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Women prefer familiarity, Men prefer novelty

Postby theprimebait » Fri Jul 05, 2013 8:55 pm

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23740467

Sex Differences in Attraction to Familiar and Unfamiliar Opposite-Sex Faces: Men Prefer Novelty and Women Prefer Familiarity.

Little AC, Debruine LM, Jones BC.

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School of Natural Sciences, University of Stirling, Stirling, FK9 4LA, UK, anthony.little@stir.ac.uk.

Abstract

Familiarity is attractive in many types of stimuli and exposure generally increases feelings of liking. However, men desire a greater number of sexual partners than women, suggesting a preference for novelty. We examined sex differences in preferences for familiarity. In Study 1 (N = 83 women, 63 men), we exposed individuals to faces twice and found that faces were judged as more attractive on the second rating, reflecting attraction to familiar faces, with the exception that men's ratings of female faces decreased on the second rating, demonstrating attraction to novelty. In Studies 2 (N = 42 women, 28 men) and 3 (N = 51 women, 25 men), exposure particularly decreased men's ratings of women's attractiveness for short-term relationships and their sexiness. In Study 4 (N = 64 women, 50 men), women's attraction to faces was positively related to self-rated similarity to their current partner's face, while the effect was significantly weaker for men. Potentially, men's attraction to novelty may reflect an adaptation promoting the acquisition of a high number of sexual partners.


its so simple.women seek familiarity, while men seek novelty.

women,nowhere want to be cold approached.they want to meet someone in their own circle.

a woman rather have a 6/10 guy she is familiar with from her social circle. then a 8.5/10 approaching her on the street.

many of you are Aspies ,so you think ''women are unfriendly''if they dont suck your dick,from you wierdly going up to them and trying to''chat''.
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What kind of BS is this?

Postby buddy77 » Fri Jul 05, 2013 11:37 pm

@theprimebait

If you're a mangina gtfo. If you're a female best you post your comment in the ladies forum.

I mean come on. No guy expects to get their d¤ck sucked upon cold approaching on the streets. Maybe you should lay off the porno for a while.
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Re: What kind of BS is this?

Postby theprimebait » Fri Jul 05, 2013 11:51 pm

buddy77 wrote:@theprimebait

If you're a mangina gtfo. If you're a female best you post your comment in the ladies forum.

I mean come on. No guy expects to get their d¤ck sucked upon cold approaching on the streets. Maybe you should lay off the p***o for a while.


LOL keep doing your cold approaches thinking its alpha.just don't complain how women are this and that when its a fake number.

mangina?why?for not beleiving that its impossible to find friendly women anywhere in the world?truth is if youre GL and socially adjusted american women will treat you like your foreign girls treat you overseas.thats not to say they are LTR material but they will treat you in a friendly manner.and act very feminine around you.

a woman's behaviour ANYWHERE is all RELATIVE to who she is talking to.
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One thing is true though...

Postby buddy77 » Sat Jul 06, 2013 12:49 am

Cold approaching AW is a waste of time and effort.

Ive had better luck though with for FW that havent been americanized here on the US of gay.
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Re: What kind of BS is this?

Postby southernone » Sat Jul 06, 2013 1:26 pm

theprimebait wrote:
buddy77 wrote:@theprimebait

If you're a mangina gtfo. If you're a female best you post your comment in the ladies forum.

I mean come on. No guy expects to get their d¤ck sucked upon cold approaching on the streets. Maybe you should lay off the p***o for a while.


LOL keep doing your cold approaches thinking its alpha.just don't complain how women are this and that when its a fake number.

mangina?why?for not beleiving that its impossible to find friendly women anywhere in the world?truth is if youre GL and socially adjusted american women will treat you like your foreign girls treat you overseas.thats not to say they are LTR material but they will treat you in a friendly manner.and act very feminine around you.

a woman's behaviour ANYWHERE is all RELATIVE to who she is talking to.


