What do you all think? Am I missing something here? Is there a flaw in my linear logic here?