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REALLY been to the Philippines?
I vote no.
Winston- can you verify that? Has he posted from a phils IP since day 1?
I'm more than shocked if that's true. Your behavior is more like a troll, besides taking shots at people, especially having such a bad view of Filipinas. You made me really wonder to be honest. I've rarely seen anyone who has been there have such views as you.
And it doesn't make sense, Why are you there if you hate the people so much. I haven't followed your entire story. Man, if so, I feel sorry for you man, I cant imagine living somewhere where I hate the people or at the very least have such a lowly opinion of them.
So, no newlife wrath for me?? Im jealous now.
i posted from california isp. but now im in philippines
I dont have a ebeef with you you seem like a nice guy i just think your a little delusional about the women citing all that nonsense research stuff there for a guy who has been there so many times.
I dont hate the people where have i said that? There is lots of good women here and good people. I even go to church here. What i have said is itts not easy finding a woman that is of quality that is highly attractive. its going to take work. if you settle on looks and have low standards like maverick then it will be easier you could pick them online even but if you want a highly attractive woman that aint a blatant hoe or scammer youll probably hvae to do alot of day game.
Well chill out man. Stop insulting and attacking board members here. Geez. If you arn't a troll , you sure seem like one. Honestly, its not your opinion towards Filipinas as much as your negative insulting tone and attitude towards the members here. Tone is just as important as words. You will drive away traffic here, especially the way you attacked Mavericks great trip report . WHo wants to post here if they will just get hijacked with insults? Anyways, well, that's for Winston to decide. You didn't answer the question though, why are you there if you OBVIOUSLY don't like it there??? (assuming you are really there, interesting you first posted from Cali and anyone can falsify IP address, pretty easy to do).
I think NLIP has been to the Philippines, but for reasons I cannot fathom could only get a couple of leechers. Or perhaps he thought that his blue passport and sense of entitlement would get him the hottest middle class 20-yo's to drop on his lap. I think it's a common attitude with Americans, and not just in the Philippines: delusional, extreme expectations that immediately turn into extreme negativity and frustration when they're not totally met.
I have been to the Philippines and it has been a completely different experience for me. I befriended some of the smartest and most powerful people in Davao City as well as "poor" (yet rich in spirit) young women and men who impressed me for their simplicity, humbleness and courage. Tolerance and an open mind is obligatory when it comes to a different culture. Going there with the sole intention to bang is beyond ridiculous. Like hopping on a Ferrari only to use the hi-fi system to listen to some music
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actually maverick personally insulted me first
he called me a troll right off the bat just cause i said i was right all along in my perspective in the thread before he went, he then also said "LOL and how's that going for you? For someone that whines and bitches so much, you talk a lot of shit."
of course im going to attack him after he personally insults me.
Sorry. But you antagonized him first. You don't do it directly, you do it in what people call a "passive aggressive" way. You stir people up because of the way you indirectly insult them.
Now, for the 3rd time, why are you there? I don't mean to ask you that as a challenge or in a argumentative way. I'm really curious. I mean, are we reading you wrong when we we say it seems you don't like it there and that you think the girls are only after your money etc?? I'm truly curious is all. What do you like there? If anything? How long have you been there? How much longer will you stay?
I also believe he has simply been there too long for what his purpose really is. Going for sex and women solely is gonna end disastrously as well as fraternizing with bar girls. Its similar IMO to watching too much p**n. You begin to lose your touch with reality and expect real life to be like that. The 6's he was satisfied with before no longer do it. He need's an 8 and when he's finished with that he won't settle for anything lower than a 10. He has become immune to the average women there simply because she doesn't fit the mold visually. A symptom that isn't entirely his fault but arises from the circumstances he's put himself into. Where as other guys see the country more than just a sex destination. They embrace the culture, form friendships, and see the beauty in the laid back society. They settle down with a good wholesome girl that makes them happy. She may not be the sexiest girl out there but they are happy and good together. Newlife sees this as simply a mask and wants everyone to understand that the girl is either ugly, a scammer, a bar girl, or money whore. Because since he is not happy and can't get what he wants, no one else can possibly get it either.
