It's over, I'm actually Happier-In-North-America

[xiongmao]

Wow, cool story bro. Keep posting moar!

I'm coming to the conclusion that no woman can be trusted, so you might as well hook up with a hot one who's into crazy stuff.

I've known some bi-women, and the femme ones have been very hot.

Talking of crazy stuff...

Everdred and I were walking through Nana in Bangkok tonight and we walk past this Chinese dude who's with his 10 yo daughter. And the guy's actually talking to this ladyboy freelancer who's sporting a huge pair of implants that are bursting out of his|her yellow mini-dress.

My guess is that he's desperately trying to think of how he can explore options with a ladyboy while he's on his family vacation with his white legged wife and their 1 kid.

It's a crazy world we live in.

[buddy77]

"boink" escorts in Canada with a lesbian (bi?) Girlfriend whom happens to be an AW.

Im not sure how long that'll last, but if it makes you happy thats all that matters. Your main relationship with this woman seems to be based on the thrills of p4p with escorts. Though it would be healthier for both of view to seek something more permanent.

The great thing about us in HA is that many of us are free thinkers and have a liberal stance on many situations. A main value we all seek is being happy, no matter how unorthodox it may be in the eyes of others. Yours is a prime example of this. Good luck to you, sir!

[S_Parc]

Fellas, this woman is not bi, she's a strict lesbian & thus, she's not my girlfriend nor a "friend with benefits".

I'd known her since college days (that's now over a decade & half ago) since I'm in my mid-30s. Like a lot of ppl, it took time to re-establish ties, since she grew up in Rhode Island (& moved back after graduation), and myself, on the north shore of Massachusetts. We both live in Mass today.

To the world around us, we're seen as a couple... a stunt couple Yes, we do things that two old brothers or best pals from elementary school do. Where our paths have intersected, at least in the past few years, is that both of us have weened off dating. Yes, she's p*ssed off at women and their total and complete inability to become a 30-something rather than a lifelong teenager with abandonment issues and the need to treat the "butch" in the relationship, like a p*ssywhipped man in a hetero relationship. Also, she can't stand the fact that women don't like classic rock, unless someone on TV tells 'em that it's ok.

Thus, our visiting esc@rts has affirmed to her, that she doesn't need a GF, to be happy. She's rather hang out with me, be treated as a hetero to mainstream society, but then, have her Victory Garden be plowed up North. So far, it's worked.

[S_Parc]

In conclusion, on our drive home, through Quebec, upstate NY, VT, NH, and Mass ... we listened to her classic rock mp3 playlist and we heard Mighty Mighty Bosstones, old Boston, old Aerosmith, The Cars, Metallica, AC/DC, Soundgarden, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Joe Satriani, Jeff Beck, Deep Purple and some Richie Blackmore solo performances. Now, I don't know about you but that's not like driving home with a gal; it's like the brother I never had but in a woman's body.

[Teal Lantern]

In conclusion, on our drive home, through Quebec, upstate NY, VT, NH, and Mass ... we listened to her classic rock mp3 playlist and we heard Mighty Mighty Bosstones, old Boston, old Aerosmith, The Cars, Metallica, AC/DC, Soundgarden, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Joe Satriani, Jeff Beck, Deep Purple and some Richie Blackmore solo performances. Now, I don't know about you but that's not like driving home with a gal; it's like the brother I never had but in a woman's body.

Quit foolin' around, S_Parc ...
When you gonna 'man up' and hitch yourself to one of these?
BTW, interlock == car breathalyzer

[Maverick]

Wow, cool story bro. Keep posting moar!

I'm coming to the conclusion that no woman can be trusted, so you might as well hook up with a hot one who's into crazy stuff.

I've known some bi-women, and the femme ones have been very hot.

Talking of crazy stuff...

Everdred and I were walking through Nana in Bangkok tonight and we walk past this Chinese dude who's with his 10 yo daughter. And the guy's actually talking to this ladyboy freelancer who's sporting a huge pair of implants that are bursting out of his|her yellow mini-dress.

My guess is that he's desperately trying to think of how he can explore options with a ladyboy while he's on his family vacation with his white legged wife and their 1 kid.

It's a crazy world we live in.

I believe this too, which is why I would never bring a girl to the US. I would only stay in countries where cheating and divorced are still frowned upon (well, frowned upon for now, that is) since women are heavily influenced by whatever their culture/society tells them.

