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Hey Men People
I thought it would be fun to start a dating tips guide for us guys having a hard time finding a woman or wondering why women always do this or that ... its true that women these days are a bit off the wall in terms of dating , the scene has changed but before you get too disillusioned with it , just read up and see of some of this stuff works for you.
Just to give you a bit of back ground I started out as a really shy kid and in my teens had no clue how to approach women , I had no confidence or hot looks , but I had this one thing , I loved to observe life and I liked to laugh ! I realised over time that when I laughed and had fun that women would hang out with me ... this is a general theme to my experimentation since and it worked for me. With this I met a lot of awesome chicks ! and made loads of friends and broke down many barriers inside me that I can see now were letting me down.
What's the point ? We gotta get back in the game , standing on the side lines is just crappy isn't it ? we gotta admit if you having a bad time dating or getting a date we gotta try something different so I wanna help anyone out there lift their game ! its about fun guys , its about enjoying life and while women generally piss us off its probably because we are attracting these types of women, which admittedly there are plenty of, but it dosent mean they are all like that ! nope , there are plenty of really cool chiks left out there , Even in places like America or even Australia ( don't quote me on that last one lol ) . So what do we do ? We change and evolve like men have always done ! We stick together and help each other out and pretty soon we will see that its not all that bad out there. Its actually pretty good , just our focus is letting us down.
What are the hurdles of our own perspectives ?
Looks, Car, Job, Clothes , Hair cut , Physique , Penis Size and anything else we have been made ashamed of.. Lets start with the big one , Looks ... ill got around to covering more ...
in my experience your looks or physique do not matter nearly as much as how attractive you are as a person.
Number one rule to attracting women is : Make them laugh ! I cannot emphasise this enough. Women predominantly are headonistic , meaning they are all about the pursuit of pleasure and experiences.
Number two rule is : do not act desperate or needy , in fact be stand offish yet conversive.
Number 3 rule is : Never do what she says , do the opposite
In the Club
Do not make constant eye contact with pretty women , in fact ignore them completely ... instead pick a club or bar you like and go there often but never try to pick up. Instead just be the good guy , fun , intelligent ( but not too much ) laugh a lot , make them laugh and never try stupid pick up lines , the moment you do you are toast and women have this Intel gathering method that they disseminate to other girls .. the moment you cross the " idiot " line you will NEVER pick up again at that bar...
Ok this takes patience but if you have none you probably shoot your load too quick as well so you are in a bad place there ... BE PATIENT this works, Continue to be this cool , quietly confident guy , don't get drunk , or be rude.. Just be COOL ... the regular women will eventually , no matter what you look like , start to feel comfortable with you , if you continue this for long enough you WILL start to have them approach YOU , and if you perform well , IE show her a great time , don't make it all about the sex , engage in fantasy foreplay and kinky games that are fun ( not tie her up and tell her off for hours because your last girlfriend broke your heart ) get over your past BS and get on with it ...
and if you live with your parents ... man move out and get a batch pad for gods sake ..
IF you cultivate this persona long enough 2 things will happen ..
1 You will eventually become cool
2 You will have no end of women wanting to spend time with you
And before you get me wrong , DONT be the nice guy door mat ... that's exactly the wrong way to be , women despise these types ...
This is what worked for me when I was young and totally so horny I would get a woody looking at a mannequin ... I picked a club and went there every Friday night and did this as an experiment .. man I was literally being handed around like some sort of man sex slave from all the local women in that club ... And of course I was so hurt to be used in this way .. YEAH RIGHT ! I loved it ! and you know what , other clubs I didn't do this in .. it was really hard for me to score... so the regular bar thing is a winner IF ! you do it the right way.
Its important to relaise some things
Women have an amazing BS radar , the more you BS , the more they will like you , true fact , Women adore fantasy , if you engage them from a fantasy view point , they will follow you like the pied piper...
NO !!! don't say you own a huge corporation , NO don't say you have a large penis ( unless you do but they will learn eventually )
Just fling BS around about un important stuff and laugh a lot , make them laugh ... if you can make her laugh , I mean really laugh she will want to have hot passionate sex with you every time.
NOTE : do not be needy , do not call her after a great night of sex .. this is a huge no no ... in fact after you had great sex with her ignore her and move onto the next one..
trust me this works... if you really like the hottie you just tagged this will keep her after YOU , the moment you reverse this she will dump you like a hot potato ..
