droid wrote:Now you just want to "be right" Marcos and keep implying those that can't find it in the states are necessarily losers. So everyone on the other posts -even the website- are wrong? Of course there are great American girls but every day they're more of a rare commodity, that's the whole point. I know you're from Holland, not USA, but why did you marry a philli girl in the first place? I might be wrong but was it just incidental?
I married a Filipina because I happened to meet one and fall in love with her; the whole HappierAbroad lifestyle was not something I had given much thought until then. I wasn't particularly happy about life in the Western world, though. When I was a teenager I was already dreaming of going to South America, Asia, what-have-you. For a while I even taught myself the Afrikaner language and considered moving to South Africa.
Am I saying those who cannot find it in the USA are losers? Not at all. I never said that. Casual sex, a hookup, it's all pretty easy. But lasting relationship or marriage with a good woman can be a lot more difficult a thing to find. I'm not without my flaws, either; I would be seen by quite a few people as a loser because I was a college drop-out, twice, and never have been a big-earner. I still don't make a lot by today's Western standards, and this would also put me at a disadvantage with some women when it comes to marriage. I've never even been able to own a car. Sure women will sleep with me, date me even, but marry me? I knew I wasn't able to offer a woman a lot in the West, that I could not bring a lot of stability or money to the table. And I don't want my children growing up in the West, either.
So somewhere along the line, "HappierAbroad" became my reality. My outcome. The drinking, the clubbing, the meaningless sex, the materialistic and shallow attitudes of people, I grew tired of it ages ago. I'm not that type of man. I could be (and to some extent, was) successful in the West, sexually. If I tried harder even romantically. But in doing so I would lose a part of myself. Sell a bit of who I am, of my soul, to the devil. I cannot handle the stress, the ratrace. I want to relax, enjoy the sun, enjoy the fresh air on my skin. I long for an entirely different place to be. And I found love, and a way to escape, all in one person. And my subsequent googling's brought me to the philosophy of this site, and that's when I connected all the dots at last.
As for Dutch girls, I could have married one. But nowadays few people marry and have a family before thirty, and I did not want to wait that long. The house market is terrible, living space expensive as hell, and I only just barely managed to pay off my student loans. I did not want to play everything "by the rules", I did not want to do what everyone else was doing. I wanted a more traditional life, and a more traditional wife, and I was lucky enough to find that. In a way it's both a conscious decision as well as a happy incident. Had I not met with my future wife, I may never have left my Matrix and I'd still be living a life of meaningless and depressing debauchery.