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There are lot of threads and material on this forum related to men who are are frustrated because they can't attract women for intimacy in USA. Some of the results of this frustration:
- Intense male hatred towards women
- Men sacrificing money and time to go abroad just to get sex
- Guys like Winston getting screwed over in American brothels
- In extreme cases, suicide killings
There's also ego component involved of course. Guys who can attract hot women get huge status. Guys who can't get women at all are considered pathetic. That's another issue which compounds the problem of not getting women as a single man. But just unmet sexual desire alone can drive men crazy, especially those with high sex drives. Masturbation is a temporary release valve for them.
But instead, why not consider something longer term - minimizing or killing your sexual desire instead. There are meds which can have this effect. For example, Propecia, the DHT blocking hairloss drug is said to kill sexual desire and lead to erectile dysfunction in many men who use it. There's a lot of other stuff out there which can reduce or eliminate your lusts. Over time, not lusting may just lead to you slowly forgetting about women altogether.
I remember a post by Ladislav discussing the happiness he experienced in Saudi Arabia just because there were basically no women in sight which led to him eventually forgetting about women. If I remember right, he claimed to have achieved a state reminiscent of his pre-puberty childhood which was generally a happy and simple time - a more non-conventional version of Happier Abroad.
Isn't eliminating desire the path pursued by Buddhists. If you think this might be the right type of solution, why not utilize short-cuts if they are available?
Try meditating on Mount Athos, Greece.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Ath ... _for_women
Absolutely no women had been allowed there for nearly 1,000 years (since 1046 AD), so that the monks there would not be distracted. Of course, recently there have been some complaints about gender discrimination.
You can add:Becoming gay in some case
-Depression,lack of interest in life,medication,low esteem
-Agressive,easy to pick up fight and bad mood.
-Addicted to video game
-Addicted to porn
-Son of mama,staying at home,social skills regressive
-Rape in extreme case
Plenty of pathologies can disrupt a sane life when men feel they don't have the possibility of sharing true sex,true affection with a woman.
In my case,besides the essential of eating,having a roof to sleep and basic commodities,if this "female"problem is not solved,i don't see the point to bury my head in the sand and make like nothing is happening.
Using medication to lower my libido is a no solution for me.
After seeing places where i can expand my sexual drive without problems,there is no point to use medication for killing my sexual drive.
I have numerous interests, not only f***ing,getting intimate with women and feeling validated but i've found that i need to fix that problem before dedicating me to others hobbies in my life.
Fixing first the "female"problem is a must and this is by leaving the western world in my case.
When you fix the"female problem"you not only get sex,affection but it means also improving your situation in the society in all regards(you are socially more attractive).
What you are suggesting is a form of voluntary chemical castration by men whose lives are at the point where they themselves consider it to be hopeless with the opposite sex.
I think that's an interesting possibility for some of the members on here who don't believe in self improvement, game, lack financial means, and have no other healthy outlets for their frustration. This goes against the spirit of the "happier abroad" theme of this forum and is more of an end game move but I can see something like this as being of some value for some people.
For example Winston keeps getting ripped off at brothels and the sight of couples seems to bring him distress. Let's assume that Winston was chemically castrated he might not have had the urge to go seek out strange sex at various overpriced brothels. This would save both time and money that he could apply to the 20 something projects he claims to be working on. It might also prevent future legal headaches he would deal with from approaching random maids or getting into altercations with prostitutes at American brothels owned by criminals.
I also see this benefiting guys like Tsar who are looking for underage virgin brides who are beauty queens. Maybe chemical castration is a better option than hoping for the impossible in America and actually acting on these impulses in a legally hazardous environment in the U.S. where there are strict laws concerning statutory rape and such.
If you have the option to get decent-looking women, or travel to a place where you can get what you want, then do that. I would not want to kill my sex drive even if I could not get sex because I believe that much of our masculine energy comes from the sex drive, even if it is not used pursuing or having sex.
Grand Admiral Game taught me how to improve my mindset in order to achieve the success that I wanted in life!
Sex is healthy and natural and no healthy man should ever abstain for it for whatever reasons if he has the opportunity to have it. There's a reason priests can't stop fiddling choir boys or knocking up church singers. Because a celibate lifestyle for someone who has sexual urges (aka: any normal, sane human being) is unnatural and wrong. And it simply doesn't work.
Don't drug yourself, don't delude yourself or chemically castrate yourself. Do not try to diminish your natural desires. Instead, embrace them! Just make sure you're smart about where to get the sex and with who.
I agree with this, provided that you have access to sex with acceptable women. No fatties, fuglies, or faggots.
Who is fugly or not fugly is often in the eye of the beholder. Some guys dig fatties, let them have their fatties. Whatever floats your boat, right? As for faggots, faggots do not concern us. But even for the lonely Western gay man I'm sure there's plenty of willing ladyboys waiting in Bangkok.
Most people here are Western, or at least Westernized. We don't want to settle for old, fat, divorced-with-kids and all that. So abroad we go and there we find ladies of a much higher quality and with a far superior mindset when it comes to how to live a life. It sure beats beating around the bush and deluding yourself into believing you don't need sex as a healthy man. Because that's just bullshit and what good does lying to yourself do you?