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I don't care about having a girl I can discuss philosophy or politics with. I really, in real life, don't tend to like "intellectual" people. At least people who proclaim themselves as such. I mean I'd prefer the people I'm around be able to write and speak properly, and not someone that's just willfully dumb and ignorant, but after that I don't care really how "intellectual" or "refined" a person is.
I tend to care more about skills and what they can actually do. For example, to me, I like cooking, and to me, being able to cook=intelligent. It requires you basically to go back and forth with variables, measurements, etc. But at the same time it's actually artistic, too. You go based on basically aesthetic feedback. In this sense, too, for a sort of yin/yang effect, I'd probably rather be with a girl who's more artistically oriented, someone who can do crafts, dance, etc. To basically offset the boring semi-intellectual part of myself.
Of course part of this too might be my ISTP personality type. I'm not much for ideas alone. I more care about how I can implement things into material. So I'd be happy with a girl who'd help me work on my cars or fix the house. If she doesn't do that, having traditionally "feminine" hobbies or interests where she can create something is great, too (I'd prefer both....) Basically some kind of person with a creative outlet of some kind. Otherwise a girl is either boring as hell because she literally does nothing, or if she's smart and does nothing that could probably be worse because she could feel entitled to think she's smarter than she actually is (similar to many men as well) because in her head her ideas of everything are so superior.
I only want my girl to have a high school education. She should be focused on a family and more artistic pursuits. I wouldn't want her working or being careerist (the only way I would want her to work is if we were partners in a business). I think that being intelligent can be many things. I would also want her to be more lively, energetic, and full of excitement so she can help me have a more fulfilling life. I wouldn't want her constantly working or constantly studying. I would want to do fun things and I would want her to maintain her beauty. Careerist women don't age well because of the stress and stress damages women. How can she be a really good wife if she is constantly working all day? Also, careerists don't usually raise children very well because they're at work. I think that if she can cook, can have nice conversations, isn't ignorant, and maybe knows a second language then she's very intelligent. Many ignorant Americans can get degrees and all they say are the things they were told to say, think how they were told to think, and instantly demonstrate ignorance. A stupid and ignorant person can be highly educated. An intelligent person doesn't always have to be highly educated. Many forms of intelligence are also common sense and can be self-taught if a person reads books or the internet.
I want an attractive virgin girl with virtues, class, youth, lively, loves to have fun, has just the right amount of intelligence, and a good heart.
A girl that is too intelligent might always question you and either purposely or unknowingly challenge you based on your own intelligence. Men and women were usually educated separately, and most women were meant to focus on specific things, because competition between the two genders was bad and it negatively affected relationships and could ruin women.
OK, I have encountered the smart/demanding thing as well and yes it is annoying. There are smart quiet girls that I enjoy who tend to be naive and that is part of their charm. To be honest, that is part of the charm of a sweet average intelligence chick no? I'm not saying we need to discuss quantum physics, but to be honest my thoughts/creativity are more important to me than "pretending" if that makes sense. Also, If I was to have kids I would want to make sure they are raised well & have good genes. To be honest, this is part of why I am enamored by Asian culture especially surrounding education. I grew up around Asians and I admire the discipline, work ethic, etc that I saw which is part of why I am interested in Japan. I have noticed Russians can be quite intellectual/intelligent as well, but they seem more hard/cold like they're made of glass in my opinion. Reminds me too much of the downsides of the states!
To me it's the Asians who seem made of glass. I mean I get what you're saying about that, but to me it's more like Russians are made of glass until you know them well enough. Then they warm up very well. Asians on the other hand, I find are very hard to get to know and don't tend to be very lively. The only Asians that seemed to really make friends with me much here in the states were from the "poorer" groups of Asians, ie, Hmong, Philippinos, etc. That and also some FOB actual foreigner Asians, like I talked to some friendly people from mainland China recently. But once they get to be second generation or have been established here in the States awhile, they get very cold and don't wish to really talk to anyone outside their race or clique. So that's one thing scaring me about going to Asia. I feel like I'd either do well there or do absolutely horrendous with making friends or romantic relationships, nothing inbetween.
I think, too, the "warmer" Eastern Europeans/Russians are oddly the Muslim ones. I grew up with a Bosnian nanny and spent probably more of my childhood time in their house with their family than my own parents. I think it's because in the religious destruction done by the Communists, the Muslims seemed to relatively be unencroached upon unlike the Catholics and Orthodox Christians. Also it brings the Islamic/Middle Eastern hospitality thing, too. I find Middle Easterners and Indian subcontinent people to be very very hospitable people and it rubs off on the Islamic Slavs, too.
Winston's talked about this, though. Americans it's "HI HOW ARE YOU EVERYTHING IS GREAT HUH!" and then they don't care at all about you. Russians it's more like "......" when you meet them on the street or whatever and then they get friendlier as you actually get to know them.