Incels / TFL and online dating

[drronnie]

Would online dating apps like Tinder be a help for many incels?

[MarcosZeitola]

I wish you would stop using the term "incel" and "TFL" as both are often used by the type of crowd people may not want to be associated with. You are not some special snowflake, you are a man, as we all are. You want to find a nice woman. You want to date, and get laid. Some are better at it then others, but it's not due to some imaginary affliction that you are unlucky, it's because you are stuck in a country and culture that you do not fit into.

Online dating is for everyone, it has a lot of different types of men and women signing up and with any luck, you can find someone nice online. If you are shy (which the incel\TFL thing seems to indicate) then online dating is infinitely preferable to meeting right away in person. So to answer your question: definitely sign up, and definitely get into online dating. Ask less, act more. And ditch the terms.

There's no need to categorize and put everything in boxes.

[Maverick]

Do you mean in the US?

If so, then I definitely think that online dating is a bad idea. If you can't get women in real life, you will be even less successful online, to the point that it may skew your perception of your actual level of attractiveness. Women are far pickier online than they are in person and you need to have the right stats (in general, you need to be tall, white, and making over 6 figures to have a chance with most women).

I am currently dating in the US and I do MUCH better in real life. It's not even close. I haven't met any guy that does better online than they do in person.

Basically, women use online dating as a mate catalog. It is basically a platform for extremely picky women to date out of their league.

You'd have way better luck in a bar in my experience.

[Banano]

What about using fb to get dates?:)


Somebody must be doing these girls on fb.

[Maverick]

What about using fb to get dates?:)


Somebody must be doing these girls on fb.

It doesn't really work and could get you banned from Facebook if you're adding random girls. Friends of friends could work though, which it has for me exactly one time. Facebook is best for keeping in touch with people and possibly starting things up with a girl that was previously in a relationship when you met her, then became single (this has also happened to me one time).

[drronnie]

I wish you would stop using the term "incel" and "TFL" as both are often used by the type of crowd people may not want to be associated with. You are not some special snowflake, you are a man, as we all are. You want to find a nice woman. You want to date, and get laid. Some are better at it then others, but it's not due to some imaginary affliction that you are unlucky, it's because you are stuck in a country and culture that you do not fit into.

Online dating is for everyone, it has a lot of different types of men and women signing up and with any luck, you can find someone nice online. If you are shy (which the incel\TFL thing seems to indicate) then online dating is infinitely preferable to meeting right away in person. So to answer your question: definitely sign up, and definitely get into online dating. Ask less, act more. And ditch the terms.

There's no need to categorize and put everything in boxes.

Agreed with your statement. Sometimes Incels are the ones whining and complaining but they do not date or attempt to do anything about the situation and then complain that they are not getting laid. Some also aim too high and then when they are not getting any because hundreds of other men are alos competing for the same woman they get frustrated. Been there so I know.

[Jester]

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If you can't get women in real life, you will be even less successful online, to the point that it may skew your perception of your actual level of attractiveness. Women are far pickier online than they are in person and you need to have the right stats (in general, you need to be tall, white, and making over 6 figures to have a chance with most women).

Yes AW are picky online, but you get so many more at-bats. Send girl an "interested" or whatever its called, see who responds.

If you are too shy or depressed to approach in person, online will give better results than doing nothing.

[Jester]

Would online dating apps like Tinder be a help for many incels?

While I agree with Marcos above, Tinder may be one of the harder dating apps to try, because it is totally looks based (or so I understand).

But you have nothing to lose.

Why not give it a try?

Let us know what you get!

[drronnie]

Tested Tinder already and if you are an overweight or not that great looking then you will hardly get any matches but still its better than nothing Its easy to use but very superficial.

[Ghost]

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[drronnie]

Tools of the slut culture are not useful for incels.

Thanks to feminism women have sluttied up and are more available to the top 20% of bad boy men

[The]

If youre looking for a quick lay, Tinder is the app to use...

[Jeremy]

You can occasionally get lucky with with OLD if you're under 25, shredded, and live in a big city. But even then, it's extremely time consuming. And if you do manage to bang one of those sluts, chances are she won't want to see you again because of her endless options. So you're back to square one.

Unfortunately, there aren't really any alternatives to OLD in America. Cold approaching (on the street, in bars, in class, wherever) is considered creepy and weird. Girls don't date guys from work either. Meetup groups are all sausage and cougar fests. So what is a single guy supposed to do?

[Winston]

Do you mean in the US?

If so, then I definitely think that online dating is a bad idea. If you can't get women in real life, you will be even less successful online, to the point that it may skew your perception of your actual level of attractiveness. Women are far pickier online than they are in person and you need to have the right stats (in general, you need to be tall, white, and making over 6 figures to have a chance with most women).

I am currently dating in the US and I do MUCH better in real life. It's not even close. I haven't met any guy that does better online than they do in person.

Basically, women use online dating as a mate catalog. It is basically a platform for extremely picky women to date out of their league.

You'd have way better luck in a bar in my experience.

I would think it's the opposite. American women are more likely to talk to someone online than in person. Many AW have fallen for me online cause I can use my charming sweet persona to woo them. I even have a username like Romeo on AOL.

But once they see my photo or meet me in person they lose interest. Online lets you connect with personality rather than looks.

Any of you try happn app? Eurobrat uses it. He says that it will match you with girls who walk past you in near proximity. So girls cannot be overly bombarded with messages.

[The]

Do you mean in the US?

If so, then I definitely think that online dating is a bad idea. If you can't get women in real life, you will be even less successful online, to the point that it may skew your perception of your actual level of attractiveness. Women are far pickier online than they are in person and you need to have the right stats (in general, you need to be tall, white, and making over 6 figures to have a chance with most women).

I am currently dating in the US and I do MUCH better in real life. It's not even close. I haven't met any guy that does better online than they do in person.

Basically, women use online dating as a mate catalog. It is basically a platform for extremely picky women to date out of their league.

You'd have way better luck in a bar in my experience.

I would think it's the opposite. American women are more likely to talk to someone online than in person. Many AW have fallen for me online cause I can use my charming sweet persona to woo them. I even have a username like Romeo on AOL.

But once they see my photo or meet me in person they lose interest. Online lets you connect with personality rather than looks.

Any of you try happn app? Eurobrat uses it. He says that it will match you with girls who walk past you in near proximity. So girls cannot be overly bombarded with messages.

AOL? People still use that shit?!?!? And you wonder why you're losing....