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Every once in a while I see posts asking for opinions on different members, so I am curious on what you guys think of me so far. Please give good responses. I am an 18 year old guy, overseas Asian currently in Vancouver and miserable.
I read your posts on China etc and comparing it with Canada. Wow. I did not think you are only 18, you speak like a guy with vast experience and depth on life.
I think you are very analytical, and observe things around you acutely from the posts you have made. You are not miserable, its the people and environment around you that is making you Miserable.
Just be who you are...Do not change. You are intelligent from the posts you make. I think you have the ability to go deeper than what most people will look otherwise in things. Use that to your advantage.
This is my personal opinion. Do not take everything to do with women in your life too personally & seriously. Western culture's are too hung up on Sex, Women, Feminism etc... there are million other things to do besides women . They will come and go. Do not take them seriously the thing they could do to hurt you.
That is the only Negative I could see as its natural you are here in this forum. Do not make Women as a THING that could or would in future destroy your life etc..Just deal with them practically.
Your posts are insightful...Thanks for that
You're fine. You're 18. If I was in your position at 18...I could be doing a lot better now.
You already know Western women are horrible and that you don't want them.
You've lived in Canada and China. You're ethnically Chinese but with a Canadian passport. That gives you status in China, where better women are.
Both Chinese and English are your native languages. This is really important. And it means you can have a job teaching English in China and elsewhere because of your English and your passport.
You're thoughtful and not a monger, nor do you want to become one. That means, one, two, or perhaps both things: you're moral and ethical with good intentions, and/or you haven't been made bitter by mistakes and bad experiences. (And be cautious. That line is not so easily crossed again if you break.)
You already have some plans, ideas, and an idea of places you want to go. You've already begun to communicate with foreign women.
You're ethnically Asian, so you will not have to prove yourself to Asian women like a white guy would. You're "in" because you're "one of them."
I know Canada is making you miserable, but you've got to fight through it. Heck, I've been back in the U.S. less than 2 months and already I feel like I'm going crazy. I understand. But you've need to get through it. Do anything you must to keep your sanity. Work for the day you can be free long term. Keep your eye on the prize. if you have to compare yourself to others to motivate yourself, do it. I didn't realize going abroad was a solution until about 23 years old. I didn't actually do it until I was 25. You're way ahead of where I was when I was 18. Don't worry.
I agree with both the above posts.
Here's what came to my mind when I saw the OP:
(1) Total idiot for moving INTO the Anglosphere.
(2) Absolute genius for looking at Asia for a wife/gf while still a very young man. No need to learn from personal bitter experience, smart enough to learn from OTHER people's experience.
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