Get the Dark or Tall Girl No One Wants
Posted: July 14th, 2015, 1:59 am
When I was in Indonesia, one of my female co-workers told me that white men usually go for darker girls. I noticed that darker girls can be ignored at times, even if they have beautiful faces. Indonesians see them as less attractive because of their skin color. I'm not especially attracted to darker skin, but I don't care that much either. If a girl is beautiful, she's beautiful. My wife is reasonably fair skinned if she stays out of the sun or uses sunscreen, which she does.
I remember an Australian friend of mine in Indonesia married this Balinese girl who was absolutely gorgeous about the same time I married my (absolutely gorgeous) wife. She was a bit darker skinned. I mentioned them recently to my wife, and said his wife was pretty. We hadn't seen them in over a decade, and she said she didn't remember his wife being pretty. But I remember she was a bit dark skinned, so my wife probably wouldn't have perceived her as pretty.
The thing is, you can go to a country where dark skin is considered unattractive, and you might be able to get a much prettier girl than you otherwise would because you don't have to compete much with locals. A lot of pretty girls have a lot of 'self confidence.' They have an attitude that men are going to try to please them. Not all pretty girls are like that. It depends on how they were raised. My wife doesn't have that attitude. Someone who was raised an only child could have a similar attitude if he or she was doted on by parents and grandparents and not disciplined. But it's not a guaranteed thing that someone who is pretty or an only child will have a bad attitude from being shown favor all their lives.
I believe darker girls are considered less attractive in the Philippines and S. Korea. I would imagine this is the case also in China. I heard some kids teasing one of their dark-skinned friends in Korea using the word 'Africa' on a bus, while they giggled. Most people are fair skinned, but one of my co-workers, a receptionist for a while, who couldn't speak English, was rather dark but really pretty. Dark skinned people are kind of rare, there. But in Indonesia or the Philippines, you could find a beautiful dark girl who hasn't grown up thinking she's pretty, and who may be very thankful and overwhelmed that a white guy would show interest in her. She may feel unworthy and unevenly matched.
I mentioned in another thread that I'd seen some episodes of 'Take Me Out- Indonesia.' 'Take Me Out' is one of those game shows they use to fill up time right before prime time on TV in the US, but apparently they have farmed it out to other countries. I was fascinated by the cultural differences between the US and Indonesian. The women push buttons to reject men after seeing they are in the entertainment industry or have an entry level job, or after watching them do martial arts as the talent part. A lot of the comments from the women are marriage-focused, and the hosts wish couples they match will end up getting married. They give women a hard time for their reasons for rejecting the men, and a lot of contestants apologize for pushing the button. There is less sexual innuendo and it's all a lot more polite.
One thing I saw on the show as that some of the prettiest girls rarely got picked. They were taller than the men. I looked up the average height in Indonesia. For men it is 5'2" and for women 4'10". I knew I was considered tall there. I didn't realize the averages were so low. Maybe people are just a bit taller in Jakarta. But these girls who are rejected on the show for their height could be 5'6" (which I know because the hosts asks their height if they reject a man for being to short.) The girls often gave a man's height as a reason for rejecting him, and when they'd pick a good-looking or well-to-do shorter man, the man would pass over the prettiest models for girls who weren't as good-looking but were shorter than they were.
I don't know of beautiful tall girls will tend to be more humble that beautiful regular-sized girls. They may have grown up being considered pretty, but when they reached their full height, found that men think they are pretty, but don't show interest because they want a girl shorter than themselves.
I remember an Australian friend of mine in Indonesia married this Balinese girl who was absolutely gorgeous about the same time I married my (absolutely gorgeous) wife. She was a bit darker skinned. I mentioned them recently to my wife, and said his wife was pretty. We hadn't seen them in over a decade, and she said she didn't remember his wife being pretty. But I remember she was a bit dark skinned, so my wife probably wouldn't have perceived her as pretty.
The thing is, you can go to a country where dark skin is considered unattractive, and you might be able to get a much prettier girl than you otherwise would because you don't have to compete much with locals. A lot of pretty girls have a lot of 'self confidence.' They have an attitude that men are going to try to please them. Not all pretty girls are like that. It depends on how they were raised. My wife doesn't have that attitude. Someone who was raised an only child could have a similar attitude if he or she was doted on by parents and grandparents and not disciplined. But it's not a guaranteed thing that someone who is pretty or an only child will have a bad attitude from being shown favor all their lives.
I believe darker girls are considered less attractive in the Philippines and S. Korea. I would imagine this is the case also in China. I heard some kids teasing one of their dark-skinned friends in Korea using the word 'Africa' on a bus, while they giggled. Most people are fair skinned, but one of my co-workers, a receptionist for a while, who couldn't speak English, was rather dark but really pretty. Dark skinned people are kind of rare, there. But in Indonesia or the Philippines, you could find a beautiful dark girl who hasn't grown up thinking she's pretty, and who may be very thankful and overwhelmed that a white guy would show interest in her. She may feel unworthy and unevenly matched.
I mentioned in another thread that I'd seen some episodes of 'Take Me Out- Indonesia.' 'Take Me Out' is one of those game shows they use to fill up time right before prime time on TV in the US, but apparently they have farmed it out to other countries. I was fascinated by the cultural differences between the US and Indonesian. The women push buttons to reject men after seeing they are in the entertainment industry or have an entry level job, or after watching them do martial arts as the talent part. A lot of the comments from the women are marriage-focused, and the hosts wish couples they match will end up getting married. They give women a hard time for their reasons for rejecting the men, and a lot of contestants apologize for pushing the button. There is less sexual innuendo and it's all a lot more polite.
One thing I saw on the show as that some of the prettiest girls rarely got picked. They were taller than the men. I looked up the average height in Indonesia. For men it is 5'2" and for women 4'10". I knew I was considered tall there. I didn't realize the averages were so low. Maybe people are just a bit taller in Jakarta. But these girls who are rejected on the show for their height could be 5'6" (which I know because the hosts asks their height if they reject a man for being to short.) The girls often gave a man's height as a reason for rejecting him, and when they'd pick a good-looking or well-to-do shorter man, the man would pass over the prettiest models for girls who weren't as good-looking but were shorter than they were.
I don't know of beautiful tall girls will tend to be more humble that beautiful regular-sized girls. They may have grown up being considered pretty, but when they reached their full height, found that men think they are pretty, but don't show interest because they want a girl shorter than themselves.