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I have spent some time abroad, but one thing I've learned is that getting dates and a foreign girlfriend or wife while abroad is not the only way to make your lives better. There is a far easier way to do it, because it has worked for me while living in the US.. It is to practice gratitude. To count all the good things that have happened in your life and to be thankful for everything in your life, even the bad things, as you were able to use those as experiences to grow as a person. It is to drop your hatred and jealousy, particularly towards American women.
For example, instead of hating American women for rejecting me and being nasty towards me, I am thankful that American women rejected me. By rejecting me upfront, I saved myself time had I gotten into a relationship with one. She could've cheated on me, manipulated me, whipped me, chewed up my finances by making me buy all sorts of things for her. Also, by being nasty and mean, I learned that American females are miserable and bitter inside. Their hearts are filled with hatred, jealousy, and a victim mentality. They feel powerless because they think society and males 'owe' them. I am grateful I do not have their lives instead
What do you guys think? I am not saying you all should stay in the US and not try to find a gf/wife abroad. I agree that America has many social problems, and I am grateful Winston founded this site to spread the truth about America. I am just saying developing a mindset of gratitude will also be helpful in your plans to move abroad
You can be grateful at home for mistakes you never made, just as well as abroad. You go abroad for what you are lacking at home: good women. If you are fine without them, there's little reason for you to go abroad I would say. The focus of this site is one finding love (or just plain sex) abroad, hence all the "foreign ladies" ads everywhere.
If we get down to the basic meaning of the word, however: happier. Abroad. Literally, it's about going some place where we find a greater happiness, a greater sense of purpose. A better culture, with warmer, friendlier and more open people. The food may be better, the culture superior, the climate nicer and the prices lower. You see all these things, experience thesse things, and you enjoy them. Appreciate them. You are half-way there, and already abroad and happier for it. A good woman by your side is the cherry on top of the pie that is leaving the West. Some men are fine without this cherry... but they are the minority.
Going to places where nice women are in abundance is like booking a week in a fancy hotel with an amazing swimming pool, and never once dipping in a foot: you will still probably have a great time, but you're not making the most of all your options.
I understand the focus of this forum is dating, romance and sex. Yet, to say that the only reason for somebody to move abroad is to find better dating options and a more inclusive social life, is grossly reductive. Sexpats and senior citizens who live in emerging countries with their young and attractive wives are a fascinating and vocal minority, yet a minority.
I would say the bulk of the people who move abroad is still overwhelmingly composed of people who move from countries with less opportunities for professional and personal development to countries that offer more of that. I mean, look no further than the hordes of southern Europeans (Italians, Spaniards and Portuguese and Greek) who move to the UK or Germany to find a better job, or a job at all, and have a better stab at what they consider their priority in life: certainly not relaxing, getting drunk on cheap wine and banging more poosey, but achieving that ever-elusive platform of financial and professional stability they desperately need to make sense out of their existence. A small fraction of these are people who already have a good platform back home, and are up to new challenges as their employer second them abroad, or they make that choice themselves. The latter are my "canonical" definition of an expatriate.
I think finding a wife worth her name is already an imperative as the moral and social decay of first-world female stock intensifies. Yet, I doubt the above described people would see that as a priority as they move abroad. Many of them often already have their girlfriends, wives and families and giving them security and support becomes an ever more important reason why they try their luck abroad.
I am more inclined to agree with America Sucks rather than Marcos. There are plenty of reasons to go abroad, not just poon. In fact, the main reason I went abroad was to escape the culture itself. I think the OP makes perfect sense in that once you are abroad, you should be thankful that you were able to get away. I think this site should focus more on some of the other reasons why we should go abroad. We are too centered on women here.
"A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world." -Oscar Wilde
"Invincibility is in oneself, vulnerability is in the opponent" -Sun Tzu
Yes, but even the "culture" is an overly generic statement. Lots of people I know are literally torn between having a mediocre and unfulfilling but ultimately comfortable life with their families, their girlfriends or wives, or trying to stand up to their dreams or ambitions and stretch their luck abroad. Abroad here means another first-world country with more opportunities (there are not many left after all: in Europe it's just the UK and Germany and perhaps France to some extent) or an emerging country with some growth potential in specific areas (think China and Malaysia in Asia, or Chile, Colombia and even Argentina in Latin America).
However a central theme on HA, the reality is that most people are doing just fine with the ladies back home, and have other things on their minds as the muster up the courage and the resources to move abroad for a prolonger amount of time, leading to forever.
Yes, I agree with Americasucks in one area and that's in order to survive in Uncle Sam, one needs a strategy.
In his case, it's gratitude but for me, too much gratitude is a bit too *Christian Science-y* for me. I'd rather think of it as being able to manage one's state in the most proactive manner as needed.
*BTW, the Christian Science ppl have one of the best neoclassical buildings in downtown Boston. It's worth checking out, if you're in town. I may not agree with their ideas but they certainly have good taste. Fortunately, they were able to afford the space back in the days. Today, you'd have to be filthy rich to get a downtown address like that.
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.
Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.
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BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.
I wasn't having sex most of the time I was abroad, but it still felt a lot better just being in a better place socially. Girls would smile back, and I could actually talk to them. People were generally friendly and inquisitive. So yes, just being in a better society makes you happier.
Agreed since I moved to Asia I feel a lot better. There is much more to see and people are more ope and friendly than in Europe. Why do people always associate moving abroad with finding a woman. The is no need
It's the possibility to find women easily and having options that is great.
The communication you have everyday when they are not in a paranoiac mode and being anti male makes your life a lot better.
You don't need if you don't want to actually have a wife..you can makes many things you couldn't do it because you have few options back home.
The rules are at your favor.
By living in a non sick society where women are teached to take down men,your mood is a lot better and the advantages are huge as you will have potentially more friends,more social life,feel you are in better position to command your existence,everything related to human relation get better and some matter you don't like there are overlooked by all these changes.
If a man going there for every reason he wants choose to remain celibate,it's his life.
But i can't comprehend how a man will turn down being in a place where he actually choose to remain celibate contrary to a country where his single life is the result because he doesn't really have the choice.
The Google Translate or whichever program you are using did not work. That's why I have no idea what all of this meant. Here's chalk...................write it again.