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Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby drronnie » December 17th, 2015, 12:14 pm

People like me who have hard time connecting with girls usually like to blame the money and looks factor as tthe reason for the dating dilemma. But however then we are speechless when less attractive men who are broke have good trelationships. It's probably like someone said the p***y is operated by the mouth and not anythingeelse
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby droid » December 18th, 2015, 2:36 am

Every "market" is different, you can't make a generalization. Some places it's looks, height, money or some other places is the speech, dancing, slow-courting. It really varies IMO but i guess that's good.
Although what I think is common is that you have to actually construct a life, as in being busy with school or work, etc so you get to build a circle or have repeated interaction with the same girls. Basing everything in small casual 'street' encounters (i.e cold/warm approaching) is a lot more difficult.

Don't get discouraged, those ugly guys you see with hot girls are not necessarily special or have great skills, they just happen to meet the girl in a fixed setting, over time girls get comfortable with them. This even applies in many cases in the west, even though looks and height are more important.

Having said all that, if you really are stiff and a "mute" you are going to struggle everywhere. There is a minimum communication capacity required of course.

What do you do in Thailand, what is your routine, do you work? do you study?
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby Wolfeye » December 18th, 2015, 2:44 am

Ever think that these girls aren't with them for long? Maybe they're just "being nice" & entertaining them a bit at the club or whatever so they don't feel totally shot down. Maybe they have motivation to improve from this?
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby MarcosZeitola » December 18th, 2015, 7:44 am

You can be financially stable and good looking and be so painfully shy you never approach any girls. As a result, you remain single. A "lesser" man who actually DOES approach girls, gets a girl every now and then. Eventually, his relationship with one of them will stabilize and he will no longer be a single man. This is not rocket science; it's common sense.

Nobody wins the lottery by not buying a ticket. Before you win, you have to play. So the question is: are you going to play the game of life? Or, just stick to video games?
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby drronnie » December 18th, 2015, 2:39 pm

Already coming down from the video games. Trying my luck on Tinder and Thai Love Links. But I think going out more is excited in it itself. And not girls are about looks however if you are already loss of words on the second then there is space for improvement
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby drronnie » December 18th, 2015, 2:41 pm

Already coming down from the video games. Trying my luck on Tinder and Thai Love Links. But I think going out more is excited in it itself. And not girls are about looks however if you are already loss of words on the second then there is space for improvement
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby drronnie » December 18th, 2015, 3:03 pm

Already coming down from the video games. Trying my luck on Tinder and Thai Love Links. But I think going out more is excited in it itself. And not girls are about looks however if you are already loss of words on the second then there is space for improvement
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby Yohan » December 18th, 2015, 3:21 pm

MarcosZeitola wrote:You can be financially stable and good looking and be so painfully shy you never approach any girls. As a result, you remain single.

A "lesser" man who actually DOES approach girls, gets a girl every now and then. Eventually, his relationship with one of them will stabilize and he will no longer be a single man. This is not rocket science; it's common sense.

Nobody wins the lottery by not buying a ticket. Before you win, you have to play. So the question is: are you going to play the game of life? Or, just stick to video games?


While I agree in general with your comment, it should be mentioned that if you are financially stable (somewhat 'rich' without working anything), you need not to approach girls as girls will approach you - and your looks, age and shyness is irrelevant.

It is amazing to see how 'love' is going through the wallet in Thailand. In this sense it is really a special place, so obvious, so typical - at least this is my observation.

Drronnie does not fit this category of a man with a wallet. He is merely as far as I know an ordinary employee with an ordinary Thai salary in Bangkok despite able to communicate in several languages.

I never met him in person, but maybe it will work out in near future. I am leaving soon for Thailand, Pattaya for 3 weeks over Christmas and New Year.
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Re: Low inhibition more a problem than looks

Postby Break the chains » December 19th, 2015, 2:03 pm

MarcosZeitola wrote:Nobody wins the lottery by not buying a ticket. Before you win, you have to play. So the question is: are you going to play the game of life? Or, just stick to video games?

That is a fantastic post.
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