I think a year back in California will make him crave for those 6's again.
I agree that he's been there. Obviously, it's not for him, but he seems determined to prove that it's not for anyone.
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Yeah he is posting from a Philippines IP. Most likely, he has a shitty personality and can't get any decent girls.
Btw, you didn't create the poll. So I'll set it up for you.
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I'm pretty certain he has lived in the Philippines. I lived in Cebu years ago and his descriptions are too accurate and detailed to be made up. What motive would he have to make up bad experiences anyway? People insult each other all the time on this forum and he does it less than a lot of others I can name so I don't know why you're singling him out on that other than just because you don't like him.
My experiences with filipinas was even worse than what he has reported on here, so I don't hesitate to believe him. Filipinas who date foreigners are gold diggers, thems the breaks.
I've never discredited his experiences and I feel they are real and genuine. The problem arises when he negates absolutely everything everyone says and acts like his opinion is above everyone else's. He does this through insults, misinterpretations, and opinionated stats that have no backing. He fails to take advice from others who have succeeded and discredits their experiences without knowing the situation. The "oh you have a filipina, then she must be ugly, scammer, after your money, or a single mother." I've met several couples to know that's not always the case, or even necessarily the norm. Instead of just leaving and going somewhere else, he's adopted this mentality that he should tell the world that the place is awful, you really can't be happy, and you might as well stay home and jack off. He's had bad experiences and continues to have them, there's no doubt about that. But it's no secret that not everyone does well in the country or anywhere for that matter. Certain mentalities and attitudes do better abroad than others. If he's unhappy then leave and join one of those forums where people bitch about stuff like this. The forum is Happier Abroad for a reason.
yeah you do make a good point. I know when i go home ill want those 6's and what you also said earlier. Actually 6's are not that bad if their personality etc is what im looking for but it has to be almost perfect for me to be happy just with a borderline girl for me to come all this way and spend all this money and away from my family. I prefer higher than that but my current gf is a low 6 by my standards but im not too fond of her personality or status she is better than a lot of girls and all don get me wrong but I liked my old bargirl better than her cause of her attitude and she was slightly more attractive. Some other girls ive met i thought had a less likeable personality then my current gf though so thats probably why ive put up with her for 6 months despite some fights etc along the way.
but i also want to retire early and focus on my work and I can do that faster if i stay home.
Correction though Ive never said no one can get what tehy want if they do cold approaching or spend months here and date a lot of women and form friendship. But thats hard to do when one knows they are here only temporarily and they are burning money and time. I still work online and i have to keep up on my work everyday and it costs a lot to stay here and it can get aggravating if you just wind up trying to cold approach and date regular good women they are busy schedule and i have to keep up on my work and its hard chasing or going on lame dates a lot only to find out it goes nowhere with a lot of them. They are slow to open up and by the time they do you find out yo dont really want them and your wasting a lot of time. I think one has to live here long term not just a few months but long term to really settle down mentally and find what they want. If you stay here for only a few months or less your still in vacation mode in a "rush" to find to keep you company while your away.
I think cold approaching is the best method but Im not really interested in doing that. Its just hard to get what you want from online dating. Also youll wind up with a lot of scammers and hoes and milfs no matter what approach you use and it can be discouraging. I dont have teh patience or desire to try to do that. I could wind up blowing a whole vacation and all its expenses and time with meager results if i attempted that. It takes a lot of work and patience to find a very attractive girl who treats you really well and all its not as easy as some people imply. Most of the guys here have low standards on women though. I can settle on the looks a little though if the girl has an amazing personality and the sex is great it depends on the package overall. Its hard finding a cute girl who has an amazing personality etc or a hot girl with a more so so personality that isn't a milf or scammer. im happy with a girl over 6.5 if her personality is really good and the sex is great and she loves it alot. I dont need a model.
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