Yeah and how is it our problem women aren't comfortable meeting people not in their social circle. Most peoples social circle disbands after high school because people move for college, and then after that they move for jobs. So you see it's a constant change of social circles all the time that's why my many single girls are on dating sites, they complain they have nowhere to meet anyone and are not open to meeting men in public. I agree with what your saying partially, but that's their problem, that's their own fault.

I also don't fully agree a women will date a 6/10 out of her social circle just because I don't think most guys spend alot of time thinking about what a physically attractive guy is. Most girls I see only date guys better looking than they are.
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Postby Renata » Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:09 pm

I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exciting. I tend to be a bit cold after awhile if I'm not into him or get a bad vibe from him or if I'm in a relationship, I just wouldn't encourage the flirting and wouldn't want to get his hopes up.
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Postby Jester » Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:50 pm

Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exciting.


I've seen instances where a guy's sincere and fearless commitment to the approach, with light-hearted positivity, carried the day. "Negging" isn't necessary with all women. Not everyone is hard-boiled or cynical.

I agree with PrimeBait and Renata that the guy's appearance and demeanor do matter. Bigtime. But in my experience, if you offer one major positive trait clearly displayed (singing, whistling and joking around, confronting other males, being a snappy dresser, being deep and poetic, whatever) can sometimes get her to overlook major negative traits (much older, shorter, bald, no muscles, whatever). It's kind of like, you have to give her a "hook", something positive to notice and hang onto.

Crudely put, this is why short guys pump iron, and fat guys buy hot cars, and geeky guys learn to play guitar.

And the world is a better place for it - is it not?
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Postby theprimebait » Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:56 pm

Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exciting. I tend to be a bit cold after awhile if I'm not into him or get a bad vibe from him or if I'm in a relationship, I just wouldn't encourage the flirting and wouldn't want to get his hopes up.


Exactely.if he's cute.and then STILL it won't go anywhere.she might not spit in his face or be rude like a average guy,she'll laugh with him and find it nice a cute guy was interested in her.but it STILL won't go anywhere even if the guy is cute.its just a waiste of time ANYWHERE.its also embaressing.it tells the girl and the public you can't get a girl through normal means.
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Postby theprimebait » Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:58 pm

Jester wrote:
Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exiting.


I've seen instances where a guy's sincere and fearless commitment to the approach, with light-hearted positivity, carried the day. "Negging" isn't necessary with all women. Not everyone is hard-boiled or cynical.

I agree with PrimeBait and Renata that the guy's appearance and demeanor do matter. Bigtime. But in my experience, if you offer one major positive trait clearly displayed (singing, whistling and joking around, confronting other males, being a snappy dresser, being deep and poetic, whatever) can sometimes get her to overlook major negative traits (much older, shorter, bald, no muscles, whatever). It's kind of like, you have to give her a "hook", something positive to notice and hang onto.

Crudely put, this is why short guys pump iron, and fat guys buy hot cars, and geeky guys learn to play guitar.

And the world is a better place for it - is it not?
Beleive it or not those''nerdy''guys will pull way more p***y being socially adjusted and meeting women thru normalfag means,then a super hot guy cold approaching and act like a total aspie retard PUA.
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Postby LA_ed » Sat Jul 06, 2013 5:53 pm

I kind of agree with what the OP is saying.

Women get approached on the streets a lot more than you would think and they always seem to find it nothing but annoying. Your chances of finding a decent woman through online dating or random approaches are almost zero and that holds true for both western women and non-western women. In my 9 years in Asia I was only able to have a relationship with one decent woman, back when I was living in Japan. I was able to meet her because I had a lot of Japanese friends and spoke Japanese pretty good at the time as I had studied in in uni. I was also into Japanese culture at the time, though I grew out of that some years ago.

All of the other Japanese girls I knew before and after that relationship ended up friendzoning me though, so there are a lot of other variables at play.
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Postby Renata » Sat Jul 06, 2013 5:55 pm

theprimebait wrote:
Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exiting. I tend to be a bit cold after awhile if I'm not into him or get a bad vibe from him or if I'm in a relationship, I just wouldn't encourage the flirting and wouldn't want to get his hopes up.


