While I was doing research about a place I want to visit, I found a thread that discussed virginity and you stated that you are a virgin.Tsar wrote:Why do you think its a ridiculous for men to seek out virgins? What makes the women who aren't virgins so wonderful?Maverick wrote:I'm not trying to convince anyone not to seek out a virgin. I'm just saying that I don't believe a woman has to be a virgin to genuinely like a guy.
Although I do think it's a little ridiculous to seek out virgins when there are plenty of wonderful women out there that aren't virgins.
Reasons to avoid a woman who is not a virgin:
1. Higher divorce rates
2. Higher infidelity rates
3. Less harmony
4. Less bonding
5. She will always remember her other "lovers"
6. She will always compare you
7. She gave her virginity to another guy
8. She has slept with other guys
9. She won't be "yours" alone. You will know she has been with other guys
10. She will always have a place in her heart for her "first"
11. You won't be as special to her as if you were her first
12. When you sleep with her she might think about previous partners
13. You might have resentment and feel betrayed every time you look at her
14. It would be a blow to a man's ego if he is a virgin and his wife isn't. Regardless, knowing your bride is a virgin or she gave you her virginity is a major self-esteem and ego boost for a man.
15. Being with a virgin was a major step into "manhood" and for most of history marrying a slut (a girl who wasn't a virgin) was shameful. Why would you want to be with a woman who would bring you shame (and it is shameful even if the majority say it's normal. It's not normal, it's what an immoral society wants you to believe is normal).
16. Virginity adds the most value to a bride. Beauty will fade with time, Youth is limited, and Virginity is something that a woman gives to one man. What else can a woman give that a man can't get elsewhere?
17. She won't care about you as a virgin would. In her eyes you would just be another man and the guy she "settled" for. Most virgin brides would view their husband as someone special and truly care about them because they would share a special bond with their husband.
18. She might say that she regrets her sexual past or she wishes she was a virgin for you. The truth is that these sluts are lying. What they regret is that you think lesser of them or wishes she was a virgin because she knows it will eat away at you (and they know they are at risk for losing you).
19. You might say that she was young and naive. That doesn't make up for what she did. Being young doesn't give a girl the excuse to be a slut. If she's biologically ready for marriage then she should be married which was tradition. They were married off to older men and that ensured that even if they were naive then they would be with a good man. The current feminist, liberal, immoral society is anti-marriage and believes it's better for girls to be sluts than be good brides. Then they try and shame men into accepting sluts and make it seem like sluts can be desirable wives.
20. What can she give that a man can't get elsewhere? There is nothing she can give that a man can't get from other sources.
Fair enough then. My argument is invalid when it comes to you. You have every right to want a virgin.
I've had sex with many many women in the past. Thus, I would be a hypocrite if I expected a virgin. I was coming from that POV. My apologies.