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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby yick » July 19th, 2016, 9:40 am

First of all, I believe this tendency for all women to look at men as predators at some degree is inherent to woman. That's always going to be there, feminism plays that up and it's terrible - but it's there to begin with, and they had to have something to work with.


But there is a difference between that and being seen as a potential rapist until you prove otherwise, that isn't the case in a lot of the world - so you marry that with the sexual freedoms women have in the west and you are going to have a percentage of men who are unhappy with the status quo - unsurprising.

Second, it is different here - it's not uncommon for a Chinese girl to have plans of marriage, life & family on just the first date, a lot of them take it very seriously...


That is the culture here, there isn't the culture of casual sex like there is in the west, it doesn't happen in China, Eric. If you go to Beijing, Shanghai and the tier 1 cities then there are more chance of meeting those women but it is rare - it isn't aligned with their culture to sleep around.

I'm also in a position where I sort of feel like the tables are flipped, now I can be all the douchebag I want and hook up with girls, but I don't want to be that guy who breaks a girls heart who is innocent. If she's not innocent then that's different. I hardly encountered this in West. So yeah just because every woman doesn't think I'm potential rapist & I could potentially talk to all of them, it doesn't mean all of them "want to hook up" which is where your dumbass can't figure.


I am the dumb ass? I don't know how many times I have written - not all Chinese women want to date us, most Chinese women wouldn't be seen DEAD on the arm of a westerner.

You are the dumb ass, because your reading comprehension skills are shite, or you haven't been reading what I have been writing.

Yeah you can take the man out of the west but not the west from the man, so forth.


Eric, you have left the one country where there is a sexually liberated and active female populace.

Going to China, you aren't going to be the playboy here, what women will do is treat you like a human being a some will want to date you.

Now if you want to be a playboy (as they call them in China) you aren't going to do it, do you speak Chinese? If you don't then how are you going to bed loads of Chinese girls? How are you going to do it if you work and they work and most of them are on a curfew to be back at 9pm around their parents house?

If you weren't the bad boy in America, where women will f**k you with no strings, then you won't do it in China, try the Philippines.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby Eric » July 19th, 2016, 10:22 am

yick wrote: I don't know how many times I have written - not all Chinese women want to date us, most Chinese women wouldn't be seen DEAD on the arm of a westerner.


So that explains the dreaded Chinese bitch faces I have been seeing all over Beijing, knew there was an explanation for this. :o

I do not speak Chinese, but am learning. It's not easy to learn that language. So...they are treating me, or want to treat me like a human being? Well, I'm not used to being treated like that. Infact I wouldn't know how to handle it, this isn't a lie. I'd probably had so much conditioning in the other direction I wouldn't accept it.
Plus, we have degenerate westerners all around who love to perpetuate our culture. ..

... yes, it's awesome.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby yick » July 19th, 2016, 11:00 am

To be honest Eric, I think Beijing (or Shanghai) is the last place I would try and romance Chinese women - the 'Prague effect' is in full force there, they aren't that bothered by young western guys, they have seen it all before.

I would go west, a good place to go to is Chongqing - massive city with relatively few foreigners, a poster named 'Magnum' was down there teaching English and found himself a girlfriend, still there as far as I know.

Good on you for learning Chinese stick with it, you will reap the rewards, but I would get out of Beijing and go towards another city, Chongqing, Dongguan, Changsha - somewhere like that!
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Postby Ghost » July 19th, 2016, 11:35 am

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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby gnosis » July 19th, 2016, 5:54 pm

droid wrote:
gnosis wrote:I completely agree with you. For me, it is always a mixed bag. There are things I love and things that I cannot stand. Korea, for example. Fantastic public transportation. Fantastic healthcare system. Absolutely hated the culture. I was f***ing miserable in Korea. Never going back.


Can you expand on that? how long were you there?
@Winston, if you think the Taiwanese are bad, wait till you see Koreans haha, those motherf*kers really give you the 'You're just not there' and 'See thru you' treatment.


I lived in Asia for about a four-year period. For a little longer than half a year of that, I lived in Korea. Prior to moving there, I had an interest in the Korean language and culture, going back to my time in university. (I had many Korean friends in college.)

I wasn't prepared for the outright hostility I would face. I am not a sensitive guy, but I am observant and notice when people are giving me crap. I was never physically attacked (although a random stranger took a swing at a friend of mine), but people went out of their way to give me a hard time. The vibe was often "Okay, when are you leaving?" or "f**k off, subhuman scum."

In retrospect, moving to a city of only a million to two million people was a big mistake. Seoul is okay. People in Seoul are more open and cosmopolitan, but I have absolutely no interest in living in Korea again. Once was enough.

