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Becoming a man

Postby RedMenace » Sat Sep 14, 2013 8:49 pm

Only 7 days until my long overdue freedom. I never expected it to be an easy transition. From the 21st I will be on my own. By this point in time I have already experienced unbelievable amount of stress that the gross majority of students do not because they have a family to support them. For me I have no family.

Actually my "friend" from Shanghai says I should tell her if I have problem and need money. I have never even met her yet have been able to create such connection. I guess that is a skill I will have to develop further to survive in the future. I will only resort to asking her for money when I have an hour to live before I starve to death. What I do this year will determine how easy my life will be next year. During the summer holiday you have to leave the university accommodation because this is when most people go back to their parents and family. Well I have none of that. My father has f*cking delusional disorder and is unaware of it. He drives me f*cking crazy so I want to stay as far away from him as I can. My mother on the other hand is in Africa and can barely survive. She is my responsibility but I have problems with my own survival. My life has never been easy. :|

The life of a "man" can never be appreciated by women. All a woman has to do is pick one of the hundreds of guys that hit on her and she will automatically be taken cared of in return she opens her legs. In fact she doesn't even have to sometimes because the guy will still take care of her in hopes he will get sex in return sometime in the future. I placed man between quotations because there is a big difference between being old in age but staying with your parents and being reliant on them. A man lives a free but unpredictable life where his survival depends solely on his skills to provide for himself.

I am the revolutionary type of person but that will be put to the test very soon. I always seem to find myself in strange situations purely because of circumstance. For the last two years I was practically a slave to my dad's ex wife who's kids I looked after in return for a roof over my head. This bitch has helped me but she is a bitch because she does not appreciate my help. Once I forgot to feed her kids, she got all loud in my face and indirectly threatens to kick me out. When I tell her it's unnecessary for her to shout the bitch f*cking says I do sh*t for her even though I look after her f*cking kids. I had to hold in my rage and release it through gaming or programming because I knew what my goal was. My goal was to endure the 2 years it takes to complete my A levels and go to university. Now I will have my freedom but at a price. The price is I no longer have a safety net. And this is a valuable lesson I have learnt from living with this bitch. Never live with a woman and be at her discretion. She will rub it all over your face to the point where you want to f*cking staple her mouth shut.

Strangely I look forward to the future even if it's so uncertain for me. Along the journey of becoming master of my self, I will learn many things that I am sure will help me become a better man. At 19 years old I don't drink, smoke or take drugs and I have very strong will power. All this is a result of the hard life I have had. It has always been everyone against me in high school classes. Everyone had the flock idea while I had mine. For example at the start of the Syrian civil war, everyone went along with the nonsense in the main news outlet. Not me. I believe there was more to the story than that. I saw both side of the conflict instead of one. That's why I never really found it necessary to socialise with teenagers close to my age. The majority are sheep. Very flexible and easy to influence. I find it irritating debating with someone who clearly has no knowledge of the issue being discussed. Such people seem to have the most opinion on the issue.

Oh well I think I have babbled long enough. The future awaits. I look forwarding to living the life of a man. Women never seem to appreciate how we got to where we get to in life because they always have a safety net waiting to catch their every fall.
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Postby xiongmao » Sun Sep 15, 2013 7:02 am

Nice post!

I've lived away from home since the age of 18. I've been fiercely independent since.

There needs to be more "man up" posts on this forum, instead of bollocks like stonehenge being built in the 50's. It's good that RooshV has some stuff on manning up, apart from the game stuff. I'm going to write more for them about manning up and making enough cash to live anywhere for any amount of time.

Kind of touching on this subject right now in Bangkok. My new friend here needs to man up and break free of a troubled household. There's a fascinating story there. Becoming independent is the most important step you'll take, whether you're a man or a woman for that matter.
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Postby mguy » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:22 am

Agreed on the manning up part.

I think a true measure of manning up is a full blown expatriation or living overseas.

If one feels that his vibe is not congruent with the environment he is living, then he needs to go to a place where his energy is more congruent. This is what I call going Sigma. To not leave is beta.

There is nothing like facing a huge decision like leaving the anglosphere for good to shock the nerves.

I wrote what it was like for me before I left USA here. I had to change my mindset, and you should already be changing yours as well.

http://3rdworldhero.blogspot.com/2013/08/adopting-positive-attitude.html
"So never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite and never outstay the welcome. Just keep your mind open and suck in the experience. And if it hurts, you know what? It's probably worth it."

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Postby mguy » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:25 am

Agreed on the manning up part.

I think a true measure of manning up is a full blown expatriation or living overseas.

If one feels that his vibe is not congruent with the environment he is living, then he needs to go to a place where his energy is more congruent. This is what I call going Sigma. To not leave is beta.

There is nothing like facing a huge decision like leaving the anglosphere for good to shock the nerves.

I wrote what it was like for me before I left USA here. I had to change my mindset, and you should already be changing yours as well.

http://3rdworldhero.blogspot.com/2013/08/adopting-positive-attitude.html
"So never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite and never outstay the welcome. Just keep your mind open and suck in the experience. And if it hurts, you know what? It's probably worth it."

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Postby Renata » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:59 pm

One of my first jobs in the UK was in Advocacy mainly because I couldn't land anything in my expertise during the first few months. I learned that there are lots of social benefits & assistance for students and ppl in the UK, if you are british ?? If so, this will be helpful >
http://england.shelter.org.uk/
http://www.centrepoint.org.uk/
also visit your local CAB office; citizen's advice brueau, they have lots of info & will sort you out.

It's tough living in the UK everthing is crazy expensive, especially rent. Half my salary used to go towards rent & bills. I have no idea why so many people run to live there. You have to work just to pay bills & more bills, never again!
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Postby zacb » Sun Sep 15, 2013 11:52 pm

I never really thought of that. This is a good point. I am kinda in a position like that now, but no bitching bitches. I need to break free and start a new life. Thank you for the post.
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Postby RedMenace » Mon Sep 16, 2013 12:11 am

Renata wrote:One of my first jobs in the UK was in Advocacy mainly because I couldn't land anything in my expertise during the first few months. I learned that there are lots of social benefits & assistance for students and ppl in the UK, if you are british ?? If so, this will be helpful >
http://england.shelter.org.uk/
http://www.centrepoint.org.uk/
also visit your local CAB office; citizen's advice brueau, they have lots of info & will sort you out.

It's tough living in the UK everthing is crazy expensive, especially rent. Half my salary used to go towards rent & bills. I have no idea why so many people run to live there. You have to work just to pay bills & more bills, never again!

I am not going to be homeless yet. I am off to university to do Electrical & Electronic Engineering.
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