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The girls Ghost is having sex with have already had sex with other men. They're already ruined. What difference does an extra cock make? They all lost their innocence a long time ago.
Ghost isn't deflowering virgins and then leaving them.
So is he only against premarital sex if the woman has had 0 partners? But if she's had 1 to 1,000,000 partners, she's still qualified to play the pre-wife role of girlfriend (and she's a total whore) but that's okay. Although she's still a whore for not being a virgin, she's good enough to be the almost-wife, that often turns into a wife.
Also, this essentially means that women who've had 2 penises are the equivalent of prostitutes, which is insane. She's already been deflowered, therefore it doesn't matter? A woman who has had sex with only two men is as worthless as a woman who's had sex with 1000 men, by that measure, because she's already been deflowered. However, even though she's been with 100 men, she's still qualified to be the girlfriend.
If women who've had sex with more than 0 men are likely to be whores (cause it can be up to 100 penises and he's willing to be 101), why make them your girlfriends? A girlfriend is practically the same thing as a wife; they serve the same function. The same women who couldn't be his wife he allows as his girlfriend, when the girlfriend is essentially a wife. How do I know this? Girlfriends give men marital relations to the exclusion of other men and they mother children for their boyfriends. Those are the same things wives provide. Often times girlfriends later take on the title of wife. Most times they don't.
If the standard is that wives should be virgins, then girlfriends also would have to be virgins. Either a woman should have had no partners before you or not. Make up your mind. That in itself is a conflicting standard. Therefore a man who believes women should be virgins should not touch any non-sex worker who isn't his own wife.
Man, I should just inform you, but I know, it's not worth the time, although it would be very funny. Keep up the good work, Ghost.
I'm with Adama on this one, you're being too extremist Ghost, and Adama is the religious nut for crying out loud You can't equate the 1-cock chick, with the 100 cocker, that is completely unreasonable. Of course we'd all like to get nubile virgins and what not, but the fact is that is more and more a unicorn. You asking those chicks upfront if they're virgins is pretty lame, of course they will lie to you.
Unfortunately we live in a different century, so you either dwell in despair or try and and experiment as you go (my advice); no matter what route you take the universe will end as dead black radiation, gettig all depressed will not change that fact so take what you can.
You have a lot more in common with Tsar than you'd care to admit, you guys waiting for all the pieces with all this set of requirements to perfectly fall into place at the exact time, and getting all pissed if they don't, but especially bad since you guys don't carry out the required work. Have you lost weight all this time that you've been in the chumpzone? You give all this tough love to Tsar but seem to follow similar patterns sometimes.
Listen man i've told you there are some virgins to be found in Vietnam. I'm just a regular chump and a couple 19yo virgins would marry me right now. Especially for you guys in your twenties, it should be a cake walk. But you and others write it off and ignore it.
Great thread though, i can't quote it all right now.
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1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
Ghost you and I have the same standards for a wife, I think. We both want a woman who is loyal, who is kind, who we connect with and have chemistry with, and we prefer her to be a virgin. I was able to find one, and I am glad for that. You haven't yet found her, but then again the chance of you finding one online is very, very slim... the girls who work abroad, the girls who sign up on dating sites, 99% of them are broken good. My wife never signed up on any dating sites, we just randomly met on an anonymous chat site where she went out of boredom. It's a little like encountering a unicorn, I suppose. So don't place your hopes there.
I've met quite a few guys who met girls through pen pals. They were usually introduced by people who knew both the guy and the girl personally. This is something I can recommend for you, and if you wanted me to help you with that, send me a PM and we can talk.
I know you don't think much of me, that you see me as some sort of useless pretty boy. I mean, you say so in practically every thread where my name pops up. But as I have offered to help Tsar in the past, I could just as easily help you if you truly wanted it. I know legions of cute and innocent virgin girls. All of them younger and cuter then you, and plenty of them would be interested in you because what you can offer them is far more then the local Filipino guys can offer them in terms of lifestyle. Add to this some traditional values and you got yourself a dream girl.
Brother I'm not the enemy here, just because we have had some disagreements in the past. I'm the messenger. My message? What you want, still exists. Ignore the tick tock, the clock, the time bomb, forget the slow death, and look to the slow life. It's out there. It's not yet dead. What you want exists, what you need is out there.