I did connect with a few Koreans when I was there. If you do make a real Korean friend, they are very genuine. But the "pure-blooded Korean race/master race" stuff that a lot of Koreans subscribe to gets really old fast.

I think couples who go to Korea get less negative attention than young single white men, but I went on a trip with a Canadian couple once, and I was infuriated by how rude the bus driver was to us, so I think even young couples feel some of the heat. (Older couples who are visiting are treated very well.)
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby Banano » July 19th, 2016, 6:12 pm

Gnosis,

How would you rate yourself on 1 yo 10 scale? Do you have any visible flaws?How old?

I was under impression Korea would be a good place for a white man, due to novelty factor and the fact they all wanna have white noses and faces
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby gnosis » July 19th, 2016, 6:23 pm

Banano wrote:Gnosis,

How would you rate yourself on 1 yo 10 scale? Do you have any visible flaws?How old?

I was under impression Korea would be a good place for a white man, due to novelty factor and the fact they all wanna have white noses and faces


I didn't say I had problems with Korean women. My comments were on the culture. This has nothing to do with dating.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby Banano » July 19th, 2016, 6:59 pm

Cool.That is what i wanted to hear. Dont worry too much about culture if you getting steady supply of young punani.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby Eric » July 19th, 2016, 9:18 pm

Asians are some of the most racist, proud people in the world. That's the truth, as far as I can see it. Man, are the Chinese like that. You described it perfectly I think, I'm not sensitive - but I am observant, moreso than most others around me and this has been true my whole life. I do notice the stares, looks of outright hostility, condescension, etc.

A lot of the women also seem to hear about "Lowei" foreigners, as you can tell they avoid eye contact or have preconceived notions of you before they even meet you. It's like they hear we are "bad news" and so just avoid us. It's funny, kind of. Then, some of them like us for that reason....its funny.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby chanta76 » July 19th, 2016, 9:49 pm

Eric,

How is this different from western racism? Oh I forgot most of the posters here are white guys. As an Asian guy who grew up in America welcome to my world. I experience hostility from white folks. People speak about the social disconnect in USA or the west but if your a not a white it's 10 times worst that what you get if your an Asian guy. I think some of you just focus only on your issues and can't see outside of yourself. I think allot posters have this fantasy of Asian thinking that as a white guy you land in Asia and women be all over you and people kow tow to you. Totally bullshit.

Ghost,
I don't know if I agree with entitlement to sex for men. I remember my dad told me once that no one will give you anything. This includes money, happiness and women. It something that has to be be earned. Sure guys can always pay for it..but you want a relationship it's something that has to be earned. How do you view women than? Do you think women role is only to serve men?

Banano,

Your way off. Maybe back in the 80-90's white guys had that novelty factor but that novelty wore off. If anything if your a white guy you got to be young , good looking and tall to have a decent shot. If your below that it's harder but not impossible. I'm married to a native Korean woman. I met and spoke to number of Korean women in my stay in Korea . There are some Korean women who are open to dating foreign men but Korean women are not dumb they know about the mongers and are weary of them.

Again many posters here have this ethnocentric view point. I mean plastic surgery is big in Korea but it's not too much they want to look white . It's like a white women getting butt implants does that mean she wants to be black? Or a black women straighten her hair to look more white. It's more about looking better. The thing about Korea is let say a famous Korean woman get a certain look the young Korean girls want to copy that look. The plastic surgery in my opinion messed up Korea because they are all starting to look alike.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby Eric » July 19th, 2016, 10:21 pm

Because the mass of white Europeans/Americans are brainwashed into hiding their views, EQUALITY, hating their own race...and kow towing to other races, first.


That's why. Anything else I can help you to understand?

I'll give you the side you never understand from a white man's perspective. Most of the anger/irritation you see coming from whites is not because we are "racist", it is from being called "racist", over and over again....for being accommodating and being attacked over and over again for it; being used, a whipping post etc. If anything, most whites are the least racist bunch that I know, not because they willingly want to be - but out of manipulation for so many years. Yet, we are still attacked, we have grown weary of this. And this is why there is a seething sort of racism/hatred or irritation that is on the backburner...
Understandable, we have been pushed completely beyond the bounds and limits of human capacity in these matters. I suppose others like yourself will still feel self-put upon and righteous. The truth is - no one cares about Asians much in America, you should feel good about this - you are not involved in the thicket of neverending race war.
What are you complaining about exactly, again?

