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I personally would like to expand my dating horizons, however I just don't find myself attracted to certain types of girl.
I like whites and latinas, and perhaps some Northeast asians.
I know I'm not alone here: RooshV from RVF has been to dozens of countries but he clearly states that he doesn't like asians.
Is there anything wrong with having these preferences or is it natural?
I know I could dramatically increase my dating pool if I opened up to other races, but is it possible?
Is it possible to change your racial preferences for dating?
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Do you have dating, sex and/or relationship experience with all of these types of girls?
I used to only date and have sex with white girls...until I started dating and having sex with Latins and Asians. Once I went Latin and Asian, I stopped going Caucasian...lol.
That said, I'm admittedly getting less picky when it comes to women as far as physical attraction goes. I don't have time or patience for the games anymore...too old for it. Luckily, I'm in a relationship. However, if I weren't....I'd likely give most race types a chance. There are physically attractive women in every race IMO.
One preference that will NEVER change is that I like FIT women. If they don't take care of themselves and maintain themselves, then I want no part of them.
I remember when I was in my late teens and early 20s I really had a thing for blondes but after dating my share, my taste changed. I don't think I had much of a preference during my 30s. I started traveling abroad during my early 40s. I spent time in both Brazil and Thailand and BOOM my preferences became set in stone. So not only do I dig brunettes, my taste runs for the exotic women.
So I'm a prime example of somebody who's taste has changed 180 degrees.
I like all types of women, however just to be flat honest, I hold ethnic women to a higher standard than I do White women and sort to have to qualify that.
To keep it simple, Minority/Ethnic women need to be 8's or higher for me to even look in their direction. White women can be 7's or better, so its not a wide difference just a slight one.
Asian women can not be short and dark skin, I am just not interested. I am of the experience and opinion that Japanese and Chinese girls IN AMERICA do not date Black men often. But South Korean, Cambodians, Vietnamese and Filipinos do date Black men; this is likely because they usually live in the same areas around the country or they were War Brides and some of my friends are products of those types of relationships.
I love Latin Women, especially those with European features but just a hint of Indigenous or Afro to give them light skin and nice curves.
It takes some effort to find these type of women, as Latin women with too much European blood tend to be built like European women, IE flat asses with big breasts or small breasts. Some people might call this look "Shitty" but lots of White women are built like that, so I don't know where that comes from...
Black women I've always felt is likely playing the Washington Generals (Harlem Globetrotters....), not challenging at all (not that I want a challenge) and a much narrower group of attractive women.
For me its always been about numbers really, since there more Brown people and White people that means there's a larger pool of women between 6-8.
While Black standards of beauty are often at odds with the European standard of beauty, Black men are often "color struck" and will not date Black women darker than them.
Some might say this apart of some master plan to "Whiten" the Black Community. Well if you're in America I wouldn't be too concerned about that.
But if you're in the UK or Brazil, that might be cause for concern because interracial marriages/relationships is near the 40% range in both countries.
While Black women in America raise false claims of American Black Men marrying and dating White women at the exclusion of Black women; simply untrue.
According to PEW they predict IR between WW/BM will go up to about 10% by the 2020 Census, when White women marry White men at a high 80's clip (89%) and Black men marry Black women 90% of the time.
These numbers are too small to be a cause for concern in reality but we know how logic is often turned on its head...
I get tired of this as well.
Many people won't believe how many successful educated black women are dating white men.
Black women/white male couples are going to increase in the next decade but only the black men/white women couples are criticized.
Apparently, one black guy from Europe mentioned on here that many attractive black European women do date white European men.
"Allow me to show you the Power Cosmic!" - Silver Surfer
So is there any way to change preferences?
Personally, I find asians/blacks OK. I have had sex with them but it wasn't memorable.
Attractive Euro girls are what I like, some middle Eastern, latin, and light Indian girls.
Is this bias culturally programmed? Why is it when I see a white girl I am turned on....but 99% of asian/black girls do nothing for me.
I'm not the only one who thinks like this. After all, 90%+ people date within their race.
It seems like dating outside one's race would open up a whole lot of possibilities....
It seems like the groups I like are toughest to get. Latin America has developed a lot and gotten more challenging to meet girls and the european-featured ones are almost always upper class. The middle east is hard. Upper class light skinned Indians are not easy, even in India. Europe is actually the easiest given the large amount of girls in all levels of society to choose from.
How old are you?
Do you feel like you have a preference for what is harder to get? Do you think that is the reason?
