GooMacgle wrote:This thread seems to be taking some odd turns, but I think djfourmoney is right. Instead of doing so much bitching, we should be using this forum as a way to find solutions.
Two things generally stand in the way of this on these boards - one, guys generally have a hard time asking for help, so it's easier to just bitch and moan and wait for the chorus of replies to pile on to your bitch session, and two, when guys do ask for help on this forum, other guys will often slam them for being stupid, beta, weak, or inexperienced and use their replies as a way to show their supposed brilliance. So it's easier to just bitch and moan, particularly when the culture on the board is more about showing brilliance and dominance than it is about helping one another. This board does not have a culture of being helpful to one another. Add all the occasional white supremacist stuff in here because this board values free speech over civil discussion and it's a wonder that anyone ever finds anything of value on these boards.
So in the spirit of finding solutions as suggested by djfourmoney, can we start with probably the only common thought we all seem to have which is what drove many of us to this board in the first place - American women are horrible, if not impossible to have a decent relationship with, so how do all of us, white, black, yellow, brown, blue, green, red - who cares what color - find great non-American women to have great relationships with. I don't have all the answers to that problem, but I'm sure collectively we can come up with some great solutions.
One last thought: if more of us were having great relationships and having great sex more often with these non-American women, there probably would be a lot less bitching and moaning around here.
Nobody has all the answers and nobody around here has more than 30% of the answers anyway.
That said women respect action and men who take action, not complain. If men around here complain to foreign women about American society without securing a relationships first is going to be seen as a cry baby and this will not play well with Latin or Eastern European women; I would also say Western European women.
Single men generally complaining about being single are not the people to ask about being married. Men divorced for all sorts of corny reasons and take almost no responsibility himself are not the people to ask for advice about relationships either.
That cuts down who to take advice from on this board tremendously.
White men should not be complaining at all, because around every corner there's a will, a way and a solution. If your fat, goofy and short, well do something about being fat. Goofy might get you a few disarming laughs and there's nothing you can do about being short. If you got glasses get some stylish frames, have the edges polished to cut down on the thickness if you have strong prescription or have lasik if you're under 40.
Above all there are plenty of magazines and websites that will help you dress nicely without spending a ton of money. Presentation is key, all you get is one impression make it count.
Have something to say. IMHO this is very hard for some men especially if they spent most of their time NOT socializing with others. One of the key problems I have seen with some or in fact lots of men and some of this is the fault of racism and other issues. Many men don't have male friends....
You generally have friends that you share hobbies with. If you don't have varied interest, then you need to make your life interesting by traveling.
No excuses!
I have not generated more than $4,000 each of the last three years. But I recently made the decision to return to mobile DJ'ing so I bought some hardware to make my setup look professional -
I recently did a birthday party -
The podcast and other projects are still happening as well.
Not having any transportation is a major issue so round the end of the year I will see if I can get it back. Shouldn't be hard I just hope it's not costly.
There are lots of ways to get paid, I think one of the bigger problems is that some people have convinced themselves they are not good at anything. You can live or a lot less in many countries, Mexico being one, Dominican Republic being another. In many developing countries $1,500 give or take will allow you to live like you would pretty much anywhere in America.
This is assuming you have an apartment, car, smartphone, broadband internet, cable tv and be able to go out on a regular basis. So unless you wanna be a hermit, get any idea of living on $500 a month out of your mind.
Use
http://www.numbeo.com/cost-of-living/
If New York and Los Angeles are some of the most expensive places to live; you'll find that $1,500 doesn't go that far. But as I said, rent can be as much as 80% lower than Los Angeles in Latin America and much of SEA.
However you'll have to figure out how to make money overseas, I can't do that for you. Also I get tired of Winston pointing out how others don't make what they claim especially compared to him when he offers a similar product. Maybe Winston isn't that good at self-promotion; without seeing somebody's tax returns there is no way of knowing so why worry about it?
It's that sort of thing that brings this website down and why I don't come around much. I've been also writing content that could easily be on my blog or I could talk about in a podcast.
The number one thing however is STOP COMPLAINING!