[aozora13]

[quote="Maverick]
I believe this too, which is why I would never bring a girl to the US. I would only stay in countries where cheating and divorced are still frowned upon (well, frowned upon for now, that is) since women are heavily influenced by whatever their culture/society tells them.[/quote]

I agree that most women are influenced by the culture that they live in. This is why even though telling my foreign girlfriend why it makes since to stay in her country (which is okay with her), she was thinking that I am running away from the US which still has good employment prospects for me and most likely for her but decedant society. She was brought up in a culture which was focused on family and being feminine.

S_Parc is at least fortunate that he has found that he is happy with being with 'friends' (loosely) with a woman who shares the same interest and going to get her 'fix' in Quebec once or twice a month. He has a friend who do have fun in Canada and then go have their fun with their 'ladies'. I think possibly this is his own version of being Happy especially; in the US. Especially since most American men in this country have been miserable in this anti-male society. I have understood that many people on this forum if they found a small niche and a good wife would probably not be on here. He is at least saying that P4P and having a platonic relationship with his female friend tells me that he is content and is satisfied with his hobbies.

Everyone has their own version of being 'happy' in this case in the US but I am happy a person was able to be content on living in the US and being able to find satisfaction on having a friend who shares his ideals (of marriage in the US) and hobbies even though it is a woman.

[S_Parc]

Quit foolin' around, S_Parc ...
When you gonna 'man up' and hitch yourself to one of these?
BTW, interlock == car breathalyzer

Holy Cow ! That's exactly like my sister and her husband in that clip. She's always going ballistic at the drop of a hat.

[GodNnelg]

S_Parc I completely admire your happiness and can't help but wonder how you managed to get it. Job or money wise, what do you do if I may ask?
Personally I'd like to marry a foreign girl and bring her to America but I also fear that she'd get 'Americanized' by our shit culture...

[S_Parc]

S_Parc I completely admire your happiness and can't help but wonder how you managed to get it. Job or money wise, what do you do if I may ask?
Personally I'd like to marry a foreign girl and bring her to America but I also fear that she'd get 'Americanized' by our shit culture...

I work as a business systems consultant, bridging various areas of IT: telecom & biologics to now, real-time analysis in finance. I'd started very technical (still am to some extent), since I do need to talk-the-walk in various industries, but now focus more on business. I'd started travelling abroad, starting age 24, and since then, have stopped dating American women, since this current thing isn't dating.

If I didn't take that step to see the world, I probably would not have been able to go cold turkey like that, as pressure around here is very high, to suck it up, and put up with a crazy AW.

The changes in my career have brought my formerly globe trekking career back home, as many of my clients are now New England/New York based, and at the same time, being involved closer to the business at hand, gives me a higher compensation than earlier, when I was travelling more frequently, and on more technical assignments. Thus, by ending my relationship with that Brazilian woman (see link in other post), my focus in life is a lot more clear.

The problem today vs the time when I'd started is that it's really hard to get one's foot in the door. Many of my clients no longer use CO-OPs (paid student interns with part-time schooling) to supplement the entry level staff. This is quite disturbing as it implies pretty much one path, either hire expert consultants or offshore the work. Well, since I'm in the former club, it's worked out great for me but I'm not sure about someone starting out.

As for Americanization, well it does happen, but I think in terms of ratios, it's still a lot less than for let's say someone who'd come here as a student back in college. I'd say, start the relationship abroad, maintain it until she's in her late 20s and kinda *finished* in terms of emotional/mental development. My failure was that my immediate family and hers, didn't hit it off. That's partly why I'm somewhat turned off by relationships in general, too much judgement and especially, judgement against men, guilty or not. And also, it was perhaps a bit too much of a fantasy of a perfect life. Now that I'm back to earth, it's all in the rear view mirror.

[Maverick]

[quote="Maverick]
I believe this too, which is why I would never bring a girl to the US. I would only stay in countries where cheating and divorced are still frowned upon (well, frowned upon for now, that is) since women are heavily influenced by whatever their culture/society tells them.

I agree that most women are influenced by the culture that they live in. This is why even though telling my foreign girlfriend why it makes since to stay in her country (which is okay with her), she was thinking that I am running away from the US which still has good employment prospects for me and most likely for her but decedant society. She was brought up in a culture which was focused on family and being feminine.

