Conversations with Americans
Posted: March 3rd, 2016, 11:51 am
I've noticed something about having conversations with Americans- they are always trying to figure out how you're wrong. ALWAYS looking for something to "mark with the red pencil" & when they can't find fault for long enough, they disengage & drop the subject or cut to the. They don't want to talk with anyone about anything if they can't figure out some way that the other person is an asshole!
It's like they're a self-esteem junkie & they can't "cook a fix" from what's there, so they get pissed off & leave or just designate the other person the "bad guy" & move on. It's not always simply thinking that agreement equals defeat, it's getting a rush from finding fault- as if it cancels one of their faults out in the future or something. I've heard about the 100% or 0% theme, where someone thinks they're either the very best or the very worst. I guess if they're the Very Best, that means other people are the worst- since those people are not them/the Very Best. Works that way with countries, as well. Ever notice how when you point out a problem in America, the other person you're talking to frequently starts comparing it to some batshit-crazy thing in another country that might not even be true? They frequently would say things like "Love it or leave it" or "If you don't like it, you can just GET OUT!"- so, basically, "Wallow in whatever problems or exile." Maybe that's part of why things don't get fixed here?
It's like they're a self-esteem junkie & they can't "cook a fix" from what's there, so they get pissed off & leave or just designate the other person the "bad guy" & move on. It's not always simply thinking that agreement equals defeat, it's getting a rush from finding fault- as if it cancels one of their faults out in the future or something. I've heard about the 100% or 0% theme, where someone thinks they're either the very best or the very worst. I guess if they're the Very Best, that means other people are the worst- since those people are not them/the Very Best. Works that way with countries, as well. Ever notice how when you point out a problem in America, the other person you're talking to frequently starts comparing it to some batshit-crazy thing in another country that might not even be true? They frequently would say things like "Love it or leave it" or "If you don't like it, you can just GET OUT!"- so, basically, "Wallow in whatever problems or exile." Maybe that's part of why things don't get fixed here?