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I only have a rule that I will only date or marry a virgin girl. Besides that I don't care about whether a girl is a virgin or a slut. The video is great entertainment if you want to see a hot girl strip and dance. Based on her dance moves I would bet she has good sex moves.
So would you have sex with her, even if you would never consider her relationship or marriage material? She does have good moves.
I couldn't. I made up my mind that I would only be with a virgin for my first time and probably ever. Even if a girl is hot I would be forced to decline.
Why do you torture yourself with videos and photos of hot women? What's stopping you from dating, or at least renting, a real woman? Go out and have some fun, my son. You don't want to end up a pathetic loser in his thirties who whines about how he's never had sex.
I went over all the scenarios in my mind and know only a virgin will give me peace and help my heart and make me happy. I don't really torture myself with videos and photos of hot girls. It just helps give me a picture of what I'd want my future girl or girls to look like.
It does sometimes feel like torture being alone but I'm use to it. I don't go to bars, nightclubs, or the typical venues that American millennials go to have fun and I don't like wild parties or getting drunk. So by the typical American standard I am not fun. By world standards I'm sure I would be able to have a lot of fun if I had friends. I thought about maybe trying to get a platonic female friend but I decided it would be a waste of time since American girls just don't want to be friends with guys. I tried online dating in May 2012 just to see if I'd be able to get a female friend or a temporary girlfriend while in America but I discovered it was a useless and pointless activity. Friendship or romantic involvement, it makes no difference in America.
There's porn and other things that can relieve the loneliness. Don't need the real thing in America. I'd also rather have money than a fleeting and frivolous experience with a girl I'm not into and don't have the possibility of a long-term future with.
When I was a teenager in high school it wouldn't have mattered as much because everybody in America typically wants sex at that age and they don't care much if she's a virgin because of the sexual propaganda and modern society/culture's brainwashing. But beginning at the age of 18.7 is when I started really wanting a virgin but it was a preference, by age 20 I knew I would be upset if the girl I ended up with wasn't a virgin, by age 22 it was basically a dealbreaker if the girl wasn't a virgin but still I might have made rare exceptions, but by age 22.75 is when I decided the girl I end up with must be a virgin. It would be torture knowing she wasn't a virgin more than me remaining a virgin. I won't explain everything since it's on other threads.
I know your reasoning Tsar. I have read about it many times. Seen your threads, heard you argue the same reasons again and again. I saw you try to explain it to me many times, and many others. And I understand where you are coming from, to a degree. I still believe, in spite of how strong you feel about this, that you are ultimately selling yourself short. And that's sad.
It's tragic when a young, bright and by all accounts not bad looking man wastes the best years of his life pining for something he never gets any closer to getting... so much energy, so much time, gone to waste. Are you an au pair in France yet, have you joined the military yet, or picked up teaching English abroad? I remember AbcDavid, who went through many of the same issues as you did, giving you a lot of useful advice that you continuously seemed to dodge, ignore or dance around. Please, brother, don't waste anymore of your time. You can write your novels later. Set up your blog, your site, engage in all those creative endeavours...
I've often clashed with Winston. Disagreed with him, for being selfish, immoral, and caring only about his own needs. For chasing his dick, hunting p***y all around the globe. What a bastard, but what a MAGNIFICENT bastard, ha! That guy really lived. So when he writes something, even when it's the greatest bullshit, you know it's based on experiences, on adventures he's had, relationships he's had. Most of them with girls who I'm pretty sure weren't virgins by a long shot. But it didn't kill him. One day he DID find a virgin, a cute Filipina girl barely out of her teens. He made he pregnant, they had a son, but he never bothered to marry her. He essentially found what you alway cry about not having, then left her on a whim. Funny how the world works, huh?
Now you're still young, but that doesn't mean the clock isn't ticking. I'm even younger then you and yet I've got quite a few stories to tell, experiences to share, adventures to think over when I'm in bed at night... you could too, if you stopped trying to look for excuses. I'm willing to help you, if you're willing to help yourself. The first thing I suggest you do is stop trying to torture and distract yourself with videos like this. Don't be satisfied with an unfulfilled fantasy, don't let your imagination take over a very real need and replace real life satisfaction with a dream that will never become reality. Get real. It's not too late yet!
How old are you?
It sounds like you have some sort of complex about preserving your sexual "purity." You are not a woman; you do not have a hymen.
If you insist on waiting until you find a smoking hot virgin who matches all your criteria, let me tell you how your life is going to turn out:
Age: 30 --- Still a virgin. Still unwilling to date or meet women. Too "pure" to enjoy yourself with a prostitute.
Age: 35 --- Hey, look! There's a new youtube video with an attractive woman dancing.
Age: 40 --- Sex can't be all that good anyway.
Age: 50 --- Am I still alive?
If you keep your current mindset, it will NEVER get better for you, Tsar. There are a lot of things nobody can control in life, but really, you can go out there and get laid if you want to.
One of the only things I can control is who I am with. It's not about preserving my sexual purity. It's about refusing to lose my virginity to a tainted slut and about my pride. Why should I always be last in life? I will not be second, third, ... , or last. When other men lose their virginity to virgins or take a virginity of women, leaving the tainted sluts for other men, that is a slap in the face. Being with a prostitute would also destroy my pride because it would just mean I had to pay some whore for sex and being with a whore for my first time would make me even more of a disgrace than being with a tainted slut because there is at least some "conquest value" with getting a hot slut.
It's more about my pride than my purity. It's also about only wanting the very best and not settling for some other guy's used-up and discarded slut. Other men can have all the sluts they want and give all the sluts they want to have gifts, give the sluts their love, date as many sluts as they want, and even marry sluts but I know I won't be and will never be with a slut because it's the only thing I can control in life. I won't be second, third, ..., or last.
I can control who I end up with and if I end up with any girl at all.
A virgin man that loses his virginity to a tainted slut is not a real man. He would be less-of-a-man because he accepted some other guy's used-up discarded tainted cum-dumpster slut. I will never be a less-of-a-man. I will either remain a virgin or lose my virginity to an attractive virgin girl. There's no middle ground. It's black and white. A girl is either a virgin girl or tainted (and in reality it doesn't matter how tainted she is. 1 guy or 100, it's still tainted).
No one has any comments about liking the video? Instead the comments are all directed at me? I thought at least one member of this forum would like the video. Maybe I'm just expecting too much from everyone on the forum in believing they would appreciate seeing a hot girl on youtube. I guess most members of the forum enjoy creating forum drama more than they enjoy watching videos of hot girls.
I could save a few thousand more next year compared to what I could save if I were teaching English abroad. The year after that might be different. I mentioned that in a private message sometime a week or two ago.
I want to help you.
Here's a new idea, take it with a grain of salt, but it could work:
Have you thought of joining a religious group where most of the women stay virgins until marriage?
Most Mormon girls who are active in the Mormon church (they go to church every Sunday and participate in church activities) stay virgins until marriage. You could join the Mormon church, get baptized, and join a Single's ward.
The Mormon church has church groups for unmarried Mormons under the age of 30. Most, if not really close to all, of the girls in those groups will be virgins. You could date one, and get married.
Mormons really frown on divorce, so if you kept up your involvement in the Mormon church, it is unlikely your wife would ever leave you.
Just an idea.