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Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby clowny » Wed May 29, 2013 2:05 pm

..who could not get a western woman to love them?

I have started to think seriously about getting a filipina, because let's face it, all that a westernised woman is going to bring to your marriage is problems; nagging, drama, bickering, arguments about money, etc. Whereas a filipina could bring you the following (I hope):

-cooking
-cleaning
-ironing
-having sex
-sucking your dick (although im not really into that)
-shutting the f**k up
-children

In other words, basically a maid who you can f**k. Can anybody here whose married to a filipina testify that they do the above? Or am I dreaming?
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Mr S » Wed May 29, 2013 2:30 pm

clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?

I have started to think seriously about getting a filipina, because let's face it, all that a westernised woman is going to bring to your marriage is problems; nagging, drama, bickering, arguments about money, etc. Whereas a filipina could bring you the following (I hope):

-cooking
-cleaning
-ironing
-having sex
-sucking your dick (although im not really into that)
-shutting the f**k up
-children

In other words, basically a maid who you can f**k. Can anybody here whose married to a filipina testify that they do the above? Or am I dreaming?


For the most part it's correct except for the sex part. The average Filipina will give you sex a lot if you want it but it's not very creative and they have hang ups about it. You gotta train them and that's if they even can get over their initial hangups which usually many can't. That's why a lot of Western guys get sucked into BG's cause many got over their sexual hangups or are a lot more open sexually then non BG Filipinas. Not saying that's a good or bad thing, just saying. If your a missionary guy then Filipinas are okay, if you want more creative or passionate sex in different posiitons/orifices or whatever Thai women are way more open-minded in that regard from my own experience. If you like porno sex stuff or have a high sex drive I'd look into another nationality.
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Postby Winston » Wed May 29, 2013 3:19 pm

Some of the guys are losers in that they have a-hole personalities that no one can stand and they turn everyone around them into an enemy because they are misanthropes who hate everyone. I know some guys like that. But even the Filipinas cannot tolerate them for long. No one feels comfortable around them.

But some of the guys are nice guys who just can't get a decent Western woman. Or some are older men who want younger women. And some are just guys who don't know how to fit in Western culture or humor the cold hostile bitchy attitude of American women, which isn't comfortable to be around. Some are guys who prefer modest women who don't act overly arrogant or proud, but humble and submissive.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Jester » Wed May 29, 2013 3:34 pm

clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?

I have started to think seriously about getting a filipina, because let's face it, all that a westernised woman is going to bring to your marriage is problems; nagging, drama, bickering, arguments about money, etc. Whereas a filipina could bring you the following (I hope):

-cooking
-cleaning
-ironing
-having sex
-sucking your dick (although im not really into that)
-shutting the f**k up
-children

In other words, basically a maid who you can f**k. Can anybody here whose married to a filipina testify that they do the above? Or am I dreaming?


A maid who I can f**k, who is worthy of having children with, is exactly what I want.

And if it helps you with the whole loser stigma, let me say this. I have almost always been the "alpha" in the room when in a group. Tall, good voice, socially dominant, can dance a little. No problems with women anywhere near my age. Got laid plenty with little money. And **I** am looking for a submissive woman. I don't have to. I want to.

I've even thought of living in Latin America and importing a Filipina there.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Introvert » Wed May 29, 2013 4:18 pm

Jester wrote:
I've even thought of living in Latin America and importing a Filipina there.


Bingo. The double expat scenario.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Maverick » Wed May 29, 2013 4:30 pm

Jester wrote:
clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?

I have started to think seriously about getting a filipina, because let's face it, all that a westernised woman is going to bring to your marriage is problems; nagging, drama, bickering, arguments about money, etc. Whereas a filipina could bring you the following (I hope):

-cooking
-cleaning
-ironing
-having sex
-sucking your dick (although im not really into that)
-shutting the f**k up
-children

In other words, basically a maid who you can f**k. Can anybody here whose married to a filipina testify that they do the above? Or am I dreaming?


A maid who I can f**k, who is worthy of having children with, is exactly what I want.

