Actually Adama, since I'd two GFs in college, I would disagree.Adama wrote:MarcosZeitola wrote:
What a young man needs to grow and move forward in life, is intimacy and validation. For that he has to date, talk to and sleep with real women. Women he may pay a meal for, put can also have sex with afterwards without their exchange of bodily fluids being followed by an exchange of dollars. When I lost my virginity, I was a teenager. The girl wanted my broke a** because she was attracted to me physically. What does it do to a young man's self esteem when after his first time, he's charged for the hour? When he knows that if it wasn't for the wallet he fishes out of his jeans, the girl he just busted a nut in would never have given him the time of day? That, to me, would be devastating.
A man needs a woman to love him. I think this needs to be accomplished in the late teen years for most men to function properly in a developmental sense. If a man reaches age 20 without having had a woman touch him, it may cause him to make poor decisions he might not have otherwise made. Having sex with a prostitute is really an act of desperation. That is what it is.
The problem is that even a very confident guy ... meaning one with all the right accolades (sports, academics, internships) can get dished on by women for arbitrary reasons. But then, if that guy turns around and tells the b*tch that 'what's made her the Gloria Steinem of her generation', is she all Dean's List (Phi Beta Kappa/Tau Beta Pi) published in national journals, a top intern at some ABC corp, the chances are, she'll turn on the guy and call him a mean spirited person.
In our society, a guy is better off, being successful at all the usual things: schoolwork, internships, extracurriculars, etc, bang hoes and then, look down upon women. In time, those nasty women will start to respect this guy, for *not caring* for them.
Marcos will never understand this principle, because he didn't grow up in America. I knew an American guy, with limited success at dating women in Boston, who had no problems in Amsterdam.