I guess I feel the same way as Rock. I don't feel scared to be myself in Asia, whereas in the States, I feel like I have to act like a douchebag to get girls to like me.Winston wrote:I have another theory and explanation:
My friend Rock told me that he finds white American girls to be intimidating and scary, which causes him to feel withdrawn. But when he is in Asia, he can easily be social and talkative with Asian girls and be himself. So he's not like that with all girls, just with white girls. This might contain an important clue here.
It seems that if you are a HIGHLY SENSITIVE guy, you won't vibe well with white American girls for some reason. You cannot talk to them on the same channel and wavelength. They rub you the wrong way. Even if they are friendly and like you, it's still hard to feel comfortable around them. It's hard to explain in words. But I feel the same way. Besides being fake and not down-to-earth, there is something about them that "pushes our buttons" in the wrong ways that causes us to feel uncomfortable and intimidated. We simply can't be ourselves or feel comfortable around them or even have a decent conversation with them.
The thing is, when I talk to Rock in person or on the phone, I feel that he and I are on the same "radio station" or "frequency". It's like we are tuned in to the same wavelength on the same channel. But white American women seem to be on another wavelength in some bizarro world.
It's kind of like a shy timid cat trying to vibe with an extroverted dog. That's the best way I can put it. An extroverted dog is going to intimidate a shy timid cat. They aren't going to be attracted to each other and will not have any chemistry. Both will think the other is WEIRD and rub each other the wrong way. It's like oil and water trying to mix.
Do you guys understand what I mean? Do any of you feel the same way?
So the point is: If you are HIGHLY SENSITIVE, withdrawn and introverted, you just won't feel comfortable socially in America and especially around white American girls. They are like on some white trash frequency that we don't know how to vibe with or connect with at all. Know what I mean?
But I never had problems getting some American girls to like me, as I've always had interest from girls of all races in the States. (You can even ask Winston--I'm not an ugly guy.) It's just that I tended to be less aggressive due to fear of being labeled a 'rapist' or a 'creepy dude' by crazy male-hating females in the U.S. ...But lately, even in China, the girls are starting to become increasingly materialistic, picky and demanding as girls back home.