Exactely.if he's cute.and then STILL it won't go anywhere.she might not spit in his face or be rude like a average guy,she'll laugh with him and find it nice a cute guy was interested in her.but it STILL won't go anywhere even if the guy is cute.its just a waiste of time ANYWHERE.its also embaressing.it tells the girl and the public you can't get a girl through normal means.


When I first went to the UK in 2004, fresh out of my country, maybe I was a bit still in tourist mode ... I left work & it was raining; heavy down-pour. I got stuck under an awning a short walk from the train station. A guy came up to me & took me to the sation, he shared his umbrealla with me. Not sure where he came from. He left me at the station & that was it. He was really close to me, he looked georgous, & I was infatuated with the fact that he cared' & was sweet enough to help me' out. I wanted to 'know' him, but he left so quickly. If he had just asked me my name, what I was doing in the Uk & maybe if I wanted him to show me around, I would have said YES. I had no friends yet either. I lost out too because I didn't have the courage to speak to him.

Primebait, if you don't try' then you've already failed. I never forgot that guy, his kindness & his face.
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Postby theprimebait » Sat Jul 06, 2013 8:25 pm

Renata wrote:
theprimebait wrote:
Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exiting. I tend to be a bit cold after awhile if I'm not into him or get a bad vibe from him or if I'm in a relationship, I just wouldn't encourage the flirting and wouldn't want to get his hopes up.


Exactely.if he's cute.and then STILL it won't go anywhere.she might not spit in his face or be rude like a average guy,she'll laugh with him and find it nice a cute guy was interested in her.but it STILL won't go anywhere even if the guy is cute.its just a waiste of time ANYWHERE.its also embaressing.it tells the girl and the public you can't get a girl through normal means.


When I first went to the UK in 2004, fresh out of my country, maybe I was a bit still in tourist mode ... I left work & it was raining; heavy down-pour. I got stuck under an awning a short walk from the train station. A guy came up to me & took me to the sation, he shared his umbrealla with me. Not sure where he came from. He left me at the station & that was it. He was really close to me, he looked georgous, & I was infatuated with the fact that he cared' & was sweet enough to help me' out. I wanted to 'know' him, but he left so quickly. If he had just asked me my name, what I was doing in the Uk & maybe if I wanted him to show me around, I would have said YES. I had no friends yet either. I lost out too because I didn't have the courage to speak to him.

Primebait, if you don't try' then you've already failed. I never forgot that guy, his kindness & his face.


in my teen yrs I cold approached alot,I got a spanish girl from it studying,she was tall,model tier .my cold approaching only ever worked on foreign students.many times my friends would make me do it for the fun of it,I quickly noticed most of the girls got a kick out of rejecting you,or would come sit next to me waiting for me to approach.one day my friend said:that girl wants you to approach her!and I got it that they just like the attention and validation.it was much better to not embaress yourself,and just warm approach girls.

and another thing,you were receptive to those guys because they were''cute''how many guys doing PUA,are ''cute''?no average guys hould be doing cold approaches.women are brutal to sub-8 guys .if a average guy approaches them they think''I didnt do my makeup good today''why are these ugly guys approaching me?''.and the handsome ones shouldnt either unless they want a friendly chat with blue balls.Im just tying to save people from ebaressing themselves when they could use that time to meet women in normal ways.
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Postby theprimebait » Sat Jul 06, 2013 8:31 pm

Renata wrote:
theprimebait wrote:
Renata wrote:I think it's flattering if a random guy approaches me, especially if he's cute. It's so exiting. I tend to be a bit cold after awhile if I'm not into him or get a bad vibe from him or if I'm in a relationship, I just wouldn't encourage the flirting and wouldn't want to get his hopes up.


Exactely.if he's cute.and then STILL it won't go anywhere.she might not spit in his face or be rude like a average guy,she'll laugh with him and find it nice a cute guy was interested in her.but it STILL won't go anywhere even if the guy is cute.its just a waiste of time ANYWHERE.its also embaressing.it tells the girl and the public you can't get a girl through normal means.


