The_Adventurer wrote:djfourmoney wrote:Problem with that Adventurer is that I like women period but I make additional calculations which put Black women far down the list of desirable mates despite some of them being very attractive.
If life is not about what you know but who you know, then you know networking with a bunch of Black People generally gets you no where because almost nobody owns anything or knows how to make it truly profitable; they aren't even trying because to get the best among our lot doesn't take very much.
You don't see anybody offering a Black woman to franchise her beauty salon do you? Given all the women of color in the world a well-thought out business would make a killing worldwide but that's not how Black people think.
So if the game is called Life, picking a Black woman to mate with has far too many negatives; but of course most Negroes are poor and date, dusty, fat black women, call it "Thick" and settling.
Since most BW are fat, they then get into a argument with you and a cycle of useless banter happens...
I don't say I don't wanna BW strictly over physical reasons; to dream is to dream big and think big and I've always thought big, missed opportunities or blew money when I should have saved it. But there's always a method to the madness its never pointless.
I feel the same way with Asian women because most Asian women who find Black men attractive can only offer themselves; the ability to remain petite, feminine and bare children; how many Asian-African collaborations have you seen? China is only offering infrastructure in exchange for mineral rights in Africa; they are doing the same thing in Central/South America.
All White men offered was...... They built infrastructure for themselves; killed the people, rapped women and children, stole their mineral wealth/treasure and enslaved millions.
But something attractive White women can offer is a access to power/wealth and you can't get that from ANY other woman. As I keep saying but nobody picks up on it, I picked Brazil for a reason, it is the B in BRICS and tons of European investment dollars are flowing in the country. This is not happening anywhere else in Latin America and even if they got it all of a sudden they are at least a decade behind in development.
This thread is about age differences but it turned into a debate about looks, both of which are important and a concurrent theme anywhere on the internet where women from other countries are being talked about by Western men.
All that is men trying to protect their personal taste from criticism. I've said it once, I guess I gotta say it again. You can marry/date who ever you want and I agree with Rock appeal is graded on a bell curve and men who are tired of being lonely, tired of being single, tired of being sexless will take off some requirements and move DOWNWARD.
Don't be ashamed, no reason to be but please do us more critical thinkers a favor and don't try to convince us, saying its subjective and other nonsense. Its pretty obvious that men don't like to be told they been had, made a bad business decision or been ripped off; that is a direct critique of their ability to negotiate with some believe is innate in men.
In short if you can wake up everyday and look over at your wife and look at yourself in the mirror and you aren't disappointed then it doesn't matter what the rest of us think; hint don't post a picture of you wife/gf....
Not quite sure I entirely get what you're saying except that it sounds like the "white worship" that has been spouted by colonial powers since the days of imperial expansion. While a dark skinned woman might be physically attractive, it seems, you are saying, that even an ugly white woman should somehow be preferable. Or, worse, that white women are universally accepted as being preferable. What does that say for Indian men who marry Indian women? Or black African men who marry black African women? Are these men deluding themselves? Should they be ashamed of their choices while secretly wishing for a white woman, even if she is fat and unattractive?
If you are marrying for money then all that should matter is the dollar signs. Why consider race at all? You could marry into a rich middle eastern family. Even the Philippines has rich families one could attempt to marry into. As for the girl in that picture, then, all that should matter is the size of her wallet. No need to try and convince others that white is somehow better, or that those who see she is already headed down fat alley are somehow trying to rationalize their own beauty preferences.
If it isn't subjective, then tell me how is it that in times past large and curvy women were the "in thing" and now it's thin as a rail that is in fashion? That sounds like art and media
telling people what to like to me.
As far as I am concerned, a man makes his own road. There are plenty of examples of men of all races and countries creating their own wealth and power. It would never have occurred to me to try to marry it.
Let me see if I can unpack this better.
The intention is not to marry for money. The intention is creating a platform in which to build wealth and have children benefit from that resource. For some men marrying ugly women or over the hill White women might seem like a good idea and I am not dumping on that idea.
What I am saying is two relatively poor people with little ambition stay right where they are. If their children are fortunate enough to break that cycle usually with the drive and ambition missing from their parents then society benefits.
You don't need to be wealthy to live in other locations, just allocate budget for it. I just need more money than the average punter, that means if we as a team work really hard for five years to earn enough to be able to live the life we want, then she needs to be able to generate some income.
Why should you pull two times the weight to keep some ridiculous 19th Century economic advantage over women? Men can not say out of one side of their mouths that feminism sucks and then complain women have the same opportunities as men to earn money.
One of the problems is most men have no idea what they are doing from one day to the next. So how can you demand to be King if you don't even know where to build your castle?
I'll say it one more time; I come from a middle class lifestyle that I would like to maintain or improve upon. While downgrading seems attractive to some, its not for me. If I wanted a Black woman, there are locations closer to the United States than Brazil. I picked Brazil for a specific reason and while most men don't even want to try to reach for the brass ring, that is not me. I am always looking for easier ways to get it (hacking), by reducing the overall income of the woman, I can hack the system and get what I want.
Her job skills may not get her much money in her home country but she may double or triple her income outside of her home country.
White Supremacy is everywhere, so you can either work against the system or work with it, yet be outspoken about it. I don't think that's hypocrisy at all.
If Black men have to try twice or three times as hard and Black women have to work twice as hard to equal that of a all White couple, this is where the issues in Black relationships come from. Even my parents who make even good money in retirement still argue about money, so all this so-called harmony created with Black couples is foolishness at its higher level. We are no longer restricted to "staying in our lanes" and the quicker Black men come to the realization then we can start to rebuild our community.
I just point out Brazil, DR and other countries for the 90% of Black men who still want a Black woman to STFU up and go over there. If they are willing to spend $400 for game console and $200 for Jordan shoes, I am sure they can find the $500 it takes to fly from just about anywhere in America to Costa Rica or Dominican Republic. My boy "Cheapskate Jake" who works at Walmart finds enough money to pay his child support and still travel down to Dominican Republic and CR; he's just not looking to get married just yet. He rides a scooter to work and shakes the haters.
As I said if you want your own "Private Idaho" that's fine but its Idaho. I want Paradise and while it could be possible with a woman that looks like me, its not necessary. If White men don't feel its necessary why should I???