I imagine your best bet would be to meet a Filipina college girl. A good Christian girl, goes to church every sunday, never even so much as held hands with the many guys who tried to court her... you wouldn't have much of an income in the Philippines, so instead you'd prefer to relocate together with this girl to some other Asian country and work together, raising your family there. You could even do what many Filipino OFWs do, which is to drop the kids at the grandparents' place while you two work abroad and save up, then after a few years re-invest your earnings in the Philippines and retire to the countryside such as I did myself.
Think about. You are doing this all wrong. But hang in there for a little longer, because all is not yet lost.
Thanks, Droid. You should be with me on every post. And you should know by now, I am not a religious nut. Don't I seem perfectly reasonable to you? That's how you know I'm not a nut. You can see that I don't talk out of both sides of my mouth likes these others do.
Ghost, you've got what you might have expected from the Asian experience. An environment that is not constantly hostile and sex with non-vile females, so you did well. In terms of being happy, the only environment this really happens in is if we make families among our own people by our own rules with people that we grew up with on our own terms. This situation is of course not available. In terms of being professionally happy, this only happens when we grow up as part of a complex system of like-minded people designed to process us through a path to shared greatness. Once again, we are screwed. Just not our time, but maybe we can be great in our own right in a way that makes these things possible for future generations.
I kind of have to disagree with you regarding immigrants. My parents immigrated from South Korea to USA when I was a baby. My parents visited South korea a number of times but South Korea changed so much for them they prefer USA. I meet many other immigrants who feel the same way. For me I can speak little Korean and thought about relocating to South Korea but in reality South Korea much like Japan or even Singapore is tough country to live in work wise. Even social wise.
I think for some western men they have this exotic fantasy regarding Asia thinking if they arrive as a white man you be treated as a rock star. Those days are way over . The wealthy Asian countries like Japan or South Korea has allot of social disconnect and the work environment is brutal there. Sure feminism is not on the same level you have here in the USA but the girls can still act stuck up and be demanding. The poorer Asian countries like the Philippines has other problems...so there really is no true paradise.
Regarding marriage. I'm married. Marriage is tough. I married a girl from Korea. She is traditional but I realize I'm not that traditional . I don't mind if my wife works and I don't want kids. My wife wants kids and she prefers to be stay at home mom or wife.. I didn't realize I have liberal thinking after my marriage. Granted I work it out with my wife. We all have different standards and expectation.
Marriage to me is about finding a partner that will be supportive and would have your best interest. I'm not that much of cynic thinking that there are no good enough western women because there still allot of western guys with western girls and before anyone dispute this or flame me ..let's be realistic there is good and bad every where. I really think because I was Asian it held me back.
My advice is you have your standard in what your looking for but ultimately you need to find a woman who can be a good friend. I take it you want kids. I don't know in your case. I don't mean to be disrespectful. Your very much a cynic. A big part of the reason why I don't want kids is because I think this world suck and people are selfish. Why would I bring life into this tough tough world. That's my reason why I don't want kids but if you marry a young traditional girl she wants kids.
If my marriage does not work out. I wouldn't consider remarriage but maybe go the route as a monger. I understand the monger mind set. It's very selfish. It's not about building a family or respecting women or tradition. Monger are either sex addicts or guys who been burnt out and don't believe in anything and just take what they can take.
Since Asia turned out to be a dead end, how about devoting your life to Mikraite or the Northwest Imperative?
The human brain is kind of a differential engine, that's why that dead pixel on an otherwise perfect screen bugs most people.
But some let themselves be taken over by this process.
Even if everything lined up perfectly according to Ghost's (or Tsar's) cad-designed expectations, virgin, smart, non superficial girl, and the world was filled with idealistic intellectual types to carry erudite conversations with, he would still manage to find all the little big defects within that elevated context. Depression would set in and he would still find that everyone's below him, again kind of like Tsar.
I'm not saying this from a soap box, i was kind of like that before, but have really loosened up over the years.
I really don't buy this, out millions of Chinese and didn't do well? There's something he's not telling here. And I hate to bring this up, but he dodged my question about losing weight, which like it or not really makes a difference everywhere, but it's something WE CAN do something about. I postulate the same question i did to Winston: which pain is greater, that of loneliness/rejection, or that of exercise? we have to choose one, but we can't whine after the choice.
Just trying to help, Ghost, you're in your twenties, you have plenty of opportunity, your life is just beginning, don't waste it away.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?