S_Parc is at least fortunate that he has found that he is happy with being with 'friends' (loosely) with a woman who shares the same interest and going to get her 'fix' in Quebec once or twice a month. He has a friend who do have fun in Canada and then go have their fun with their 'ladies'. I think possibly this is his own version of being Happy especially; in the US. Especially since most American men in this country have been miserable in this anti-male society. I have understood that many people on this forum if they found a small niche and a good wife would probably not be on here. He is at least saying that P4P and having a platonic relationship with his female friend tells me that he is content and is satisfied with his hobbies.

Everyone has their own version of being 'happy' in this case in the US but I am happy a person was able to be content on living in the US and being able to find satisfaction on having a friend who shares his ideals (of marriage in the US) and hobbies even though it is a woman.[/quote][/quote]

I didn't direct that towards him. I was just responding to a different poster.

Good for s_parc, imo. If he found a situation he's happy with, all the power to him.

[OutWest]

In conclusion, on our drive home, through Quebec, upstate NY, VT, NH, and Mass ... we listened to her classic rock mp3 playlist and we heard Mighty Mighty Bosstones, old Boston, old Aerosmith, The Cars, Metallica, AC/DC, Soundgarden, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Joe Satriani, Jeff Beck, Deep Purple and some Richie Blackmore solo performances. Now, I don't know about you but that's not like driving home with a gal; it's like the brother I never had but in a woman's body.

Maybe you could tell her you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body...and you could work something
out...


Outwest

[S_Parc]

Now, I don't know about you but that's not like driving home with a gal; it's like the brother I never had but in a woman's body.

Maybe you could tell her you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body...and you could work something
out...

You fellas don't seem to get it, the reason why it works is that her and I don't b@ink. She's a butch; she grinds women the same way we do. If you know what that means, we're sexually incompatible because I don't have a v@gina and my pecs are firm, not soft Also, I've never had a thing for *Melissa Etheridge*, I like my women more like women, not borderline cowboy.

This alliance is a result of a failed modern society. From her perspective, feminine AWs have no incentive to grow up whereas butch dykes and men do. When she hit 30, she'd discovered what I had and that's AWs are worthless companions across the board. She went through a cycle of pickup, b*inking, rinse/repeat. And then, it got stale, and then she worked on her former friendships, from yesteryear, only to discover that men were the only worthy friends out there. And then, of course, me being the last standing free thinker of our graduating class, I went up to number one in persons to hang out with.

In a normal society, she may have found a decent feminine lesbian and settled down. Now, she's realized that that's a foolish notion and is perfectly ok with a periodic romp. In a sense, this is a convoluted 21st century version of "When Harry Met Sally" which in this case is "When S_Parc met Strap-On Mel". The difference here is that Billy Crystal is wrong, men and women can be friends, esp when one's a butch lesbian. This is far ahead of 80s thinking. In that movie, Bill Crystal and Meg Ryan were simply living like lifelong 20-somethings, way past that demarcation in life and thus, needed to settle with each other, as they were feeling sexually and emotionally vacant by age 35. Their story was more about the fear of aging alone. My story is more about freedom in a society which advocates psychological slavery among adult couplings.

[kai1275]

Yet another "man" bites the dust..... You can wave that feminist-made flag of surrender and use Illuminati made movies, music, and pop culture references, like some zombie-tool to validate and support your actions all you want, but every morning you wake up and look in the mirror, if you actually can, you will be reminded just like everyone else in here that all this is pure bullshit. The mirror doesn't lie. The good news is that it is never too late to fix shit, only before you die though.

/Get your testosterone levels checked. You might be low. Depending upon your age you need to be at least around 375-500. Since you probably wont have any kids, get it up to ~700 and see how you feel then, and take it from there.

I would say good luck but I do not believe in that. So farewell and God bless.

[S_Parc]

I would say good luck but I do not believe in that. So farewell and God bless.

I see the mirror every day and it looks good. Plus, I supplement with DIM (kills estrogen metabolites) and DHEA (kills cortisol). My hormones are just right (zero wrinkles mid-30s & no dry skin); and yes, I go to a specialist for that. I practice Martial Arts, Qigong, and play b-ball. I'm doing quite all right.

And my film reference was for the movie buffs on this board. I couldn't give a rat's about Meg Ryan.

If you don't find your soulmate and/or are paying child support, then don't come to folks like me after the age of 50. We won't be posting publicly afterwards. Thus, I'd wish you well but I don't believe in that.