When I first went to the UK in 2004, fresh out of my country, maybe I was a bit still in tourist mode ... I left work & it was raining; heavy down-pour. I got stuck under an awning a short walk from the train station. A guy came up to me & took me to the sation, he shared his umbrealla with me. Not sure where he came from. He left me at the station & that was it. He was really close to me, he looked georgous, & I was infatuated with the fact that he cared' & was sweet enough to help me' out. I wanted to 'know' him, but he left so quickly. If he had just asked me my name, what I was doing in the Uk & maybe if I wanted him to show me around, I would have said YES. I had no friends yet either. I lost out too because I didn't have the courage to speak to him.

Primebait, if you don't try' then you've already failed. I never forgot that guy, his kindness & his face.
if he was average looking youd have been offended that he was speaking to you.Im just trying to tell average guys to not cold approach.there is no reason a woman would pick them,a stranger,with nothing special about them,over any of the hot hunks they have on their iphones.atleast if the guy is goodlooking shell feel flattered,but thats it.she wont wanna look like a easy slut so she wont be giving out any numbers.and i wouldnt consider what that guy did a cold approach.he ahd a legit rweason or excuse to approach you.thats not what im talking about.

Im talking about going u to a girl saying''wow youre so beautifull,whats your number''?
like this guy here;

https://www.youtube.com/user/sargentpepperoni this guy records his cold approaches.hes Goodlooking,tall,masculine.all the women reject him.chk it yourself.the videos are comedic value.
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Postby theprimebait » Sat Jul 06, 2013 8:46 pm

LA_ed wrote:I kind of agree with what the OP is saying.

Women get approached on the streets a lot more than you would think and they always seem to find it nothing but annoying. Your chances of finding a decent woman through online dating or random approaches are almost zero and that holds true for both western women and non-western women. In my 9 years in Asia I was only able to have a relationship with one decent woman, back when I was living in Japan. I was able to meet her because I had a lot of Japanese friends and spoke Japanese pretty good at the time as I had studied in in uni. I was also into Japanese culture at the time, though I grew out of that some years ago.

All of the other Japanese girls I knew before and after that relationship ended up friendzoning me though, so there are a lot of other variables at play.
hot girls only use the internet for instagram or facebook.no hot girl uses online dating.lol

youre doing it right.being normal.social circle game.church game.these are legit ways of gaming.hence your success rate.while sargentpepperoni approached 1000s of girls and got no lays.despite being masculine handsome,and tall.

cold approaching isnt natural,thats why most men are scared of it.women dont cold approach guys they like either,they have 20 x less testosterone then us,and even we males with our higher testosterone levels are anxious to cold approach.women definately dont cold approach !normal people meet people thru normal ways.thank you for getting it.I can't believe the Aspies on here actually would object to it.
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Postby Guyver » Sat Jul 06, 2013 9:11 pm

theprimebait wrote:
LA_ed wrote:I kind of agree with what the OP is saying.

Women get approached on the streets a lot more than you would think and they always seem to find it nothing but annoying. Your chances of finding a decent woman through online dating or random approaches are almost zero and that holds true for both western women and non-western women. In my 9 years in Asia I was only able to have a relationship with one decent woman, back when I was living in Japan. I was able to meet her because I had a lot of Japanese friends and spoke Japanese pretty good at the time as I had studied in in uni. I was also into Japanese culture at the time, though I grew out of that some years ago.

All of the other Japanese girls I knew before and after that relationship ended up friendzoning me though, so there are a lot of other variables at play.
hot girls only use the internet for instagram or facebook.no hot girl uses online dating.lol

youre doing it right.being normal.social circle game.church game.these are legit ways of gaming.hence your success rate.while sargentpepperoni approached 1000s of girls and got no lays.despite being masculine handsome,and tall.

cold approaching isnt natural,thats why most men are scared of it.women dont cold approach guys they like either,they have 20 x less testosterone then us,and even we males with our higher testosterone levels are anxious to cold approach.women definately dont cold approach !normal people meet people thru normal ways.thank you for getting it.I can't believe the Aspies on here actually would object to it.


So let me get this straight OP, you consider "normal" when approaching women only if it's within a confined organization?
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