Winston wrote:I have a deep question that we should all ask. I know this isn't an easy question to answer, but still you gotta wonder about it. The question is:
Why are we misfits in America? What's the root cause or problem? How come other people are able to thrive in America -- get married, raise children, establish a career or steady job, etc? What's the difference between us and them?
I know we've all postulated the following explanations:
-- We are too authentic and down to earth and don't fit into the fake American culture or social life.
-- We are nonconformists and freethinkers who don't fit into the system.
-- We are introverts in an extroverted society like the US that doesn't understand us.
-- We have aspergers syndrome and therefore are classified as having a "mental disorder".
-- We lack social skills or "game" and don't know how to "act cool".
-- We hate trash culture or mindless entertainment such as sports, reality TV shows, modern music, degenerate culture, tattoos, etc.
-- We are simply unattractive in both looks and personality.
-- We are nerds and geeks.
I think you touched on all of it...these are the various reasons. For me I can play the game however I chose not to. I am a non-conformist and wanted something better than an overweight, bitchy and entitled American woman. I broke the mold, friends and family no doubt looked down on me for it and stepped away from me (which kind of hurt), but I had to follow my own path to happiness. I can't do something just because everyone else does and says it is the right way to go.
My buddy and I went through divorce at the same time. He then dated an American lady 1 yr older than him and she looks like his Mom and lectured me to do the same...but I found a hot, submissive Asian lady that looks like a young mistress