The majority of people that only date within their race are close-minded IMO. I was once close-minded and didn't even LOOK at any woman that was not white. Once that changed, I realized that I didn't even like white women very much...lol.
If you were to ask if I could change my preference to white women that are 30+ years old, the answer is NO, I can't. I am not attracted to ANY white woman over 30 and that is not likely to change.
When they stated counting WM/BM marriages after Loving vs VA, it was 6% of couples were BW/WM, while only 2% of couples were BM/WW.
By 1980, it reached parity (6% vs 6%) and since that point, as of 2012 (PEW) its 7-8% BW/WW and 9-10% BM/WW
So the truth is BW have been marrying/f***ing/procreating with WW since Slavery no shock, when they had to make these relationships "official" they had a numerical advantage until the 1980's. Since that point the rate at which BM are marrying WW has DOUBLED every ten years....
So while there numbers will rise, I agree with you, there still more BM opting out of BW on a daily based and in larger numbers.
I just personally think the rise for WM marrying BM is the squeezing economically of White men out of the traditional dating pool. In other words, White men who have a large pool if they decide to take advantage of it are just widening and deepen their pool of available women.
Black man you have the SAME FUC'IN OPTION, USE IT!
I had the same situation.
I feel like it could be cultural.
When I was 13, I was into this one light black chick...but a friend of mine said "she's black you know."
I was like...no she's not black, just very tanned. I took a closer look and it turned out she was black...I wasn't that attracted to her after the disapproval of my friend.
What about Indian girls? How hard are they to meet?
Its interesting to hear people mention changing preferences, maybe there is so hope for me too.
Here is a thread on RooshV forum: http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-17230.html
A lot of people there talk about preferences, it seems its common.
Some mention that when they weren't really into asian girls....byt when they travelled to Asia they got into asian girls and caught "yellow fever".
Another guy mentioned using asian porn to train himself into liking asian women. He started out with mixed race asians and then moved his way up to korean/japanese.
I wonder how effective these methods are.
It'd be tough to move to Asia and waste months trying to make it work...when all along preferences are tough to change, or it could be an easy thing...
To me my preference is more complex than race.I don't believe in the concept of race,so it doesn't factor into the equation.
Its a wide arrange of factors.and I think most men can relate in one way or the other with what I am saying here:
I like women of all races and phenotypes,although I have a huge boner inducing preference for Cute Mulattos,mittel-nord sinids,and Redheads(strange taste huh?).
to me far more important is location,lifestyle,education and culture.I also heavily prefer virgins..in fact I will only commit to a virgin.
I need tropical weather to function.so I wouldn't go to Russia to find a wife and live there simply get really depressed in colder countries,especially during Christmas time.suicidal etc
I also need to be able to bear a woman's language! So While I love the looks,culture etc of certain Middle eastern,EE and Asian women I can't wife one up with a weird language like Viet(quack quack),polish (jdobr novzhy jejipkhsssska)or non-levantine arabic dialects(ya 7eewan ana qa3tellik ya mu7amed!only arabic dialect that sounds nice even to westerners is lebanese ,syrian,palestinian no brag).lol
and I wouldn't make some woman leave her family for me.so you get the chase.
I also prefer very short neotonous women that remind me of jailbait(no pedo),makes me feel more manly and brings a evolutionary Lust out in me.so while I adore redheads I would have to anylize the chances of me finding a short neotonous redhead women thats also a virgin(possible but unlikely)even though Udmurtia in russia makes it easy to find redheads and redhead dimes.
so after taking all these factors into account its clear I would look into eastern africa,or traditional afro-latin(and lusitanian) Tropical places(Brazil,Cape verde,Veracruz),or Tibet to have kids and live.traditional women,cute faces on average,small bone structures,and a amazing language that sounds like music.
that doesnt mean I won't f**k hot women of all phenotypes before I settle down.and it doesn't mean you have to either. IMO,someone who limits themselves to a certain look or race is missing out.but thats just me.more p***y for us.lol
but settling for a certain taste makes alot of sence,but race shouldn't be the only factor in it,I think alot of factors come into play like weather,food,language,and culture in General,and even religion(sorry can't marry a fundementalist evangelical or muslim!).
it may not matter when you're on a nice vacation just to bang chicks and claim some flags,but it will when you decide to call that quits and throw in the player Towel.
that Swedish blonde may be a awesome GF,especially if you prefer women of that phenotype,but does the weather,culture,and upbringing make her a ideal wife?
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