Don't treat em mean .. But treat em to silence , and do not chase her ... The next day after great sex she will want to talk about it .. but if you do not call her ( which she will expect ) you will have put her down to the second notch .. and that just makes them want you all the more .. because they desire to be number 1 ... but NOOOOO
DO NOT EVER MAKE A WOMEN NUMBER 1 !!!! she MUST always be number 2 or 3 ...
Then when you have mastered this stupid game they so willingly play you can secretly fall in love with her and show her a great time ... it will take about 6 months of courting like this to keep her...
NOTE : if she shows feminist tendencies disengage IMMEDIATELY !
leave her for the lesbian community ( I feel for them I promise ) that's what they want , a woman with a penis, that pays for stuff...
Oh and please ensure a few things
Don't go out wearing sneakers , buy decent shoes ! first thing women size up is Hand and shoe size, then your Butt ... then your smile ( brush and floss regularly ) DO NOT EVER EaT GaRLiC !!! for gods sake have good clean fresh breath , women LURVE fresh breath !
And realise that she goes to a lot of trouble to look snazzy so you too need to look snazzy !
Hot Tip , Hot chicks love Nerdy Hunks , you know like super man before he turns into super man ... they see this as very attractive because they want to turn you into a sexual dynamo ! its a natural thing women do , the love to dress us up , change us , uncover our desires etc ...
Its like men wanting to hot up a cool car .. it makes it your own personal thing .. if you can get this , you got it made !
I wanted to supplement this info with something really important !
How to avoid dating Feminists.
Now there are some basic rules to list here and things to look out for.
Firstly their age has a lot to do with it , if they are over 40 and still married on a girls night out , AVOID at all costs ! these are what we call " Salty Dog Fem Bots " they are really dangerous to be around or talk to. Please avoid at all costs.
Second thing to look out for is the look of " Pre Disapproval " you know you haven't even met her yet and across the room she is dis approving of something you are doing or saying... Steer Clear !
Third one is "Dressed to impress a Pimp ". You know the girls that look like they are on stilts and cant walk properly because their dress is too tight and the shoes should be in the prop section of a circus... They are there to look good and take CONTROL and MANIPULATE men , stay clear ... ( besides anybody that dresses like this is mentally defective )
Ok so you got someone to talk to , this is what you do.
Somewhere in the conversation ask her what she thinks about the state of affairs of feminism and where its headed. Trust me this will be a life saver. The good ones with actually talk to you about it , any Fem Bot will by default have a malfunction and either leave or start an argument with you ... that's your tip to go to the toilet and never come back !
I agree with most of the premise of this post. It is healthy to still get out, and see that people are still people. I have experienced much the same as you have in different ways, and I find that women come to me when they feel comfortable enough. That's when the fun begins. Everything after that is history.
I don't know what country you live in, Manson Maan, but I disagree with this part. Though, I do see and understand your reasoning behind it. In the US, you can get get slammed with a false rape accusation down the line if you don't text her the next day after having sex. That's how bad the laws are here now, and yes it is that f***ed up. It's not about being needy, it's about covering your ass. Send her a short text the day after sex saying something like "last night was a lot of fun." The purpose is to get her to reply with something like "yes, it was a good time," and then save that text in a flash drive for your own records. You can use it to prove it was consensual in case if you ever need to use it.
The effort is appreciated but this is pretty useless man. Some things are common sense we all know.
But it's also 'western based', showing the usual catering and eggshell-walking for the corresponding targets: "do X, but no too much", "do Y, but not too much". etc
"in my experience your looks or physique do not matter nearly as much as how attractive you are as a person."
It's obvious you had some looks/height in the first place, and as I've stated before, some guys just can't put themselves into someone else's shoes for some reason...
the regular women will eventually, no matter what you look like , start to feel comfortable with you , if you continue this for long enough you WILL start to have them approach YOU ,
Refer to #1 if applicable. Others are tagged as an untouchable "creep" ("he's alone for a reason").
"Do not make constant eye contact with pretty women, in fact ignore them completely."
Refer to #1, pretty women actually make eye contact with you
do not be needy , do not call her after a great night of sex .. this is a huge no n
Don't treat em mean .. But treat em to silence , and do not chase her ... The next day after great sex she will want to talk about it ..
Refer to #1 if you got to that stage.
"Hot Tip , Hot chicks love Nerdy Hunks"
The proper advice to others instead, in my view, is to take a plane to wherever they think you're "hot",
while giving a big middle finger from the passenger window on take-off. Only then will the eggshell-walking be over.
Like I said, not bashing the effort, but giving another angle.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?