Re: Chinese Man Thinks AW Are Superior To Chinese Women
The West is simply not a place Bao feels happy or at home in, and as I hear from his trips to other countries (mainly in Asia, including but not limited to China) he's been a lot more happier and more successful there. This does include romantic success, too: while there may be men who are capable of having a perfectly fine and enjoyable lives single, not all of us are such men. Some of us are lone wolves, others are more family oriented and need a romantic companion. It's quite a gap from "not quite satisfied" or "still missing something" all the way to downright "miserable".S_Parc wrote:I understand that Vancouver is Seattle North and has a high number of overcast days and gloomy ppl in general, however, I get a sense that you don't really understand what western society is about.
Having been born/raised in the New England region, what I've noticed is that the way that ppl mingle were through hobbyist clubs and associations, hence, I was in the Scouts briefly, did some volunteer work, some sports, etc, growing up. In a sense, what this allows is the individual to be is free from having to be continually monitored and coached by everyone around him, if he so chooses.
Many HA posters, however, don't seem to want to focus on their interests and instead, be unhappy because not everyone is inviting them to parties and so on. As I'd said earlier, if a person picks up an interest in let's Qigong/Tai Chi, Martial Arts, Archery, Weight Training, Painting, Music, etc, there's probably an association out there, of like minded practitioners. And over time, acquaintances can grow.
Now, with that stated, I'm not saying that there's a woman out there for everyone. This is where I depart from the Publics and Marcos in the world. In general, many good women are gone within weeks of arriving in North America. Yet, the lack of women doesn't mean that one needs to be miserable.
I'm not miserable in the West right now, but I am certainly not happy either as I'm not where I wish to be. Still, I have warm relationships with my family which I cherish, and a few good friends back home including one who recently came back after having been abroad for a year. Miserable would be an overstatement for me, but I'm certainly not quite "there yet". I have found my Nirvana, but I'm not in it yet. In many ways, S_Parc, you are a lot closer to Livin La Vida Loca then me right now. I still have work to do, obstacles to overcome.
All we can do is just set goals for ourselves and working towards achieving them. Tell yourself where you want to be at what point in your life, then see to it you get there. That's what I am doing right now. I found what makes me happy, but to ensure I can have a lasting happiness requires hard work and commitment in a place I'd rather not be. C'est la vie. Good times are ahead!