And if it helps you with the whole loser stigma, let me say this. I have almost always been the "alpha" in the room when in a group. Tall, good voice, socially dominant, can dance a little. No problems with women anywhere near my age. Got laid plenty with little money. And **I** am looking for a submissive woman. I don't have to. I want to.

I've even thought of living in Latin America and importing a Filipina there.


This is my reasoning as well. Nobody in my life would consider me a loser and I've dated attractive American women and can go out and get laid pretty much anytime I want if I'm willing to put the work in. I've just always preferred foreign women both in looks and personality.

Jester, that last part is an awesome idea!
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Postby S_Parc » Wed May 29, 2013 5:55 pm

For me, anyone who wants to risk a 60% divorce rate [ the AW one ] vs let's say a 10-20% one with a Filipina, is the type of person who thinks that driving a Ferrari (with the petal to the floor) into a concrete slab means that he's cool and hip to others. Yeah, that's a real winner :roll:
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Adama » Wed May 29, 2013 5:58 pm

clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?

I have started to think seriously about getting a filipina, because let's face it, all that a westernised woman is going to bring to your marriage is problems; nagging, drama, bickering, arguments about money, etc. Whereas a filipina could bring you the following (I hope):

-cooking
-cleaning
-ironing
-having sex
-sucking your dick (although im not really into that)
-shutting the f**k up
-children

In other words, basically a maid who you can f**k. Can anybody here whose married to a filipina testify that they do the above? Or am I dreaming?


False premises:

Western women are incapable of love or true pair bonding. Western women intentionally unlearned how to cook, rear children and how to be a good wife in general. Nor do they want to have children. If so it will be one or two at most (and I think a great number of women dont want children at all).

A man can not be a loser in these instances because even a winner can't get women to do these things. WW simply do not have these characteristics within them.

I cant think of one redeeming characteristic for WW. Not even sex, because they only prefer it with low-lifes, and many of them will just lay there. Also, all the sex they've had with random thugs they met at clubs makes them ineligible for marriage.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby S_Parc » Wed May 29, 2013 6:08 pm

Adama wrote:A man can not be a loser in these instances because even a winner can't get women to do these things. WW simply do not have these characteristics within them.

I cant think of one redeeming characteristic for WW. Not even sex, because they only prefer it with low-lifes, and many of them will just lay there. Also, all the sex they've had with random thugs they met at clubs makes them ineligible for marriage.


In America, even superstar Kobe Bryant is now a loser, given the fact that Vanessa's taking more than 1/2 his NBA earnings. Even Bryant would have been better off with a Filipina wife, setting her up in Manila in a great villa, and then, only having her spend time in LA during the regular pro season.
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Postby pete98146 » Wed May 29, 2013 6:20 pm

It's fair to say there is a negative stigma associated with most guys who date filipinas. But a few of us here on this forum (and others I'm sure) are trying our best to change that mindset.

Do think that the guys in the Pacific Northwest have a unique view on dating asians so it's more omnipresent than other parts of the country that have a lower percentage of an asian population. But to take it one step further, you see many western males/asian ladies who are college students at U of Washington hooking up and this has been going on for years. As a result, you tend to see educated professionals of all age brackets with this pairing.

This creates positive reinforcement and it gets guys interested in finding a quality asian lady of their own!!!!! A few of my engineer friends are married to educated filipinas. When I got my divorce, it was these same friends who convinced me to start looking for the same thing they had. All I had to do was to look at their successful track records for motivation. Their wives were still loyal, smart and very sexy (despite being in their 30s or 40s).

So when I finally signed up at Cherry Blossoms 10 years ago, I already knew what I was looking for and I wasn't satisfied until I met the woman of my dreams.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Adama » Wed May 29, 2013 7:07 pm

S_Parc wrote:
Adama wrote:A man can not be a loser in these instances because even a winner can't get women to do these things. WW simply do not have these characteristics within them.

I cant think of one redeeming characteristic for WW. Not even sex, because they only prefer it with low-lifes, and many of them will just lay there. Also, all the sex they've had with random thugs they met at clubs makes them ineligible for marriage.


