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I'm black and I've been able to get white, asian and hispanic girls but it's all about location in the U.S. and who you know.
If you don't know many people as a guy, you can forget about dating in America no matter who much money or good looks you have.
But truthfully, it's hard for ANY race of man in America to get dates who isn't in the top 10-15 percent and it's only going to get worse.
Women will continue to get pickier in America.
One person posted on here that they knew men who were "9s" and made $100,000 and couldn't get dates in America.
I'm not against marriage but DON'T get married in America or it's your a**.
But find SOLUTIONS, get your passport and head overseas.
Complaining about it won't change anything in America.
"Allow me to show you the Power Cosmic!" - Silver Surfer
This is true. American girls are so cliquish and uptight that a guy has to be introduced through friends first just to be in the running.
I've been talking to a "hot guy" (6'6", 210 lbs., fitness model physique, handsome face, tan) who says he has to approach HUNDREDS of girls in person just to get one lay. If you're not "hot," your odds through cold approaching are basically nil.
So much for girls caring about sex lol.
Funny thing is, in some places like Mexico, being a white Anglo male is a disadvantage if you want to date the local women. Many mestizas in Central Mexico would prefer a chinito who's genuinely into their culture versus the average gringo with his sharp facial features and rawr rawr rawr accent. With the exception of AmericanInMexico and fschmidt, so many white guys here complain about Mexican women as not easy. Just check out threads like: http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/view ... hp?t=19456
I see the same thing in Thailand to some extent. Just ask Ladislav.
And this is what PUA doesn't/can't/refuses to address. I thoroughly believe that guys that get into PUA start off just wanting a girlfriend. As in ONE. But when they start with game, they are told that they shouldn't want a girlfriend. Rather, they should want to up their numbers as much as possible. They are taught that love does not exist. After doing so many approaches and getting results (because PUA does work, just not in the ways one would hope), those guys become numb to the idea of love and romance. They get jaded BECAUSE what they have learned works so well. Some even become disgusted by how well it works.
And to the other point of having to game her everyday, yes - that is disheartening. You can't ever let your guard down and just love her... what you do to get her is what you do to keep her. That's why I completely agree with your last paragraph in bold. I feel the exact same way.
Sorry to sidetrack the thread. It's just that you brought up a few excellent points that many people don't talk about.
As far as the topic of the thread, I just count my blessings that I was overlooked. The way I see it, I dodged a bullet like Neo.
I do not think any man does well in Mexico without good Spanish skills. Even if you sound like a student from Spain with your accent, good Spanish is critical. Not just that, if your knowledge of Mexican culture sucks, you might as well stick to American Hispanics...at least they will be more tolerant of your ignorance. The white skins help alot but you cannot make too many shortcuts on language and culture and expect results. Some exceptions might be rich elite High society Mexican women that speak probably 5 languages fluently. They are easy to talk to, hot, and incredibly intelligent. Of course they are rich and might become stuck up with high demands later as opposed to being that way on initial approach.
Yeah, Spanish is definitely #1, I've posted about that here: http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/view ... hp?t=14191 .
But even some Anglos with very good Spanish skills report getting negative attitudes from anti-Anglo Mexicans.
My next question would be, how well do they know Mexican culture? Some of us in the US that grew up with many Mexican friends might know some "Tex-Mex" junk or Cali-Mex stuff, but it is not hard if you hang out in the right circles of buddies. One of the reasons why my other best friend who is from Monterrey likes me so much, is because I already knew so much about Mexican culture and could speak Spanish, Mexican style, before I met him in college. I learned it from all my high school friends, that were nearly all Mexican immigrants.