I've seen the agenda against whites and experienced it/experience it daily in the U.S. You can't tell me I'm lying - I'll call you "full of shit" and know I'm right about saying so. Minorities stand to benefit from this, that's why they (different groups) know it's wrong, but most say nothing about it - it's disgusting, they stand to benefit. Don't sit and lecture me about whites being smug or racist, take a trip to China, Korea or whatever Asian paradise you're from, experience real firsthand natural racism there - without any help from the government.
It seems no one can see outside themselves very well, it seems this is human. It seems you are no exception, although you'd like to think & act like you are.
Whites will always be hated, because they are seen as more beautiful, having more status, riches, accumulating more wealth, and just better overall as human beings (this is true especially in other countries across the world), it seems everyone is striving to be us - while attacking us out of jealousy/envy at the same time, a strange Freudian mix I'm sure even he'd be confused about. Does it make you mad - well you should ask yourself why? Well, it's the truth I didn't make it up, that 's just how it is - the truth often hurts. I know it for a fact...this is largely how the world sees it - so it must be truth.
However, all that is changing by unseen forced hands operating in the background, changing things around unnaturally and artificially strengthening minorities which cannot strengthen themselves on their own - for they lack the hard work or natural abilities the whites had for whatever reasons. Who would be doing this but a minority itself - who would stand to benefit from such a thing but another minority; and who is the only minority given enough power/ability & status, that stands out above all others as being capable of this....it's pretty easy to see. It's Jewish right down the center - all the way. The truth hertz, buddy. A white race would not attack itself - races are "philic" by nature and seek the preservation of its own. Given enough status and power & money a race would choose to elevate itself above all others, this is just natural. I'm not saying anything against the history of God's "people" although they seemed rotten right from the very beginning even in Moses's time, he rebuked them...what can I know about it? They are a far cry from the Jews of the OT....and the Jews as far as we've known them have been at eternal war with the West (Rome) for millenia, there is compacted protracted animosity and hatred there, stuff we don't even know about it's carried down by blood. It must be that way. It seems my time out of America has sharpened my ability to speak clearly and not mince words.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby chanta76 » July 19th, 2016, 11:54 pm

Eric,

Your thread reeks with racism. You assume because your white your better then every other race. What your new Aryan breed? Your better posting in Storm front than here. So it's the jews that are at fault for causing all this? I knew there were nuts that posting here. If you love the white race so much why bother go to Asia? Stay in the white people country or maybe your so racist that you see racism everywhere. You see you want other races to worship you and if that doesn't happen you think they are racist. So in China or Korea they didn't love you enough as a white man or worship you as a white man and therefore they are racist? As Asian population grow in America there will be more friction between the different races. Why? Because there will always be misunderstanding between different races .


I don't agree that whites are the least racist but to be fair I agree that to label whites as being racist is unfair. I think ever race will have racism and maybe prefer their own but saying that I been jumped by bunch of white guys. I had Asian male friends get cock block or rejected by white folks. I had Asian friends including myself who been picked on in corporate USA because of our race. I was socially isolated in school because of my race. As a white guy you just realize how it feels to be a minority in a non -white country. I think because you assume that the whites are the best you expect to be the center of attention and when you are not you cry racism. I'm not denying that Asians can be racist. They probably are but for you to deny that whites are not racist is like saying black folks can't be racist.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby yick » July 20th, 2016, 1:48 am

I agree with Chanta76 here, if one is into white preservation issues, then one is not going to be 'Happier Abroad' in China. :lol:

They don't care about white people particularly here, they certainly don't think they are inferior to you.

There are places in the world where you will get your arse kissed for being white - Peru, Philippines, Ecuador - places like that where there was a
caste system based on skin colour on a stranglehold within society - very prevalent in the former Spanish empire.

You don't get laid in China because you are white - you have to be white and have a fair few things going for you - if one looks like a bag of shite then being
white is actually a hindrance, age doesn't seem to be a factor though.

South Korea is a different kettle of fish, but in my opinion, it isn't race per se that stops westerners from dating Korean women (though it is still seen as something of a taboo
if women date western men...) but age, friendships and relationships linked to age are strictly enforced in Korean society, what a Korean usually says when they find out you are the same age as them is 'Oh, you are the same age as me? We can be friends'. So if you are more than five years senior than a woman then you have no real chance of dating her. The best time to come to Korea to date local women is straight after graduation in my opinion, the longer you leave it the less likely you will get a Korean girlfriend who is decent looking.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby gnosis » July 20th, 2016, 2:17 am

Getting a girlfriend in Korea is not difficult, at least if you're tall and white or an American-born Korean.
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Re: Slow Death Through Loneliness

Postby yick » July 20th, 2016, 2:34 am

gnosis wrote:Getting a girlfriend in Korea is not difficult, at least if you're tall and white or an American-born Korean.


I lived there for two years, in Changwon and Seoul.

Depends where you are in the country, some places are a lot more redneck than others and it depends how old you are.

No young Korean woman who is decent looking is dating a man ten years her senior unless he is rich and Korean (which disqualifies a lot of westerners).

Age is a factor, if you are over thirty, you are looking at divorcees and single mum's - which you can have back home. :roll:
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