In America, even superstar Kobe Bryant is now a loser, given the fact that Vanessa's taking more than 1/2 his NBA earnings. Even Bryant would have been better off with a Filipina wife, setting her up in Manila in a great villa, and then, only having her spend time in LA during the regular pro season.


Could she fly to stay in LA without getting a green card though? IDK how that works. I'd still be afraid she'd file while he's training/playing a game in LA.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby marklambo » Wed May 29, 2013 8:42 pm

Maybe it's the other way around. Are western men who marry western women losers? I think so. And you can literally say the word "losers" because after a western man marries a western woman, he has a very high chance of losing everything he has gained and built over the years. He loses his assets, loses out on not having sex from his wife, loses out on the hot woman he once married that decided now that it's ok that she gets fat. He loses his confidence and self esteem. So the true loser is the western guy marrying a western woman.

Western men who go abroad and marry a foreign woman are winners. They aren't losers, they are smart and choose a woman that's a true woman. Most western women can't even be labeled as "women". What do they offer in terms of woman like qualities? Not much, at least not in this day and age.
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Postby skeptic » Wed May 29, 2013 9:50 pm

Let's be objective: sometimes people from differenent cultures, residing in different parts of the world, somehow manage to form a connection and work out the differences (even though, in a situation like that, one side must compromise and move where the other lives).

As my username implies, I am skeptical about relying on foreign dating as a panacea against your dating woes at home. I don't believe foreign dating is a magic problem-solver for whatever difficulties you have with western women.

At the same time, I acknowledge that international relationships are possible and, perhaps, some people find them more fulfilling than domestic ones. But such people are not majority.

It's good to be optimistic about your endeavor, but it's irresponsible to ignore potential problems you may encounter with Filipinas (or any other foreign women):

- Language barrier. They may speak English but their English is a learned foreign language, not the natural one. Besides, they have an unfair advantage over you by knowing their native language, which you don't. This potentially puts you in a situation where you're excluded from the family as the girl talks to her parents in her native language they may say virtually anything about you while you have no clue about it.

- Cultural differences. You want to enjoy your favorite movies and songs with the girl of your dream, don't you? While as an American, you are lucky that people worldwide have at least some familiarity with your culture, this is not what they grew up with. And you're not familiar with their culture either.

- Possible traditional differences. If you expect a foreign girl to give you unlimited sex, give birth to many kids, and keep her mouth shut, you should also expect her (or, even more likely, her family) to demand certain things from you (and be ready to fulfill those demands).
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Teal Lantern » Wed May 29, 2013 9:52 pm

Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?
clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?


Post-30s men who still determine their worth by this standard have already lost.

Let's say we dip you in honey and throw you naked into the woods.
Three days later, you stagger out without a scratch on you.

Would you then say
"I'm such a loser. None of the bears wanted to kill & devour me"? :roll:
Hellz no. You'd look at all the lumps of bear merde, formally known as Alfalfas the bears found "desirable", and wipe your brow in relief.
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Re: Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?

Postby Christianfilipinacom » Wed May 29, 2013 11:04 pm

Teal Lantern wrote:Are western men who marry Filipinas usually losers?
clowny wrote:..who could not get a western woman to love them?


Post-30s men who still determine their worth by this standard have already lost.

Let's say we dip you in honey and throw you naked into the woods.
Three days later, you stagger out without a scratch on you.

Would you then say
"I'm such a loser. None of the bears wanted to kill & devour me"? :roll:
Hellz no. You'd look at all the lumps of bear merde, formally known as Alfalfas the bears found "desirable", and wipe your brow in relief.


LOL

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Guys, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, the whole concept of "loser" is not very generative. Liberation doesn't come quite from what anyone else thinks, it comes from what you think.

To be satisfied in life, you need to have a moral system that you strive to follow, and friends and companions who encourage you to do so.

Find your own moral code and live up to it. Find what you want, meditate on your dream, is it a happy family? If you don't have a moral code you can relate to, try out the Middle Path of not going to extremes, while doing good deeds, avoiding stealing, lying and sexual misconduct; or try out the two comandments or ten commandments if you are not averse.

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